Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

orangesmartie wrote: »

kellienw335 wrote: »

orangesmartie wrote: »

pofoster21 wrote: »

orangesmartie wrote: »

@coastalpath I’m really sorry you are struggling. If you can, try and carve a few minutes out of each day to look after yourself, whether its some deep breathing/meditation, exercise, a solitary cup of coffee. It is also important that you acknowledge your stress and feelings, don’t squash them away because others think you should. Everything you think and feel is valid to you.

I’m going to check out the fitbit thread in a moment. I’m having a bit of a sucky morning at work.

Totally randomly, as I drove back from Devon last night, I planned what I might have for my wedding reception. Partly inspired by this thread and partly by a comedienne that was on radio 4 (don’t judge) yesterday. Bear in mind my relationship structure means I will never get married, but still, I planned it…

So I’d have an afternoon tea, catered by my favourite Torquay café, with made to order sandwiches (guests choose from a small list of fillings); bread is home made white or granary. A variety of home made scones, with cherry, or ginger, or white choc chips in. Lots of different fruit jams. And huge bowls of clotted cream. There may also be cinnamon toast. And lots of different cakes, like Victoria sponge, lemon drizzle, chocolate brownie. All served with either tea, coffee (from starbucks) or something sparkling, probably Prosecco or Asti (I’m actually a cherry lambrini kind of girl). Set to a background of string quartet music.

And for evening meal I’d have a Chinese buffet, in the style of the Mongolian barbecue restaurant chain (do they have those in the states?) basically, you take your bowl, choose your meat/veg/noodles/cooking sauce, and they cook it on a flat top stove while you wait.

It will be held in a marquee, on the cliff tops, near where I live (in Devon).

I spent nearly 200 miles planning this. I have no idea what I’d be wearing, nor what the ceremony would be like.

You and I should get married. I plan the ceremony and the dress. You plan the food.

Although I want mine on the beach in East Hampton where my mom lives and to rent a house and just throw a big party as I have mentioned before. So we might need to be like Becky Bloomwood (confessions of a shopaholic for those who don't get the reference ) and have 2 weddings.

We are a match made in heaven! I'd love a beach wedding.

We should have 2 weddings, I'll cater them, ceremonies and outfits ate your department.

Don't judge, fantasy weddings are all I will ever have

Sorry if this has already been asked, but would you and your partners ever do a commitment ceremony? Can we all be invited?

I'd really like to at some point. We've been together 3 years this August. So I don't know when these things can be brought up. It was something we talked about briefly having seen a TV show with triad group in Kent, who had a pagan ceremony to tie them all together. I think there is still a bit of me that thinks it would be lesser than marriage though


We are all certain that we are together for the long term. We talk about how we'll embarrass Charlie on his 18/21 birthdays, and our relationship is only 2 weeks older than he is!

Yes, you can all be invited! Between us we only have a few real life friends. Our acquaintances don't really know about our relationships, so it would be our families, few friends and you guys. And lots of cherry flavoured things. Because we love cherries

peleroja wrote: »

Wow, you guys, 900 new posts...

I had to skip some pages so I apologize.

I've got a serious case of the hangries today. Work is absolutely mental this month (big, big merger-type thing happening with the government involved) and all I want to do is eat all the stuff that keeps appearing in the kitchen (Nutella doughnuts?) But I've been having way too much fun already this month (camping trips, parties, hanging out with a beer at my pool, etc.) and none of my trousers are going to button if I continue in this vein, so...I'm living on vanilla orchid oolong tea and nerves until further notice. I'm usually a litres-of-black-coffee kinda girl but I've been really good at cutting that down over the past couple months so I'm trying not to backslide.

Still. Ugh.

My Modcloth dress order should be here tomorrow so I'll probably be able to pick it up on Thursday and show you guys photos of the dresses I posted last week so you can help me decide.

I'm really excited to have Wednesday off for Canada Day because it makes the work week seem so much better. I love weird holidays like that.

@KylerJaye and the online dating, good for you for sticking to your guns and not letting insta-creep push you into anything. It's terrible that you can spend a whole evening with someone and not see their crazy come out until hours later, but I guess that's online for you, right? Still, I'm wishing you better luck!

xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »

So I'm trying to catch up

@orangesmartie yay for a meetup! It sounds so awesome! I'm jealous!

@nonoelmo hurray for NSVs!!!!! You rock!!!!

@pofoster21 yay for coming home!

I would also like to say that directly because of this thread, I talked to DH last night (and there was no yelling and/or crying involved lol) and we WILL be getting a cleaning service. I'm calling today to schedule the initial intake or whatever. I need the help and I'm tired of feeling like I can't even enjoy my kids bc I'm always working. I will make room in the budget for it. If it delays me upgrading my car, then so be it. It will be worth it.

Didn't have the dog convo yet, but I did sorta bring up the subject of the car. Some forward progress was made but he got a little huffy about, "I'm doing the best I can, I'm only 27 with 2 kids so I don't know how to adult" and I shut down. I have no cares that his co-workers don't have kids. He does, he needs to man up. So in lieu of an argument I stopped talking and went for a walk outside.

AND I'm officially down 30 lb today!!!! WOOT!!!!! 10 lb to goal and then I'll adjust again, but I'm 3/4 done with my initial loss!! I'm concentrating on that today

kellienw335 wrote: »

noaddedsugarx wrote: »

Hey. I've already deleted my post.. it was one of those panicky things and I got embarrassed straight away. You don't need to delete yours though.. I'm sorry you went through that.. You're right the world we live in is twisted. I sometimes wonder how people end up in such an evil way.

My Grandma's just went in for the shunt operation which will drain some of the fluid off her brain. Just waiting to see how that turns out. Thankyou for your response

Hope everything goes well with your grandma's surgery. We are always here to listen. (Hugs)

Susieq_1994 wrote: »

@nonoelmo I'm so sorry that you ever went through such terrible experiences!! Huge, huge kudos to you for getting yourself help and managing to pretty much completely overcome it--that is absolutely, jaw-droppingly amazing, and I think you are (or have become) a very strong and wonderful person, regardless of those horrible experiences.

kellienw335 wrote: »

noaddedsugarx wrote: »

Hey. I've already deleted my post.. it was one of those panicky things and I got embarrassed straight away. You don't need to delete yours though.. I'm sorry you went through that.. You're right the world we live in is twisted. I sometimes wonder how people end up in such an evil way.

My Grandma's just went in for the shunt operation which will drain some of the fluid off her brain. Just waiting to see how that turns out. Thankyou for your response

Hope everything goes well with your grandma's surgery. We are always here to listen. (Hugs)

nonoelmo wrote: »

ShibaEars wrote: »

KylerJaye wrote: »

Italian_Buju wrote: »

riderfangal wrote: »

LBuehrle8 wrote: »

@riderfangal eee I know the feeling when the guy is nice enough but that spark just isn't there and he keeps trying to touch you haha I hate that! At least you made a new friend and now you don't have to think 'what if' if you hadn't gone!

Lol yep it was pretty awkward and I am actually glad I went! Thank you all for the positive thoughts this week

That is so awkward!
I once went on a date and the guy was really into me, and I just was not feeling it....so we had went out for dinner and then went to a club I frequented....I thought he might have clued in when I kept introducing him as my friend and not my date, but he didn't. Finally, he leans into me and tells me how much he likes me....and I decide to be honest, and tell him he is a great guy but I am just not feeling it, that I will dance with him and such the rest of the night but I did not see it going anywhere.....he seemed fine, bought us another round of drinks, and then went to the bathroom, and NEVER RETURNED. He drove, so I was stranded a city away, at a night club. I was not impressed.....

this is one of my biggest fears! ugh, that's so terrible!
guys keep offering to pick me up and i'm like no thanks! a few seem put off by it, but your story is the EXACT reason why.

I agree with you. On a first date, when it's with someone I don't know, I'd much prefer to meet them somewhere rather than them know where my house is.

I'm stopping by at lunch time. I did a LOT of online dating until I met my SO. I got my screening down to a pretty good art. Message then email then phone call (optional) then a simple short meet date. Most guys who got to the meet part were nice enough guys but the meet for coffee or a quick lunch was plenty to let me know they were not right for me. I refused to have drinks as a first date, I want to know what I think of someone stone cold sober. SO and I had a lunch first date and had such a great time. I'd given him the wrong phone number so he was worried I was standing him up (I just transposed a number). He jumped to his feet, greeted me with a hug, was just fun the whole lunch. I'm with all the others who feel that you are super lucky your date showed what he's like so early on - he couldn't get through one date with decent behavior, who'd want a relationship where that was the norm. UGH! Enjoy the process. There are MANY many many men out there. It is a numbers game, you just have to keep trying until there is a good match for you both. If you want to take a break from it then take breaks as needed. I took a break when it started feeling like a chore.

noaddedsugarx wrote: »

orangesmartie wrote: »

noaddedsugarx wrote: »

Too heavy for this thread.

Stupid forum isn't quoting the post correctly, nut I wanted to say big hugs
that is a huge amount to be processing, particularly with your gran being ill.

You can say anything in this thread and we will support you as best as a group of Internet strangers can.

I wish I knew what to say to help, or comfort you. Along want.to.do is hug you. Someone better will be along soon. But in the meantime, ventral you need to here.

And perhaps consider some counsellingnor something to help you deal with all of this

Yeah I feel like even though my Gran has had dementia and I've been looking after her for a couple of years she's still been the main support in my life and with her being critical it's just made everything else that's happened to me hit me all at once.

I couldn't even leave the post up for 5 minutes haha.. I think I'm going to consider counselling. Thanks so much for your reply.

noaddedsugarx wrote: »

kellienw335 wrote: »

noaddedsugarx wrote: »

Hey. I've already deleted my post.. it was one of those panicky things and I got embarrassed straight away. You don't need to delete yours though.. I'm sorry you went through that.. You're right the world we live in is twisted. I sometimes wonder how people end up in such an evil way.

My Grandma's just went in for the shunt operation which will drain some of the fluid off her brain. Just waiting to see how that turns out. Thankyou for your response

Hope everything goes well with your grandma's surgery. We are always here to listen. (Hugs)

I've just heard it went okay. Will be allowed in to see her in a couple of hours.

Aww this thread is the most amazing place.. Everyone is so supportive