Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »Confession: I cannot stand slower than time pedestrians crossing the street. I'm saying this as a person who walks every day and rides in a car maybe once a week. If there is tons of traffic and a car had to stop to let you pass, hurry the heck up. Everyone wants to get where they are going, not just you.
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I had a whoosh this morning but I don't believe it's true even though I weighed myself the exact same way I always do. IF the scale is correct, which, there's just no way, I weigh less NOW, than I did before I got pregnant with my daughter 14 years ago! How is that possible?!
Confession: My husband is on this site and using it faithfully, but he's SO lazy when it comes to logging his food. He just basically picks the first thing in the list that is somewhat remotely close to what he is eating/has eaten. It makes me furious that he's so lazy about it. He's still losing weight and I think that's what I'm most irritated by. Sometimes, I'm not a very good wife.
edited, because spelling words correctly in the morning can be hard sometimes.
My husband has been watching me kill myself for months (I work out at home) and measure out everything and tediously track and you know what we have to do... Last month he decided to stop drinking soda and he's lost 10lbs. I could stab him.0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »I had a whoosh this morning but I don't believe it's true even though I weighed myself the exact same way I always do. IF the scale is correct, which, there's just no way, I way less NOW, than I did when I got pregnant with my daughter 14 years ago! How is that possible?!
Confession: My husband is on this site and using it faithfully, but he's SO lazy when it comes to logging his food. He just basically picks the first thing in the list that is somewhat remotely close to what he is eating/has eaten. It makes me furious that he's so lazy about it. He's still losing weight and I think that's what I'm most irritated by. Sometimes, I'm not a very good wife.
First part - AWESOME! Second part - totally understandable. My husband will go to the gym religiously, but won't track what he eats AT ALL! It frustrates me to no end. I just leave it alone. He'll have to figure it out for himself. But inside, I seethe.
My husband and I started our weight loss program together, we go to the gym together a couple times a week, he never even breaks a sweat! I find him very frustrating. He won't log his food, but he does mostly just eat what I give him to eat and that is the only reason he has lost weight, he does not do enough cardio, in the beginning I would ask him to go for walks with me and he saunters along at a slow pace so I started going by myself so I could go faster and now I am running a lot more and walking a lot less. He told me the other day he would go for more walks if he had someone to go with and I told him I go alone because a) I don't have to wait til he gets home from work, which would limit the time I had before dark. b) he will not be able to keep up with me. c) he is not able to do the distance I want to do (I am up to 10K most days). And got pissy about it. I have lost 66 lbs and he has lost 54 in the same time frame. It sucks that I work so much harder at it and he is not that far behind me in lbs lost!0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »Confession: My husband is not as serious about his health as he should be, and that scares me. A lot.
I feel your pain! My husband won't even go for a walk with me on the weekends. I let him hold me back for a long time because he wouldn't workout so I didn't either. He works from home and gets zero exercise. In the past I've tried yelling, guilt, compassion, empathy; nothing works.
That's a tough thing to deal with, but over time the best thing you can do is be consistent with yourself and set an example. He may eventually follow, but that's generally the only method that works.0 -
MissLaaber wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »I had a whoosh this morning but I don't believe it's true even though I weighed myself the exact same way I always do. IF the scale is correct, which, there's just no way, I way less NOW, than I did when I got pregnant with my daughter 14 years ago! How is that possible?!
Confession: My husband is on this site and using it faithfully, but he's SO lazy when it comes to logging his food. He just basically picks the first thing in the list that is somewhat remotely close to what he is eating/has eaten. It makes me furious that he's so lazy about it. He's still losing weight and I think that's what I'm most irritated by. Sometimes, I'm not a very good wife.
First part - AWESOME! Second part - totally understandable. My husband will go to the gym religiously, but won't track what he eats AT ALL! It frustrates me to no end. I just leave it alone. He'll have to figure it out for himself. But inside, I seethe.
THANKS!!!
I guess as long as he's losing, that's really all that matters. Also, I wish my husband wanted to go to the gym, but he has ZERO interest in that. Right now, he definitely has the "dad bod". Which is such a ridiculous trend. I would prefer he had a body like Jax Teller, but I love him squishy bits and all.
So, I had to go find Jax Teller...
Not bad, but he is not this...
Rock>Jax. My friends think I'm totally messed up for thinking he is gorgeous xD
What? He is totally gorgeous. And adorable. I loved him in Escape from Witch Mountain.
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My confession of the day is that I woke up at 1.30 this morning from a dream where I offended everyone on this thread. I HAD to check it and read through the last 10 pages to check it wasn't true so I could go back to sleep.
I had a dream the other night that some family members/friends were being shown how to use this site & the forums, specifically going to this thread. I was panicking because I've said some not-so-nice things about some people here and I kept trying to dissuade them from using it.0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Confession: My husband is not as serious about his health as he should be, and that scares me. A lot.
I feel your pain! My husband won't even go for a walk with me on the weekends. I let him hold me back for a long time because he wouldn't workout so I didn't either. He works from home and gets zero exercise. In the past I've tried yelling, guilt, compassion, empathy; nothing works.
I mean that's just terrible.... I am curious what his defense is when you sincerely tell him you are genuinely worried about his long term health?
He says he'll workout and then doesn't. The conversation has been going on for over six years. The thing is, his dad died in his early 60s because of complications from diabetes and not taking care of himself. He had one leg amputated above the knee and then his other foot was amputated a couple years before he died. My husband at this point does not have diabetes, but I feel like it's inevitable. We have a 7 year old and a 2 year old and not only is he setting a terrible example, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't care if he'll be there when they get older.
Sorry for the rant.
No apologies necessary! That is a serious situation especially because your kids are so young. However, I know that a person will change only when they want to change. My mom "gave up" years ago. Just decided she was going to be diabetic, overweight, unable to get around, etc. And she has accomplished her goal. She could easily have changed it, but chose not to. Watching someone do that willingly is infuriating, so I get your pain. So sorry.0 -
This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
Why should YOU feel badly for the failings of others??? Yes, share and celebrate your successes! If anyone else, friend or not, feels negatively about it that is their problem, not yours. You are not a terrible friend, nor a terrible spouse. You take care of and celebrate YOU and everyone else needs to do the same for themselves.0 -
AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »I had Jay-Z Radio blasting, but turned it off because some people might be offended by the use of N word and MF. These words don't offend me, I don't give them the power to.
I turned on Tarzan Boy Radio and it's basically the best 80's pop music ever. . ..
99 Luft Balloon's is on right now.
Going to have to listen to that during cardio this afternoon - thanks!
Aaaaand, my banner ad is for jalapeno bacon! Did not know that was a thing. Interesting. Any bacon lovers here tried it?0 -
This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
I totally get where you're coming from on this, and it's nice to know we're not alone. I feel like a part of me knows that I want them to do better because I want them to suceed, so the annoyance I have with myself when I screw up sort of carries over. I'm a real jerk to myself, so it's only natural, right?
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This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
My best friend was always much thinner than me (we have been friends for 17 years) I was always the fat one. She got breast cancer 7 years ago and since her treatments she has been on a steady gain, and when I started losing weight back in August she told me she needed to get busy because she was not going to be the fat one. I told her I would help her and she acted like she wanted the help at first, she bought a fitbit, and a treadmill and asked me several diet questions, but quickly gave up and was back to sedentary, old habits. I now weigh less than her and she resents me for it. She gets upset if I ever make a comment about how many calories are in something she offers me to eat, or I won't try something she is having. But I can't let it stop me from reaching my goals!0 -
This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
Why should YOU feel badly for the failings of others??? Yes, share and celebrate your successes! If anyone else, friend or not, feels negatively about it that is their problem, not yours. You are not a terrible friend, nor a terrible spouse. You take care of and celebrate YOU and everyone else needs to do the same for themselves.
It is hard to let yourself feel proud - I had a post several pages back talking about how I feel guilty when I do well and others maybe aren't doing so well at the same thing. I'm trying to overcome that. There's nothing wrong with doing well. I'm not running around shouting "I'm better than you!" (and I'm sure you aren't either ). If the other person has a problem with someone else's success then that is their problem and they need to take a look at themselves and see if they can/should be changing something they're doing.
I hope that makes sense, because I'm not always good at words.
(Hmm, I think I am making progress, thanks to this thread.)0 -
This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
I think this happens a lot. Personally, I get jealous when others I know are doing great on a diet but instead of festering over it, I use it as fuel to do better. But seriously, the laziness or lack of commitment by 'friends' is not your concern. Enjoy your accomplishments without exception!0 -
This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
Why should YOU feel badly for the failings of others??? Yes, share and celebrate your successes! If anyone else, friend or not, feels negatively about it that is their problem, not yours. You are not a terrible friend, nor a terrible spouse. You take care of and celebrate YOU and everyone else needs to do the same for themselves.
You are so wise! I just don't want to feel like I'm bragging or whatever. But you're right, I SHOULD be able to share and be proud of my hard work paying off. Which, I totally am because I've been literally working my butt off. Well, the flabby parts anyway.
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I took tablets that were not for human consumption to kick start my weight loss.. Nearly killed me! don't do it, no matter how depressed you get. Positive support from people on here helped me to get a healthy mindset! Never felt better!! Thank you mfp peeps you probably saved my life! X
Whoo glad you are in a better mindset & feeling better & healthier. Good luck with the rest of the weight & if you do ever get in a funk just remember to take it one day at a time & you'll get to your goal in no time.0 -
Today's confession- I just ate the frosting off of two bite size cupcakes, I am calling it lunch
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Confession: I've gotten some really great questions for my One Thousand One Hundred and Elventieth Post.
So many in fact: I'll sneak preview my first name: Derek.0 -
This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
Why should YOU feel badly for the failings of others??? Yes, share and celebrate your successes! If anyone else, friend or not, feels negatively about it that is their problem, not yours. You are not a terrible friend, nor a terrible spouse. You take care of and celebrate YOU and everyone else needs to do the same for themselves.
It is hard to let yourself feel proud - I had a post several pages back talking about how I feel guilty when I do well and others maybe aren't doing so well at the same thing. I'm trying to overcome that. There's nothing wrong with doing well. I'm not running around shouting "I'm better than you!" (and I'm sure you aren't either ). If the other person has a problem with someone else's success then that is their problem and they need to take a look at themselves and see if they can/should be changing something they're doing.
I hope that makes sense, because I'm not always good at words.
(Hmm, I think I am making progress, thanks to this thread.)This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
I think this happens a lot. Personally, I get jealous when others I know are doing great on a diet but instead of festering over it, I use it as fuel to do better. But seriously, the laziness or lack of commitment by 'friends' is not your concern. Enjoy your accomplishments without exception!
Thanks, guys. I may celebrate my loss with a trip to Starbucks today and eating my weight in chips and salsa tonight.
I truly love this thread.
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kellienw335 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Confession: My husband is not as serious about his health as he should be, and that scares me. A lot.
I feel your pain! My husband won't even go for a walk with me on the weekends. I let him hold me back for a long time because he wouldn't workout so I didn't either. He works from home and gets zero exercise. In the past I've tried yelling, guilt, compassion, empathy; nothing works.
I mean that's just terrible.... I am curious what his defense is when you sincerely tell him you are genuinely worried about his long term health?
He says he'll workout and then doesn't. The conversation has been going on for over six years. The thing is, his dad died in his early 60s because of complications from diabetes and not taking care of himself. He had one leg amputated above the knee and then his other foot was amputated a couple years before he died. My husband at this point does not have diabetes, but I feel like it's inevitable. We have a 7 year old and a 2 year old and not only is he setting a terrible example, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't care if he'll be there when they get older.
Sorry for the rant.
No apologies... it IS concerning. I totally get it... Especially when there are kids involved. No disrespect to the spouse, of course... my daughter was the reason I made the change.
If he isn't 'truly' willing to do anything about it then you have to ask yourself is the problem ultimately a dealbreaker? Tough question, I know.
You're right regarding it being very concerning. Deal breaker? No way! He is my best friend, a great man, a wonderful husband, and a terrific dad. I was just venting.kellienw335 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Confession: My husband is not as serious about his health as he should be, and that scares me. A lot.
I feel your pain! My husband won't even go for a walk with me on the weekends. I let him hold me back for a long time because he wouldn't workout so I didn't either. He works from home and gets zero exercise. In the past I've tried yelling, guilt, compassion, empathy; nothing works.
I mean that's just terrible.... I am curious what his defense is when you sincerely tell him you are genuinely worried about his long term health?
He says he'll workout and then doesn't. The conversation has been going on for over six years. The thing is, his dad died in his early 60s because of complications from diabetes and not taking care of himself. He had one leg amputated above the knee and then his other foot was amputated a couple years before he died. My husband at this point does not have diabetes, but I feel like it's inevitable. We have a 7 year old and a 2 year old and not only is he setting a terrible example, but sometimes I feel like he doesn't care if he'll be there when they get older.
Sorry for the rant.
No apologies... it IS concerning. I totally get it... Especially when there are kids involved. No disrespect to the spouse, of course... my daughter was the reason I made the change.
If he isn't 'truly' willing to do anything about it then you have to ask yourself is the problem ultimately a dealbreaker? Tough question, I know.
You're right regarding it being very concerning. Deal breaker? No way! He is my best friend, a great man, a wonderful husband, and a terrific dad. I was just venting.
Well good. In that case I would do everything you can to steer him in the best direction. If ya can't get him to do anything active, attack the problem from the other end. Grocery shopping! lol
Personally I am great at not buying bad foods, even on am empty stomach, but if it enters the house (usually by way of grandma!) then I am pretty much powerless against it... calling me to come devour it and be appropriately guilty afterwards. Haha0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »So I guess I should go on an m&m diet. Lost nearly 4lbs between yesterday and today. Guess I'll save the plastic suit I made last night for another day.
You better patent that diet! I can see it being as big as the Twinkie diet. Which M&Ms were you eating?I had a massive cookie for breakfast. Yum.
Can't go wrong with that! I used to eat ice cream for breakfast during my weight loss (I haven't done it for awhile) & coworkers still laugh about it to this day.
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »Confession: I've gotten some really great questions for my One Thousand One Hundred and Elventieth Post.
So many in fact: I'll sneak preview my first name: Derek.
I somehow already knew this. Why is that?
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I think I may be subbing in shopping for boredom eating as a bad habit. Since I've started monitoring my eating more, I find myself mindlessly browsing Amazon a lot more often. When I go for walks, it's often to shops. I am trying to make my new habit exercise or at least something else positive, but it takes time I guess.0
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »Confession: I've gotten some really great questions for my One Thousand One Hundred and Elventieth Post.
So many in fact: I'll sneak preview my first name: Derek.
I somehow already knew this. Why is that?
First names thread? I usually introduce myself when I send Friend Requests as well.
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Confession... I am pretty sure I've single-handedly funded the nations cutie/halo orange market for the past several years. I go through a 5lb bag in like 3 days.
I am just now, at this very moment, having my first cutie ever. I now realize why my daughter eats them 2-3 at a time. They are little round balls of heavenly sweetness. I will be buying some at the store this evening.
Why yes, yes they are. I've had 3 this morning with 3 to go. them so much.
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This is a safe place, right?!
I feel like my friends resent me for losing weight when I am a lot smaller than they are. I am pals with a few of them on here, so when I have a success, like today, I feel like I'm rubbing it in their face, which is not my intention, but I also want to be able to share my victories too. It's a double edged sword for sure.
In addition to this, I feel like if they worked half as hard as I do, counting calories accurately, and doing some sort of exercise, they'd have successes too, but they don't want to put in the effort. I feel like a terrible friend for feeling that way, but it's true. I guess I'm not a great friend or good wife sometimes.
Why should YOU feel badly for the failings of others??? Yes, share and celebrate your successes! If anyone else, friend or not, feels negatively about it that is their problem, not yours. You are not a terrible friend, nor a terrible spouse. You take care of and celebrate YOU and everyone else needs to do the same for themselves.
It is hard to let yourself feel proud - I had a post several pages back talking about how I feel guilty when I do well and others maybe aren't doing so well at the same thing. I'm trying to overcome that. There's nothing wrong with doing well. I'm not running around shouting "I'm better than you!" (and I'm sure you aren't either ). If the other person has a problem with someone else's success then that is their problem and they need to take a look at themselves and see if they can/should be changing something they're doing.
I hope that makes sense, because I'm not always good at words.
(Hmm, I think I am making progress, thanks to this thread.)
Yes, that makes sense and I know it's not easy for everyone. Glad to hear you are making progress, though - that is great!
It took me a long time to learn to take a compliment. I would always deflect, or say something silly or derogatory about myself. Then I decided I'd had enough of that. For me, the best thing to do is remember to say a sincere "Thank you!" ONLY. And then stop talking. If I keep talking I say something I don't want to. Takes practice. It's also nice when you can return a compliment to the giver.0 -
AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »Confession: I've gotten some really great questions for my One Thousand One Hundred and Elventieth Post.
So many in fact: I'll sneak preview my first name: Derek.
I somehow already knew this. Why is that?
First names thread?
Nope, I feel like you've hinted at this before in here. Mostly because this is the only thread I frequent. This, and the Things that make you irrationally angry. I haven't been over there for a while though. @quiksylver296 how is it going in there?
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Confession: I've recently developed a rather disordered way of viewing food. I've reached my goal weight (and am now underweight) and now I'm terrified of eating too much even though I knows I need to do so to fuel all my running.
Friends and family are very concerned and scared. I'm trying to eat more this week but today thoughts of going on a cut are popping into my head.
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »
LOVE it! I am going to run with it! I shall have the "muffins" for afternoon tea!!!!!!0
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