What nobody tells you about losing weight

rachellosesitall85 · March 2016

How quickly people start treating you differently. One day you're invisible or barely noticed, the funny one; the next you're the center of attention like you've been suddenly thrust on stage and haven't had rehearsal.

bacagain12 · March 2016

I used to wash clothes on cold water setting and hang dry so they wouldn't shrink. Now I have some I'm washing on hot and drying on high setting to TRY to get them to shrink

Sherbog · March 2016

There will be friends and family who try sabotage your hard work and weight loss. For an example...I am an ice cream addict. People say well just have an ice cream bar....would you tell an alcoholic to just have a shot or little bit? NO...people just don't get it. I lived most of my life thinking a 1/2 gallon was an individual serving.

MimiOfTheLusciousLawn · March 2016

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

How quickly people start treating you differently. One day you're invisible or barely noticed, the funny one; the next you're the center of attention like you've been suddenly thrust on stage and haven't had rehearsal.

Perfect analogy!

Ponkeen · March 2016

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

How quickly people start treating you differently. One day you're invisible or barely noticed, the funny one; the next you're the center of attention like you've been suddenly thrust on stage and haven't had rehearsal.

Yeah. It's an adjustment, for sure. I struggle with a little bit of resentment over the sudden interest and attention, much of it from men that wouldn't have given me the time of day a year ago. I am every bit as self contained and reserved as I was a year ago, but almost inexplicably more visible. Except that there is an explanation; I am now an "acceptable" size.
I'm not even done with the weight loss portion of the journey, either. I've got about 30 pounds left to go before maintenance.
It's not necessarily a bad thing, and I honestly don't mind being more visible, but I had gotten very used to being invisible. There is a certain amount of safety and comfort in being invisible that I'm slowly losing along with the weight.

MimiOfTheLusciousLawn · March 2016

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

There is a certain amount of safety and comfort in being invisible that I'm slowly losing along with the weight.

YES!! Exactly the way I feel!

msmith2020 · March 2016

palwithme wrote: »

kgb6days wrote: »

How cold you get without a thick pad of insulation

You too? I thought I was the only one. I am freezing all. the. time. I just hope my body gets used to it.

Sad FYI- it doesn't, 3 yrs of losing 60 pounds and building muscle and I'm still cold all of the time

thereshegoesagain · March 2016

I was just telling my husband last night that we don't have to keep the heat up as high overnight because I'm not getting as cold at night.
I'm within 5-10 pounds of my goal and have been purpously losing very slowly all along. I'm hoping my body is finally getting used to its smaller size.

overw8gosk8 · March 2016

MimiOfTheLusciousLawn wrote: »

rachellosesitall85 wrote: »

There is a certain amount of safety and comfort in being invisible that I'm slowly losing along with the weight.

YES!! Exactly the way I feel!

I agree. All the attention from other people can get a little unnerving at times. I kinda miss my anonymity in large crowds.

People asking for advice all the time... and not liking the answer. Diet + exercise = healthy bod

KNewer88 · March 2016

That I'd be passionate about a physical activity; one that I kept putting off for a year because I was so self conscious about my weight. Now, though, I relish the time I spend during class and open mat drilling jiu-jitsu. I just don't feel like I ever get enough time to practice!

Or that there'd come a time where I'd be able to see the end of the road, even twenty-eight pounds out from goal. I can see the outline of the body I've always wanted and I'm so psyched about it.

rachellosesitall85 · March 2016

How easy it is to gain a few pounds back when you've had a few cheat meals in a weekend, lol. Opps. Caught myself and back on board.

IILikeToMoveItMoveIt · March 2016

That I notice peoples weight loss/ muscle gain transitions more often.

figbelle · March 2016

Suezyq47 wrote: »

I am surprised too that my close friend will not acknowledge my weight loss, but many people that I go to spin class have commented numerous times.

My very best friend for more then 25 years has a large silver dollar sized brown mole over her eye. It's a trademark feature. She moved away about 6 years ago and we've only seen each other once or twice a year. In between her last two visits she had the mole removed. She sat in my living room for an hour last time she was here before leaning in to me and asking what was different. I didn't even notice it was gone then, it's not because I'm not observant, I honestly didn't see it, because I didn't identify her by her mole. Maybe your friend honestly can't see it?

DearestWinter · March 2016

figbelle wrote: »

Suezyq47 wrote: »

I am surprised too that my close friend will not acknowledge my weight loss, but many people that I go to spin class have commented numerous times.

My very best friend for more then 25 years has a large silver dollar sized brown mole over her eye. It's a trademark feature. She moved away about 6 years ago and we've only seen each other once or twice a year. In between her last two visits she had the mole removed. She sat in my living room for an hour last time she was here before leaning in to me and asking what was different. I didn't even notice it was gone then, it's not because I'm not observant, I honestly didn't see it, because I didn't identify her by her mole. Maybe your friend honestly can't see it?

^^ Yes. When I have my hair done the people who are most likely to notice are those that I know casually. Close friends/family are more focused on my personality than my appearance. The same with weight.

If your close friend is actively denying your weight loss (i.e., saying "You definitely haven't lost weight! You look exactly the same!") then that's another issue entirely.

Chele_Belle_ · March 2016

That although you become more noticeable to men, their pick up lines won't necessarily improve. "Hey, did you know beast mode doesn't end in the gym?" I am still laughing about this one.

mangrothian · March 2016

michelekrystasmith wrote: »

That although you become more noticeable to men, their pick up lines won't necessarily improve. "Hey, did you know beast mode doesn't end in the gym?" I am still laughing about this one.

Bahaha. My response to that one would be "So you pee on trees and growl at your own shadow? Sounds like a great time!"

Chele_Belle_ · March 2016

mangrothian wrote: »

michelekrystasmith wrote: »

That although you become more noticeable to men, their pick up lines won't necessarily improve. "Hey, did you know beast mode doesn't end in the gym?" I am still laughing about this one.

Bahaha. My response to that one would be "So you pee on trees and growl at your own shadow? Sounds like a great time!"

I wish I would have thought of something that clever! I honestly just blinked for about 5 seconds while it sunk in and then started laughing.

natalie3505 · March 2016

cblue315 wrote: »

All my life I was the "big" sister and now I am the "little" one. The whole family gets weird at family gatherings.

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midwesterner85 wrote: »

You will be hungry pretty much all the time unless you have a cheat day.

Everyone says you will get used to it or if you eat different types of foods (more protein, more "whole" foods, more fiber, etc.), you will feel satiated. They are lying. It will be a constant struggle to decide whether you want to feel hungry for the rest of your life or whether you will be fat for the rest of your life. I'm approaching nearly 2 years, and I'm just over 50% to my goal. It hasn't gotten any easier with time nor with different types of foods. There have been times I stuck with it only because I didn't want to leave my MFP friends.

This might be true for you but it is not true for everyone. Some days are like this for me, however most are not.

Agreed. Most days I'm not hungry. When I am hungry, I know that it's because I didn't eat enough the night before. This is the reason I eat a large portion of my calories at night. Meal timing might not matter for losing weight, but it sure makes it easier for me hunger-wise if I eat enough at night.

Me too! I'm not overly hungry during the day, so I'm trying to save much of my calories for evening time when I know I will want more food....because everyone else is eating dinner.

I'm just curious how this will work if I want to do my working out in the morning? We shall see what works best for me. Day 1 (again) so not much to go on.

covan8r · March 2016

-It is much more fun to fly these days and I usually have to tighten the seat belt now! That never used to happen!!
-I no longer not only have to avoid all the stores with the cute clothes but I can actually buy the size small in those stores!!
-Most of all I am no longer invisible...people see me and notice me where I feel they didn't when I was larger

mangrothian · March 2016

I find that as I get smaller (down 55kg /120lbs so far), every dress I try on is too short. I'm tall (6'1), and I thought I'd have more options. Nope. Smaller sizes means shorter length. I want to be able to pick something up off the ground without flashing everyone my underwear. At least all my plus size stuff came to just above the knee.

The attention thing is also starting to happen to me. Especially with having doors held and being let through train doors first and the like. It also means people take the seat next to me on the train in the morning earlier on the route, rather than it being the last seat (well, half of a seat since I took up that much space) anyone wants to take.

According to a friend I still look pretty intimidating though, so at least I don't have random people coming up to talk to me. That part I'm fine with.

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