The Sober Squad- Alcohol Free Living
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was just asking advise on the other alcohol thread if I should pay all my credit cards or just a few,I'm not making hardly any money so the little I do make has to go for household bills,it's giving me anxiety,have a great AF day all💗
If you pay the money on the credit card, not only do you save the interest, but the money's there on the card to spend if things get tight.
Good advice and I have paid on the visa and MasterCard but I have a couple of department store cards that I'm thinking of just letting go to collections,this is frustrating and I dunno what to do 😭
Perhaps you could call the dept. stores and explain your situation to see if they will defer payments for now and let them know you'll keep in touch to update them of any changes in your financial situation. Most places are extending forgiveness of some sort due to the restrictions. Hope this helps.7 -
Good morning friends ! Day 7 here alcohol free. I am really tryin'10
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In the blue book, I read how it's easy to think back fondly on the good times when you were drinking, but then immediately stop that, and remind yourselves of all the bad times. (hangovers, memory loss, blackouts, vomiting, sleeping on the floor, room spinning ....this is my list and I could go on and on) And the wasted weekend days lying in bed wanting to die from the pain.9
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I had a zoom meeting with friends who drink. I had my diet coke. There were stories and laughs and I always think later on could I do that one day just have 1 or 2 and call it a day.
I sat in my bed last night and I said to myself if there was a bottle of wine right here on the nightstand (even tho not my drink of choice) would I just have 1 glass and try to put the cork back in? The answer is No. Not now and probably not ever.
Hope all are getting along well. 💓7 -
I am cleaning out my cupboards before my move and I came across 6 martini glasses and thought why take them with me? I know what my reality really is. So, I put them in a box along with a bottle of Champagne and unopened liquor bottle that was a gift and put it on the ground next to the dumpster with a note that said "please take if you want".
If they are still there later, I will just pitch them. But if they're gone , that would be good too!
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RubyRed427 wrote: »I am cleaning out my cupboards before my move and I came across 6 martini glasses and thought why take them with me? I know what my reality really is. So, I put them in a box along with a bottle of Champagne and unopened liquor bottle that was a gift and put it on the ground next to the dumpster with a note that said "please take if you want".
If they are still there later, I will just pitch them. But if they're gone , that would be good too!
GOOD FOR YOU!! Btw, They'll be gone LOL5 -
Today is the 2nd Anniversary of my BFF who died of ovarian cancer. It is SO hard to believe it is already 2 years. I wrote out some cards for 2 of her adult children and drew a beach scene in one and a field of flowers in the other...she loved both. I had made cookies the other day and decided to include them with the cards and was debating on getting a bottle of wine in each gift bag, and hemmed & hawed, and then decided to purchase a couple of bottles...I haven't been in the wine store for ... I don't remember how long, but quite awhile.
I took the gift bags in with me so I could put the wine in them right in the store...the reason: so that anyone who knows I quit drinking would not see me walking out of the store with them in liquor bags and wonder if I fell off the wagon...then I thought, "WHO CARES!!" I know that I'm still AF." But, I DO care! What is with THAT??6 -
lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Today is the 2nd Anniversary of my BFF who died of ovarian cancer. It is SO hard to believe it is already 2 years. I wrote out some cards for 2 of her adult children and drew a beach scene in one and a field of flowers in the other...she loved both. I had made cookies the other day and decided to include them with the cards and was debating on getting a bottle of wine in each gift bag, and hemmed & hawed, and then decided to purchase a couple of bottles...I haven't been in the wine store for ... I don't remember how long, but quite awhile.
I took the gift bags in with me so I could put the wine in them right in the store...the reason: so that anyone who knows I quit drinking would not see me walking out of the store with them in liquor bags and wonder if I fell off the wagon...then I thought, "WHO CARES!!" I know that I'm still AF." But, I DO care! What is with THAT??lorrainequiche59 wrote: »Today is the 2nd Anniversary of my BFF who died of ovarian cancer. It is SO hard to believe it is already 2 years. I wrote out some cards for 2 of her adult children and drew a beach scene in one and a field of flowers in the other...she loved both. I had made cookies the other day and decided to include them with the cards and was debating on getting a bottle of wine in each gift bag, and hemmed & hawed, and then decided to purchase a couple of bottles...I haven't been in the wine store for ... I don't remember how long, but quite awhile.
I took the gift bags in with me so I could put the wine in them right in the store...the reason: so that anyone who knows I quit drinking would not see me walking out of the store with them in liquor bags and wonder if I fell off the wagon...then I thought, "WHO CARES!!" I know that I'm still AF." But, I DO care! What is with THAT??
I believe I remember when you lost your BFF. I am sorry. That is so sweet of you to send the children cards and gifts in remembrance. It must have been weird to be in the wine store; yes, you're right who cares if anyone sees you. You know in your heart you are winning!
p.s. Yes, the glasses and the bottles were gone the next morning! Someone probably will enjoy them all. Let them. I know for me "enjoyable " drinking times are false memories. LOL5 -
That was so nice of you Lorraine to think of her family 💗 Ruby, I laughed at the box being gone, hopefully they'll get some use out of it, I was doing my grocery delivery thing the other day and the lady added on some Chardonnay so I was trying to buy it but the service doesn't allow us to buy alcohol without the person's ID so just bought it separately with my own money, it was a little old lady who was really grateful and gave me a check, I may have a booze problem but I'm not gonna deny a little old lady stuck at home her bottles of wine, hope all are well and enjoy the day! 💗7
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@FeelinFooFoo Sounds like a good plan to get off the meds in light of long-term side effects. You Tube has lots of Mindfulness Meditations for sleep (not the hypnosis ones though) I've used them to nod off & it's free. Just a thought. I like how you keep conscious of the down side of alcohol...I think that's important to remember.
@Whitpauly You are a good woman buying that little old lady her vino LOL
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Ugh I haven't been sleeping great😒 waking up too early for some reason, the first 2 weeks stuck with no job I was lovin waking up past 6 now I'm back to 4-4:30 and it blows! I've read that's a sign of depression-hope not, this has been a week, my little dog went missing (still can't find him😭) and yesterday my Fitbit broke, those are too expensive to be so crappy! Anyhoo 6:37 am in Vegas another 24,hope everyone has a wonderful day 💗6
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Ugh I haven't been sleeping great😒 waking up too early for some reason, the first 2 weeks stuck with no job I was lovin waking up past 6 now I'm back to 4-4:30 and it blows! I've read that's a sign of depression-hope not, this has been a week, my little dog went missing (still can't find him😭) and yesterday my Fitbit broke, those are too expensive to be so crappy! Anyhoo 6:37 am in Vegas another 24,hope everyone has a wonderful day 💗
Sorry about your dog. I hope he turns up! Fitbit has great customer service I think. Hopefully your still under warranty. ♥
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I just passed day 10 AF for me. I haven't done that since last summer, I think. I can't remember when. Since I am a binge drinker, I can go a few days AF and then I become the Tasmanian devil and I must have a drink.
I heard something interesting, one of the reasons they didn't close liquor stores in most states is because of the danger of withdrawal and symptoms that go with it (seizures) that can kill someone who is a daily heavy drinker.
Here's an excerpt from an article I read about it:
It’s a bit like two equally balanced people playing tug of war and one person suddenly drops the rope and the other is sent flying.
And that’s why Dr Sellman agrees the chronic severe alcoholic should probably continue drinking if immediate help is not available. It’s not just an excuse.
“It is easier on the body to reduce down over days or even weeks before stopping altogether. Another day of heavy drinking to prevent severe withdrawal symptoms while the person finds help is not going to make any appreciable difference to their health in the context of the thousands of heavy drinking days in their life.”
So Mythbusters’ conclusion is yes, you can die from alcohol withdrawal – not because stopping drinking is bad, but because your body has become convinced it needs alcohol to survive, and it just might kill you if it doesn’t get it.6 -
6:19 am in Vegas another 24,RubyRed it's true one of my friends' aqauinteces(spelled horribly 😳)had an alcoholic withdrawal seizure in rehab and died after 4 days of no booze so it's probably wise some states kept them open, don't need hospital staff dealing with that too, I keep going from feeling like I'm ok one day to feeling really sad the next with all of this, I have no clue when I'll be back to work, also no clue on if the owner can afford to open back up, wish I had some info on that from him at least, hope everyone is doing well, have a wonderful AF day 💗6
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I have 73 days & 12 hrs AF, haha.
Every once in a while, I split an AF beer with my dad. He drinks it due to medication, & I like to mix it with my V8. Beer is not my drink.. booze was, & usually gin, so I don't find it to really be a trigger. I do hope to drink responsibly & rarely at some point, but I definitely want some good sober time under my belt before I take that path.
I'm getting closer to walking.. I do a little bit each day in my medical boot & with the aid of a walker. I'm telling y'all.. ankle surgery is no joke! (And neither is 115 proof gin) Stay safe!7 -
Day 13 AF here in the Midwest. My goal is 30 days of sobriety. And then hopefully, a million more.
I founds some positives of being sober while in isolation:
* When daughter stops by unannounced you don't have to worry that you're drunk
* Feeling and looking fresh during Zoom lessons with students instead of hungover
* Saving money! Trips to grocery store cost about $50 less, since I'm not buying wine.
* Coffee tastes better on a sober morning
* Evenings seem so long!! (that is good and bad)
* Clearer skin (no puffy eyes)
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Yesterday, I received a negative email from a parent about my Zoom lesson. She called out another student who was "distracting" her son during the lesson. I took offense at this for some reason. It really bothered me.
I started to fall back to my automatic coping techniques and wanted to go buy a bottle of wine immediately. Instead, I went for a 7,000 step walk. Crisis averted. I also pressed "pause" and didn't write her back until today. That also made my life easier. If I had written to her yesterday I would have said things I would have regretted today.
I came across a psychology concept .‘You spot it, you got it’ occurs when we get irritated by behaviour in others, which we are choosing to deny in ourselves. In other words, what I hate the most in you, may be what I hate the most in me."
Ok back to work. Done rambling. Wishing you a happy content day!
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stephanne13 wrote: »I have 73 days & 12 hrs AF, haha.
Every once in a while, I split an AF beer with my dad. He drinks it due to medication, & I like to mix it with my V8. Beer is not my drink.. booze was, & usually gin, so I don't find it to really be a trigger. I do hope to drink responsibly & rarely at some point, but I definitely want some good sober time under my belt before I take that path.
I'm getting closer to walking.. I do a little bit each day in my medical boot & with the aid of a walker. I'm telling y'all.. ankle surgery is no joke! (And neither is 115 proof gin) Stay safe!
I'm happy to hear you are on the mend. 73 days AF is awesome!
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Today is 2 weeks, 3 hours into AF attempt. Still not had anymore to drink, still off my ecig. So far, so good. Looking forward to making more lemon water up when I go home and getting a seat out in the garden.
So I'm getting plenty vitamin C, and D 😆 I know my brother will have a sore head and hangover and I'm not gloating AT ALL, but im so glad I don't have to face that ! It's like a form of torture ! I also received an email telling me a package has been delivered, so can't wait to get my products I ordered. Face mask, face scrub and all that kinda stuff. For my 'spa days' 👌💖 a bit of self care is really helping me out just now.
Hangovers are a form of torture, you're so right! Enjoy your spa day!5 -
6:19 am in Vegas another 24,RubyRed it's true one of my friends' aqauinteces(spelled horribly 😳)had an alcoholic withdrawal seizure in rehab and died after 4 days of no booze so it's probably wise some states kept them open, don't need hospital staff dealing with that too, I keep going from feeling like I'm ok one day to feeling really sad the next with all of this, I have no clue when I'll be back to work, also no clue on if the owner can afford to open back up, wish I had some info on that from him at least, hope everyone is doing well, have a wonderful AF day 💗
I have been watching Nurse Jackie during this quarantine. Not sure if anyone on here watched it (Netflix). It's the kind of show where you watch an episode here and there... it's just a constant. Anyway, Nurse Jackie is an addict. As I watch it, I can relate to her for dozens of reasons. And when she starts sneaking her pills after being sober, I find myself yelling "Stop Jackie!! Don't do it!" It's a very relatable show to me.
The episode I watched yesterday featured a nun who was an alcoholic. She was drinking herself to death because she "liked the taste of alcohol" and didn't want to quit. Anyway during the show she had a seizure due to withdrawal. It was so realistic. I was scared for her. And it was upsetting to watch.7 -
FeelinFooFoo wrote: »Today is 2 weeks, 3 hours into AF attempt. Still not had anymore to drink, still off my ecig. So far, so good. Looking forward to making more lemon water up when I go home and getting a seat out in the garden.
So I'm getting plenty vitamin C, and D 😆 I know my brother will have a sore head and hangover and I'm not gloating AT ALL, but im so glad I don't have to face that ! It's like a form of torture ! I also received an email telling me a package has been delivered, so can't wait to get my products I ordered. Face mask, face scrub and all that kinda stuff. For my 'spa days' 👌💖 a bit of self care is really helping me out just now.
I ordered make-up,self Tanner and expensive face stuff,you know the "essentials" figure if the world's ending I'm gonna look good doing it😆 enjoy your pampering, RubyRed,great job on taking a walk instead of buying yucky vino! I hit 30 days for the 150th time the other day,I can't believe I pissed away 8 months,it just hit me the other day how dumb that was,kinda like Nurse Jackie,just wanna say STOP!! Don't do it ain't worth it,waves to all and wishes for a wonderful AF day, don't drink today it's gross!🌺6
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