WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2023
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Greetings Friends. I've been behind for days and just finally caught up.
Debbie: Add me to the others who want to come eat your delicious home cooked meals. You are making me want an air fryer, but then I remember that I seldom cook anymore.
Rosemarie: It's been 2 years since I lost my DH. I was his main caregiver for almost 4 years of his dementia journey. I am still riding the rollercoaster of emotions and guilt. It does get easier as you find your groove. Need a beach partner? I'm always ready!
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My sweet gentleman has his one and only daughter visiting this week, so we haven't communicated for a few days. However, the good news is that I am going to visit him in New Hampshire when I'm on the east coast at end of this month. We had originally planned to meet at my friends' lakeside home in the Poconos, but I decided I really wanted him to myself before we socialize with others. (My friends are great, but their house is a zoo!) So, I'm flying to his home for a day or two, then we'll drive to the lake together right after Labor Day. He said he is feeling giddy. Me too!
Tomorrow is church followed by a trip to big farmers market with my favorite niece. I'll load up on organic veges and fruits. The storage recommendations in the book "Eating on the Wild Side" (thanks Margaret) are excellent and I can vouch they work. Spoilage has been cut way down, which certainly helps during these days of increasing grocery costs.
Stay well, friends. Keep smiling and shining. We can do this.
Rori
Colorado Foothills
If you are thinking about getting an air fryer but not sure- get one of the smaller/basket types. She how you like it. That is what we did. Wore two of them out before upgrading to the one with two trays. On our second one of that type. Ours is used pretty much daily. From heating up left over pizza(it is great) and fried chicken(LOVE it for that-renders out the extra fat and makes the skin super crispy) to cooking steak or chicken. Dh doesn't cook. Can't remember the last time he used the stove. He reheats only. He uses the air fryer. Loves his corn dogs, pizza, egg rolls, etc in there.
Around Black Friday, you can get the smaller ones for just $25 or at least they were last year. Just checked and BestBuy has a few different ones for $30.
So glad you have plans to meet up with your gentleman friend- Hope you have an amazing time.
Debbie
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Yes, I try to remember to compliment DH often. And I always thank him for every small thing he does for me. So important. I try to give him the same respect that I would with a valued guest. This morning, that involved coming down from the top of the house to give him a hug and say goodbye and wish him well.
With my first husband, I was neglectful of all that. I allowed criticism to be a way of life. When I went on a course which told us to spend a week without criticising our partner, (he didn't know about the instructions), he told me that he felt so much better at the end of that week.
Contempt is the biggest killer of a marriage.
Making small 'bids' towards your partner, noticing when they make a 'bid' and responding to it. Appreciating their love language. Yesterday DH said that we should go out for a meal one day this week. That was his bid to say, we need some 'close' time to do something together.
Sometimes it really does work to 'fake it till you make it'. If I make the effort to be loving, it usually turns out that I am.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx6 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »Yes, I try to remember to compliment DH often. And I always thank him for every small thing he does for me. So important. I try to give him the same respect that I would with a valued guest. This morning, that involved coming down from the top of the house to give him a hug and say goodbye and wish him well.
With my first husband, I was neglectful of all that. I allowed criticism to be a way of life. When I went on a course which told us to spend a week without criticising our partner, (he didn't know about the instructions), he told me that he felt so much better at the end of that week. Contempt is the biggest killer of a marriage.
Making small 'bids' towards your partner, noticing when they make a 'bid' and responding to it. Appreciating their love language. Yesterday DH said that we should go out for a meal one day this week. That was his bid to say, we need some 'close' time to do something together.
Sometimes it really does work to 'fake it till you make it'. If I make the effort to be loving, it usually turns out that I am.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Heather - Insightful * Inspiring * Like * Hug
Accountability:
Tomorrow is "accountability" day. If anyone wants to be added to my post, please message me today.
I have changed my criteria. I have often said, I don't care if the scale shows I weigh 800 lbs, if I can fit comfortably in my favorite pants, that lying scale be d@mned. I mean it.
I'll keep tracking how close or far I am from my goal range just for data, but not obsess over that pound or two up or down.
I'm starting to feel the same way about the tape measure. How can my waist be an inch or two larger than last week and my pants fit comfortably around the waist? Same with the hips - loss of an inch, ten years ago would have been great. Now, still tight - I guess I'm not taking into account the extra baggage in my saggy rear, lol. Gravity.
Have a great Sunday, peeps. Hug the one you love. Love the one you're with and all that.
Lanette
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Afternoon ladies
Oh I complimented Tom alot and probably over compensated, tried everything I could to make him happy..
But the last few yrs..when he was doing what he was doing,it made it worse because of the guilt..
But thats all done now.
Onto something different..got the laundry done..and garbage together for Dan to take out for me..4 -
Can I post a video from my Facebook on here that you could see? Or do I have to make it public first?1
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Lanette
Thank you for this- I really need to remind myself daily of this and so much other wisdom that has been shared.
THANK YOU ALL!!!
Dh hasn't changed his habits that irritate me in the last 27yrs, they have gotten worse(married 31 yrs next month) even though I have asked for simple changes.
I am not at the point of calling it quits right now(I was for a while but things changed and decided to settle with what I have)
I need to be the one that changes things for myself. I need to learn to speak up, out loud, and not just in my head, if anything will get better.
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Stat for the day-
Housecleaning etc- 3hrs 35min 16sec, vacuum dust, laundry fold and put away, make hummingbird food, empty clean and refill front patio fountain, empty clean refill birdbath, sweep front entryway and front patio, water plants,etc= 1025c5 -
SophieRosieMom wrote: »cityjaneLondon wrote: »Yes, I try to remember to compliment DH often. And I always thank him for every small thing he does for me. So important. I try to give him the same respect that I would with a valued guest. This morning, that involved coming down from the top of the house to give him a hug and say goodbye and wish him well.
With my first husband, I was neglectful of all that. I allowed criticism to be a way of life. When I went on a course which told us to spend a week without criticising our partner, (he didn't know about the instructions), he told me that he felt so much better at the end of that week. Contempt is the biggest killer of a marriage.
Making small 'bids' towards your partner, noticing when they make a 'bid' and responding to it. Appreciating their love language. Yesterday DH said that we should go out for a meal one day this week. That was his bid to say, we need some 'close' time to do something together.
Sometimes it really does work to 'fake it till you make it'. If I make the effort to be loving, it usually turns out that I am.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Heather - Insightful * Inspiring * Like * Hug
Accountability:
Tomorrow is "accountability" day. If anyone wants to be added to my post, please message me today.
I have changed my criteria. I have often said, I don't care if the scale shows I weigh 800 lbs, if I can fit comfortably in my favorite pants, that lying scale be d@mned. I mean it.
I'll keep tracking how close or far I am from my goal range just for data, but not obsess over that pound or two up or down.
I'm starting to feel the same way about the tape measure. How can my waist be an inch or two larger than last week and my pants fit comfortably around the waist? Same with the hips - loss of an inch, ten years ago would have been great. Now, still tight - I guess I'm not taking into account the extra baggage in my saggy rear, lol. Gravity.
Have a great Sunday, peeps. Hug the one you love. Love the one you're with and all that.
Lanette
SW WA State
Think I messaged you- let me know if you got it, if I did it right
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Debbie - I didn't get anything from you, so I just messaged you. Hopefully you got it and can hit reply. Somewhere in outer space is a whole lot of messages that never made it to their destination.
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »Debbie - I didn't get anything from you, so I just messaged you. Hopefully you got it and can hit reply. Somewhere in outer space is a whole lot of messages that never made it to their destination. Lanette
I don't see any messages from you(or anyone for that matter)- It should be where the bell is, right?
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I changed the settings on this album so I hope you can see it. I finally have the music box and turntable working on the Christmas present for Michaela.
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It's very cute Tracey!!!
Okie0 -
Lanette and Debbie - When Machka and I were trading some information, I had to ask and she had to accept a friend request. You should be able to do that by clicking on the image of the person in their post, then going to their profile. Could be wrong--I could see Lanette's friend request button, but then lost that screen when I returned.
Tracey - It's lovely! She's going to love that...
Rori - Giddy is good!2 -
LisaInArkansas wrote: »Lanette and Debbie - When Machka and I were trading some information, I had to ask and she had to accept a friend request. You should be able to do that by clicking on the image of the person in their post, then going to their profile. Could be wrong--I could see Lanette's friend request button, but then lost that screen when I returned.
Tracey - It's lovely! She's going to love that...
Rori - Giddy is good!
thanks- sent a friend request to Lanette.(found that the other message I sent to the wrong person-some other random Lanette will get it)1 -
Tracey-that is a terrific Christmas present!
Rori-what a nice trip to look forward to-and that's a beautiful time of year for New England.
Allie-the dogs are adorable-can't picture my cats tolerating anything like that!
Considering chores done enough (although I may go move some stuff that is blocking access to a closet). Also got some stuff for work done. Will leave work at noon (they are supposed to be here between 12:30-2 to put in faucet. Will work from home while waiting and after they leave.
I may have a cracked tooth (it's upper mid way back). It has had heavy work done to it. This is one if I lose I will go for implant. The one on the other side I lost does not have a molar below it so didn't make sense to replace with implant. Scheduled to see dentist at end of September, but may go ahead and call tomorrow to get checked-nothing worse than tooth pain in the middle of the night. We were pretty poor growing up and a dentist wasn't part of our lives. Happy teeth are as good as they are.
Enjoy what may be left of your day/evening.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio
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Heather: Your relationship with your DH sounds so healthy! The. next relationship I am in, I am going to compliment much more and be much more thankful!
Lanette: Yes, I am slowly decluttering. Tonight I will take 20 minutes and do the freezer. I don't have plans to change the inside of the house much. It took years to put the house together and that is one reason why I am not ready leave it. It would be so strange to move into a condo and go out and purchase a living room set, after putting this living room together piece by piece. I have only had end tables for maybe 12 years. They came from a business that takes in old hotel furniture. I have gotten several pieces at this business. The end tables came from a nice hotel in Washington D.C.
RV Rita: I hope you are feeling better. Such nice campers to offer you breakfast. Especially with you not feeling well.
Tracey: 2 hours to set up a computer and become the administrator sounds good to me! I am sure it would take me much longer!
Machka: Thankfully your DH does pretty well, but I know it has been a big adjustment for both of you.
Rori: Thank you for your thoughtful words. I hope you enjoy your trip to New Hampshire. My husband loved New Hampshire!
Debbie: I have always rather liked shampooing my pets.
Michele: I hope your trip works out. Hotel prices are up and for the longest while we had pretty good restaurant prices, being in what use to be a low cost area. But the restaurant prices have really gone up here.
Barbara: I took a walk this morning and came home and slept 4 hours...after having a good sleep last night. I feel great this evening!
I am so appreciative of you all sharing about your marriages. This has made me feel much better about my own marriage and the caregiving. Thank you!
The house hasn't been painted since I don't know when. So I got 3 estimates and hired a painter. My house is a light pink. I toyed with the idea of painting it a more marketable color in case I wanted to sell it. But in the end I chose a pink with more white in it. Perhaps not that practical, but I will enjoy it!
The painter is going to use some type of paint gun to paint the house. I didn't know this until after I
hired him. Does anyone know about these paint guns?
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia3 -
Well got to see Dan today,he took the garbage out,
Tracy will call in the morning if she needs me to Miles
This was him a bit earlier..
Going to sleep as I didn't nap today either.. which is good I guess..3 -
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hope everything is going ok- miss your posts Karen.4 -
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SophieRosieMom wrote: »cityjaneLondon wrote: »Yes, I try to remember to compliment DH often. And I always thank him for every small thing he does for me. So important. I try to give him the same respect that I would with a valued guest. This morning, that involved coming down from the top of the house to give him a hug and say goodbye and wish him well.
With my first husband, I was neglectful of all that. I allowed criticism to be a way of life. When I went on a course which told us to spend a week without criticising our partner, (he didn't know about the instructions), he told me that he felt so much better at the end of that week. Contempt is the biggest killer of a marriage.
Making small 'bids' towards your partner, noticing when they make a 'bid' and responding to it. Appreciating their love language. Yesterday DH said that we should go out for a meal one day this week. That was his bid to say, we need some 'close' time to do something together.
Sometimes it really does work to 'fake it till you make it'. If I make the effort to be loving, it usually turns out that I am.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Heather - Insightful * Inspiring * Like * Hug
Accountability:
Tomorrow is "accountability" day. If anyone wants to be added to my post, please message me today.
I have changed my criteria. I have often said, I don't care if the scale shows I weigh 800 lbs, if I can fit comfortably in my favorite pants, that lying scale be d@mned. I mean it.
I'll keep tracking how close or far I am from my goal range just for data, but not obsess over that pound or two up or down.
I'm starting to feel the same way about the tape measure. How can my waist be an inch or two larger than last week and my pants fit comfortably around the waist? Same with the hips - loss of an inch, ten years ago would have been great. Now, still tight - I guess I'm not taking into account the extra baggage in my saggy rear, lol. Gravity.
Have a great Sunday, peeps. Hug the one you love. Love the one you're with and all that.
Lanette
SW WA State
Our shapes do change as we age.
In 2015, when I dropped to the weight I had been in my early 20s, and I got out the clothes I had been hauling around since then (my skinny clothes), I couldn't wear some of them because although I was the same weight, my shape had changed.
It's natures way of telling us to update our wardrobes.
I didn't gain a bit during my trip, but I have edged up just slightly since I've been home ... I haven't been moving much. Back to work tomorrow, and it will likely drop again.
Machka in Oz5 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »Can I post a video from my Facebook on here that you could see? Or do I have to make it public first?
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dlfk202000 wrote: »SophieRosieMom wrote: »Debbie - I didn't get anything from you, so I just messaged you. Hopefully you got it and can hit reply. Somewhere in outer space is a whole lot of messages that never made it to their destination. Lanette
I don't see any messages from you(or anyone for that matter)- It should be where the bell is, right?
No ... click on the blue words at the top that say "myfitnesspal" and when that opens, look for messages.1 -
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dlfk202000 wrote: »SophieRosieMom wrote: »Debbie - I didn't get anything from you, so I just messaged you. Hopefully you got it and can hit reply. Somewhere in outer space is a whole lot of messages that never made it to their destination. Lanette
I don't see any messages from you(or anyone for that matter)- It should be where the bell is, right?
No ... click on the blue words at the top that say "myfitnesspal" and when that opens, look for messages.
thanks!!
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Machka - I’m sure I’ve said this before. I started reading this group just after your husband’s accident. He was in a coma for probably the first 2 weeks I was reading along. I kept coming back to find out how he was doing and was amazed at how you were handling it while holding a job, having to travel back and forth to the hospital.
It amazes me how far he has come. I’ve always looked for your posts because I admired how you were getting through.
The first thing I do when I come through the door.
Usually it involves taking the bra off. 😂
We have a peninsula in our counters just as you come in the door. Everything gets piled there. Including whatever I have in my hands when I walk in the door. I tend to clean it when I get home because if that’s clean the rest of the house looks clean.
Heather - enjoy your day while DH is at Cricket.
Ginny - I cook more like you than Heather.
Lanette - in 2000 my brother and his wife moved in with our Grandmother to help her out. He set up his computer and we had a video call. She told me later on the phone how exciting that was for her, she was born in 1913 and told me the story of having to hitch up the horses to go across the river to get the doctor when her brother was needing an emergency appendectomy. She thought it remarkable that she could see and talk to me from “all across the country”.
As a side note, my uncle’s surgery was performed on the table that I now have and sat at last night setting up my laptop.
Kelly - I would be very appreciative if Rodger locked a moth in the bathroom for me as long as he was going to deal with it himself in the morning.
I’ll do it, but I don’t like it.
Rita - I wouldn’t like the being woken part of my camp duties. Do you ever get days off?
Heather - wise advice about how to treat your husband.
Rosemarie - paint sprayers are what most professionals use now. I would love to have one myself.
My toilet paper doll was bright pink. I still have one of those black roasting pans.
I kept getting a suggested ad that I could purchase the Reba concert recorded earlier from Madison Square Garden. I had never used this site before but it’s actually Live Nation so it was well produced.
It cost almost $30 Canadian, but I probably will never get to see her in concert live. I’ve also found I don’t like concerts as much as it’s hard to see and hear the artist because of the audience.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Lovely Tracey. She will adore it.
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Good Saturday!
Yes, the Bronco is fun. It rides and drives wonderfully. Yes, the insurance is the awful part of owning so many. They are all low mileage though which will help if we decide to downsize-haha!
Machka I am glad your husband managed. It does bring some peace of mind to us as well. I won't forget the trepidation I felt when leaving my DH for a week the first time even though his mom lived next door! His "friends" were suppose to take him to dinner a couple of times. No shows, but he didn't tell me until I came home. He didn't starve as I had left things he could microwave plus fresh milk and cereals. I don't worry so much now. I think it is good for caregivers to be able to have some alone time even if it is business.
So I made a not happy discovery this morning....
I have always been a member of the IBTC. About 10 yrs ago I got a bra fitting after loosing a lot of weight. I wasn't sure whether to hug the lady or smack her when she told me I wasn't an A cup but a C with side sag! Well, this morning, I noticed sagging boobs! When did that happen? I realize I am 60 but it seems to have occurred over night! Husband says they are fine
I started this on Saturday and here it is Sunday evening! I am glad I saved it!
Lisa Great Job on rooms!
Allie Self care is important! You have continued to be a trouper in spite of all things. Just because you accept it doesn't mean you necessarily have to like it.
Rita I hope you are feeling better today! Scary!
Machka Thank you for the brain injury explanation. My DH was in an awful Jeep accident when he was 19. Head vs tree. 9 skulls fractures and partial cut of the optic nerve on the right eye (hence the very limited sight on that eye.) He told me when we met that the injury had affected his way of life and thinking. Your explanation helps me to understand better. Since I didn't know him before, I just know him as he is now.
Tracey Congratulations on the computer! I need to set up my new tablet.
Rebecca Keep posting pics! I had a wonderful salad yesterday that I was unsure about but tried. Spinach, Grilled portabella mushroom, grilled chicken, black olives, tomatoes, red onions, cajun spices, and ranch dressing. It was wonderful!
Rori I am so excited for you!
Well, Happy Monday!
Made it through the weekend, unfortunately not unscathed! Went to the local Dairy shed last night with a bunch of friends. We were there an hour and I got stung on the back of the right leg by a yellow jacket. I pulled out the stinger and we headed right home. Ice, Benadryl, and Tylenol. Swollen larger than my hand this morning, so will head to doctor. Everyone wanted me to go to the ER but no need this time as no trouble breathing.
I stirred up a hornets nest with my youngest daughter again.......unintentionally.....
I was busy cleaning off my desk (yay- it is done!) When I realized that both my daughters have anniversaries this month. I wished her a happy anniversary, and apparently it was her older sister's not hers. I missed hers on the 9th. I apologized and said happy belated anniversary. She still went off on FB about her family forgetting all about important dates with them. Whatever.....I have always sucked at dates....even more so when I am overwhelmed, which she should relate to. I have bent over backwards to help them. Some people are never happy. We were even at their house on Saturday night and had a good time visiting. Oh well......
My accomplishments this weekend were clearing off my desk that was overflowing. It is so nice to not see it piled up. I also moved the shredder from the guest room to the side of my desk. Maybe I will get less pile up.Also finished up our reservation for this coming weekend in TN.
I overpaid on our cabin for September....oops....like $1600 dollars over. Owner is offering refund or keeping it as credit for next year, per my suggestion. As I have already paid that credit card I am good either way. She said she would have caught it next week when she did the books for the month.
Hugs to those that want or need them (((HUGS)))
Congratulations to victories both with the scale or NSV!
Love and gratitude for all of you,
Kylia in Ohio
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