Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    clover157 wrote: »
    Confession: This was the first thread I opened when I joined MFP, it was at 9.5K and I've been lurking for weeks!
    Got up to page 397 before giving up and skipping to the end. It's been most entertaining, though I feel like a bit of a stalker knowing all this stuff about people without contributing heh

    Welcome!

    How could you read so far and then give up lol
  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    edited May 2015
    I had to use mfp on a 4th generation IPod Touch before getting my G3 so I don't really have anything fair to compare it to! :p

    I love my phone though. I don't think I'll be switching to Apple when it's time for a new one.
  • Sch614
    Sch614 Posts: 73 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I always feel really deflated when I come out of the gym. I really can't shake the feeling that the gym staff are talking about me and its starting to make me really uncomfortable. It is one guy in particular and he was the one I had to do my induction with. I don't know if it is a coincidence but whenever I get going he will walk over to another member of staff, start talking and they will start looking over at me. I was so close to bursting into tears and walking out today. I just can't zone it out. I'm sure it's me being paranoid, but I've never been paranoid about it before. I'm not paranoid when I swim in the same leisure centre or going running in the park. It is really putting me off going.

    Just smile through it Maybe it's his way of flirting or maybe he wants you to do personal training with him. But Horrible staff behavior if they make anyone uncomfortable even without meaning to especially with all the gyms you could join instead.
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    Confession: I always check the locker doors in my gym to see if someone left their 20p. :smile:
  • zoober
    zoober Posts: 226 Member
    I only log my lowest weight. If I gain a couple of pounds back, I just let the low number stand. Also, I never log the smartfood popcorn I eat at night - it really isn't that much, but still...
  • rungirl1973
    rungirl1973 Posts: 2,559 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    About Iphones - I hate Apple. After having to buy a bunch of songs I got on Itunes again when I got my android, I swore I'd never use an Apple product again.

    Woke up with a sore throat and I've already wasted 70 calories on random vitamins and cold medicines and I'm extremely sad about this.

    But, there's an app that converts iTunes stuff... My son has always had android phones, he converted all of his stuff from iTunes (he also used to use an iPod) so he wouldn't have to carry both in his car all the time.
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    "Resentful" is my word of the day. I'm feeling resentful because: 1) the soup I made to eat this week for lunch is way too salty but I have to eat it because I can't afford to waste the money on something else; 2) said soup is causing water weight gain and messing with the number on the scale (up 2 pounds when I'm only eating about 1230 calories per day and it's pissing me off even though I know it's not a *true* gain); 3) I've been volunteered to do a project that I don't want to do and will take me hours and hours but saying "no" isn't a choice (it's for my mom); and 4) my go-to for when I feel like this is still to want to eat all the food, and I'm sick of having that thought pop into my head even though I'm getting better at ignoring it. Blergh.

    I've heard if you add a slice of raw potato as you cook, it will absorb some of the salt. Maybe you could try that when you re-heat your soup?
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I always feel really deflated when I come out of the gym. I really can't shake the feeling that the gym staff are talking about me and its starting to make me really uncomfortable. It is one guy in particular and he was the one I had to do my induction with. I don't know if it is a coincidence but whenever I get going he will walk over to another member of staff, start talking and they will start looking over at me. I was so close to bursting into tears and walking out today. I just can't zone it out. I'm sure it's me being paranoid, but I've never been paranoid about it before. I'm not paranoid when I swim in the same leisure centre or going running in the park. It is really putting me off going.

    It's just a coincidence! Focus on something else!
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I always feel really deflated when I come out of the gym. I really can't shake the feeling that the gym staff are talking about me and its starting to make me really uncomfortable. It is one guy in particular and he was the one I had to do my induction with. I don't know if it is a coincidence but whenever I get going he will walk over to another member of staff, start talking and they will start looking over at me. I was so close to bursting into tears and walking out today. I just can't zone it out. I'm sure it's me being paranoid, but I've never been paranoid about it before. I'm not paranoid when I swim in the same leisure centre or going running in the park. It is really putting me off going.

    Screw them! Show them what you can do!

    Argh I really can't. It's been going on for about 6 weeks now. I'm not locked into a contract so I could move gyms...

    Any gym routine's you can suggest? I started NROLFW but I couldn't get on with the schedule on week 2 and it kind of collapsed after that. Now I just do bodyweight resistance training and interval training on the static bike.

    I use Stronglifts 5X5. There's an app you can download and follow at stronglifts.com. I love it. So far I am up to 110 bench press, 70 pound OHP, 170 pound squats, 205 pound deadlifts and 95 pound rows. I love seeing the progress and I have muscles starting to show!
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    About Iphones - I hate Apple. After having to buy a bunch of songs I got on Itunes again when I got my android, I swore I'd never use an Apple product again.

    Woke up with a sore throat and I've already wasted 70 calories on random vitamins and cold medicines and I'm extremely sad about this.

    But, there's an app that converts iTunes stuff... My son has always had android phones, he converted all of his stuff from iTunes (he also used to use an iPod) so he wouldn't have to carry both in his car all the time.

    I need to find this app. My work phone is an iPhone and my personal phone is Android.
  • spamarie
    spamarie Posts: 2,825 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Confession: I always check the locker doors in my gym to see if someone left their 20p. :smile:

    It's £1 at my pool, I'm planning on slowly getting rich that way!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,410 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I always feel really deflated when I come out of the gym. I really can't shake the feeling that the gym staff are talking about me and its starting to make me really uncomfortable. It is one guy in particular and he was the one I had to do my induction with. I don't know if it is a coincidence but whenever I get going he will walk over to another member of staff, start talking and they will start looking over at me. I was so close to bursting into tears and walking out today. I just can't zone it out. I'm sure it's me being paranoid, but I've never been paranoid about it before. I'm not paranoid when I swim in the same leisure centre or going running in the park. It is really putting me off going.

    It's just a coincidence! Focus on something else!
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I always feel really deflated when I come out of the gym. I really can't shake the feeling that the gym staff are talking about me and its starting to make me really uncomfortable. It is one guy in particular and he was the one I had to do my induction with. I don't know if it is a coincidence but whenever I get going he will walk over to another member of staff, start talking and they will start looking over at me. I was so close to bursting into tears and walking out today. I just can't zone it out. I'm sure it's me being paranoid, but I've never been paranoid about it before. I'm not paranoid when I swim in the same leisure centre or going running in the park. It is really putting me off going.

    Screw them! Show them what you can do!

    Argh I really can't. It's been going on for about 6 weeks now. I'm not locked into a contract so I could move gyms...

    Any gym routine's you can suggest? I started NROLFW but I couldn't get on with the schedule on week 2 and it kind of collapsed after that. Now I just do bodyweight resistance training and interval training on the static bike.

    I use Stronglifts 5X5. There's an app you can download and follow at stronglifts.com. I love it. So far I am up to 110 bench press, 70 pound OHP, 170 pound squats, 205 pound deadlifts and 95 pound rows. I love seeing the progress and I have muscles starting to show!

    Oh yea, I forgot about Stronglifts. I might look into that instead. It'll keep me looking at myself instead of around the room. (I think that could be the problem thinking about it)
  • girldownsouth
    girldownsouth Posts: 920 Member
    spamarie wrote: »
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    Confession: I always check the locker doors in my gym to see if someone left their 20p. :smile:

    It's £1 at my pool, I'm planning on slowly getting rich that way!

    Mine uses your gym card so no potential money making opportunities!
  • overlook237
    overlook237 Posts: 160 Member
    "Resentful" is my word of the day. I'm feeling resentful because: 1) the soup I made to eat this week for lunch is way too salty but I have to eat it because I can't afford to waste the money on something else; 2) said soup is causing water weight gain and messing with the number on the scale (up 2 pounds when I'm only eating about 1230 calories per day and it's pissing me off even though I know it's not a *true* gain); 3) I've been volunteered to do a project that I don't want to do and will take me hours and hours but saying "no" isn't a choice (it's for my mom); and 4) my go-to for when I feel like this is still to want to eat all the food, and I'm sick of having that thought pop into my head even though I'm getting better at ignoring it. Blergh.

    I've heard if you add a slice of raw potato as you cook, it will absorb some of the salt. Maybe you could try that when you re-heat your soup?

    I'll try it. Thanks :)
  • AgentOrangeJuice
    AgentOrangeJuice Posts: 1,069 Member
    Get your popcorns ready!!!

    Yesterday I was in the breakroom it was 12:00pm. My employee Stinky Rick whom I've mentioned before was just finishing up his lunch and heading back to our warehouse. I receive a phone call from my boss on my cellphone at 12:02.

    Boss: "Where you at"
    AOJ: "I'm in the breakroom"
    Boss: "Why doesn't Rick know you're on break?"
    AOJ: "Rick literally just left me in the breakroom, he knows exactly where I am"
    Boss: "Not according to him, I need to see you when you're done"
    AOJ: "I'll be right there."

    I get into her office

    Boss: "What's going on with you, you haven't responded to any of my emails"
    AOJ: "I've responded to all of your emails"
    Boss: "We talked about them on the phone, but you didn't reply to the email"
    AOJ: "We talked about them, the issues were resolved, there didn't need to be a reply."
    Boss: "I'd appreciate it if you replied to my email"

    She reiterates that somethings off. I talk to her about a couple issues that were bothering me.

    Useless Manager becoming a Director, how I'm a supervisor that has to enforce operating procedures to managers who question me at every turn and go over my head with everything which totally demeans my position.

    And she responds with "If you're so unhappy, find something else."

    And that's when I blurted out "I did."

    Her retort "Where do you think you're going to get a job working 8-5 monday through friday with weekends and holidays."

    I said "Actually, I'll be getting even more holidays like Columbus Day, MLK Day, 1/2 day on Dec 23rd, December 24th and 25th off, oh and I'll be off at 430 every day, and in the off chance I'm not I'll be getting over time"

    Her eyes got huge.

    She locked herself in her office for 2 hours after that.
  • LBuehrle8
    LBuehrle8 Posts: 4,044 Member
    I bought two bags of Haribo Tangfastic today, they were always my favourite sweets and I've been craving them recently. Instead of eating them all in one go like I used to I've portioned the two bags into 8 mini bags, so I can have a little taste every day without going over my calories.

    That's great! High five!
  • AngryViking1970
    AngryViking1970 Posts: 2,847 Member
    Get your popcorns ready!!!

    Yesterday I was in the breakroom it was 12:00pm. My employee Stinky Rick whom I've mentioned before was just finishing up his lunch and heading back to our warehouse. I receive a phone call from my boss on my cellphone at 12:02.

    Boss: "Where you at"
    AOJ: "I'm in the breakroom"
    Boss: "Why doesn't Rick know you're on break?"
    AOJ: "Rick literally just left me in the breakroom, he knows exactly where I am"
    Boss: "Not according to him, I need to see you when you're done"
    AOJ: "I'll be right there."

    I get into her office

    Boss: "What's going on with you, you haven't responded to any of my emails"
    AOJ: "I've responded to all of your emails"
    Boss: "We talked about them on the phone, but you didn't reply to the email"
    AOJ: "We talked about them, the issues were resolved, there didn't need to be a reply."
    Boss: "I'd appreciate it if you replied to my email"

    She reiterates that somethings off. I talk to her about a couple issues that were bothering me.

    Useless Manager becoming a Director, how I'm a supervisor that has to enforce operating procedures to managers who question me at every turn and go over my head with everything which totally demeans my position.

    And she responds with "If you're so unhappy, find something else."

    And that's when I blurted out "I did."

    Her retort "Where do you think you're going to get a job working 8-5 monday through friday with weekends and holidays."

    I said "Actually, I'll be getting even more holidays like Columbus Day, MLK Day, 1/2 day on Dec 23rd, December 24th and 25th off, oh and I'll be off at 430 every day, and in the off chance I'm not I'll be getting over time"

    Her eyes got huge.

    She locked herself in her office for 2 hours after that.

    This is a pretty fantastic exchange.
  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    My daughter's stupid dog attacked a baby bunny in our backyard this morning. I'm SO over that little a-hole monster. If she didn't love him so much, he'd be gone. Mind you, he's a Chihuahua/minpin mix and he's far more vicious than my pit has EVER been.

    Any chance of hiring a dog trainer? I did that as a gift to my son when he ended up with two untrained dogs within a short time frame and unexpectedly and was going crazy. It was pricey, but if you find the right trainer (which thankfully we did after some searching) they train the human to train the dog. That way you have the knowledge and skills not just for this dog but for any you may have in the future. It was well worth the price. Just a suggestion. (He and both the dogs are very happy now!)

    That's the thing. We had a dog already when we got this little effer and she is an amazing companion animal. He was a product of my husband's parents dogs which are bonkers. Not only that, but he was with my SIL for a while and her youngest daughter did nothing but torture him (not actual torture, but close enough) constantly.

    We were hoping that he'd follow our other dog's lead (she's incredible) and pick up good habits and obedience. That is not the case AT ALL. He basically refuses to poop outside unless someone stays out there with him, which we don't always have time to do, so he's been using my basement as a toilet.

    He barks and growls and even nips at my husband constantly, he has terrible separation anxiety from my daughter. We even bought him one of those Thundershirts that are supposed to help with all kinds of stuff, they even have a 100% money back guarantee and he ate the side of it. He chews on anything, just completely destroys almost everything.

    This sounds terrible, but I feel as though we've already spent enough money on this little demon even though we didn't pay for him, we spent A LOT at the vet and on supplies, not to mention all the things we've had to replace that he's destroyed, I don't know if I want to put anymore money in him. I never wanted a puppy in the first place.

  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    Get your popcorns ready!!!

    Yesterday I was in the breakroom it was 12:00pm. My employee Stinky Rick whom I've mentioned before was just finishing up his lunch and heading back to our warehouse. I receive a phone call from my boss on my cellphone at 12:02.

    Boss: "Where you at"
    AOJ: "I'm in the breakroom"
    Boss: "Why doesn't Rick know you're on break?"
    AOJ: "Rick literally just left me in the breakroom, he knows exactly where I am"
    Boss: "Not according to him, I need to see you when you're done"
    AOJ: "I'll be right there."

    I get into her office

    Boss: "What's going on with you, you haven't responded to any of my emails"
    AOJ: "I've responded to all of your emails"
    Boss: "We talked about them on the phone, but you didn't reply to the email"
    AOJ: "We talked about them, the issues were resolved, there didn't need to be a reply."
    Boss: "I'd appreciate it if you replied to my email"

    She reiterates that somethings off. I talk to her about a couple issues that were bothering me.

    Useless Manager becoming a Director, how I'm a supervisor that has to enforce operating procedures to managers who question me at every turn and go over my head with everything which totally demeans my position.

    And she responds with "If you're so unhappy, find something else."

    And that's when I blurted out "I did."

    Her retort "Where do you think you're going to get a job working 8-5 monday through friday with weekends and holidays."

    I said "Actually, I'll be getting even more holidays like Columbus Day, MLK Day, 1/2 day on Dec 23rd, December 24th and 25th off, oh and I'll be off at 430 every day, and in the off chance I'm not I'll be getting over time"

    Her eyes got huge.

    She locked herself in her office for 2 hours after that.
    Congrats! What a way to go.

  • bkhamill
    bkhamill Posts: 1,289 Member
    Lois_1989 wrote: »
    I always feel really deflated when I come out of the gym. I really can't shake the feeling that the gym staff are talking about me and its starting to make me really uncomfortable. It is one guy in particular and he was the one I had to do my induction with. I don't know if it is a coincidence but whenever I get going he will walk over to another member of staff, start talking and they will start looking over at me. I was so close to bursting into tears and walking out today. I just can't zone it out. I'm sure it's me being paranoid, but I've never been paranoid about it before. I'm not paranoid when I swim in the same leisure centre or going running in the park. It is really putting me off going.

    I bet he is saying something like "I inducted her into this gym and look how amazing she is doing!"
  • MissKalhan
    MissKalhan Posts: 2,282 Member
    sst036 wrote: »
    dearmrsowl wrote: »
    I suffer from hyperhidrosis (extreme sweating) which makes working out at the gym impossible. I have the sweating under control during every day activities thanks to a special solution from the pharmacy. During my teenage years I only wore black or white t-shirts so people wouldn't see the stains under my arm pits. I'm so glad that at least that is over but working out (no matter if cardio or strength) leaves me and the floor around me as wet as if I just stepped out of the shower and I really wouldn't want to bother anyone with that at a gym.
    I started doing Botox this year and it has changed my life - I still sweat, but I don't end up with massive wet patches down my arms when I'm anxious (so always) or when I'm hot. It's amazing.


    I've been tossing this idea around for a while, I have the same issue. Seeing you raving about it may push me to do it, so thanks! :)
  • Serendipity1517
    Serendipity1517 Posts: 18 Member
    I hate my "mommy body". And I don't think any moms should get a free pass to be unhealthy because there's a new trend supporting "loving your mommy body". There's a difference between curves and obese, ladies... :-/

    .....I've never said that out loud.....
  • MoHousdon
    MoHousdon Posts: 8,723 Member
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    My gym partner works later than I do, so I usually have to wait at the gym for 20-25 minutes for her to arrive. Lately we've just been doing lifting workouts, but I asked if she wanted to do some cardio today. She said okay. Secretly I was hoping she'd say no so I could go in early and run by myself. (She would be mad if I'd just gone in early without asking her if she wanted to run too)

    My confession is that I'm selfish and I get sick of having to do everything on everyone else's schedules.

    This is why I refuse to vacation with other people. I want to do what I want to do, when I want to do it. My husband is excluded from this, of course.

    STILL REALLY FAR BEHIND.

  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    I hate my "mommy body". And I don't think any moms should get a free pass to be unhealthy because there's a new trend supporting "loving your mommy body". There's a difference between curves and obese, ladies... :-/

    .....I've never said that out loud.....

    I feel you. I don't care what other moms do as far as losing weight, but I hate hate hate the trend of calling stretch marks "Tiger Stripes" and shaming anyone who isn't proud of them. I've actually been told that I don't love my kids enough if I can't get over how my body looks now. I find that so awful. I don't judge moms who have a better attitude than me, I just wish they would keep it to themselves.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,744 Member
    Here's a confession. I hate my job. I hate it so much is making me depressed and affecting the rest of my life, but I feel trapped because I signed on for a contract to see a project through, and the project is dragging but I feel like if I go for a new job and have to explain why I'm leaving this one, it's going to look bad that I'm jumping ship before the end of the project and leaving a big hole in a small team. But I hate the work and hate the fact I work for who I work for. I feel like I'm getting deskilled and going backwards in my career. I'm also resentful that I'm not being paid what I'm worth and I'm paid way less than the rest of my team with no way of seeking a raise.

    I needed to get that off my chest. Grrr.

    So sorry to hear that. I am not familiar with contract work, but is there ANY way of addressing or remedying the above? I know money isn't everything, but more of it can make a bad situation more bearable. At least there is a light at the end of the tunnel, albeit slow moving. Hang in there and feel free to vent here!
  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Get your popcorns ready!!!

    Yesterday I was in the breakroom it was 12:00pm. My employee Stinky Rick whom I've mentioned before was just finishing up his lunch and heading back to our warehouse. I receive a phone call from my boss on my cellphone at 12:02.

    Boss: "Where you at"
    AOJ: "I'm in the breakroom"
    Boss: "Why doesn't Rick know you're on break?"
    AOJ: "Rick literally just left me in the breakroom, he knows exactly where I am"
    Boss: "Not according to him, I need to see you when you're done"
    AOJ: "I'll be right there."

    I get into her office

    Boss: "What's going on with you, you haven't responded to any of my emails"
    AOJ: "I've responded to all of your emails"
    Boss: "We talked about them on the phone, but you didn't reply to the email"
    AOJ: "We talked about them, the issues were resolved, there didn't need to be a reply."
    Boss: "I'd appreciate it if you replied to my email"

    She reiterates that somethings off. I talk to her about a couple issues that were bothering me.

    Useless Manager becoming a Director, how I'm a supervisor that has to enforce operating procedures to managers who question me at every turn and go over my head with everything which totally demeans my position.

    And she responds with "If you're so unhappy, find something else."

    And that's when I blurted out "I did."

    Her retort "Where do you think you're going to get a job working 8-5 monday through friday with weekends and holidays."

    I said "Actually, I'll be getting even more holidays like Columbus Day, MLK Day, 1/2 day on Dec 23rd, December 24th and 25th off, oh and I'll be off at 430 every day, and in the off chance I'm not I'll be getting over time"

    Her eyes got huge.

    She locked herself in her office for 2 hours after that.

    YES! YES! YES! YES! YES! I knew it was gonna be good!!!
  • berlynnwall
    berlynnwall Posts: 669 Member
    I haven't exercised for 4 days. It feels really weird to me. It's so weird to think that I've made it into a habit.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,744 Member
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    I am now going to bed irritated like I do nearly every single Mothers Day. :|

    I'm sorry! Why?

    Because my family sucks sometimes lol

    My daughter, whom oddly enough is the one that causes me the most stress by far, normally does good for Mothers Day, like yesterday,.....she doesn't have any money really right now cuz she just finished her Uni year and started work today, but she made me a nice homemade card and put 10 little hearts with vouchers in it for things like foot rubs, laundry service, baked goods etc. I LOVED it.

    My son, who is 17, and I still get up nearly every morning to see him off to school, and cook HOT food for him at 7am.....plus because he works a LOT and goes to school full time, plus other things, I do a lot for him that kid's his age do on their own like laundry and I always make sure there is hot food for him before/after work/school etc. He, got me a piece of cheese cake he brought home from his work late last night. I was upset that he did not get me a card mostly, because I feel his gifts are never heartfelt, and I have told him this before. His reply is "Well, you know I love you." I do not doubt he does, and he is a great kid, like seriously, my friends tell me all the time they would love a kid like him, he is hard working (and a good saver, which is odd for a kid his age, he has been working since he was 9 and routinely lends his sister money cuz she is terrible.....we always joke that by the time he is done Uni he will have saved enough money to buy a small island), he is a great student, and I never have to ground him or anything, like literally never. But it is upsetting to me that he could not take the time to write me a card.

    My SO, is the WORST out of the group. We have the same argument nearly every year. Again, I will say overall, my SO is wonderful. We almost never fight and he is very good about doing nearly all the cooking and cleaning when he is here (which is only on weekends, and not every one), never once has he ever yelled at me, called me a name, or said something nasty to me. He is loving and affectionate, and a great handy man, does everything from household repairs to hand washing laundry and sewing. However, I am lucky to get "Happy Mothers Day" said to me, or any holiday really. Some years I have gotten small gifts, and to be quite frank, most of them sucked, like he does not know me at all. But it is not about the money, I would be happy with a card, again, and a small token like a movie ticket or something. The worst part is, like I said, we go over this every single year, and it's like by the next time, it never crosses his mind again.

    Then I go to work the next day, and 500 people will say things like "Oh, I bet your family spoiled you", or talking about what their families did. Yes, yes I was spoiled, I got a piece of cheesecake :|

    It is just disappointing that they never learn how I feel. Like I have said in other posts, my mother was a huge *kitten*, so I try really hard to be a good mother, and it hurts my feelings because I feel like they do not care.

    End of rant!

    Well it sounds like you have a fantastic family and I know you are proud of them and they love you! Given the way your mother treated you I can see how it is important to you that your children value you as a good mother. I fully believe that they do; they may just express it differently than you'd like. My kids are somewhat the same way. My youngest son would prefer to buy me something he cannot afford than just give me a card, so I can relate to that. At least your son is good with money!

    As far as your SO, what was his past like as far as holidays? I was raised in a religion that did not celebrate holidays. When my current husband and I got married 15 years ago it took a LOT of work and focus on my part to remember all the holidays and traditions and expectations, etc. I'm still not very good at it! But, they know my past and they understand. Some people just don't like set days where you're obligated to acknowledge someone. IDK. Just throwing ideas out there. I appreciate the explanation and response!

    You hit the nail right on the head there, that is exactly what it is. A lot of people that have terrible parents, become terrible parents. I made sure to break that cycle and give my kids a loving, stable, supportive home. All things I never got.

    And you will be richly rewarded for it. It already sounds like your kids are great. Credit to you! As they get older they will understand more. It just takes time. My youngest son is 23 and just this past year (out of the blue) he told me he understood and forgave me for a decision I made when he was 18 that made him very angry and resentful. I carried that with me for 5 long years. He said he finally understood it after he went through a tough time recently. I cannot express how heavy that weight on my shoulders was for all that time. Anyway, yes, your kids will understand more and more how much you gave them, sacrificed for them and did for them as they gain a bit more life experience.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,744 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Okay, I have one (posting during work so you know my mind is NOT on work today) I am SO excited my company is buying another very large, very well known company (just announce today but I am weird about putting the name of the company I work for in this forum even though everyone can probably figure this out). I want in on this merger activity. I am going to throw my hat in the ring with my VP. I need a new challenge, I love complex projects that involve lots of teams and new situations, and my dissertation was on the organizational dynamics of mergers.

    Win/Win right? Then I get scared to think about pursuing it. What if they aren't interested in me? What if I fail? What if I try to get in and get told 'no you are needed in your current job' but it back fires on me. What if I suck at it?

    My friend says I am the most arrogantly insecure person she knows. Both are coming out today. But I feel like someone just dropped a gift in my lap with this... I need a distraction (between what is going on with my horse), company probably going to end up selling my area of the business, I am not in the spotlight right now. This could be just what I needed. I think its fate (even though not sure I believe in that) and I am going to pursue it with everything I have.

    I think.... :)

    I think I know what company you work for now. :)
    I was listening to a story on NPR this morning on my way to work about an acquisition of an old well known internet company.
    Anyhoo. One of my best friends once told me that you have to GO FOR IT! Whatever "it" is that you want. The worst thing that can happen is they'll say "No". So, then you pick yourself up and keep trying until you get where you want to go. A very wise friend, that one.

    That would be the one. And I am. What do I have to lose?

    Super! Glad to hear it and keep us posted.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,744 Member
    lbrown0874 wrote: »
    At work we have a snack cart when we are doing mega overtime and all last week it was parked outside of my cube....needless to say a weight gain of 4 lbs last week showed me I have no control when it comes to Peppermint Patties. I finally moved the cart to the other side of our department and I DARE anyone to bring it back!

    Good job! You realized the problem and took action. Now just follow through and enjoy your success.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,744 Member
    Lefty1290 wrote: »
    m1xm0d3 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    I can't handle people on lots of these threads don't know the difference between "your" and "you're"...I apologize if I sound like a snob but it really grinds my gears. :s

    What really gets ME is when I see someone use 'than' instead of 'then'. Poor grammar in general bothers me but I do admit I am a bit anal about it.

    Oh, that one bugs me too!!!

    The worst I've ever seen is "thoughs" instead of those. I'm just like ?????????? - Where does that come from?

    I'm a huge spelling/grammar freak. lol The lack of spell check from people these days makes me so mad.

    "Allowed" and "aloud" is one I'm seeing here more often. That one annoys me, too, but that is one of those that spell check won't change because it IS spelled correctly. Instead of spell check we need "proper grammar and sentence structure" check. Or, you know, just learn how to write the English language. (vent, sorry, not direct at anyone specific!)