Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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pofoster21 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I know you hate people apologising for asking you questions, @Susieq_1994, but I only do because I feel like that stereotypical ignorant privileged white girl, and I don't want to offend.
So...there is that - robe, I'm sorry, I don't know the word for it - the long black one with the head and face covering. But it gets to 60C in Oman, right? So, um...how do the women not die of heatstroke?
That's alright, it doesn't offend me!
It's called an abaya, and most of them don't cover the head or face--They're basically just black dresses. I wear one myself. The headscarf and niqab (face covering) are all separate pieces. There is one that has a head covering attached as well, but these are mostly worn by older ladies, as it's just an older style.
That said, I wear the abaya and headscarf. I don't find it hot, personally--I actually find it cooler than when I wear "regular" clothing like skirts and blouses because the abaya tends to be very lightweight. It's also because I've been covering for a very long time--If I didn't cover, I'd probably feel hotter due to the sun burning my skin!
My sister wears a niqab, and according to her, it did feel very hot in the first week, but she says it doesn't feel like that anymore now that she's used to it.
Just an add-on: The abaya isn't a must, Islamically. Women are encouraged not to wear very bright colors for the purpose of attracting men (yes, men have a rule that involves not attracting women--it isn't a sexist rule), but you're allowed to wear whatever color you like, as long as you're covered properly.
I prefer the abaya in Saudi Arabia because everyone wears it (I've seen like... two people so far that didn't... Even the non-Muslims wear it!) and I just don't want to stand out. In Oman, I often wear regular colored dresses, skirts, blouses, etc. Unless I'm lazy. Because the abaya is really easy to just throw on and be done.
Can I ask some follow ups? You say your sister wears a niqab; was that something she decided to do as an adult? And how did she come to that decision? And are you wearing your regular clothes under the abaya? Or is it like a "dress".
Thanks for educating me!
Yes, she decided to start wearing it two years ago. Nobody else in our family wears it and she's unmarried, so nobody influenced her in that decision--in Islam there are some scholars (I refuse to count the Sheikh Google people...) who believe the niqab is obligatory, and others who believe it is simply recommended based on evidence from the Qur'an and hadith. After doing some studying, my sister chose to go with the scholars who believe it's obligatory, and began covering her face from then on.
You do have to wear clothing under an abaya--it's basically a cover, but the material is too thin to wear with nothing but underwear underneath, for example. I usually wear jeans and a tank top underneath it--since we have to remain covered, it's best to have your legs covered in case the wind blows it up, for example. But I would wear the same under a dress, actually, although I would probably wear cotton pants underneath in that case.
Oh, can I ask if you have one of these? I've always wondered if it was hard to swim in the modest suits, because of the extra fabric:
Nope, I don't own one--those suits actually don't meet the fardh (obligatory) requirements for modest clothing for women, especially because they cling when they're wet, and the shape of the body is revealed, which is the major requirement of covering.
If I'm going to swim, I swim in an all-women's facility with a modest swimsuit (even women aren't supposed to reveal nakedness to other women) or just jump into the ocean fully clothed because that's fun.
Am I the only one who loves being naked? I don't know why but I do! Could be because ( I know I say this a lot but it's true) I really have no shame...haters going to hate!
I hate being naked. I hate skin touching skin. And I totally hate when running any part of my body touching any other part. I tried running in a sports bra ONCE. Never again. Yes I am a prude (I believe I have said this before).
I hate being naked too. Even in the shower. I get dressed as soon as humanly possible. I put on undies right after a shower.
Hmm not being naked in the shower might be hard...but I dress immediately as well. Or put a robe on. I don't like to be without undies either.
Is it T-8 now? Or 7?
I know it's impossible to be unnaked in the shower, but I get in and get out with the quickness.
Yesterday was T-7 but now, it's T-6 or 5 depending on when you're reading this.
T-5 you must be so excited! I hope you and the hubby have everything all straightened out so you can just enjoy yourselves!
I assume you know I was kidding on the shower (is hard to tell sometimes in this forum and I don't want you thinking I was being sarcastic).
Because I'm so incredibly sarcastic, I just assume everyone is too. No worries.
We are VERY excited and cannot wait. I will elaborate on this later.
Well actually I am.... Extremely. But I have been told by many people that they find me rude or abrupt in texting because I am often short in my replies and my humor does not come across. I use the phone or iPad often in replying here which means I can sound short. And I don't want folks in here to think I am a b***h. Which I can be but trying not to be in here!
I am now taking you off my list of 'people to be cautious about offending' and just be myself!
I'm glad. You SHOULD be yourself, after all, everyone else is already taken.
I've been told on many occasion that when people first meet me, they think I'm a b!^@# because I don't make eye contact, and I make really sarcastic and snide comments. I like to tell people I'm fluent in song lyrics, movie/TV quotes, and sarcasm. It really is hard to convey tone or sarcasm in text, but I don't concern myself too much with what other people think usually.
Unless they like me, then I'm all, "WHOO HOO!!!"
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pofoster21 wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »WestCoastJo82 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »
and we have mixmode..I can't remember the correct way to spell it with numbers and such!
Isn't @m1xm0d3 a girl?
I thought he was the single dad cyclist...? Am I confusing/combining people?
Yes, he is the single dad cyclist.
I confess since he rarely talks about 'male things' (I am sure because of us) I think he is male as well. And I am SURE he will be thrilled we ever questioned it. We love you @m1xm0d3! Don't leave us!
This cracked me up... I will forever think of him as mixmode now!
I too hope he's not offended and leaves! I know he's busy at work, but I hope he appears again. Also, I "read" letters as numbers sometimes, so "mixmode" is exactly how I read it, also.
You got it! I am thick skinned so no I won't leave until something like graphic discussions on enemas starts becoming the norm around here or something.
Eeew I think I'd be leaving as well!
Ditto! @Lois_1989 I read your post a few pages back about the exercise and activity issues you have with your SO. It's great that you have each other and he's willing to be active! However, balance is important. Right now, I don't have any suggestions on that topic, but I'm wondering if you can spur your weight loss with you diet instead. Do you both eat the same things? Is he helpful and flexible as far as that goes? IF may work for you, but it seems to me that you are active enough, but maybe some food intolerances are causing issues? IDK. Just trying to help!
I have been thinking the same thing recently, but I wasn't sure if something like that would affect weight loss?
Oh, my SO is very difficult to cater for. Don't get me wrong, he has improved greatly in the last 7 years, but there is no way in God's green earth I will get him to eat a salad. Or chicken. Or fruit. Or fish. Generally there will have to be some sort of sauce involved. He is willing to try bless him, particularly in the last year or so because I've been getting upset about it.
I'm not going to promote a certain way of eating or anything, but I've been tested for intolerances, tested negatively, but STILL feel better when I eliminate them from my diet. After a huge dietary overhaul about 3 years ago I feel like a new person and my entire shape has changed (along with lifting).
It's trial and error. Sticking with something long enough to see if it actually works is the hard part.
And, other than fruit and vegetables, there are NO foods that my husband and I eat the same of. He's meat, potatoes, bread, tortillas, butter, cookies, cake, etc. I'm a pescatarian and it's been quite a transition, but we eat completely different meals. He's responsible for him; I'm responsible for me. I know that seems bad to some people and it doesn't work for everyone, but my personal health is more important than upholding a traditional role in marriage. Also, I DO cook for him. He buys the food and lets me know what he wants and I make it. I also still make large family dinners.
(tried to do spell check on "pescatarian" and it tried to change it to "caesarian")
I do this for my husband when I'm making things that I know he doesn't like or thinks are too weird/exotic/overly spicy. It's not a big deal for me, since I enjoy cooking, and generally he isn't picky at all so I can pretty much throw anything together for him if the meal I want to make for myself is time-consuming or elaborate.
Other than that, we do pretty much eat the same meals all the time--I just increase his portions. 0 -
I counted out 15 potato chips and threw the rest in the garbage. I got them out the garbage to eat more. I am so ashamed.0
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It just doesn't look good on me. I don't like ponytails either so at some point the long hair has to go I guess. The main issue I think is that I think it makes my double chin (there's some loose skin in there) more noticeable.
Just bleh.
Sometimes seriously it's totally depressing to have done all that work and realize that I'll never like the way I look...
I'm going to guarantee you 100% that you are being overly critical of yourself (just like we all tend to do). If you posted a picture to show us (not that you need to, of course) I bet you look great! All fresh and sassy for summer.0 -
holliebevineau wrote: »I counted out 15 potato chips and threw the rest in the garbage. I got them out the garbage to eat more. I am so ashamed.
Do as the peanut butter addicts do and drown them in water prior to trashing them. Soggy chips = no bueno!
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I guess you can try portioning out all of the chips at once and separating them into little baggies. I do this with cookies because two cookies will usually weigh more than what it says on the serving label.holliebevineau wrote: »I counted out 15 potato chips and threw the rest in the garbage. I got them out the garbage to eat more. I am so ashamed.
Don't beat yourself up about it.
@LBuehrle8 Because it is delicious.
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47Jacqueline wrote: »I'm currently using my building's gym due to a fluctuating schedule. For some reason, the people who use this gym don't seem to be aware of any gym etiquette and two out of the four times I've been there now, someone has stepped over me while I am working to get to a different part of the gym.
So, granted it's a small gym, but I cannot fathom a disregard for the fact that someone is lying on a mat with two 15 lb weights in her hands.
They stepped over you? Just exactly how small is the gym? Can they not walk around? That is very rude!0 -
I have been non-stop listening to the Sound of Music soundtrack at work. Non. Stop.0
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I just joined my first event ride by our local cycling organization RABA (Richmond Area Bicycling Association) to support their 'Bikes for Kids' program. Beyond excited!
http://www.heartofvabikefestival.org/0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »
Not sure if that was me, but I love them too. Freeze them for a bit and they're even better!Sorry I've been MIA friends, I've been busy at work and was on the go all weekend. I'm also super hungry right now... eating everything in sight! Should still be under goal for the day, assuming I eat the dinner that I have planned out.
BTW- thanks to whoever in this thread clued me into the Fiber One lemon bars. They are delicious. Now I just need some self-control so that I don't gobble them all down during TOM this week. Yikes!
Ooh maybe I'll freeze one of my Fiber One Cheesecake Caramel bars & see what it tastes like?
Frozen lemon bars? ooohhh. I'll have to do that tomorrow!0 -
This is not a confession and I don't care because I'm SUPER excited - my passport came in the mail today woo hoo!!!!
(For those unaware I've never left the country and I'm headed to London in August!!)
You're going to have such a great time! I'm really excited for you - London is fantastic 0 -
Edited because I changed my mind.0
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I just joined my first event ride by our local cycling organization RABA (Richmond Area Bicycling Association) to support their 'Bikes for Kids' program. Beyond excited!
http://www.heartofvabikefestival.org/
Which of the races (how many miles) are you doing? What a great cause.0 -
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Goodness, what a weekend! This time next week, I could possibly be lying on a beautiful beach in Florida sipping a mimosa. I will be thinking of you all.
Friday night the husband and I went to Outback for dinner. I was not thrilled about this because I didn't think I had enough calories for Outback because I always get the Alice Springs Chicken with fries. I decided to order the chicken, but subbed fries with steamed broccoli, which, if you've being paying attention at all, you'll know how incredibly difficult that decision was. I regretted not getting the fries until I tasted the broccoli, it was delicious. I ended up only eating half my dinner, and I even got to share a piece of cheesecake with my love and STILL managed a deficit. Yay, me!
Saturday, my daughter and I were going to go shopping for Father's Day, my eye appointment, and get some last minute things for our trip, but we were also going to go to the candy shop for snacks so my husband wanted to come too. We ended up going to the candy shop first which was a big success except they were out of my favorite trail mix (luckily, I still had some left over from the last visit) so I got buttered toffee pecans (holy sweet, salty, and crunchy, they are amazing), and some dried apples. He got mostly candy.
From there, we went to the mall since that's where my appointment was to kill some time, but also so I wouldn't be late. We ended up in JCP looking at dresses. Husband picked out some he wanted me to try on (his questionable taste presented itself again) but nothing worked. We met up outside in the sitting area of the mall and he asked me if I wanted to kill some more time at Helzberg, and I said sure. Long story short, we ended up looking at diamond rings and bridal sets. I didn't think we were really going to purchase anything since he said we'd do shopping in Florida. Apparently, he'd been really thinking about that and decided if we were going to get one, he wanted to get it before we went so it could be sized and everything beforehand. I tried on several rings before falling head over heals for a 1/2 ct. princess cut in white gold. It was absolutely mesmerizing. I could not quit staring at it. That's pretty much how I felt the first time I laid eyes on him. Love at first sight. Anywho, I tried on a few different guards and finally found a perfect fit. The lady sized my finger (size 5 btw, I was pretty shocked by that) and I was off to my appointment.
My appointment took maybe 20 minutes so I went to Auntie Anne's for pretzels and a DP ( I know, I was doing to so good) and then headed back to Helzberg. Well, come to find out, he bought the ring while I was at my appointment and was finishing up paperwork and stuff when I got back. I was shocked, I didn't expect to get anything finished so soon. Turns out, the ring I picked out is a VVS2 (3rd from highest quality you can get) and almost completely colorless. It is also a limited edition diamond which I didn't know either. I just knew I loved the ring. When they were telling us all the stuff about the diamond, they said I have really good taste. I said, putting my arm around Husband, "Obviously!" He blushed. It was adorable. I hope to have my ring by Thursday, but I might have to wait until after we get back from Florida.
Now for stepdaughter news.
She was a no call, no show Saturday and Sunday. She DID tag him on facebook saying Happy Father's Day and I love you, but I guess she was just too busy to come by and give him the only thing he really wanted which was some of her time. He fell asleep last night while watching TV and then woke up and asked me what time it was. I said 8 or 9, and he said, really, no way. He then pulled out his phone to check for messages. Nothing. The look on his face was so painfully sad I started crying. I told him I was sorry she didn't come by, and he said, "I can't believe she didn't come over on Father's Day." To make matters worse, Rachael told me she thought it'd be fun having a sister, but it's not. I hate that she's treating them so badly.
I'm sad because she'll never know how incredible her dad is and that she seems to have zero interest in being a part of our amazing family. If it were up to me, I'd take the car back and tell her off, but I don't want to do anything that could hurt the chances of a future relationship. What I don't understand, is she found him, he didn't seek her out, she came to him. Why would she do that if she didn't want to have anything to do with him, just his money?!
I'm heartbroken for my loves. Why did this crap have to happen a week before we leave?!
TL; DR: I AM getting a new ring, I married an incredible man, and his daughter is a selfish little twit.
That is so sad, I am so sorry that you guys are going through this....
Did you do something about the cat? IMO you really need to get your house key from her too (I would take the car also, but like you said, that is more up to your husband).
Off topic, what does TL DR stand for?
I'm sure someone already answered this, but it stands for "too long; didn't read". In other words, to sum up an overly long post.
Not to keep beating a dead horse (sorry @pofoster21 ) but Mr. Mo messaged her last night and told her he needed to talk to her about her cat because we can't keep her anymore and that he HAS to have the money for her car tags by Thursday. Her response was "ok".
He told me ( I hope he sticks to it) that if she doesn't have the money to him by Thursday, we're taking the car. Apparently, he'd been thinking about that for a while, but I had no idea. When I see her, I will be asking for my key back. I got really upset last night (not angry) that she is putting in no effort to be a part of our family. It hurts my heart.
The "ok" would have done me in seriously0 -
I just joined my first event ride by our local cycling organization RABA (Richmond Area Bicycling Association) to support their 'Bikes for Kids' program. Beyond excited!
http://www.heartofvabikefestival.org/
Good for you!!!0 -
holliebevineau wrote: »I counted out 15 potato chips and threw the rest in the garbage. I got them out the garbage to eat more. I am so ashamed.
I have to crush chips and douse them in gasoline so I don't pick them out of the garbage.0 -
Good lord y'all have been chatty lol!
@Susieq_1994 I sincerely apologize if I've bothered you with my "colorful" vocabulary. It's a bad habit and I'm trying to nip it, so no more of that on this thread and I'll do my best to keep it from my feed as well!
Raelynn'sDaddy just left about an hour ago for NC and won't be back until Friday. I know I shouldn't really complain, as I know some wives have to deal with their spouses being gone for very long periods of time, but it's still makes me sad. When he's always home every night and then has to go away it just disrupts everything. I know he's helping a coworker and it's that much more money on the 15th of July, but I'd rather have him home with us. I'm worried about how Raelynn is going to be these next few days because the slightest bit of change in her day sends her into a total tailspin. I don't think it's set in that daddy's not going to be coming home tonight just yet.0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »
@MoHousdon I think you've been more than patient with her and I know it's hard because you don't want to interfere when your husband so desperately wants the relationship, but she's got a ton of growing up to do before she'll get it. In the meantime, that cat has gotta go.
I think all of you have been more than patient listening to and supporting me through all of this. That being said, I think Mr. Mo has had just about all he can take. The cat will be gone by Friday and my husband may be driving a 2015 Kia Optima when he gets back from vacation.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »Your kitchen sounds like mine! Tasteless and ugly. I do have all those shiny Samsung appliances (they didn't come with the apartment though, we bought those ourselves), but there's VERY little kitchen space, no air conditioner (you would only know how torturous this is if you lived in the Gulf. My kitchen settles at 30C/86F in the early afternoon), and there's hardly even space to turn around. The cabinets are shiny and plastic and cheap, and half of the doors were already broken when we moved in because they weren't installed properly.
Why isn't the kitchen air conditioned?0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »Edited because I changed my mind.
Oops! I had already quoted you and then saw you change your mind. I deleted your comment from my quote. (although I saw nothing wrong with your post?)0 -
It just doesn't look good on me. I don't like ponytails either so at some point the long hair has to go I guess. The main issue I think is that I think it makes my double chin (there's some loose skin in there) more noticeable.
Just bleh.
Sometimes seriously it's totally depressing to have done all that work and realize that I'll never like the way I look...
I'm going to guarantee you 100% that you are being overly critical of yourself (just like we all tend to do). If you posted a picture to show us (not that you need to, of course) I bet you look great! All fresh and sassy for summer.
I actually went outside to take some selfies and was looking at them and my first thought was 'who is this person?'. Second thought was that I look too much like my mom. Man I don't like selfies.0 -
@Lois_1989 your puppy was beautiful. I love her daintily crossed paws.0
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Do as the peanut butter addicts do and drown them in water prior to trashing them. Soggy chips = no bueno!holliebevineau wrote: »I counted out 15 potato chips and threw the rest in the garbage. I got them out the garbage to eat more. I am so ashamed.
Great minds think alike because that was the first thing that popped into my head!0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Ok guys last night I was dreaming about this thread.....like literally in the dream I was sitting here with my laptop reading and posting......
Done that. Except it was my tablet, not laptop.
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No sure if I should be proud or ashamed but I just ate my morning snack - melted mozz cheese on a plate! It made me think of this thread because I think that was something people shamefully confessed to eating at the very beginning of the thread, but I think it's a perfectly normal snack. I mean, people eat string cheese and have no issues with that as I snack, why should I be ashamed if I microwave it first? This made me think of other shamefully confessed foods that I also eat and have never thought twice about, like butter on saltines, or the oh so popular spoons of chocolate powder. I'm not sure if this means I have a good relationship with food, or if I have really strange ideas of snacks.0
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kellienw335 wrote: »Edited because I changed my mind.
Oops! I had already quoted you and then saw you change your mind. I deleted your comment from my quote. (although I saw nothing wrong with your post?)
Sorry! It wasn't a big deal. I originally said how much I liked the kitchen, but then saw the other posts about being overwhelmed by the color and decided that it really would be too much after awhile.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »yesterday afternoon i had plans to take my mom to see jurassic world. yesterday we also had a massive storm that dumped tons of rain. it was still slightly raining when i left the house to meet her at the theater. of course i'm perpetually late for everything and was probably driving a smidge too fast for the road conditions.
then i started to fishtail on the four lane highway, and i completely can't pull out of it, totally lose control, the car does a full 360 spin across the two lanes of oncoming traffic and i bounce off of the opposing guardrail.
by some tiny miracle, no one was coming when i crossed lanes. if anyone had been, i probably would have killed them and myself. so i'm on the wrong side of the road facing the wrong direction. see no one coming at me head on, and drive back over to the right side of the road to a stoplight. this dude pulls up in the lane next to me and is like ARE YOU OK?!?!! i'm all shaky and say yeah, i think so. light turns green and i drive on to the theater like everything is fine.
i meet up with my mom and i'm like, i think i might have just almost died, and explain the whole thing to her and she's like... well maybe you should slow the hell down. and i say no, this was REALLY scary, and she's just like yeah, i've done it before too. slow down.
thanks mom!
confession: my mother's total lack of empathy and concern really ticks me off sometimes....
Has she ever been in an accident like that? I have twice, once a guy hit me and I ended up facing on coming traffic, the other time my brand new car arrived at a scene where a car had just hit a deer. They were working on the guy with the car that was damaged on the side of the road, but didn't shut down the road. I hit the blood, did a 180 and then slide off the road. Cops saw the whole thing, saw I was fine, didn't come over. I also had a guy fall asleep and hit me after crossing the road.
Even if you were going too fast, its terrifying to be in a situation like that, but if she has never experienced it she might not understand. You are shaking like a leaf after and thanking God you are still alive.
Or ... she could be like my mom and apparently others on here without empathy. Not judging of course.
omg. that's just...wow.
she's been in a few accidents over the years (i've been in a few more), so i don't doubt she's been in a similar situation. my mom's just never been big on the emotions. 0 -
WestCoastJo82 wrote: »No sure if I should be proud or ashamed but I just ate my morning snack - melted mozz cheese on a plate! It made me think of this thread because I think that was something people shamefully confessed to eating at the very beginning of the thread, but I think it's a perfectly normal snack. I mean, people eat string cheese and have no issues with that as I snack, why should I be ashamed if I microwave it first? This made me think of other shamefully confessed foods that I also eat and have never thought twice about, like butter on saltines, or the oh so popular spoons of chocolate powder. I'm not sure if this means I have a good relationship with food, or if I have really strange ideas of snacks.
I love microwaved string cheese! Especially when part of it gets crunchy! Yum!0
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