I used to think that I was just a fundamentally messy person, and that it was something I was doing wrong that was preventing me from looking polished or professional.
Welp, I’ve been looking pretty sharp all week, and I’m still the same person. So now I’m just angry that ‘professional’ attire is so fundamentally sizeist and ableist. If you’re the right shape for ‘professional’ styles, you can look great; and if you’re NOT the right shape, the mismatch just becomes more and more apparent the larger you are.
How many of my assumptions about my own incapacities were because of things like this??!
I'm kinda opposite right now. My old wardrobe had plenty of colours but now just about everything is black. On the positive side, my old clothes were all ones made for fat people and looked like it, now my clothes are much nicer styles. However the colours are oh so boring. I just was forced to buy a whole lot of clothes and spent as little as possible on them because they probably won't fit for long. Once I get to goal weight I hope to gradually improve my wardrobe. [/quote]
Charity/ second hand shops were made for this! Pic up tops for a couple of dollars and then when you shrink out of them donate them back!
A positive one - shirt sleeves are the right length. I am slightly under 5'8" and when I wore L and XL, cuffs were always trying to creep up to my palms.
How much it annoys me when someone says, "oh, you don't have to watch what you eat!" or, "oh, you don't have to work out!"
I feel like they're disrespecting the discipline and hard work it takes to be healthy ...
I don't. Many people I hang with now are people I have met being active and they never knew me overweight. Sometimes I tell them and sometimes I let it slide, especially if it is someone overweight having a pity party (before anyone slams me for saying this, I used to host such parties all the time). It's the wrong time to tell them that I did it by making it really important and being disciplined this time.
BTW, I get the one about not having to watch what I eat, but I have gotten into good enough shape that it is obvious I work out. I still have a hard time believing that's really me in the mirror. I don't look like a body builder but I am pretty fit. I think that contributes to the idea that I don't have to watch what I eat. I work out enough that it does make it possible for me to plan for indulgent events and look carefree in choosing what to eat.
As to clothing...this may sound weird, but I noticed when I was fat, the big sizes of clothes really got a b.o. smell. Now, maybe it was me and my body chemistry was different. But, the only times I (or anyone around me) notice any b.o. now is after a sweaty run. I often wondered if clothing manufacturers were somehow anti-fat people. (I was a 2xl or women's 18, now 4 or 6 depending on the brand)
Regarding eating what I want. Yes! I exercise every day, running whenever I can. I feel I can be carefree regarding what I eat and in most ways I am right...as long as I exercise. I have noticed on days I do not exercise much, I am not as hungry. This seems to keep my weight within the same couple of pounds. @brightresolve I would say not to worry about what people say. Let them think it is no big deal and maybe, just maybe, they will decide to jump onto the healthy bandwagon...and find cute dogs to adopt and walk/run with
That even though you get to your goal weight, you might not be happy like you think you will be.
This is true - however, many people believe that the root of their unhappiness is weight and this thought blocks them addressing the real issues. Once the weight is gone, the underlying causees for unhappiness can be identified and worked on. For many people, it is this underlying cause of unhappiness that led to weight gain in the first place. My tenet is, improve lifestyle through diet and activity. This will lead to weight loss. The improved lifestyle may also lead to greater happiness - if I doesn't, then take a long look at your life and change what is getting you down.
that people who notice your obvious weight loss will undoubtedly ask you how you did it. when you tell them by counting calories and exercising they actually look disappointed like they were expecting some divine miraculous secret.
that people who notice your obvious weight loss will undoubtedly ask you how you did it. when you tell them by counting calories and exercising they actually look disappointed like they were expecting some divine miraculous secret.
Their eyes just kinda glaze over....pretty soon you are talking to yourself lol.
That even though you get to your goal weight, you might not be happy like you think you will be.
Gotta disagree.
Every pound lost is making me pretty happy.
Reaching UGW is like any other goal in life.
Once done you move on to something else.
I don’t think anyone believes thin is auto happy.
One thing I do know is that not reaching UGW is gonna make me unhappy
Ehhh. I think the previous poster qualified that statement pretty well. And I *do* think sometimes people believe that thin=happy. It certainly seems to be a message our culture tries to reinforce at every opportunity!
that people who notice your obvious weight loss will undoubtedly ask you how you did it. when you tell them by counting calories and exercising they actually look disappointed like they were expecting some divine miraculous secret.
Their eyes just kinda glaze over....pretty soon you are talking to yourself lol.
That even though you get to your goal weight, you might not be happy like you think you will be.
I found that my goal weight shifted downwards, as I wasn't happy with my result... sadly, I didn't look quite the same at that weight as I had done ten years previously I should've started strength training earlier in the process, and in earnest
That even though you get to your goal weight, you might not be happy like you think you will be.
I found that my goal weight shifted downwards, as I wasn't happy with my result... sadly, I didn't look quite the same at that weight as I had done ten years previously I should've started strength training earlier in the process, and in earnest
Well you won't. You're 10 years older now. I won't look like I did 10 years ago either. Losing weight doesn't make aging go away. But, saying that, better to be in shape NOW. The next best thing to doing it in the past is DOING IT TODAY.
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I used to think that I was just a fundamentally messy person, and that it was something I was doing wrong that was preventing me from looking polished or professional.
Welp, I’ve been looking pretty sharp all week, and I’m still the same person. So now I’m just angry that ‘professional’ attire is so fundamentally sizeist and ableist. If you’re the right shape for ‘professional’ styles, you can look great; and if you’re NOT the right shape, the mismatch just becomes more and more apparent the larger you are.
How many of my assumptions about my own incapacities were because of things like this??!
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I'm kinda opposite right now. My old wardrobe had plenty of colours but now just about everything is black. On the positive side, my old clothes were all ones made for fat people and looked like it, now my clothes are much nicer styles. However the colours are oh so boring. I just was forced to buy a whole lot of clothes and spent as little as possible on them because they probably won't fit for long. Once I get to goal weight I hope to gradually improve my wardrobe. [/quote]
Charity/ second hand shops were made for this! Pic up tops for a couple of dollars and then when you shrink out of them donate them back!
I don't. Many people I hang with now are people I have met being active and they never knew me overweight. Sometimes I tell them and sometimes I let it slide, especially if it is someone overweight having a pity party (before anyone slams me for saying this, I used to host such parties all the time). It's the wrong time to tell them that I did it by making it really important and being disciplined this time.
BTW, I get the one about not having to watch what I eat, but I have gotten into good enough shape that it is obvious I work out. I still have a hard time believing that's really me in the mirror. I don't look like a body builder but I am pretty fit. I think that contributes to the idea that I don't have to watch what I eat. I work out enough that it does make it possible for me to plan for indulgent events and look carefree in choosing what to eat.
Regarding eating what I want. Yes! I exercise every day, running whenever I can. I feel I can be carefree regarding what I eat and in most ways I am right...as long as I exercise. I have noticed on days I do not exercise much, I am not as hungry. This seems to keep my weight within the same couple of pounds. @brightresolve I would say not to worry about what people say. Let them think it is no big deal and maybe, just maybe, they will decide to jump onto the healthy bandwagon...and find cute dogs to adopt and walk/run with
Gotta disagree.
Every pound lost is making me pretty happy.
Reaching UGW is like any other goal in life.
Once done you move on to something else.
I don’t think anyone believes thin is auto happy.
One thing I do know is that not reaching UGW is gonna make me unhappy
This is true - however, many people believe that the root of their unhappiness is weight and this thought blocks them addressing the real issues. Once the weight is gone, the underlying causees for unhappiness can be identified and worked on. For many people, it is this underlying cause of unhappiness that led to weight gain in the first place. My tenet is, improve lifestyle through diet and activity. This will lead to weight loss. The improved lifestyle may also lead to greater happiness - if I doesn't, then take a long look at your life and change what is getting you down.
Ehhh. I think the previous poster qualified that statement pretty well. And I *do* think sometimes people believe that thin=happy. It certainly seems to be a message our culture tries to reinforce at every opportunity!
exactly!!!!!
don't we all lol
I found that my goal weight shifted downwards, as I wasn't happy with my result... sadly, I didn't look quite the same at that weight as I had done ten years previously
Well you won't. You're 10 years older now. I won't look like I did 10 years ago either. Losing weight doesn't make aging go away. But, saying that, better to be in shape NOW. The next best thing to doing it in the past is DOING IT TODAY.