WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR DECEMBER 2019

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,295 Member
    Wwwwww
  • janetr7476
    janetr7476 Posts: 4,001 Member
    pipcd34 wrote: »
    janetr I’m so sorry, my heart is with you


    Thank you so much <3

    Janetr OKC




  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    Today, I picked up half a pineapple ... I've had a craving for fruit lately!! I love pineapple and ate it as my afternoon snack ... and, of course, had my usual allergic reaction to it. I was hoping I might skip that step. :neutral: I know better than to eat pineapple, but I love it!!

    However, I think I'll stick to the pears and mangoes for the rest of the week.

    M in Oz

    Machka, I am so glad I do not have reactions to pineapples! It's one of my favorites. I grow them in my garden from the tops of the fruit. They take about 2-3 years (naturally) and are rather small, but love when I get to eat one from the garden.
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Janet - It’s not selfish at all ! Never feel that way! We all get to an age or point we just can’t be forever caregivers due to our own health. My Mom passed was actually a relief (we felt bad about feeling that way at first but then realized it was too much on us all). Dad having dementia,work related head injury, y heart attacks could no longer care for her. I was pregnant (didn’t know it) was becoming unable to get out of bed 🛌...got pregnant with JR after loosing that pregnancy months after! Hubby was caring for so many of us starting to effect his blood pressure. Mom was becoming more y more immobile worse health since Ibama care took away the medication that kept her mobile y feeling good. Daughter school was taking all her time she was prying me sick out of bed to drive her to care for my Mom with me barely able to help. Parents with kids with Autism to Head injuries fall into this boat too have to look into assisted living or other arrangements.

    He’ll adjust you can visit for meals to watch movies in assistant living. You got to care for yourself. Caregivers tend to pass first a lot from not caring for ones self. If it doesn’t work out look into an in home nurse.

    Amber Tx

    No clue on meals feeling like fish. Will see weight up 1.2 lbs since yesterday (attacked cookies 🍪)
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,295 Member
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  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • Roseabc123
    Roseabc123 Posts: 13 Member
    Hi.. I hope to join the group. I want to lose 20 pounds and need motivation to do this. I have been having trouble sleeping and this is interfering with exercise and diet. I wish you all the best with your goal of weight loss.
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    edited December 2019
    Welcome Rosi all newcomers (Women only) are fully welcome! (This is a safe zone)

    Sleep troubles try lowering lights an hour or two early drink or eat a light meal like a warm chicken on a salad or egg whites y a slice of toast with a zero cal or low cal drink. Warm shower unplug relax . If need be they make teas to relax Celestial Brand sleepy time tea. Just do your best pre plan meals cut yourself some slack if it goes over a few times more your weeks total than day.

    Amber Tx
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,079 Member
    SuziQ: I so admire your positive, matter-of-fact attitude to life. It keeps you open to opportunities along the road, which will lead to better things because you are looking for them.
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,616 Member
    edited December 2019
    Did all yesterday's to-do's except make rum balls and KJ's adult fudge. Did a bonus load and a half of laundry ;) Wild Rivers Symphony with North Coast Chorale was stupendous. Especially moving was the presentation of “Snowman”. Joyful, gleeful, then finally haunting, piercingly, poignant music stayed with me all night and into this morning. Thought of you, Heather, as they flew over the Pavilion. Sniffling as I copy this link. Chills and tears.
    https://youtu.be/5A3THighARU?t=926
    If you have a half hour, here's the whole thing:
    https://youtu.be/ZE9KpobX9J8
    Thought of Penny throughout the performance. How two small towns totaling fewer than 15,000 people can field a chorale of 80+ voices and an excellent symphony orchestra amazes me. Guess my big city preconcieved notions are showing ;} Just call me Martha. ;)
    KJ Miguelito is more than fine, his smiles are contagious! Hugs and reassurance to your DD.
    NYKaren Great attitude about the long journey, even better chosing to stay away from workplace negativity. Brava!
    Karen in VA Whew! :o You're right, who knew? You and others have said it: we must be our advocate this as all health related matters. Well done!
    Debby in VA thanks for checking in. Sending some calming energy your way.
    Lanette :crying: for nastiness in gardener's program. Gardens are supposed to be beautiful places of healing and peace. ((hugs))
    Katla I put my glass ornaments in big clear vases on bookshelves, except for a treasured few (antique Japanese lanterns, potpourris, garland, bell and pine cone) that I risk on the upper branches because that is just exactly where they should go.. ;) Hoping that with the tree on a table, Shadow will “look but not touch!” ;} We had an aluminum tree, blue flood light and all blue and silver ornaments back then. Loved seeing it from outside with the picture window fogged around the edges. A magical, mysterious, fairyland Christmas tree.
    Katla, Lanette and others, thanks for the caution about rolling up windows, but having Ensure on hand for those special cases when I just can't walk away. It's against the law here to hand food/water/money out the window to beggars, but know of nothing preventing me from walking it over to someone in obviously dire need.
    Lanette your “grumpy old lady, packing...” reminded me of one of my favorite Idaho bumper stickers: “I'm out of estrogen, and.... I'm ARMED,.” :laugh: :heart: the wreath, noticed the new handle, thanks for explaining. I too got a friend request from a guy who had lot's of cute twenty something friends. Yick. :noway: Deny!
    Luci in WNC, sorry, but there is absolutely no circumstance in which I can imagine using a vacuum to be fun, even a new one ;)
    Rebecca “when I do vacuum...” LOL! When I do, I see less dog hair and fewer spruce needles, for about 30 seconds. Foo.
    Speaking of vacuum cleaners, does anyone have a recommendation for a vacuum cleaner that can cope with both long guard hairs and fluffy soft undercoat? [shudder]
    Flea (and Machka) experience instead of things. Amen! Is there an event to which you can take your mother for Christmas gift?
    Michele, about one portal for health care, yes it would be more efficent, but I shudder at the opportunity for abuse by hackers or even well-intentioned government. :} Bowling your “way”, WTG galfriend!
    Allie postive vibes, rest well.
    Machka :( for the volcano tragedy. Don't watch much news so missed it here. It stinks to be allergic to something you love. Hope you're feeling better now. “rrolling my eyes so hard they almost lodged in my forehead “ had me on the floor laughing! Beautiful pics, I can almost smell those roses.
    Welcome back Sashaspiegel, sounds like a good plan. Safe travels!
    Rori, what everyone, especially Lisa, said. Greatly relieved you have come to this hard decision at last. Wishing you all the patience, persistence, professional help, self care you'll need and all the luck the heavens can give. (((hugs held extra long)))
    Okie what a great gift your mom and stepdad gave your DGM! Jealous of your weekend in the Bay Area. ;)
    SuziQ I'm so with you about organic sugar or honey in moderation vs artificial sweeteners. Wow, your story about your co-worker, what a blessing you returned to her. You inspire me. Hoping the new year brings you joy and prosperity and fun. ((hugs)) Have been trying to grow pineapples from tops indoors, but the leaves always dry out and the stems rot. Any tips?
    Janetr You're right about logistics being the least of it. Sending strength, hope and hugs.
    Amber ((hugs)) for all the losses and challenges you've faced. Admiring your strength and humor.
    Weclome Roseabc123!

    Gratitude day #26 form of expression: surprised to find it's writing, especially here with you dear ones. This, from someone who gave herself a writer's block that prevented her from penning more than a post card for over ten years. SMH. :laugh:

    Today's “todo”s are carried over from yesterday (make KJ's adult fudge, rum balls) and earlier this week (light the tree). New: chiro appt, make cheese ball for tonight's girl's movie night (Christmas Chronicles), finish laundry. Need to make fudge first as it has to set, BUT Joe just announced he's taking Shadow to the beach so I can light and trim the tree while she can't watch. Ack! Jump up and do what you can, Barbara!

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD! Word for December: get up and go outside EVERY day!
    daily: steps=6418 vits=6.5 log=9 CI<CO=7 CI<250<CO=2 Tumble 5/10=6 mfp=9 AF=7 outside=4
    wkly: BBBorTC=3/3 rx=2 dance=1 pack walk=1
    mnthly: board mtg= grant= dog group email lilst= sew= play=
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,342 Member
    ;) Pg 19 done
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    Machka9 wrote: »
    You've probably all heard about the New Zealand volcano ... it's all over the news here. :(

    https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-12-10/new-zealand-volcano-eruption-white-island-australian-victims/11782860


    Machka in Oz

    I have been thinking about you. Such a tragedy. Is it affecting your air quality?

    Felicia
    Willamette Valley, OR
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    The little boy on the right is my cousin Keith, who has recently had the serious head injury. He is now a 71/72 year old man with a long beard.( In my memory he is still around 12/13) . I am the baby. The other three cousins are from my dad's elder sister. Keith ended up with four younger siblings. This photo is over 69 years old.
    Love Heather UK XXXXXX
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    OMG! I recognized you right away, even before I read which one you are. You haven't changed a bit! Seriously. Your face is the same cute thing. Such an adorable picture.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,731 Member
    edited December 2019
    Katla - Yes! The internet is magic. :) Helps no end with all those warm and fuzzies .

    We are both coming down with some lurgy or other. DH is more throat etc and I am more achey and general 'not right'. Both sneezing. We have decided to give our last Swing dancing class a miss. Feel bad, but we are simply not up to it. I have posted a message on the Facebook page. The class starts again in January in a new venue nearer us, but it conflicts with our French club, so we will only be able to go once a fortnight. :'(

    We managed to excavate the tree from the garage loft and find lights and extension. DH assembled the tree. Not decorated yet.I went out in the WIND to buy food. :o Horrible weather, but I did deliver a couple of good things to the charity shop.
    Tomorrow is a HUGE Amazon day. Masses of stuff arriving!!! In the evening, if we are up to it, we will go to the French Circle. I'm guessing we won't be. :/

    My youngest nephew and DSIL have been in Cambridge where he is being interviewed for a place. The school says he is a Maths genius.
    He will be first person of my brother's family to go to uni. My huge extended family is very home orientated. All that generation have chickened out of taking up places they were qualified for. My clever niece had too much anxiety and self harming. They are so close knit and parochial as a family. I hope he makes it and breaks the trend.
    Trying to get my DB to commit to a visit. :|:* We have presents to exchange. I suggested no presents, but they had already bought us something. I bought them some Sussex sparkling wine this afternoon.

    I'm enjoying just chillin'. B) Very easy TV watching tonight. We have an election on Thursday. :# Oh boy!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    edited December 2019
    Good day/evening.

    Rori -- I am so sorry you are dealing with this, but I think you are being wise. You have done all you can and have given your husband a good, comfortable, and safe life.

    Allie -- Good luck with the new job prospect!

    Michelle -- I am sorry you are dealing with grief from Denise. I do wonder if she is making excuses because she wants to create her own holiday traditions, now that she has a child? You know her best, of course, and I believe in mother's intuition when it comes to our children -- we know when something isn't right.

    Machka -- I am sorry that you are also facing future changes with your husband's care/living situation, however far in the future that ends up being.

    I have been in a purging mood, and I agree with those of you who are energized with every bag/box of clutter that goes out of the house. It is like a weight lifted. Some of you may remember that my husband is a hoarder, so we have huge conflicts related to this. He did agree to let me purge a few things, so we have filled 3.5 small dumpster loads (think the size out behind a restaurant or business), and it has made a dent on his stuff. He was getting nervous, so wanted me to recall the dumpster after the third load, but I hadn't actually gone through much of my stuff yet. He is in Sweden/Denmark this week, so I am taking the opportunity to go through all of my stuff. The dumpster will be dumped tomorrow, so tonight will be my last night. I am basically down to a few boxes of momentos that I want to keep, kitchen stuff that I use, clothes that I wear, and furniture/household decorative items that make me happy. My husband's junk is still all over the place, but I believe him when he says that he has purged just about as much as he is comfortable doing. We are buying a lot of shelving for the garage, so we can at least get the stuff up off the floor and out of the way. That will improve my mood greatly.
    My oldest son and I were talking about my husband's hoarding at dinner the other night. My husband comes from a very poor family, where even having enough food was an issue. So in addition to his (and his mother's) hoarding tendencies, he also has food anxiety. I can easily skip a meal and am emotionally fine with it. (If I go too long, I do begin sugar crashing, and I get dizzy, weak, and a little sick, but that's a physical, not an emotional thing.) If he misses a meal or if we are a little late getting to a meal, he claims to be "starving." Anyway, I have noticed that many homeless people are also hoarders. There is a couple camped out by the freeway on ramp I take to work, and at first, they just had a tent and a couple chairs. As the weeks have gone by, their junk keeps growing. And it really does look like junk. My son pointed out that it is a "scarcity mindset." And that makes sense. When you don't have anything, or haven't had anything, you need to keep everything because if you need it and you don't have it, you won't have the resources to buy it. That describes my husband perfectly. He has boxes and boxes of all kinds of electrical parts, so that he will be able to fix/replace anything that breaks. So I am trying to be sensitive to that and understand that to not have something that he might possibly need in the future would fill him with as much or more anxiety as his having it all in the first place causes me. So we are trying to at least organize it. Whew. Still, if I survive him, it is all going somewhere -- not in my garage!

    Kim -- I am so relieved you got your electrical issues sorted out. You are so resourceful, and I am impressed that you were able to adapt and keep up with your work while you were having issues.

    Janet -- I am praying for your daughter and for you, too. It is so difficult to watch our children suffer.

    Much love to all and welcome to the new women joining us.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Machka ~ That was some conversation you had with your co-worker! LOL

    Rori ~ Prayers that all will go well with your husband’s transition to assisted living.

    Heather ~ I immediately knew that baby was you in the photograph. You still have that happy smile.

    SuzieQ ~ It seems that you are in a place in your life where you might feel lonely now but you acknowledge that you can do what is needed to create a more fulfilling life for yourself. Your insight that “this too shall pass” is so true.

    Barbara ~ Love the way you described the choral music.

    Katla ~ I hear you about loving the internet. It is my lifeline as I have to force myself to leave the comfort of my nest (the computer/tv room) and get out among people...even people I am close to.

    Carol in Damp Cold Georgia
  • 1948Peachy
    1948Peachy Posts: 1,511 Member
    Flea ~ My husband is also a hoarder! For the life of me, I can't understand why we can't get rid of about half the stuff in our basement. A lot of it is broken and useless, but, there it stays. When we pass our son is going to have to hire a lot of help to clean it out.

    Carol in GA
  • JRsLateInLifeMom
    JRsLateInLifeMom Posts: 2,275 Member
    Flea- Food Hoarder here too but it’s me! During abuse food was withheld so I tend to hoard it.Hubby is the you need something?? I’ll get it type! Comes home with a 50lb bag beats his chest as to say “Me Caveman...Me Provide Food for Long Winter!” Together since he grew up with little also we can get out of hand easily. I’m having to handle my own self to slow it down. I hide candy to food in a few spots still plus allowing less to be stored up. Yes still got a 50lb bag of Jasmine Rice even. It’s not easy but had to realize it myself ..others pointed it out I couldn’t see it. Knowing I have a few candy bars hidden in the bathroom a bag of candy leftovers in JRs closet makes me feel safe. I have to have canned food y 2-3 water jugs . The rest I’m bringing down to none or smaller numbers as I go. Now if fridge is empty I’m okay my brains starting to understand food in freezer y pantry means don’t need it in fridge to pantries too.
    Amber Tx

    Give Hubby a food item stash somewhere for when dinners late like tuna pouches. Just in a spot for him only. Gives a safety feeling soon don’t need to go to it.
  • OregonMother
    OregonMother Posts: 1,664 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    DH been a bear since he started drinking again. Affecting my mood too. Not able to catch up due to moods I guess you could say.

    But, I’m still here and holding my weight 2-4 pounds above my goal.... So close yet so far..

    RvRita

    I'm so sorry, Rita.

    Flea
    Willamette Valley, OR
  • SuziQ113
    SuziQ113 Posts: 1,520 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    SuziQ I'm so with you about organic sugar or honey in moderation vs artificial sweeteners. Wow, your story about your co-worker, what a blessing you returned to her. You inspire me. Hoping the new year brings you joy and prosperity and fun. ((hugs)) Have been trying to grow pineapples from tops indoors, but the leaves always dry out and the stems rot. Any tips?

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

    I have never attempted to grow pineapples inside. I simply plant the top outside with no prep/rooting. They are bromeliads and somewhat tropical. Since Florida is so humid I would suggest spraying and watering from the top and then pouring off the drainage. I have a friend in GA who grows them in pots outside. He just pulls them in to the garage when freezing or below. We do not get too many freezing days here (maybe 3-5 during a winter) and mine are fine. I also tend to ignore them - they can go without water for quite a long time here (5 days) even during the hottest days.

    Found this great article - I never strip down to core - I think that step can be skipped.
    https://todayshomeowner.com/how-to-grow-pineapples-as-houseplants/

  • ydailey
    ydailey Posts: 516 Member
    Happy Dewey Decimal System Day!

    "December 10, 1851, is the birthday of Melvil Dewey (1851-1931) inventor of the Dewey Decimal system of library classification. As the most widely used library classification system, the Dewey Decimal Classification (DDC) or Dewey Decimal System has been in use since 1876 ... when American Librarian Melvil Dewey developed and established it. Divided into ten main categories, the numerical system arranges mostly non-fiction publications. ... Found in 135 countries around the world, the DDC has been translated into 30 different languages."

    Suzi - Congratulations on your new bike! If you haven't already checked out the Motor Maids, you might enjoy doing so. The organization was founded in 1940 to unite women motorcyclists in promoting motorcycle interest. Some of my MM sisters have literally been riding since before I was born and are still active riders. I can put you in touch withe Utah/Northern Nevada district director if you're interested. I would say the Motor Maids as a group are more riders than bikers although we have members and "security" (i.e., Mister Motor Maids) from all across the rider spectrum. It's a great group for finding riding buddies as well as networking when you're on the road.

    Michele - I'd like to hear the steel drum band! We have a couple of Caribbean Christmas CDs that feature some steel drum music.

    Heather - The cello is nearly as big as Edie!

    Barbara - A deep dental cleaning a few years back was all it took to get my attention. I was so wired afterward I nearly got in a wreck on the way home. I started keeping a pack of my favorite dental floss on my desk and one next to the TV remote. Now whenever I'm watching TV or Netflix I can floss at the same time.

    SueBDew - Oh, how scary! So glad you and your grandson are OK. I hope that driver gets a ticket and a big hike in their insurance rate!

    Allie - I hope that dream job comes true for you!

    Janet - So happy your daughter found the strength to ask for help. You and she are in my thoughts.

    Rebecca - Hurray for getting your photos back! It was kind of you to lend them to the new owner.

    Welcome to the new arrivals!


    I got way behind over the weekend and had to skim to catch up, but the good news I stayed on track with my eating although we did miss one gym workout.

    I'm so grateful we'll be with family for Christmas. Not only will we enjoy their company, but it means I won't have to ship any gifts! I pay into a Christmas and birthday account all year so everything was paid for by the time I started shopping. The last Christmas present arrived today and just needs to be wrapped. Oh, except for Philip... I still don't know what I'm going to get him!

    Yesterday it was 81 degrees and sunny, today it's 43 degrees and drizzly. I was dragging, but we went for our workout and that helped warm me up. I worked hard, too!

    Getting ready for Christmas Day in the Hill Country with my family and an early or belated Christmas with Philip's parents. My niece, nephew, and I will be decorating the river house this weekend. We still owe my in-laws birthday dinners out so we're floating a balloon to see how they'd feel about just going out to a nice restaurant for our "off-Christmas" Christmas dinner. Guess we'll see what they say.

    I'm about as ready for the holidays as I'm likely to get. I love Christmas music so now I'm looking forward to just enjoying the season a bit.

    Merry 394.266 to those who celebrate it!

    -Yvonne in TX

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