Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

nonoelmo wrote: »

Confession
This thread is the only reason I'm still here. I had gained ~2 - 3 lbs and since I'm short it showed. I've lost it and probably would have changed my mind about taking it down another few pounds (still well within the middle of the healthy range for my height). I'm glad I've stayed. I've now lost five pounds and today I could tell! My waist is down 1.5 inches! I have somewhere around 1 - 4 pounds to go (depends on fluctuation and how my body feels. I know from my early 20's that when I get more than 7 - 8 pounds lighter than I am now I tended to get sick often even though I was still "healthy" by the charts.) I've made some good changes and want to thank you all for being yourselves and being supportive and great!

That's wonderful to hear, congratulations! Keep it up. Even when I was totally off the wagon in the last few weeks, this thread kept me coming back daily. It's definitely a great source of support!

52cardpickup wrote: »

kellienw335 wrote: »

Confession: I don’t know what my goal weight should be. I’m 5’9 and currently weigh 221. (That’s a big step since I’ve never admitted that to anyone!) I had the goal set at 200, but didn’t feel like that was low enough. It’s now set at 190, but now I don’t feel like that is low enough either. I weighed 180 the year before my son was born and felt awesome. I weighed 160 when I graduated from high school (and thought I was fat). I know I’ll probably find a weight where I feel comfortable and don’t have to kill myself in the gym every day. I understand all the numbers. Just not sure if I can get back to the 160s mainly because I don’t know if I have the dedication. Looking for some advice from some of you. That seems like a lot of numbers and rambling.

I'm 5'9" and currently 134. I was originally looking to get down to 135, but I'm now looking to pack on some weight again in the form of muscle. Not sure if I want to do that in the form of a bulk or a recomp. I'd be happy to send you some progress photos, if that would help you.

My biggest regret is not weight training more consistently in my weight loss, if I'm being honest.

Eventually, once goals are close to being met or have already passed, this is what it will come down to. If you want to be skinny as a rail, fine. Diet and cardio all day, every day. But unless you are naturally blessed, if you want a fitness magazine cover body, you HAVE to do some strength training.

lisan1209 wrote: »

I got really drunk on Saturday and ended up eating almost 2 bags of chips I feel guilty even today about it. I did exercise for about 2 hours yesterday though. How long do you think it will take to get back on track?

The second you make a good choice, you're back on track. You don't need to do damage control, you don't need to torture yourself. Log it and move on, life happens!

I have a whole drawer dedicated to supplements and protein. Currently its filled with:

A multivitamin,
Biotin,
BCAA caps,
L- Arginine,
L-Carnitine,
L-Theanine,
Omega 3,
L-Glutamine,
a "power pak" that's supposed to help me get to sleep although I haven't used that one,
white kidney bean extract
ISO Dymatize Protein Powder
Body Tech Protein Powder
DOT FIT Protein Powder
Quest Protein Bars
Premier Protein shakes
Amino Acid Energy Blend
Max Amino (I think thats what its called.)

Oh and I just got a tea in the mail that's supposed to help with my metabolism. I don't take ALL of them but I CAN say I've tried them all. And I'm contemplating adding another supplement to the mix. It's called Animal Pak. The only reason I want to add this one is to get rid of the others.

Tubbs216 wrote: »

Susieq_1994 wrote: »

heartsstarspll wrote: »

I can't believe I am admitting this... but I have talked about more sensitive things in this thread so WTH. I had this problem until I was about 13. It seemed to stop when I was put on Prozac for my depression. I don't know if that's what stopped it, but even when they changed my medicine it was no longer an issue. I can't help but to think it had something to do with it.

I seriously can't believe it either, but I'll bring my confession to the game as well. I feel quite bad about some of the slightly judgmental posts from parents (towards their kids) about bedwetting issues. I had the same issue, and it didn't go away until I was FIFTEEN. Yes, I said FIF. TEEN. It was embarrassing and horrible for me, and thinking that my parents would have been ashamed or upset about it or talked about it like the ones who mentioned it above makes me even more embarrassed. Nobody wets their bed on purpose. :-/

Awwe, sorry if anything I said made you feel bad. That must have been horrible for you.
I can say with assurance that my son didn't wet the bed on purpose, but once we had him take responsibility for it, the problem was gone within a couple of weeks. We were on the verge of taking him to the doctor to see if there was a medical reason for it. My husband was a late betwetter too, so I was prepared for him to be late, but as a parent it can be frustrating and tiring when you're constantly changing sheets.

It was definitely awful, but I always took the responsibility of cleaning up after myself from the time I was 8 or 9 years old. In fact, by the time I was 12, my parents didn't actually know I was still wetting the bed, because it was just too embarrassing to admit it. I'd sneak around early in the morning to wash my sheets/clothes/etc., and just not tell anyone that it happened.

I actually did have a medical reason for it--My bladder has a smaller capacity than normal, and so I have to use the bathroom more often than most people. Luckily, I'm quite a light sleeper now, so I can easily wake up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night.

m1xm0d3 wrote: »

52cardpickup wrote: »

kellienw335 wrote: »

Confession: I don’t know what my goal weight should be. I’m 5’9 and currently weigh 221. (That’s a big step since I’ve never admitted that to anyone!) I had the goal set at 200, but didn’t feel like that was low enough. It’s now set at 190, but now I don’t feel like that is low enough either. I weighed 180 the year before my son was born and felt awesome. I weighed 160 when I graduated from high school (and thought I was fat). I know I’ll probably find a weight where I feel comfortable and don’t have to kill myself in the gym every day. I understand all the numbers. Just not sure if I can get back to the 160s mainly because I don’t know if I have the dedication. Looking for some advice from some of you. That seems like a lot of numbers and rambling.

I'm 5'9" and currently 134. I was originally looking to get down to 135, but I'm now looking to pack on some weight again in the form of muscle. Not sure if I want to do that in the form of a bulk or a recomp. I'd be happy to send you some progress photos, if that would help you.

My biggest regret is not weight training more consistently in my weight loss, if I'm being honest.

Eventually, once goals are close to being met or have already passed, this is what it will come down to. If you want to be skinny as a rail, fine. Diet and cardio all day, every day. But unless you are naturally blessed, if you want a fitness magazine cover body, you HAVE to do some strength training.

Serious question here: What if you don't want that? I'm 47 - the only people who see me naked is my husband and my dog (she judges me - she recently lost 15% of her bodyweight and is smug about it). I live in a climate where I'm covered up a lot of the time. All I really want is to look ok in my clothes. I feel like MFP is often all about lifting weights, and I'm just not interested in doing that.

JPW1990 wrote: »

brandi9172 wrote: »

Confession: I low carb it. I don't care if everyone else on the planet says CICO is what works, it doesn't work that way for me. I limit between 80-100 carbs nearly every day except a carby splurge meal on Sunday....I've lost almost 30 lbs so far in two months. For 6 months before that I could barely lose anything. So now I get pretty grouchy whenever I see the threads of people asking about low carb and everyone jumps on their case...so I only send people emails instead of actually commenting, lol.
Ps...I love this thread!

Not judging, but, I've been keto for 15 years. I hate when people insist CICO "doesn't work" on lc. LC is CICO, they are the same thing. You can do better low carb because you don't get cravings or you're less hungry or you're IR and that changes your CO, but you are still using CICO. CICO isn't a thing you do. CICO is a math formula. Period.

This is the kind of misinformation that causes those threads to be hijacked in the first place. You lose weight if you have a deficit, your CI is lower than your CO. You gain weight if you have an excess, your CI is higher than your CO. LC is the tool you are using to keep your CI lower than your CO, nothing more, nothing less.

Yeah, that kind of response is pretty much the reason why I don't say anything, lol.
I understand math...I understand CICO...I eat at a deficit...I understand that is why I lose weight. For ME, I lose weight at a higher/faster rate with my carbs being lower. It just works that way for me. Simply doing CICO without concern as to what my intake was had my weight loss at about 1.5 to 2 lbs a month. Not happy with that obviously. I decided to look into other options, and after some reworking...that's how it works for me.



ETA: Your response didn't upset me...and I hope mine didn't come across as snarky!

rachywachy13 wrote: »

Laurend224 wrote: »

I can't do any type of jumping jacks or running without my belly smacking the top of my thighs. It's really embarrassing. Going to talk to a surgeon about a panniculectomy. Three kids and yo-yoing between 140 and 252 a few times wrecked my belly.

I can't do jumping jacks without peeing !!!

Back squats and peeing go hand in hand! And box jumps! hahaha

Tubbs216 wrote: »

m1xm0d3 wrote: »

52cardpickup wrote: »

kellienw335 wrote: »

Confession: I don’t know what my goal weight should be. I’m 5’9 and currently weigh 221. (That’s a big step since I’ve never admitted that to anyone!) I had the goal set at 200, but didn’t feel like that was low enough. It’s now set at 190, but now I don’t feel like that is low enough either. I weighed 180 the year before my son was born and felt awesome. I weighed 160 when I graduated from high school (and thought I was fat). I know I’ll probably find a weight where I feel comfortable and don’t have to kill myself in the gym every day. I understand all the numbers. Just not sure if I can get back to the 160s mainly because I don’t know if I have the dedication. Looking for some advice from some of you. That seems like a lot of numbers and rambling.

I'm 5'9" and currently 134. I was originally looking to get down to 135, but I'm now looking to pack on some weight again in the form of muscle. Not sure if I want to do that in the form of a bulk or a recomp. I'd be happy to send you some progress photos, if that would help you.

My biggest regret is not weight training more consistently in my weight loss, if I'm being honest.

Eventually, once goals are close to being met or have already passed, this is what it will come down to. If you want to be skinny as a rail, fine. Diet and cardio all day, every day. But unless you are naturally blessed, if you want a fitness magazine cover body, you HAVE to do some strength training.

Serious question here: What if you don't want that? I'm 47 - the only people who see me naked is my husband and my dog (she judges me - she recently lost 15% of her bodyweight and is smug about it). I live in a climate where I'm covered up a lot of the time. All I really want is to look ok in my clothes. I feel like MFP is often all about lifting weights, and I'm just not interested in doing that.

I'm with you, honestly. I'm good with "not fat"; I don't have any desire to look fit and muscular. Like, yeah, women who are look good and all but for me it is so not worth the effort. I'm 5'4" and at my usual maintenance weight of about 118 lbs I have some ab definition etc just because my body fat is low enough, without having to lift and bulk/cut or whatever. I'm not "skinny as a rail" as one of the quoted posters said or anything, but I look all right.

I mean...I'm not judging other people's fitness/body goals, but I often have felt judged on MFP (not on this thread, obviously) for not having those super-fit muscle-building goals myself.

Tubbs216 wrote: »

m1xm0d3 wrote: »

52cardpickup wrote: »

kellienw335 wrote: »

Confession: I don’t know what my goal weight should be. I’m 5’9 and currently weigh 221. (That’s a big step since I’ve never admitted that to anyone!) I had the goal set at 200, but didn’t feel like that was low enough. It’s now set at 190, but now I don’t feel like that is low enough either. I weighed 180 the year before my son was born and felt awesome. I weighed 160 when I graduated from high school (and thought I was fat). I know I’ll probably find a weight where I feel comfortable and don’t have to kill myself in the gym every day. I understand all the numbers. Just not sure if I can get back to the 160s mainly because I don’t know if I have the dedication. Looking for some advice from some of you. That seems like a lot of numbers and rambling.

I'm 5'9" and currently 134. I was originally looking to get down to 135, but I'm now looking to pack on some weight again in the form of muscle. Not sure if I want to do that in the form of a bulk or a recomp. I'd be happy to send you some progress photos, if that would help you.

My biggest regret is not weight training more consistently in my weight loss, if I'm being honest.

Eventually, once goals are close to being met or have already passed, this is what it will come down to. If you want to be skinny as a rail, fine. Diet and cardio all day, every day. But unless you are naturally blessed, if you want a fitness magazine cover body, you HAVE to do some strength training.

Serious question here: What if you don't want that? I'm 47 - the only people who see me naked is my husband and my dog (she judges me - she recently lost 15% of her bodyweight and is smug about it). I live in a climate where I'm covered up a lot of the time. All I really want is to look ok in my clothes. I feel like MFP is often all about lifting weights, and I'm just not interested in doing that.

I agree with all of this. I feel like there's a lot of pressure from a lot of people to jump on the weight lifting bandwagon for aesthetic reasons, and a lot of people throw out "LIFT HEAVY" as the be all and end all of exercise without considering other people's interest/disinterest/goals/physical limitations/aspirations/time/what have you.

This morning there was a thread started by a person who was depressed because they weighed in at 501 pounds, and one of the first suggestions was that they start squatting and deadlifting. Seriously? SMDH. I get the feeling that people don't read the original post, they just respond with an automatic blurb.

On the other hand, weight lifting (OR resistance training, and THAT IS THE KEY!) is great for reasons aside from aesthetics... it strengthens bones and bone density, aids in living independently into old age, etc. It doesn't mean that you have to squat 300 lbs and bench press 1000, or look like Arnold, or stand in front of the mirror kissing your muscles and taking selfies. I just believe that an exercise routine should be balanced like an "eating routine" (don'twanttosaydiet) should be balanced.

sorry if this came across as judge-y *hangs head in shame and slinks off*