Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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@Lois_1989 your puppy was beautiful. I love her daintily crossed paws.0
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Do as the peanut butter addicts do and drown them in water prior to trashing them. Soggy chips = no bueno!holliebevineau wrote: »I counted out 15 potato chips and threw the rest in the garbage. I got them out the garbage to eat more. I am so ashamed.
Great minds think alike because that was the first thing that popped into my head!0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Ok guys last night I was dreaming about this thread.....like literally in the dream I was sitting here with my laptop reading and posting......
Done that. Except it was my tablet, not laptop.
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No sure if I should be proud or ashamed but I just ate my morning snack - melted mozz cheese on a plate! It made me think of this thread because I think that was something people shamefully confessed to eating at the very beginning of the thread, but I think it's a perfectly normal snack. I mean, people eat string cheese and have no issues with that as I snack, why should I be ashamed if I microwave it first? This made me think of other shamefully confessed foods that I also eat and have never thought twice about, like butter on saltines, or the oh so popular spoons of chocolate powder. I'm not sure if this means I have a good relationship with food, or if I have really strange ideas of snacks.0
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kellienw335 wrote: »Edited because I changed my mind.
Oops! I had already quoted you and then saw you change your mind. I deleted your comment from my quote. (although I saw nothing wrong with your post?)
Sorry! It wasn't a big deal. I originally said how much I liked the kitchen, but then saw the other posts about being overwhelmed by the color and decided that it really would be too much after awhile.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »yesterday afternoon i had plans to take my mom to see jurassic world. yesterday we also had a massive storm that dumped tons of rain. it was still slightly raining when i left the house to meet her at the theater. of course i'm perpetually late for everything and was probably driving a smidge too fast for the road conditions.
then i started to fishtail on the four lane highway, and i completely can't pull out of it, totally lose control, the car does a full 360 spin across the two lanes of oncoming traffic and i bounce off of the opposing guardrail.
by some tiny miracle, no one was coming when i crossed lanes. if anyone had been, i probably would have killed them and myself. so i'm on the wrong side of the road facing the wrong direction. see no one coming at me head on, and drive back over to the right side of the road to a stoplight. this dude pulls up in the lane next to me and is like ARE YOU OK?!?!! i'm all shaky and say yeah, i think so. light turns green and i drive on to the theater like everything is fine.
i meet up with my mom and i'm like, i think i might have just almost died, and explain the whole thing to her and she's like... well maybe you should slow the hell down. and i say no, this was REALLY scary, and she's just like yeah, i've done it before too. slow down.
thanks mom!
confession: my mother's total lack of empathy and concern really ticks me off sometimes....
Has she ever been in an accident like that? I have twice, once a guy hit me and I ended up facing on coming traffic, the other time my brand new car arrived at a scene where a car had just hit a deer. They were working on the guy with the car that was damaged on the side of the road, but didn't shut down the road. I hit the blood, did a 180 and then slide off the road. Cops saw the whole thing, saw I was fine, didn't come over. I also had a guy fall asleep and hit me after crossing the road.
Even if you were going too fast, its terrifying to be in a situation like that, but if she has never experienced it she might not understand. You are shaking like a leaf after and thanking God you are still alive.
Or ... she could be like my mom and apparently others on here without empathy
. Not judging of course.
omg. that's just...wow.
she's been in a few accidents over the years (i've been in a few more), so i don't doubt she's been in a similar situation. my mom's just never been big on the emotions.
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WestCoastJo82 wrote: »No sure if I should be proud or ashamed but I just ate my morning snack - melted mozz cheese on a plate! It made me think of this thread because I think that was something people shamefully confessed to eating at the very beginning of the thread, but I think it's a perfectly normal snack. I mean, people eat string cheese and have no issues with that as I snack, why should I be ashamed if I microwave it first? This made me think of other shamefully confessed foods that I also eat and have never thought twice about, like butter on saltines, or the oh so popular spoons of chocolate powder. I'm not sure if this means I have a good relationship with food, or if I have really strange ideas of snacks.
I love microwaved string cheese! Especially when part of it gets crunchy! Yum!0 -
Ok here goes.... I pull up my lower belly fat and see what it would look like if I were skinny
ok there I said it! 0 -
I'm back from VA! It was great. I am not checking the 1,664 new posts.
Confessions:
In public, I suck in to appear thinner than I really am. I never did this before I lost weight.
I would rather go deaf than listen to contemporary Christian music. It is awful and so boring. I had to endure it on my trip. Thank God for iPods.
What or who were you listening to? Christian music is ALL I listen to and I don't find it awful or boring at all. I will admit some of the songs aren't great, but for the most part, I really enjoy it. Everything from rap, to rock, to pop, to easy listening.
I'm not even Christian and I can enjoy some Skillet at the gym now and then. 0 -
It just doesn't look good on me. I don't like ponytails either so at some point the long hair has to go I guess. The main issue I think is that I think it makes my double chin (there's some loose skin in there) more noticeable.
Just bleh.
Sometimes seriously it's totally depressing to have done all that work and realize that I'll never like the way I look...
I'm going to guarantee you 100% that you are being overly critical of yourself (just like we all tend to do). If you posted a picture to show us (not that you need to, of course) I bet you look great! All fresh and sassy for summer.
This makes me want to go get a haircut.0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Edited because I changed my mind.
Oops! I had already quoted you and then saw you change your mind. I deleted your comment from my quote. (although I saw nothing wrong with your post?)
Sorry! It wasn't a big deal. I originally said how much I liked the kitchen, but then saw the other posts about being overwhelmed by the color and decided that it really would be too much after awhile.
I did the exact same thing: really liked it, but then decided it would be a bit much for every day.0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »Glinda1971 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all.
Friday night the husband and I went to Outback for dinner. I was not thrilled about this because I didn't think I had enough calories for Outback because I always get the Alice Springs Chicken with fries. I decided to order the chicken, but subbed fries with steamed broccoli, which, if you've being paying attention at all, you'll know how incredibly difficult that decision was. I regretted not getting the fries until I tasted the broccoli, it was delicious. I ended up only eating half my dinner, and I even got to share a piece of cheesecake with my love and STILL managed a deficit. Yay, me!
Saturday, my daughter and I were going to go shopping for Father's Day, my eye appointment, and get some last minute things for our trip, but we were also going to go to the candy shop for snacks so my husband wanted to come too. We ended up going to the candy shop first which was a big success except they were out of my favorite trail mix (luckily, I still had some left over from the last visit) so I got buttered toffee pecans (holy sweet, salty, and crunchy, they are amazing), and some dried apples. He got mostly candy.
From there, we went to the mall since that's where my appointment was to kill some time, but also so I wouldn't be late. We ended up in JCP looking at dresses. Husband picked out some he wanted me to try on (his questionable taste presented itself again) but nothing worked. We met up outside in the sitting area of the mall and he asked me if I wanted to kill some more time at Helzberg, and I said sure. Long story short, we ended up looking at diamond rings and bridal sets. I didn't think we were really going to purchase anything since he said we'd do shopping in Florida. Apparently, he'd been really thinking about that and decided if we were going to get one, he wanted to get it before we went so it could be sized and everything beforehand. I tried on several rings before falling head over heals for a 1/2 ct. princess cut in white gold. It was absolutely mesmerizing. I could not quit staring at it. That's pretty much how I felt the first time I laid eyes on him. Love at first sight. Anywho, I tried on a few different guards and finally found a perfect fit. The lady sized my finger (size 5 btw, I was pretty shocked by that) and I was off to my appointment.
My appointment took maybe 20 minutes so I went to Auntie Anne's for pretzels and a DP ( I know, I was doing to so good) and then headed back to Helzberg. Well, come to find out, he bought the ring while I was at my appointment and was finishing up paperwork and stuff when I got back. I was shocked, I didn't expect to get anything finished so soon. Turns out, the ring I picked out is a VVS2 (3rd from highest quality you can get) and almost completely colorless. It is also a limited edition diamond which I didn't know either. I just knew I loved the ring. When they were telling us all the stuff about the diamond, they said I have really good taste. I said, putting my arm around Husband, "Obviously!" He blushed. It was adorable. I hope to have my ring by Thursday, but I might have to wait until after we get back from Florida.
Now for stepdaughter news.
She was a no call, no show Saturday and Sunday. She DID tag him on facebook saying Happy Father's Day and I love you, but I guess she was just too busy to come by and give him the only thing he really wanted which was some of her time. He fell asleep last night while watching TV and then woke up and asked me what time it was. I said 8 or 9, and he said, really, no way. He then pulled out his phone to check for messages. Nothing. The look on his face was so painfully sad I started crying. I told him I was sorry she didn't come by, and he said, "I can't believe she didn't come over on Father's Day." To make matters worse, Rachael told me she thought it'd be fun having a sister, but it's not. I hate that she's treating them so badly.
I'm sad because she'll never know how incredible her dad is and that she seems to have zero interest in being a part of our amazing family. If it were up to me, I'd take the car back and tell her off, but I don't want to do anything that could hurt the chances of a future relationship. What I don't understand, is she found him, he didn't seek her out, she came to him. Why would she do that if she didn't want to have anything to do with him, just his money?!
I'm heartbroken for my loves. Why did this crap have to happen a week before we leave?!
TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.
Oh man. What a mix of awesomeness and crappiness in this post. I think your new ring sounds pretty amazing, but the fact that your step-daughter is being such a selfish brat is making me so sad for your husband.
+1
A mix of yays and hugs for you.
Thanks!kellienw335 wrote: »Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all.
TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.
That's awesome news about your ring! Sounds like you had a good weekend except the stepdaughter part. Just curious...why wasn't he involved in her life when she was younger? Counseling may be good for all of you to work through this difficult place. It may reveal some things about her past that provide insight as to why she's acting this way. I hate that Rachael is so disappointed. (Hugs)
He wanted to be, we both did.
When her mom and my husband broke up, they shared custody (they were never married). For some reason, I'm not 100% clear on this as he doesn't like to talk about it, she quit allowing him visitation. I guess, in the state of Kansas, a mother can say anything she wants against a father, even one paying child support, and it's basically her word against his. She petitioned to increase his child support (this happened several times during our relationship) and was awarded more each time.
In the almost 15 years we've been married, until recently, I had only seen her twice. Once for her 5th birthday (her mother didn't know about this) and once for Christmas (same year, mother didn't know). When Rach was about 2 maybe a little younger, we found out where she worked and Husband asked if he could see her and she told him she didn't think she (daughter) was ready for that. Because, at the time, we didn't have the money to take her to court, he didn't fight his ex anymore and just did was what right by paying his child support and not fighting it every time she wanted more.
He would never admit it, but he's a pushover and hates confrontation. Hence the situation we're currently in. Her mom was pretty pissed when she found out she had sought him out. I'm sure she has a lot to do with the way she's been acting recently since she's staying at her house.
Sorry to be such a downer on a Monday.
There's the key, right there. Nineteen / adult or not, that sole-parental influence is HUGE. My husband and I both had joint custody of our kids, but the influence of the other parent was always present. I'll shut up on this subject after this, but once she becomes independent, breaks away from her mom, goes through a few serious relationships of her own, she will see your husband's side so much clearer.
Example scenario: say she gets seriously involved with a guy who has a child. Mother of the child does the exact thing to her (hypothetical) boyfriend that her mom did. He wants to see his child and be involved, but he is denied. He's hurt and she doesn't like it. Light bulb moment. She won't necessarily see her mom as the bad guy, but she'll apply all those same feelings to her current situation and eventually she will see things differently. IMHO.
I hope you're right. For his sake, her sake and Rachael's sake. Thank you.
It's a bit weird to me that she would get like this AFTER trying to find him. My mom had a restraining order against my biological father when I was little, and he signed away his legal right to me, but she would have let me get to know him if I'd wanted. Even now, if I decided I wanted to find him and have a relationship, she'd support me.
For what it's worth, I don't want to know him. I know enough about why there was a restraining order in the first place, and know he would occasionally run into my mom's younger sister (who is a terrible human being - not judgement, just fact) who would give him updates about me (without asking me, of course). I look at it like he never made the effort to follow up, even once I was an adult and my mom couldn't stop him.
I do sometimes wonder if I have half siblings somewhere, but I'm not sure I want to start that kind of relationship at this point even if I did. Too much pressure, you know?
I can imagine her being totally conflicted at only 19, when I'm still unsure at 31. Especially with a strong negative influence behind her. She may just need time (and space - possibly from both sides) to figure out what she wants.
Here's hoping that she comes around!
Thanks & sorry, @CountessKitteh I too had a loser bio dad.
I want her to figure out what she wants, but I will not let her let my husband pay the emotional price (so to speak) while she does it. We are by no means forcing her to have a relationship with us if that's not what she wants, but I will also not continue to pay for her car while my husband is driving a truck older than all the people in this thread if she doesn't want to be a part of our lives. That sounds really heartless I'm sure, but I have to be honest.
That is a "classic" if it is older than me!
1963 Chevy pick up. Matte black with ghost flames and slammed. According to the insurance he's carrying, it's not supposed to be used as a daily driver, so don't tell anyone.
Oh, that's a show truck - not a daily driver! Sounds really awesome.
That's his baby. He offered to give it to Rachael to drive in high school, but she doesn't want it. Have I mentioned Rachael is crazy?! I would have LOVED to be driving that in high school. I will see if I can post a picture of it on here later.
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WestCoastJo82 wrote: »No sure if I should be proud or ashamed but I just ate my morning snack - melted mozz cheese on a plate! It made me think of this thread because I think that was something people shamefully confessed to eating at the very beginning of the thread, but I think it's a perfectly normal snack. I mean, people eat string cheese and have no issues with that as I snack, why should I be ashamed if I microwave it first? This made me think of other shamefully confessed foods that I also eat and have never thought twice about, like butter on saltines, or the oh so popular spoons of chocolate powder. I'm not sure if this means I have a good relationship with food, or if I have really strange ideas of snacks.
I don't think eating things that you think others might find strange equates a bad relationship with food at all. We all have different tastes, likes, and dislikes.1 -
I just joined my first event ride by our local cycling organization RABA (Richmond Area Bicycling Association) to support their 'Bikes for Kids' program. Beyond excited!
http://www.heartofvabikefestival.org/
That's awesome!! I'm hoping to start riding more in events with my dad, it's a lot of fun!0 -
@m1xm0d3, you had it right..it's the stupid reduced sale part that gets me!! I just need to avoid that rack all together! Most days I can...today, apparently not.
@Francl27, I usually "plan" to only eat some of it. Obviously, I failed at that today as well. From now on, I really will (TRY to) only get what I can fit for THAT day and THAT day only!!!
@LBuehrle8 and the others that posted on my lovely choice of lunch today, thank you. I'm not really feeling "guilty"...as I know it won't make a difference as far as my weight, but it's more just feeling like crap from all the sugar. And now I'm tired and still hungry. They were bakery items with no real nutritional info posted but I've estimated about 1000 over maintenance for the day so far (still need dinner though)...but with my week's deficit, I'm ok. Friday is my birthday though and I planned to go all out at dinner!! Looks like I'll scale back the other days this week just a tad more...
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I'M FINALLY CAUGHT UP!!!! *falls over*
Thought of you today at Giant when I found the Limone Sorbet. I almost bought it, but then I decided to get the Yueling's Buttered Caramel Popcorn. I definitely will be getting that sometime though since I seen it was only 80 calories per half serving which means I will probably eat two or three.
ooooooh yum!
my giant had the lemoncello chiffon ice cream ONCE, and have been out of stock ever since. i call them every few days...i'm sure they loooove me. lol
i'm honestly not that big of an ice cream fan. unless i get the "churn style" the richness of most ice cream makes me sick so i can only ever have a tiny amount at a time. but the lemoncello chiffon is SO FREAKIN GOOD.0 -
@kelly_c_77 Birthdays are a "free card" day! They only come but once a year so you should definitely enjoy it and not worry so much! Yay for birthdays!!0
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It took me all morning (and 2 hours into the afternoon!) to catch up because I sort of had things to do at work. I'm going to consider that a success, because at least days will move along, even if I don't LIKE what I'm doing all that much.
Confession: I'm secretly hoping the weather is terrible later so that I can't possibly be expected to go out to the gym. Stupid cardio days.0
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