Enlighten us about the creeps and their MO
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LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.0 -
How do you send a message directly to someone?0
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A lot of women (and men) come here because they are unhappy with the way they look. When they start to see progress they get excited and want to show the world. A lot of them want appreciation, kind words, compliments... It helps them validate that what they're seeing is really there.
It helps them feel better about themselves. The more revealing the pose, the more likely they are to get compliments. Many respectful. (Yes, I said, MANY). More often than not, I'd say. This encourages that behaviour until one day... they get blindsided by a D pic, or a brutal aggressive message that borders on verbal sexual abuse.
Sometimes it's utterly random and based on who is on what threads at any given time, but from experience, it is often thread based.
I've been in both places... I used to be all over the place, in success threads, progress pic threads, and way in the beginning rate me / date me / hate me threads.
Now, I'm more secure in myself, rarely show my face in here, and lo and behold... no messages ever. That said... I believe I needed that initial validation period. It was part of my process, and I'm happy where I am now.
It would just be nice if people would toe a line... if you wouldn't say it to my face or show it to me on our first meeting... then don't send it in an email. And the same goes for me... If I'm not going to flash my ash in public, then why would I do it here?
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LotsOfTaterTots wrote: »How do you send a message directly to someone?
And we have the winner of this thread.
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_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.
So i see your used to this mfp life lol make new profiles alot?1 -
jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines
Sorry bud, but this broad is inclined to agree with him.
I hear what you're saying and I understand what you're getting at... but the way you're communicating it leaves a little to be misinterpreted.5 -
LotsOfTaterTots wrote: »How do you send a message directly to someone?
And we have the winner of this thread.
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines
Sorry bud, but this broad is inclined to agree with him.
I hear what you're saying and I understand what you're getting at... but the way you're communicating it leaves a little to be misinterpreted.
Thank you. So much.0 -
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Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.
So i see your used to this mfp life lol make new profiles alot?
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines
Sorry bud, but this broad is inclined to agree with him.
I hear what you're saying and I understand what you're getting at... but the way you're communicating it leaves a little to be misinterpreted.KickassAmazon76 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
Your beginning to sound like the illiterate person who cant read between the lines
Sorry bud, but this broad is inclined to agree with him.
I hear what you're saying and I understand what you're getting at... but the way you're communicating it leaves a little to be misinterpreted.
Maybe my choice of words was wrong but no i agree no woman or man should have to go thru that and a woman should be able to post what she wants....when i say why do it if you lnow thats the ending outcome is a question not a statement....i literally need an answer as to why post it especially on mfp with the millions of fake profiles thay have atleast 75% of pervs behind them3 -
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Will_Run_4_Food wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.
So i see your used to this mfp life lol make new profiles alot?
Ssshhhh.... don't ruin it.0 -
jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.
So i see your used to this mfp life lol make new profiles alot?
Oh my, you poor boy. Do you still have google open? Good, now type in "once". Again, I'll wait.2 -
I would LOVE to hear from the creepers themselves and how they go about picking their victims. Not through PM but in this thread. That wasn't an invitation lol4
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@LotsOfTaterTots wrote: »I took around 45 minutes to read through this through my morning and i am very new to the Internet and this is all very surprising to me. I can not believe that people have the time to sit and send insulting messages to one another. It must be humiliating to receive a message like this but it must be very shameful to be the one sending them!
So what have you been doing since 1995?6 -
beingmore1 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
I see his point. He is saying why flaunt it if you don’t want comments. I think it’s fair to say, as I posted previously, yes a woman or man should be able to post pics without being considered “fair game”. However we all know that isn’t how it is on the internet. I believe he is saying since we all know this, why do some women post very provocative pics then act horrified to receive a creepy message? That is his point. I disagree with you telling him that it’s the same as saying it’s a woman’s fault for being dressed provocatively if she’s assaulted.
They might post them because they're proud of their body and an easy way to show off your body confidence is to post a photo.
I've posted photos of myself in bikinis and I will admit that I do want people to tell me that I look amazing but what I don't want to receive is messages from guys that tell me what they want to do with their dick.
Yes I know. In a perfect world you could post your bikini and just get supportive wonderful safe compliments. But we are both aware that it isn’t that way. So if you are going to post pics you are doing it with some risk and knowledge that you may get creepy messages. It’s not right but it’s not a surprise.
Nobody is saying it’s surprising. That’s the world we live in now. But I wouldn’t mind if instead of raising our daughters to understand this reality, we could also be raising up sons who are taught how to respect boundaries. Of course this won’t be changed overnight, but do we throw up our hands? I sure as hell hope not.5 -
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_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »LeGaCyGiAnT91 wrote: »
lol... once was enough. New accounts are too much work.
So i see your used to this mfp life lol make new profiles alot?
Oh my, you poor boy. Do you still have google open? Good, now type in "once". Again, I'll wait.
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caco_ethes wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
I see his point. He is saying why flaunt it if you don’t want comments. I think it’s fair to say, as I posted previously, yes a woman or man should be able to post pics without being considered “fair game”. However we all know that isn’t how it is on the internet. I believe he is saying since we all know this, why do some women post very provocative pics then act horrified to receive a creepy message? That is his point. I disagree with you telling him that it’s the same as saying it’s a woman’s fault for being dressed provocatively if she’s assaulted.
They might post them because they're proud of their body and an easy way to show off your body confidence is to post a photo.
I've posted photos of myself in bikinis and I will admit that I do want people to tell me that I look amazing but what I don't want to receive is messages from guys that tell me what they want to do with their dick.
Yes I know. In a perfect world you could post your bikini and just get supportive wonderful safe compliments. But we are both aware that it isn’t that way. So if you are going to post pics you are doing it with some risk and knowledge that you may get creepy messages. It’s not right but it’s not a surprise.
Nobody is saying it’s surprising. That’s the world we live in now. But I wouldn’t mind if instead of raising our daughters to understand this reality, we could also be raising up sons who are taught how to respect boundaries. Of course this won’t be changed overnight, but do we throw up our hands? I sure as hell hope not.
I'll be teaching my daughter to not post slutty pictures online. But that's just me.5 -
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Can we end this discussion and go back to posting boobies?
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SomebodyWakeUpHIcks wrote: »Can we end this discussion and go back to posting boobies?
Please?
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HealthyAshes88888 wrote: »caco_ethes wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »beingmore1 wrote: »_Deadman_Walking_ wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »TeacupsAndToning wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »monkeefan1974 wrote: »jcstevens86 wrote: »Yall trippin 4real lol....i get what yall sayin...a broad should be able to be what she wants dress how she wants and act how she wants...i agree 100%....but on a platform such as a social media site why would you portray yourself in a manner that makes it appear that you crave the attention you really don't want....am i wrong for thinking those pix shoulda been kept private for her man and not been put on social media?....
I think a lot of the problem is that people are quick to judge a book by it’s cover. I’ve posted bikini pics and been accused of trying to promote an IG account or just garner attention from guys when the reality is I’m not even on IG, am in a happy and fulfilling relationship already and just want to show on this fitness site the results of my hard work and determination. I had to overcome being obese and other health issues and I’m proud of my body now and hope to inspire others and show them what is possible. I understand that it’s human nature to immediately judge someone off a pic, but we also have the capacity to think beyond that and give people the respect they deserve. But then again, some people might actually be seeking creepy attention and complain about it anyway, everyone has their own reasons for doing things.
Look i get that i really do ....no different in that than me with my shirt off in a pic from the beach...all i was sayin is if you post a pic of you im just a thong on a social site expect the worst cause it will happen....its a free world for snyone to do as they please just dont complain whem the end result gets you what you knew u would get
It is a free world but receiving unsolicited dirty messages isn't always what someone wants.
Your right but why put yourself in a situation where you know thats what the outcome will be
You're beginning to sound like one of those "if she didn't want to be sexually assaulted, she shouldn't have dressed provocatively" types.... stop while you're ahead. People do what people do. Don't like it? Delete them. It's not complicated.
I see his point. He is saying why flaunt it if you don’t want comments. I think it’s fair to say, as I posted previously, yes a woman or man should be able to post pics without being considered “fair game”. However we all know that isn’t how it is on the internet. I believe he is saying since we all know this, why do some women post very provocative pics then act horrified to receive a creepy message? That is his point. I disagree with you telling him that it’s the same as saying it’s a woman’s fault for being dressed provocatively if she’s assaulted.
They might post them because they're proud of their body and an easy way to show off your body confidence is to post a photo.
I've posted photos of myself in bikinis and I will admit that I do want people to tell me that I look amazing but what I don't want to receive is messages from guys that tell me what they want to do with their dick.
Yes I know. In a perfect world you could post your bikini and just get supportive wonderful safe compliments. But we are both aware that it isn’t that way. So if you are going to post pics you are doing it with some risk and knowledge that you may get creepy messages. It’s not right but it’s not a surprise.
Nobody is saying it’s surprising. That’s the world we live in now. But I wouldn’t mind if instead of raising our daughters to understand this reality, we could also be raising up sons who are taught how to respect boundaries. Of course this won’t be changed overnight, but do we throw up our hands? I sure as hell hope not.
I'll be teaching my daughter to not post slutty pictures online. But that's just me.
Me 2...my daughter is taught morals and self respect and to carry herself in a classy manner at all times3 -
One time I got a barely comprehensible message on MFP from a drunk guy that translated to “thank you for being nice to me.” It was awesome.
Haven’t read the whole thread... but really looking forward to it later.6
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