WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2018

If we could all be Zen Masters like cats!

Rebecca👍

Hello Ladies!!!!

(((Hugs))) to all suffering from the smoke-been there, done that, it sucks. Take care of yourselves!
Okie-I hope it makes you laugh that the first thing I did when I read the first line of your post about caffeine withdrawal was make myself a cup of coffee! It's that time of the afternoon, but you reminded me

Here's a slightly late mid-month check-in on my goals:
I'm on an 11 day run with 10K+ steps a day!!
I'm tracking my food diligently, even on "splurge" night with my DH
I have my 5th session with my personal trainer in a little while. It is TOUGH. I often say (but not to him) that it is a good thing he (the trainer) is cute or else I'd punch him
Since July 1 I have lost 10 pounds! It's slowing down though, as I knew it would.

The most exciting news it that on September 1 we are picking up our PUPPY!!!! I've never had a dog of my own so I'm nervous, but so excited. He is a Corgi and I'll will post pictures!

-ElizabethGA

Carol – Taylor rents most of her books, buys the ones that will be something she needs in the line of being a PT. She rented the book that the professor said to buy; come to find out it is slightly different, so the one she had planned on using (her boyfriend’s) isn’t going to work. Now she has to go back and reorder a book, then see if she can sell it. They will tell them to get certain books; but, when they turn in their syllabus, it is different. Says she prefers to get her books early so she can start reading them before classes start.

County Roads Maintenance guy called this AM and said they were going to put down red sand. He admitted that the ones in charge previously had mixed the dirt and he now has it separated. It’ll take a few months; but, he intends on getting all the dirt road passable, including crowning and ditching. Some people are going to have to buy culverts to be put under their driveways. I am pretty sure we’ll have to buy one even though we are on a hill. He said that the roads have being bogged. You’d think it was teenagers; but, he said, ‘no, two grown men’; but, they have to catch them ‘in the act’ before they can charge them. Told me to either call him or the Sheriff when we hear them out there. You could sort of understand teenagers bogging; but, 2 grown-@$$ men? They are old enough to understand the consequence of purposefully making all the dirt road impassable in the county. There are more dirt roads in this county than there are paved ones. On some they are having to put down gravel.

Rebecca – I’m not sure I would admit to your son anything about your addition. He will learn to deal with his issue on his own or ask your DH or one of his brothers. If he is ‘anything’ like my oldest son (and his wife) – anything said about anything remotely ‘sexual’ turns them into children. WTMI. “Well, how do you and Will think you got here? Immaculate conceptions?” Will and Tami are a lot more open about sex. No, I don’t think it would help him; about like my DDnL#1 telling our oldest grand about losing her virginity at the age of 13; and, how she wanted her to go on BC (at 15), in front of their other 2 (12 and 7 at the time). It upset my oldest granddaughter to the point, she ran into the bathroom and cried. I went in and rubbed her back and she turned to me and said, “I know what it is like to have a young mother and I am not going there, I don’t know why they (she) can’t trust me.” Five of Jenn’s nieces have had children ‘out of wedlock’. When she first came over and talked about having the bars in her arm (5 years of BC), I asked her ‘how she was going to legally do that? She said, well we have the same last name. OK, so what are you going to tell her Daddy when she has a stroke, or what are you going to say when she gets married and is unable to have a baby? That was the last I had heard of it until the comment about losing her virginity. No, No, No! He has enough to deal with, with his Dad confronting him. Let your husband deal with it, man-to-man. If you admit to the addiction then you will only make him think less of you. I know how important your boys are to you, don't do or say anything about it. I never say anything derogatory about Taylor’s Mother – she can say all she wants; but, it is NOT my place. Jennifer has made the mistake of saying derogatory things about her Mother and she does not appreciate it. She is her biological mother, regardless of what she is going through. It was like the random woman calling her at school telling her that 'her mother had been shot in the head'. She got hysterical; and Jenn called the Sheriff in Lee County, an uncle to one of her good friends and asked if he could find out anything. Apparently, she was hurt that bad; when the police came in to tell her that she was going 'directly to jail when the MD said she could' … he did not handcuff her to the bed, so she left and is 'out in the wind'. Another probation violation. But, they are not 'looking hard for her'. The last time they found her she was in "Ohio". Wasn't supposed to leave the state. She has even told Trey how it makes her feel when she does. Now, she is pushing for her to give Chase an ultimatum about committing – at least put a ring on her finger. There again, all I say to her is ‘don’t wait for Chase to make the decision on where he is going to apply for PT school, apply to every one of them and take the one you think is best'. If y’all end up at two different schools then one thing you will find out will be ‘if the relationship can survive long term’. Military families have to deal with long term relationships all the time. IMHO. But, now that you have said that your husband did not tell you of the situation, don’t be surprised if he is ‘distant’ when he comes home. Now, he will probably feel that he owes you an explanation. Best thing to do is not mention it again. Laugh it off and tell him that you DH talks to all the boys and never says what they talk about and brush it off.

I think one of the things that our oldest son told the boys that Taylor (and now Madison) was when they started ‘acting serious’ was “Don’t take anything away from my daughter, that you will be unable to give it back.” I think they have worried more about Madison because she was dating a boy they did not like; I disagreed with them about ‘trying to break them up’. With girls, this usually means they will either find a way or they will lie about it and still date him’. They broke up a week before prom after they had spent $300 on a prom dress. She went by herself. Well, not really by herself; but, with a openly gay friend and another friend went with the other boy involved. They are all friends so they had a good time just sitting and talking to one another. She asked another boy in her class if ‘he would escort her out for the walk out’.

Lanette – Well … when this woman sues her VET, I bet she will be able to get the name through discovery; then she can add them to the lawsuit. The fact that she was also bitten, in GA, they would have impounded the Great Dane for 10 days to make sure it did not have rabies. Even ‘small dogs’ if in ‘strange situations’ can bite. I don’t care, I keep Cracker on a very short leash or in my lap (on a leash).

Katla and Michele – We sometimes watch vet shows on TV; and, all I can say is “I’d NEVER be a large animal vet’. Stick my arm all the way up a cow’s fanny with a sleeve on? And walk through pig $#*T. Nah, I’ve even seen some ‘small animals come into the waiting room with open sores, or places they have had ears sewn back on and get queasy. I think Dr. Pol is one of my favorites.

Wendy – In an ‘especially touchy’ case; quite often if you feel threatened and it is obvious to your attorney, he will stand in front of you to block your view from the other party. He will ‘oppose’ if he thinks the other attorney is trying to bait you and quite often then judge will admonish him and tell him to move back. Nobody wants a witness to burst into tears. I have known Judges to tell the Marshals to remove someone before because of ‘their attitudes’ about the case. If, at all possible, answer the question with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’. Sometimes they will ask the judge to let them treat you as a ‘hostile witness’ … especially if you attempt to justify or ramble on. I am sending hellos to all the new ladies!

Terry – When I had my casts/splint on, Louis would take a garbage bad and draw it tight, then take the handles and tie them around my neck. It got to the point it became a joke to us. Trying to take a shower with a cast is awful. I don’t see how you are succeeding with the cast being on your leg.

Meg – That would be a hard thing to do; but, she is a friend and sometimes you have to decide it is worth supporting that friend. I know it is difficult because of whatever you’ve been through.

I’m taking Kylia ending:

I am sending (((HUGS))) to all those in need of one!
I am sending thank yous to all of you!
I am sending encouragement to those in need!
I am sending energy to those in the middle of projects!

Lenora

This is not really about my goals except that I am trying to recognize my bad habits so that I can teach myself to break them. I am looking for friends who can help me along the way, keep me accountable without judging my many failures along the way.

Just one extra mouthful

I want to share a small victory (well it's pretty big for me).
There are so many bad habits that let us down, we think we are eating healthy and doing the right thing but those nasty little bad habits that have slowly crept in sabotage us without us even realizing it. Step one is to recognize them and then start changing them into good healthy habits.
Well last night after work I cooked dinner and did some cooking for the rest of the week - tick - healthy habit - planning food for the week so I don't just grab what is quick and easy. Fast forward a couple of hours and meals were cool enough to be cut and portioned into meal servings. But there was this bit that didn't quite fit into the container, it was an inch away from my mouth before I realized what I was doing, NOOOOOOOOO! But it smelt so good, I couldn't throw it out, it didn't fit, it's just a mouthful, it's good food not junk, NOOOOOOOO! I made it fit into the container!
How much do I put into my mouth without even thinking about it. Well now I'm trying to think about it and last night was the first step to breaking one bad habit and developing new good habits. It was actually very hard not to eat that last bit of food last night even after I had recognized what I was doing, I wasn't hungry, I just like food and it was good food and I really did want to eat it.

I am in control - Food will not control me!