WOMEN AGES 50 + FOR DECEMBER 2019
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This week is another very busy one.
Today ...
Bloodwork first thing - part of a complete physical, little bit of everything
Dealing with someone from another department that had me rolling my eyes so hard they almost lodged in my forehead ...Last July/August Person contacted me ...
Person (P): Why did you reject this claim.
Me: I didn't, I'm just the messenger. Organisation A rejected the claim.
P: I want you to tell me why you rejected this claim!
Me: I can't because it wasn't me. Org A rejected the claim.
P: You work for Org A!
Me: No, I work for the same organisation as you do ... see my signature line.
P: Send me this file and that file and that file and those files.
So I did and all went quiet till now ... over the past couple days ...
Person (P): Why did you reject this claim.
Me: I didn't, I'm just the messenger. Organisation A rejected the claim.
P: I want you to tell me why you rejected this claim!
Me: I can't because it wasn't me. Org A rejected the claim.
P: You work for Org A!
Me: No, I work for the same organisation as you do ... see my signature line.
P: Send me everything you've sent Org A since about 2013!!!
Me: Really? Everything? That's going to take weeks.
So he rings me ... "I want it ALL!"
Me: Do you want these ones?
P: Um ... no.
Me: Do you want those ones?
P: Um ... no.
Me: Do you want all of this?
P: Um ... no. Actually I just want information about three records and I want to know why you rejected those three claims.
Me: You're not going to believe this but ...I didn't, I'm just the messenger. Organisation A rejected the claim. Talk to Org A.
I sent him the information on the three records and when I did, I scrolled down through the email trail and discovered .............. I was sending him the exact information he already had, which he had sent me to ask why I had rejected the claim!!! His information had the reason the claim was rejected on it!
It took me about half an hour before my eyeballs resumed their normal position.
Then off to a meeting with my husband and the rescue helicopter people.
And lunch with my husband.
And back to working with submissions which need to be in next week.
Then home and out for a quick walk to the beach.
And finally a 2.5 hour phone conference with the national committee of my cycling club.
The rest of the week will be much the same!
Machka in Oz5 -
The little boy on the right is my cousin Keith, who has recently had the serious head injury. He is now a 71/72 year old man with a long beard.( In my memory he is still around 12/13) . I am the baby. The other three cousins are from my dad's elder sister. Keith ended up with four younger siblings. This photo is over 69 years old.
Love Heather UK XXXXXX
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Rori
"All I want for Christmas is to feel carefree and live my best life. Can't do it and keep DH healthy and happy at home. Sounds selfish, but tomorrow I am going to ask my VA social worker how to get started with getting DH placed in assisted living. Won't be easy, but nothing about dementia is. Home respite care is an option we already tried a couple years ago, and it didn't work for us, so I think this is next best step. Wish me luck." .
My oldest sister had to face this several years ago with her husband, its not easy by any means but you know when the time has come and there is no alternative. Biggest big hugs my dear friend.
Thank you for your kind thoughts regarding my daughter.p. I'm struggling, last night I only slept 3 1/2 hours. The end result may be moving her back here to OK. Lots of logistics involved in that but at this point that's the least of my worries.
Much !ove my friend,
Janetr OKC5 -
Rori, you are not being selfish. Every time my husband hears a story of someone with dementia or Alzheimer's, he asks me to promise him that I'll put him in a care home if he is too hard for me to care for. You are doing a good thing for both of you. You're not going to send him to Siberia or off on an ice floe, just to a place where he will be safe and cared for and where you can come to see him.Suziq. You are so wise to take the time to become debt free and find what you want before making huge decisions. Your post was very insightful. Years ago when I was working full time, on my way to work, I'd drive past a woman walking her dog and wanted desperately to be her. Now I walk my dogs every morning with a huge sense of gratitude that I am finally able to do that thing I wanted so much. Now I'm finished with my breakfast meeting with all of you and will be meeting my friend and walking the dogs for about two hours. Barbie in NW WA 7 -
Today, I picked up half a pineapple ... I've had a craving for fruit lately!! I love pineapple and ate it as my afternoon snack ... and, of course, had my usual allergic reaction to it. I was hoping I might skip that step.
I know better than to eat pineapple, but I love it!!
However, I think I'll stick to the pears and mangoes for the rest of the week.
M in Oz
Machka, I am so glad I do not have reactions to pineapples! It's one of my favorites. I grow them in my garden from the tops of the fruit. They take about 2-3 years (naturally) and are rather small, but love when I get to eat one from the garden.2 -
Janet - It’s not selfish at all ! Never feel that way! We all get to an age or point we just can’t be forever caregivers due to our own health. My Mom passed was actually a relief (we felt bad about feeling that way at first but then realized it was too much on us all). Dad having dementia,work related head injury, y heart attacks could no longer care for her. I was pregnant (didn’t know it) was becoming unable to get out of bed 🛌...got pregnant with JR after loosing that pregnancy months after! Hubby was caring for so many of us starting to effect his blood pressure. Mom was becoming more y more immobile worse health since Ibama care took away the medication that kept her mobile y feeling good. Daughter school was taking all her time she was prying me sick out of bed to drive her to care for my Mom with me barely able to help. Parents with kids with Autism to Head injuries fall into this boat too have to look into assisted living or other arrangements.
He’ll adjust you can visit for meals to watch movies in assistant living. You got to care for yourself. Caregivers tend to pass first a lot from not caring for ones self. If it doesn’t work out look into an in home nurse.
Amber Tx
No clue on meals feeling like fish. Will see weight up 1.2 lbs since yesterday (attacked cookies 🍪)3 -
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Hi.. I hope to join the group. I want to lose 20 pounds and need motivation to do this. I have been having trouble sleeping and this is interfering with exercise and diet. I wish you all the best with your goal of weight loss.3
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Welcome Rosi all newcomers (Women only) are fully welcome! (This is a safe zone)
Sleep troubles try lowering lights an hour or two early drink or eat a light meal like a warm chicken on a salad or egg whites y a slice of toast with a zero cal or low cal drink. Warm shower unplug relax . If need be they make teas to relax Celestial Brand sleepy time tea. Just do your best pre plan meals cut yourself some slack if it goes over a few times more your weeks total than day.
Amber Tx3 -
SuziQ: I so admire your positive, matter-of-fact attitude to life. It keeps you open to opportunities along the road, which will lead to better things because you are looking for them.1
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Did all yesterday's to-do's except make rum balls and KJ's adult fudge. Did a bonus load and a half of laundry
Wild Rivers Symphony with North Coast Chorale was stupendous. Especially moving was the presentation of “Snowman”. Joyful, gleeful, then finally haunting, piercingly, poignant music stayed with me all night and into this morning. Thought of you, Heather, as they flew over the Pavilion. Sniffling as I copy this link. Chills and tears.
If you have a half hour, here's the whole thing:
Thought of Penny throughout the performance. How two small towns totaling fewer than 15,000 people can field a chorale of 80+ voices and an excellent symphony orchestra amazes me. Guess my big city preconcieved notions are showing ;} Just call me Martha.
KJ Miguelito is more than fine, his smiles are contagious! Hugs and reassurance to your DD.
NYKaren Great attitude about the long journey, even better chosing to stay away from workplace negativity. Brava!
Karen in VA Whew!
You're right, who knew? You and others have said it: we must be our advocate this as all health related matters. Well done!
Debby in VA thanks for checking in. Sending some calming energy your way.
Lanette :crying: for nastiness in gardener's program. Gardens are supposed to be beautiful places of healing and peace. ((hugs))
Katla I put my glass ornaments in big clear vases on bookshelves, except for a treasured few (antique Japanese lanterns, potpourris, garland, bell and pine cone) that I risk on the upper branches because that is just exactly where they should go.. Hoping that with the tree on a table, Shadow will “look but not touch!” ;} We had an aluminum tree, blue flood light and all blue and silver ornaments back then. Loved seeing it from outside with the picture window fogged around the edges. A magical, mysterious, fairyland Christmas tree.
Katla, Lanette and others, thanks for the caution about rolling up windows, but having Ensure on hand for those special cases when I just can't walk away. It's against the law here to hand food/water/money out the window to beggars, but know of nothing preventing me from walking it over to someone in obviously dire need.
Lanette your “grumpy old lady, packing...” reminded me of one of my favorite Idaho bumper stickers: “I'm out of estrogen, and.... I'm ARMED,.” :laugh: the wreath, noticed the new handle, thanks for explaining. I too got a friend request from a guy who had lot's of cute twenty something friends. Yick. :noway: Deny!
Luci in WNC, sorry, but there is absolutely no circumstance in which I can imagine using a vacuum to be fun, even a new one
Rebecca “when I do vacuum...” LOL! When I do, I see less dog hair and fewer spruce needles, for about 30 seconds. Foo.
Speaking of vacuum cleaners, does anyone have a recommendation for a vacuum cleaner that can cope with both long guard hairs and fluffy soft undercoat? [shudder]
Flea (and Machka) experience instead of things. Amen! Is there an event to which you can take your mother for Christmas gift?
Michele, about one portal for health care, yes it would be more efficent, but I shudder at the opportunity for abuse by hackers or even well-intentioned government. :} Bowling your “way”, WTG galfriend!
Allie postive vibes, rest well.
Machka
for the volcano tragedy. Don't watch much news so missed it here. It stinks to be allergic to something you love. Hope you're feeling better now. “rrolling my eyes so hard they almost lodged in my forehead “ had me on the floor laughing! Beautiful pics, I can almost smell those roses.
Welcome back Sashaspiegel, sounds like a good plan. Safe travels!
Rori, what everyone, especially Lisa, said. Greatly relieved you have come to this hard decision at last. Wishing you all the patience, persistence, professional help, self care you'll need and all the luck the heavens can give. (((hugs held extra long)))
Okie what a great gift your mom and stepdad gave your DGM! Jealous of your weekend in the Bay Area.
SuziQ I'm so with you about organic sugar or honey in moderation vs artificial sweeteners. Wow, your story about your co-worker, what a blessing you returned to her. You inspire me. Hoping the new year brings you joy and prosperity and fun. ((hugs)) Have been trying to grow pineapples from tops indoors, but the leaves always dry out and the stems rot. Any tips?
Janetr You're right about logistics being the least of it. Sending strength, hope and hugs.
Amber ((hugs)) for all the losses and challenges you've faced. Admiring your strength and humor.
Weclome Roseabc123!
Gratitude day #26 form of expression: surprised to find it's writing, especially here with you dear ones. This, from someone who gave herself a writer's block that prevented her from penning more than a post card for over ten years. SMH. :laugh:
Today's “todo”s are carried over from yesterday (make KJ's adult fudge, rum balls) and earlier this week (light the tree). New: chiro appt, make cheese ball for tonight's girl's movie night (Christmas Chronicles), finish laundry. Need to make fudge first as it has to set, BUT Joe just announced he's taking Shadow to the beach so I can light and trim the tree while she can't watch. Ack! Jump up and do what you can, Barbara!
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Word for 2019: "GOOD" good attitude, good food, good times, good choices, good enough, feel good, GOOD! Word for December: get up and go outside EVERY day!
daily: steps=6418 vits=6.5 log=9 CI<CO=7 CI<250<CO=2 Tumble 5/10=6 mfp=9 AF=7 outside=4
wkly: BBBorTC=3/3 rx=2 dance=1 pack walk=1
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Kate UK: Great to see you again. I’m happy you’re back.
Terri: I love your photos. Keep them coming!!! :bigsmile:
Machka: Sad for those who died in New Zealand and for the smoke from fires in NSW and Queensland. Delighted you have good air quality. We had smoke from fires in Canada, Montana, California & parts of Oregon a few years ago. In fact, smoke seemed to be coming from everywhere. We mostly stayed inside our house. The air conditioner did a fair job of air quality control inside. Outside the air was awful and full of smoke. It caused many people breathing trouble. :ohwell:
SusiQ: I agree with Karen’s comment that you sound strong and resilient. I’m delighted you have one close friend near you. It is a blessing.
Heather: I love your family photo from waaaay back. :bigsmile:
(((Janetr))): Being a mom is a lifetime job. Good luck with your daughter’s issues. I hope you will be able to get needed rest as you work through this situation.
Rori: barbiecat is absolutely right. You are not being selfish. You are doing the best thing possible to keep your DH safe and secure.
Roseabc123: Welcome! Stop by often to give and get encouragement & support. :flowerforyou:
Regarding friends, I feel very lucky. I have a few dear friends from teaching days, although we haven’t been able to get together recently. We can and do stay in touch online. I am lucky to count people in this group as virtual friends, plus friends in the neighborhood, yoga class friends & horseback riding friends. :bigsmile:
My husband is struggling with health issues and seems to be making progress now that he is taking chair-yoga classes. These are geared for people with physical health issues. His classes are twice a week, as are mine. I am able to go with him to his evening class. His morning class conflicts with my yoga class & I don’t plan to give my yoga class up. :noway:
I am grateful for the internet this morning. Yesterday evening I got a call from DD. She wanted a recipe for biscuits that she remembered from childhood. I opened my cookbook, photographed the recipe she needed and sent the photo to her. I felt connected, and not thousands of miles away, almost like magic.
Katla in Beautiful NW Oregon
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You've probably all heard about the New Zealand volcano ... it's all over the news here.
https://www.abc.net.au/news/2019-12-10/new-zealand-volcano-eruption-white-island-australian-victims/11782860
Machka in Oz
I have been thinking about you. Such a tragedy. Is it affecting your air quality?
Felicia
Willamette Valley, OR1 -
okiewoman510 wrote: »OregonMother wrote: »okiewoman510 wrote: »Michelle - If there are 8 people and you have to buy each one 3 gifts (assuming you are one of the 8 and don’t buy for yourself), wouldn’t everyone have to buy 21 gifts? 7 people X 3 gifts? Where does the 10 come in? Further assuming Vince doesn’t shop for his own 21 gifts he has to give, wouldn’t you have to shop for 42 gifts, your 21 and his 21?
Okie in the TX Hill Country
Ditto. My blood pressure and stress level was raising just thinking about it. I am almost done gift giving for good ( My husband has not even touched the gifts I got him last year. He found them the other day and apologized) -- not one person in my life needs one more thing. I am with Machka. I want to invest in experiences. So this Christmas my husband and I are taking my youngest son to Mexico, and I will just give my oldest sons cash and a token "I am thinking of you" gift. I still need to decide what to do for my mom. I would love to get her flowers/plant, but her cat eats them. She keeps saying not to get her anything. She is 79 and trying to clear stuff out. When I was there last week, she sent me home with a couple things she is not using anymore.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR
When my Grandmother was alive money would get tight for her around holidays. My Mom and Stepdad used to pay a couple of months of her utility bills for her as her main Christmas gift.
Okie in the TX Hill Country
That's a great idea! I am sending my two older boys up there for Christmas with groceries, and they have said they will cook for her while they are there. She is finding it more and more difficult to wait on others. It's been a hard transition for her because she has always been the one doing for everyone else.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR7 -
cityjaneLondon wrote: »The little boy on the right is my cousin Keith, who has recently had the serious head injury. He is now a 71/72 year old man with a long beard.( In my memory he is still around 12/13) . I am the baby. The other three cousins are from my dad's elder sister. Keith ended up with four younger siblings. This photo is over 69 years old.
Love Heather UK XXXXXX
OMG! I recognized you right away, even before I read which one you are. You haven't changed a bit! Seriously. Your face is the same cute thing. Such an adorable picture.
Flea
Willamette Valley, OR3 -
Katla - Yes! The internet is magic. Helps no end with all those warm and fuzzies .
We are both coming down with some lurgy or other. DH is more throat etc and I am more achey and general 'not right'. Both sneezing. We have decided to give our last Swing dancing class a miss. Feel bad, but we are simply not up to it. I have posted a message on the Facebook page. The class starts again in January in a new venue nearer us, but it conflicts with our French club, so we will only be able to go once a fortnight.
We managed to excavate the tree from the garage loft and find lights and extension. DH assembled the tree. Not decorated yet.I went out in the WIND to buy food. Horrible weather, but I did deliver a couple of good things to the charity shop.
Tomorrow is a HUGE Amazon day. Masses of stuff arriving!!! In the evening, if we are up to it, we will go to the French Circle. I'm guessing we won't be.
My youngest nephew and DSIL have been in Cambridge where he is being interviewed for a place. The school says he is a Maths genius.
He will be first person of my brother's family to go to uni. My huge extended family is very home orientated. All that generation have chickened out of taking up places they were qualified for. My clever niece had too much anxiety and self harming. They are so close knit and parochial as a family. I hope he makes it and breaks the trend.
Trying to get my DB to commit to a visit.
We have presents to exchange. I suggested no presents, but they had already bought us something. I bought them some Sussex sparkling wine this afternoon.
I'm enjoying just chillin'.
Very easy TV watching tonight. We have an election on Thursday. 
Oh boy!
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx3
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