Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    stacynoell wrote: »
    I undereat all the time. I almost get "high" off cardio and burn 500-600 calories per cardio session. But I don't increase my calories, so my weight loss is stalling...I have to retrain my brain to go ahead and eat. Most of the time I am not hungry...I used to weigh 262, but now I weigh 180, but I still see the fat girl in my head, so I stick to about 1500 calories even if I work out and burn 1000... :'(

    @stacynoell awesome job on losing 82 pounds! Not judging but trying to help so don't take this the wrong way.

    Are you accurately measuring your burns by either using a heart rate monitor or a fitness tracking device like Fitbit, Jawbone, Garmin, etc.? Could you be overestimating your calorie burns?

    Do you weigh your food on a digital food scale that measures in grams, ounces, & pounds? If not then you could be overestimating how much you burn & underestimating how much you're actually eating. Sometimes eyeballing & using measuring cups can be off by a great percentage. Usually when there's a stall it's from eating more than we think.

    Sometimes the exercise machines that measure calorie burns are great overestimated as are the MFP exercise estimations.

    This is very true. :)Usually halving the MyFitnessPal exercise calorie burn is roughly correct. Also, be kind to yourself! <3 Starving your body of the nutrition it needs will give you a lot of unpleasantness down the road. :)

    :o

    Um, guys, is this true??
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    I am craving cinnamon pancakes with cream cheese frosting......
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    So I have now tried all the Quest bars I wanted to try.

    Cookie dough, chocolate peanut butter and cookies and creme are my faves. White chocolate raspberry was good too. Not a single one was gross and I never felt like I had to choke one down. This is a new staple for me.

    I'm so happy you liked all of them. :) I love the cookie ones too.

    Try the cookies and cream one out of the freezer. Game changer. I will not eat them any other way from now on.

    I am going to buy more bars tomorrow cuz I am down to a half dozen ( :# )
    Do you just put it in there for a bit or full out freeze it and eat it straight out of the freezer?
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    Confession: I'm all excited because I went for a walk with my husband (I've been doing daily walks to help with the sciatica pain, on the doctor's recommendation), and downloaded a free pedometer app before we left--I got 1600 steps on that one little walk! Also, he bought an ice cream bar at the store we ended up in, and I didn't get one because I already commited in the Fitbit thread to sticking to my calories. It's a small win, but I'll take it. :)

    Do you guys think the scale will be nice to me tomorrow if I regale it with tales of my fabulous will power? :D

    Good job on the walk and resisting ice cream! I know you'll get the fitbit!

    Honestly, I don't think I will. :( I've gained so much weight that, even if I don't mess up my calories even once from now until my birthday, it would still be unrealistic to hope for 65 kg. I currently weigh 73 kg, and that's nearly 10 kilos in two months.

    How much is that in lbs?
  • Wytcher9
    Wytcher9 Posts: 40 Member
    I confess that I ate all the fried cheese sticks with marinara sauce ordered on Saturday night. I had accounted for a certain number in my food diary before sharing the balance with everyone else. But I couldn't help myself - gobbled the entire order. I have recommitted myself to staying on the path to healthy eating.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    Ok, so everyone can ignore my earlier whiny post and be proud of me for taking off the cranky pants!

    Despite being lazy and feeling bloated, I did my run- 9 miles and went for our 4ish mile walk. Now, I will go and horrify everyone at the restaurant when they see just how much pizza I can eat at their buffet! Weeeee!!!!

    Um...lol that's 13 miles! Go on and eat your pizza!

    Exactly!!

    Oh, trust me..I ate an obscene amount of food...definitely got more than my money's worth! One more bite and my husband would have been rolling me out of there!!!
    I'll get one more walk in putting me over 20 miles for the day...but by my guesstimations on the food today, I will still be over my calories!!! :blush:
    That's with a small breakfast..and no plans for dinner because there's no room in this body for anything but water at this point!!!
    ETA: @kellyjellybellyjelly, I'm not sure I could choose a favorite. They're awesome there! I'm vegetarian and they asked me what pizza I wanted them to make for the buffet..because they had so many meat ones prepared!! It was so nice of them to ask...I didn't know what to say so I just told them any veggie ones.
    The ones they made for little ole me included:
    plain cheese
    Portobello mushroom, spinach, & feta
    Tomato, spinach, olive, and feta
    Green peppers and onions

    Out of embarrassment, I refuse to say how many slices I ate
    ...but I also had greek salad and pasta salad!!!

    Now I am curious.......
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    *post boyfriend update*

    so that's the end of that.

    after a solid month of seeing each other almost every. single. day. and him making the point to "be exclusive," dude decided that "i don't think that this is working for me."

    i got about three hours of sleep last night, they weren't concurrent either. so apologies for the rambles.
    first he said it was because *i* wanted too much commitment, to which i kindly reminded him that *he* was the one that wanted to be exclusive, then he just said that he wasn't sure if i was the *one* for him.
    i do know that a lil more than a week ago, his ex-wife from six years ago reached out to him to try and rekindle things. he initially said he wasn't interested, maybe that changed?
    or he simply just panicked and fled.
    same end result.

    i'd be lying if i said i wasn't devastated. and this is probably stupid of me too, but i really, honestly, thought he was the one for me. finally after all the horrors, and downright brutal treatment i endured both physically and emotionally...i thought it was actually my turn to be happy.
    i'd also be lying if i said i wasn't furious with myself for allowing myself to get so involved and excited and be so foolish.
    i should know better.
    i do know better.

    i think i'm just going to take a break from everything for a while.
    my brain keeps flashing this lil image of a tiny hand setting a brick on a wall that's slowly being finished.

    *ETA* can i also add how ridiculously embarrassed i am about all of this?

    Sorry to hear this! I do not know why you are embarrassed, but you should not be. At least it happened now and not a few years from now!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    @KylerJaye I am so sorry! Maybe he got cold feet on how fast you guys were moving (even though he instigated it) or maybe he just realized a commitment wasn't what he wanted, or even to your point the ex. Either way, its his problem and his loss. You don't have to feel embarrassed. I would be most of us on this thread have been there before. To be honest, this is one of the reasons I avoid dating completely, I got way too tied up/committed too quickly if I like a guy and get my heart broken. It just means your human, sensitive, and caring. Those are all positive attributes. So, grieve for a while but there are other (lots of other) fish in the sea that will LOVE to be with you. You just need to find the right one. And if you keep looking you will some day.

    And we look forward to your next dating adventure. Don't be the least bit embarrassed!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    jthurman3 wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Froggy, glad you had a great weekend. It's lovely to hear you sounding so happy!

    Seconded!

    Agreed, and I can't wait to see the photos!

    Thirded/Fourthded...!!!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    *post boyfriend update*

    so that's the end of that.

    after a solid month of seeing each other almost every. single. day. and him making the point to "be exclusive," dude decided that "i don't think that this is working for me."

    i got about three hours of sleep last night, they weren't concurrent either. so apologies for the rambles.
    first he said it was because *i* wanted too much commitment, to which i kindly reminded him that *he* was the one that wanted to be exclusive, then he just said that he wasn't sure if i was the *one* for him.
    i do know that a lil more than a week ago, his ex-wife from six years ago reached out to him to try and rekindle things. he initially said he wasn't interested, maybe that changed?
    or he simply just panicked and fled.
    same end result.

    i'd be lying if i said i wasn't devastated. and this is probably stupid of me too, but i really, honestly, thought he was the one for me. finally after all the horrors, and downright brutal treatment i endured both physically and emotionally...i thought it was actually my turn to be happy.
    i'd also be lying if i said i wasn't furious with myself for allowing myself to get so involved and excited and be so foolish.
    i should know better.
    i do know better.

    i think i'm just going to take a break from everything for a while.
    my brain keeps flashing this lil image of a tiny hand setting a brick on a wall that's slowly being finished.

    *ETA* can i also add how ridiculously embarrassed i am about all of this?

    Hugs hugs hugs hugs.

    Take whatever time you need "off" and heal yourself. Know that you are worthy and worthwhile. Whatever went on with the dude sounds like something is off and you might not feel like it right now but you dodged a bullet. Without fail the ones that pushed too fast (commitment, etc.) turned out to be a red flag in my experience. I am a slow learner so I got to experience this multiple time before I clued in. :smile:

    Again.... many many many hugs. You are an amazing woman. I'm sorry you are hurting right now. I know you will get through this and believe me, I bet you dodged a big mess just a little later on. <3

  • kellyjellybellyjelly
    kellyjellybellyjelly Posts: 9,480 Member
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    Ok, so everyone can ignore my earlier whiny post and be proud of me for taking off the cranky pants!

    Despite being lazy and feeling bloated, I did my run- 9 miles and went for our 4ish mile walk. Now, I will go and horrify everyone at the restaurant when they see just how much pizza I can eat at their buffet! Weeeee!!!!

    Um...lol that's 13 miles! Go on and eat your pizza!

    Exactly!!

    Oh, trust me..I ate an obscene amount of food...definitely got more than my money's worth! One more bite and my husband would have been rolling me out of there!!!
    I'll get one more walk in putting me over 20 miles for the day...but by my guesstimations on the food today, I will still be over my calories!!! :blush:
    That's with a small breakfast..and no plans for dinner because there's no room in this body for anything but water at this point!!!
    ETA: @kellyjellybellyjelly, I'm not sure I could choose a favorite. They're awesome there! I'm vegetarian and they asked me what pizza I wanted them to make for the buffet..because they had so many meat ones prepared!! It was so nice of them to ask...I didn't know what to say so I just told them any veggie ones.
    The ones they made for little ole me included:
    plain cheese
    Portobello mushroom, spinach, & feta
    Tomato, spinach, olive, and feta
    Green peppers and onions

    Out of embarrassment, I refuse to say how many slices I ate...but I also had greek salad and pasta salad!!!

    That's awesome that they went above and beyond to make sure you had some options too. I love when companies do that. Don't feel bad, I ate a crapton of ice cream today.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Not to make everyone sad, but I read this secret ages ago on Postsecret, and it really stayed with me. Although it would be hard to stay with a pet until the end, after reading this, I could never leave. :'(
    h69laalbfct1.jpg

    I've always stayed. I'm Mama, and I am with them to the end, cuddling them until the vet officially pronounces them "gone".

    I also have this weird notion that I have to pretend to be upbeat and cheerful because the dogs have always picked up on my emotions and I don't want them to feel my sadness. Although I guess I've never fooled them.


    peleroja wrote: »
    Will anyone have any sympathy for me if I say that for the first time in my life I'm having trouble keeping weight on?

    Since I've bumped up my exercise with the stairs etc and weights, I've been losing weight again, (slowly but still), although I feel like I'm eating so much more. I'm tracking and even going over what should be maintenance but it's still continuing to drop bit by bit. Eating is a chore at this point, which I never thought in a million years would even be possible.

    I'm worried that it's rendering the exercise pointless if I'm not building muscle. I don't want to be putting in all this working-out, stair-climbing and strength-training effort for nothing so I'm kind of frustrated. And quite frankly, I don't really want to be any thinner at this point. My clothes are getting too big, there's an inch of empty space in my bra cups, and my rings are super loose.

    I have never in my life felt bad for people who claim they can't gain weight (because how hard is it to just eat some more?!) but it turns out that the answer seems to be that it's a lot harder than I thought.

    Loads of sympathy here, I'm having much the same issues.

    Whereas I liked the idea of losing some BF and getting definition, I didn't want to lose flesh off my chest and face, which is where the loss is the most noticeable.

    Last summer I dropped 5 lbs (that I didn't need to lose) because of taking hardcore antibiotics... I digested nothing for two weeks. Right after that I was on vacation and my physical activity increased significantly, plus my eating got a bit erratic just because of weird scheduling, and I only managed to gain 2 lbs back. Dedicated myself to lifting and eating higher protein in January, but it has still taken me a year to return to my normal weight.

    I was hoping that building muscle would ADD some weight, not just shrink my boobs.

    DON'T SAY THAT!!! :o

    LOL, that's about the only good thing about dropping my body fat so low. Losing them makes me positively gleeful, apart from all the extra cup space.

    But you have them to lose, I, however, do not.
    No, me neither :(
    I'm starting to see how some women reward themselves for getting to their goal weight, by getting a 'little extra' added!

    I didn't know this was a thing. I've thought MANY times about having "some work" done, but I honestly don't think I ever would. I just need to learn to be satisfied with what God gave me and accentuate the positives.

    I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, it's just not for me, I don't think. I might change my mind when I hit 40. Who knows?!

    I used to think that too, but now I'm pretty sure that, especially if we do decide to have kids, I'm going to get mine hoiked up as far as possible afterward. They're staying put so far but I'm terrified of them ending up around my navel one day :lol: If I'd had to lose a lot of weight and they'd gotten shrunken or saggy I would have fixed them without question.

    I am actually tempted to do this. I've never been blessed in that area since I was a big kid too. I want to have them fixed up. I'm torn between being okay with what I have (which isn't great) and getting what I want.

    If I could have anything fixed it would be my arms/bat wings & my legs! Since losing around 140 pounds my legs are still awful & it still looks like I have no kneecaps.

    I'm pretty sure I'll have the same problem. I always say I have cottage cheese legs.

    I'm getting mine fixed. I'll need chest reduction, arms, and tummy tuck. Probably more but that's enough surgeries for me. We are not rich, and I am terrified of something going wrong, but...losing 170 lbs wrecks your body. I actually can't even work out the way I want without rubbing the skin, getting rashes, etc. :/ I could go on and on for the reasons why it's necessary for my well-being, but it is. I have to do it in stages, so I'm looking at Stage 1 being in Nov and Stage 2 being in May.

    I have 3 consults scheduled for this Wed and I'm nervous/excited.

    good luck with consults!!! Let us know how it goes.

  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    *post boyfriend update*

    so that's the end of that.

    after a solid month of seeing each other almost every. single. day. and him making the point to "be exclusive," dude decided that "i don't think that this is working for me."

    i got about three hours of sleep last night, they weren't concurrent either. so apologies for the rambles.
    first he said it was because *i* wanted too much commitment, to which i kindly reminded him that *he* was the one that wanted to be exclusive, then he just said that he wasn't sure if i was the *one* for him.
    i do know that a lil more than a week ago, his ex-wife from six years ago reached out to him to try and rekindle things. he initially said he wasn't interested, maybe that changed?
    or he simply just panicked and fled.
    same end result.

    i'd be lying if i said i wasn't devastated. and this is probably stupid of me too, but i really, honestly, thought he was the one for me. finally after all the horrors, and downright brutal treatment i endured both physically and emotionally...i thought it was actually my turn to be happy.
    i'd also be lying if i said i wasn't furious with myself for allowing myself to get so involved and excited and be so foolish.
    i should know better.
    i do know better.

    i think i'm just going to take a break from everything for a while.
    my brain keeps flashing this lil image of a tiny hand setting a brick on a wall that's slowly being finished.

    @KylerJaye, I'm SO sorry to hear this. I don't think you have anything to be embarrassed or ashamed of, you followed your heart and even though it didn't work out this time, doesn't mean it wont'. Take some time to grieve if that's what you need. Just remember, we're all here for you when you're ready to come back.

    Also...

    You're good enough
    You're smart enough
    And doggone it, people like you!

    This x 1000!! <3

    AGREED
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    Confession: I'm all excited because I went for a walk with my husband (I've been doing daily walks to help with the sciatica pain, on the doctor's recommendation), and downloaded a free pedometer app before we left--I got 1600 steps on that one little walk! Also, he bought an ice cream bar at the store we ended up in, and I didn't get one because I already commited in the Fitbit thread to sticking to my calories. It's a small win, but I'll take it. :)

    Do you guys think the scale will be nice to me tomorrow if I regale it with tales of my fabulous will power? :D

    Good job on the walk and resisting ice cream! I know you'll get the fitbit!

    Yay SusieQ
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    HerkMeOff2 wrote: »
    I have ate at least 5000 calories today


    tomorrow is a new day! (or today actually). Be kind to yourself. Do not say negative things to yourself. Do not tell yourself off. Move on and start fresh with your next meal. You got this.

    Someone needs to listen to their own advice more often ;)

    That made me smile, then laugh. You tell her @girldownsouth!

  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    So, house is clean, laundry is nearly caught up, dinner is in the oven, and I'm going to be under calories even with BBQ chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans for dinner! I'm calling today a mini-win!

    To put things in perspective, I struggle with completing tasks, I get so distracted by everything else and then get overwhelmed and say "screw it" and just stop. That's one of many reasons why I dropped out of school and have gone to college at least 7 times in the past 5 years. I've always been that way and always struggled, but no one ever seemed to take me seriously when I said I couldn't help it. It took me until now to realize I had ADD, and to get help. Thanks to hubby, who finally listened and realized I had a problem, I think I'm going to get better. I'll take these side effects if it means I can be a better wife, mom, and everything else!

    Great news, and as long as it doesn't affect your health those side effects will just be the new normal and you won't notice them after a while as long as net/net your quality of life improves.
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    stacynoell wrote: »
    I undereat all the time. I almost get "high" off cardio and burn 500-600 calories per cardio session. But I don't increase my calories, so my weight loss is stalling...I have to retrain my brain to go ahead and eat. Most of the time I am not hungry...I used to weigh 262, but now I weigh 180, but I still see the fat girl in my head, so I stick to about 1500 calories even if I work out and burn 1000... :'(

    @stacynoell awesome job on losing 82 pounds! Not judging but trying to help so don't take this the wrong way.

    Are you accurately measuring your burns by either using a heart rate monitor or a fitness tracking device like Fitbit, Jawbone, Garmin, etc.? Could you be overestimating your calorie burns?

    Do you weigh your food on a digital food scale that measures in grams, ounces, & pounds? If not then you could be overestimating how much you burn & underestimating how much you're actually eating. Sometimes eyeballing & using measuring cups can be off by a great percentage. Usually when there's a stall it's from eating more than we think.

    Sometimes the exercise machines that measure calorie burns are great overestimated as are the MFP exercise estimations.

    This is very true. :)Usually halving the MyFitnessPal exercise calorie burn is roughly correct. Also, be kind to yourself! <3 Starving your body of the nutrition it needs will give you a lot of unpleasantness down the road. :)

    :o

    Um, guys, is this true??

    That's what I have heard too but the fitbit burn on your dashboard is supposed to be very accurate
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    Also, if it would make you feel better to hear about anyone else's awful exes, just say the word and I bet we can add some supremely cringeworthy stories to the Batcave thread. :wink:

    Oh yes we could! Better make it a new thread.
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    Also, if it would make you feel better to hear about anyone else's awful exes, just say the word and I bet we can add some supremely cringeworthy stories to the Batcave thread. :wink:

    Oh yes we could! Better make it a new thread.

    We could probably write a book....hmm and then some big Hollywood producer would read it and want to make a movie and we would all become millionaires and laugh at our exes all the way into the sun set!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    peleroja wrote: »
    I know I said advice isn't my thing, @KylerJaye, but I realized that this is kind of a subject I actually have some experience with, so I've just come back to say that when it comes to commitment, no matter what comes out of his mouth and no matter if he's the one that pushes it for it at first, it never, ever worked out for me with a man when he started saying/feeling that it was "too much". Every time it was a clear indication that he wasn't someone who was good for me or someone I should try to make things work with, because whether he's just "not ready" (barf) or "panicking because his feelings are too strong" (double barf) or he's just using it as an excuse because he wasn't that into it or wanted to get back with his ex or any number of other things, it's just one of those instant red flags that say that a healthy, functional relationship is NOT in the cards.

    I'm not trying to get all zen on you here and say everything happens for a reason or whatever, but I am definitely saying that men who pull this particular maneuver are not going to be men you can have a normal, happy relationship with regardless. And at least he pulled it now and not six months from now...cold comfort, probably, but as someone who once spent 3.5 years with a guy I should have broken up with after he said something along these lines six months in, it's still a good thing you didn't waste any more than that with him IMO.

    Even super awesome men are sometimes bad choices for long-term relationships, unfortunately. It's not a reason to give up on finding someone great if that's what you want, though. All the hugs, most seriously.

    Holy smurf (SusieQ safe) @peleroja that was superb, wonderful, articulate and heartfelt advise! Absolutely 100% dead on right! I felt it and really didn't have the words to say it but yes to all of this.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Not to make everyone sad, but I read this secret ages ago on Postsecret, and it really stayed with me. Although it would be hard to stay with a pet until the end, after reading this, I could never leave. :'(
    h69laalbfct1.jpg

    I've always stayed. I'm Mama, and I am with them to the end, cuddling them until the vet officially pronounces them "gone".

    I also have this weird notion that I have to pretend to be upbeat and cheerful because the dogs have always picked up on my emotions and I don't want them to feel my sadness. Although I guess I've never fooled them.


    peleroja wrote: »
    Will anyone have any sympathy for me if I say that for the first time in my life I'm having trouble keeping weight on?

    Since I've bumped up my exercise with the stairs etc and weights, I've been losing weight again, (slowly but still), although I feel like I'm eating so much more. I'm tracking and even going over what should be maintenance but it's still continuing to drop bit by bit. Eating is a chore at this point, which I never thought in a million years would even be possible.

    I'm worried that it's rendering the exercise pointless if I'm not building muscle. I don't want to be putting in all this working-out, stair-climbing and strength-training effort for nothing so I'm kind of frustrated. And quite frankly, I don't really want to be any thinner at this point. My clothes are getting too big, there's an inch of empty space in my bra cups, and my rings are super loose.

    I have never in my life felt bad for people who claim they can't gain weight (because how hard is it to just eat some more?!) but it turns out that the answer seems to be that it's a lot harder than I thought.

    Loads of sympathy here, I'm having much the same issues.

    Whereas I liked the idea of losing some BF and getting definition, I didn't want to lose flesh off my chest and face, which is where the loss is the most noticeable.

    Last summer I dropped 5 lbs (that I didn't need to lose) because of taking hardcore antibiotics... I digested nothing for two weeks. Right after that I was on vacation and my physical activity increased significantly, plus my eating got a bit erratic just because of weird scheduling, and I only managed to gain 2 lbs back. Dedicated myself to lifting and eating higher protein in January, but it has still taken me a year to return to my normal weight.

    I was hoping that building muscle would ADD some weight, not just shrink my boobs.

    DON'T SAY THAT!!! :o

    LOL, that's about the only good thing about dropping my body fat so low. Losing them makes me positively gleeful, apart from all the extra cup space.

    But you have them to lose, I, however, do not.
    No, me neither :(
    I'm starting to see how some women reward themselves for getting to their goal weight, by getting a 'little extra' added!

    I didn't know this was a thing. I've thought MANY times about having "some work" done, but I honestly don't think I ever would. I just need to learn to be satisfied with what God gave me and accentuate the positives.

    I'm not saying there's anything wrong with it, it's just not for me, I don't think. I might change my mind when I hit 40. Who knows?!

    I used to think that too, but now I'm pretty sure that, especially if we do decide to have kids, I'm going to get mine hoiked up as far as possible afterward. They're staying put so far but I'm terrified of them ending up around my navel one day :lol: If I'd had to lose a lot of weight and they'd gotten shrunken or saggy I would have fixed them without question.

    I am actually tempted to do this. I've never been blessed in that area since I was a big kid too. I want to have them fixed up. I'm torn between being okay with what I have (which isn't great) and getting what I want.

    If I could have anything fixed it would be my arms/bat wings & my legs! Since losing around 140 pounds my legs are still awful & it still looks like I have no kneecaps.

    I'm pretty sure I'll have the same problem. I always say I have cottage cheese legs.

    I'm getting mine fixed. I'll need chest reduction, arms, and tummy tuck. Probably more but that's enough surgeries for me. We are not rich, and I am terrified of something going wrong, but...losing 170 lbs wrecks your body. I actually can't even work out the way I want without rubbing the skin, getting rashes, etc. :/ I could go on and on for the reasons why it's necessary for my well-being, but it is. I have to do it in stages, so I'm looking at Stage 1 being in Nov and Stage 2 being in May.

    I have 3 consults scheduled for this Wed and I'm nervous/excited.

    Wow I didn't realize you had lost 170LBS! Great job! I knew someone who had to have tons of reduction in stages like you because of her extreme loss. She was find and looked fabulous. You will be/and will too!
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    So, house is clean, laundry is nearly caught up, dinner is in the oven, and I'm going to be under calories even with BBQ chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans for dinner! I'm calling today a mini-win!

    To put things in perspective, I struggle with completing tasks, I get so distracted by everything else and then get overwhelmed and say "screw it" and just stop. That's one of many reasons why I dropped out of school and have gone to college at least 7 times in the past 5 years. I've always been that way and always struggled, but no one ever seemed to take me seriously when I said I couldn't help it. It took me until now to realize I had ADD, and to get help. Thanks to hubby, who finally listened and realized I had a problem, I think I'm going to get better. I'll take these side effects if it means I can be a better wife, mom, and everything else!

    Big win!!!! great job.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    Confession: I'm all excited because I went for a walk with my husband (I've been doing daily walks to help with the sciatica pain, on the doctor's recommendation), and downloaded a free pedometer app before we left--I got 1600 steps on that one little walk! Also, he bought an ice cream bar at the store we ended up in, and I didn't get one because I already commited in the Fitbit thread to sticking to my calories. It's a small win, but I'll take it. :)

    Do you guys think the scale will be nice to me tomorrow if I regale it with tales of my fabulous will power? :D

    This is an NSV! And ... if you are on steroids it might take a bit of time to get rid of that water weight, but just keep sticking within your calories and walking when you can!
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    Random...why am I getting targeted with depends adult diapers now??? What site did I visit that caused THAT?
  • raelynnsmama52512
    raelynnsmama52512 Posts: 1,184 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    So, house is clean, laundry is nearly caught up, dinner is in the oven, and I'm going to be under calories even with BBQ chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans for dinner! I'm calling today a mini-win!

    To put things in perspective, I struggle with completing tasks, I get so distracted by everything else and then get overwhelmed and say "screw it" and just stop. That's one of many reasons why I dropped out of school and have gone to college at least 7 times in the past 5 years. I've always been that way and always struggled, but no one ever seemed to take me seriously when I said I couldn't help it. It took me until now to realize I had ADD, and to get help. Thanks to hubby, who finally listened and realized I had a problem, I think I'm going to get better. I'll take these side effects if it means I can be a better wife, mom, and everything else!

    Glad things are looking up.
    Yes! That's great that you're getting more stuff done. That has to be a step in the right direction. Are you still feeling odd though?

    A little, but it seems like it's getting better, or either I was just too busy today to really notice lol!
  • raelynnsmama52512
    raelynnsmama52512 Posts: 1,184 Member
    So, house is clean, laundry is nearly caught up, dinner is in the oven, and I'm going to be under calories even with BBQ chicken, mashed potatoes, and green beans for dinner! I'm calling today a mini-win!

    To put things in perspective, I struggle with completing tasks, I get so distracted by everything else and then get overwhelmed and say "screw it" and just stop. That's one of many reasons why I dropped out of school and have gone to college at least 7 times in the past 5 years. I've always been that way and always struggled, but no one ever seemed to take me seriously when I said I couldn't help it. It took me until now to realize I had ADD, and to get help. Thanks to hubby, who finally listened and realized I had a problem, I think I'm going to get better. I'll take these side effects if it means I can be a better wife, mom, and everything else!

    Yay!! :) That's wonderful to hear!
    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    @raelynnsmama52512 Glad the medication is working for you. Hopefully the funny feeling disappears soon.

    Thanks you two! :smile:
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    I don't know what happened here, but all of a sudden I can access the boards again from work. I guess someone in IT figured out that MFP doesn't fall into the blocked category of "games".

    So, we extracted 168 lbs of honey from the hives that had capped boards. That's not as much as we'd hoped; the wet weather really did a number on the bees' foraging. :/ But still, we're hopeful that they be able to draw more comb so we can harvest again in the fall. What we did get, though, looks really good. I can't tell you how it tastes, though, because honey is gross. LOL My husband and son love it, though.

    Welcome back! And I like honey too... But don't seek it out. Too much sugar. I would be terrified of getting honey from a hive. Yikes!
  • riderfangal
    riderfangal Posts: 1,965 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Random...why am I getting targeted with depends adult diapers now??? What site did I visit that caused THAT?

    I have no idea but that did make me giggle a little.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
    bkhamill wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    kelly_c_77 wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    peleroja wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Not to make everyone sad, but I read this secret ages ago on Postsecret, and it really stayed with me. Although it would be hard to stay with a pet until the end, after reading this, I could never leave. :'(
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    I've always stayed. I'm Mama, and I am with them to the end, cuddling them until the vet officially pronounces them "gone".

    I also have this weird notion that I have to pretend to be upbeat and cheerful because the dogs have always picked up on my emotions and I don't want them to feel my sadness. Although I guess I've never fooled them.


    peleroja wrote: »
    Will anyone have any sympathy for me if I say that for the first time in my life I'm having trouble keeping weight on?

    Since I've bumped up my exercise with the stairs etc and weights, I've been losing weight again, (slowly but still), although I feel like I'm eating so much more. I'm tracking and even going over what should be maintenance but it's still continuing to drop bit by bit. Eating is a chore at this point, which I never thought in a million years would even be possible.

    I'm worried that it's rendering the exercise pointless if I'm not building muscle. I don't want to be putting in all this working-out, stair-climbing and strength-training effort for nothing so I'm kind of frustrated. And quite frankly, I don't really want to be any thinner at this point. My clothes are getting too big, there's an inch of empty space in my bra cups, and my rings are super loose.

    I have never in my life felt bad for people who claim they can't gain weight (because how hard is it to just eat some more?!) but it turns out that the answer seems to be that it's a lot harder than I thought.

    Loads of sympathy here, I'm having much the same issues.

    Whereas I liked the idea of losing some BF and getting definition, I didn't want to lose flesh off my chest and face, which is where the loss is the most noticeable.

    Last summer I dropped 5 lbs (that I didn't need to lose) because of taking hardcore antibiotics... I digested nothing for two weeks. Right after that I was on vacation and my physical activity increased significantly, plus my eating got a bit erratic just because of weird scheduling, and I only managed to gain 2 lbs back. Dedicated myself to lifting and eating higher protein in January, but it has still taken me a year to return to my normal weight.

    I was hoping that building muscle would ADD some weight, not just shrink my boobs.

    DON'T SAY THAT!!! :o

    LOL, that's about the only good thing about dropping my body fat so low. Losing them makes me positively gleeful, apart from all the extra cup space.

    But you have them to lose, I, however, do not.

    Nor do I. Just for the record.

    I know, we've had this conversation before. I believe that's when I posted my booty pic. :blush:

    I have reached a new snacking low: eating leftover Cool Whip out of the tub (why dirty a dish?) with sprinkles. Yep, I can't be bothered serving it into a dish to eat properly, but I will make the effort to garnish it with sprinkles.

    I've done this...but mixed a bit of peanut butter in there too. Nom nom nom.

    I've tried that Funfetti Cake dip with Cool Whip & it's pretty good.

    I ate Coconut Pecan frosting on graham crackers last night and it was amazing. I might like the frosting more than cookie butter...and I didn't think that was possible.

    Is this the frosting they use for German chocolate cake?! I never thought of putting it on graham crackers. I just eat it out of the can when I have it in the house. Which, I'm sad to say is pretty much never, because both Mr. Mo and Rachael HATE coconut, and Rachael doesn't like pecans. I can't believe I'm related to these people.

    I hate both as well. I shudder when I see that frosting on the shelves... It sounds like bottled nastiness to me!

    Trust me, it IS NOT!!! Very sweet though! Even I was a little like, woah!!
    And also- I will join @riderfangal in her Questlessness!! :)

    Yay for Questless people! :p

    I've never had one and have no immediate plans to try them.

    Me either. I am, however, hooked on that Clif Bar Peanut Butter Bar.
  • nonoelmo
    nonoelmo Posts: 3,941 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    *post boyfriend update*

    so that's the end of that.

    after a solid month of seeing each other almost every. single. day. and him making the point to "be exclusive," dude decided that "i don't think that this is working for me."

    i got about three hours of sleep last night, they weren't concurrent either. so apologies for the rambles.
    first he said it was because *i* wanted too much commitment, to which i kindly reminded him that *he* was the one that wanted to be exclusive, then he just said that he wasn't sure if i was the *one* for him.
    i do know that a lil more than a week ago, his ex-wife from six years ago reached out to him to try and rekindle things. he initially said he wasn't interested, maybe that changed?
    or he simply just panicked and fled.
    same end result.

    i'd be lying if i said i wasn't devastated. and this is probably stupid of me too, but i really, honestly, thought he was the one for me. finally after all the horrors, and downright brutal treatment i endured both physically and emotionally...i thought it was actually my turn to be happy.
    i'd also be lying if i said i wasn't furious with myself for allowing myself to get so involved and excited and be so foolish.
    i should know better.
    i do know better.

    i think i'm just going to take a break from everything for a while.
    my brain keeps flashing this lil image of a tiny hand setting a brick on a wall that's slowly being finished.

    *ETA* can i also add how ridiculously embarrassed i am about all of this?

    Ugh ugh ugh. I'm so sorry this happened! Don't feel stupid, don't feel embarrassed. Take a break, sort yourself out, but do not let this make you think that that's it for you.

    I know it's hard right now, but try to find something positive to take from the relationship. I went through something similar last spring. I KNEW he was the one, he made it seem like he felt the same way and then I got a text at 2 am saying it was over - and I never found out what changed, literally over night. For me, before that last relationship, I was convinced that I was never going to be in love with someone, never going to BE loved by someone, never feel that *spark*, never open up to anyone. But that relationship showed me that it CAN happen. I'm sad things didn't work out with him, but I tell myself that it can happen again. I realized that I can open up to people, and it's a wonderful feeling.

    You are an amazing person and have so much to offer. And I firmly believe that if this didn't work out, then that just means something better is on its way.


    I too had someone end it, completely out of the blue, in an email. He was my first relationship after the divorce and he was a friend. It was a "we're over" and he cut all communication. I cried some every day for about a year. At first I even woke up from my sleep crying. There is more to the story than I will post here but if you need more PM me and I'll share. Bottom line is that there is something beautiful in having a heart that has the capacity to trust and to love. Take time to grieve, take time to appreciate yourself. If you want that someone special in your life then you will have it. You are amazing and we care about you and are rooting for you.