Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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I'm avoiding visiting my mother, partly because she always makes some comment about my weight. I don't think she's being malicious, or that she even realises she's doing it, but it makes me feel like crap when I was previously quite happy with my progress. And I know it won't stop when I reach goal, because she's always been like this even when I was slimmer. I think she's just uncomfortable about her own (perfectly healthy) weight and is projecting.
It's rubbish that I allow this to comes between us, but I can't bring myself to have this discussion with her because of all the awkwardness that will ensue. I'm sure I'll regret this some day.
Have you ever talked to her about it? I know this is tough as I have a similar situation with my mother, but I got tired long ago of ignoring it, putting up with it, ME feeling badly and her not "getting" it, so I just finally talked to her about it. Wasn't easy and we don't have a very good relationship anyway, but you may find that a HUGE weight is lifted off your shoulders if you just say what you need to say!0 -
Confession: Sometimes I think something must be wrong with me. I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 11 years but he won’t marry me. I don’t want to be one of those girls that nags someone to get married. I know it is just a paper but it is something I actually want in life.
Does he know this? If so, what does he say? My personal opinion is that as long as he is fully committed to you then that is great. BUT, if marriage is very important to you then I hope you two can work it out because 11 years is a long time! Good luck!
Yes, that's the weird part. He used to say that he didn't believe in marriage. Then for a few years (at about year 5) he said he would get married and he even wrote me a cute little, "will you marry me?" note. Then he switched back again and says he doesn't believe in marriage. He won't give me an answer as to why though/what changed. I think that is what bothers me. He is committed and I trust him. I feel kinda silly being bothered by not being married... It does depress me sometimes when I see everyone else getting married. I ask every now and then but I don't push it.
I'm trying to get caught up on reading this thread so I'll probably comment more in a bit.
My confession of the day: I once read a thread (I think it was on these forums a long time ago) about a guy who was trying hard to lose weight and then all the sudden he was very successful. It turned out he had cancer but didn't know it and that was the reason he was able to lose weight successfully for once. He was writing it as a note to let people know to make sure they watch their health and be cautious. I sometimes wonder if that is what is going on with me. I know it is because I've been better about logging etc. But that thread stuck with me so I always wonder in the back of my mind if that is why I'm able to succeed these days when I had so much trouble in the past.
Oh, THAT definitely would be the issue for me! I mean, he should at least explain his change of heart and give you a reason. You deserve that!0 -
IAmTheGlue wrote: »I'm avoiding visiting my mother, partly because she always makes some comment about my weight. I don't think she's being malicious, or that she even realises she's doing it, but it makes me feel like crap when I was previously quite happy with my progress. And I know it won't stop when I reach goal, because she's always been like this even when I was slimmer. I think she's just uncomfortable about her own (perfectly healthy) weight and is projecting.
It's rubbish that I allow this to comes between us, but I can't bring myself to have this discussion with her because of all the awkwardness that will ensue. I'm sure I'll regret this some day.
I understand. You're not the only one.
I'm avoiding visiting my mother because she's crazy. She's in poor health, crazy about weight loss, is destituting herself giving money she doesn't have to a "church"...I'm at a loss. She's been on a crazy diet my entire life. One after another, and never seemed to lose weight. I actually credit these weird diets with her health issues. She's very, very negative about her own weight as well as everyone else's. My 12 year old daughter is probably 5'8" & wears a size 3-5. My mom even comments on her weight then back tracks and says that she doesn't want to cause her to develop an eating disorder. *sigh* I have to limit my contact with her for my own mental health. I get panic attacks if I have too much contact with her.
Confession: I went to visit her Monday to help her clean (borderline hoarder) & when I came home, I cried on my husband for two hours. Once everyone went to bed, I paced the house and drank half a bottle of whiskey. Woke up at 1am and started vomiting. Ugh! I have never drank until I was sick.... so embarrassing. I'm just so upset that I can't help her.
I'm so very sorry you went through that. I fully believe in cutting toxic people out of my life, blood relative or not. I've done it many times and I feel so much better! Hey, I may pay for it in the future, but I'm okay with facing whatever consequences may arise.0 -
overlook237 wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »I confess that sometimes I go into threads and start typing out a response that I think will help the OP, and then a little voice in my head says, "they're not going to listen to you anyway" and I always delete what I've written.
I do this, but I delete what I've written mostly because I don't want people jumping down my throat demanding that I cite scientific data to back up my words (even though I try to be careful and preface everything with something like "it's been my personal experience that...") or snarkily telling me that I'm wrong, wrong, wrong and calling me an idiot.
I guess my confession is that I hate confrontation (even virtual confrontation).![:\](https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/resources/emoji/confused.png ":\")
Same here. I can get really embarrassed and defensive when someone is rude to me, even online. I try to avoid posting in threads unless I really know what I'm talking about, or it's just about personal experience. However, being on here is helping me get less defensive since I realize worrying about a stranger's internet opinion and fighting with them is a complete waste of time. If they're the one flying off the handle and getting worked up because of the internet, that's their problem, not mine.
It is also helping me in real life too, realizing that when people are snarky and rude to me over trivial matters it says a lot about their own personality. I used to view it as a personal attack but it's really their own issues surfacing.0 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »Three weeks ago I cured and smoked eight pounds of bacon. Tonight I stuffed and packaged about 12 pounds of chicken/pork/basil/tomato sausage.
All the meat, it is mine. That used to be my slogan. Now I give most of it away, it seems. Drives my wife crazy. Don't care, will do it again.
Can we please be friends? I provide baked goods and preserves...
Sausage is the gateway to friendship.
My wife is certainly fed up with my sausage innuendo "jokes". I don't care about that either.
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♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest0 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
I knew you would like it. And I sent a Peepsignal in it and you responded, which was totally awesome!0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
It does, but I do feel kind of bad for the OP (21 yr. old male; first post) if that information is accurate. I'm wondering what he's thinking right now? Awesome responses by others so far, though.0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
It does, but I do feel kind of bad for the OP (21 yr. old male; first post) if that information is accurate. I'm wondering what he's thinking right now? Awesome responses by others so far, though.
I'm not sure I've ever been in a thread where I didn't feel at least a little bad for the OP.0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »ddrhellbunny wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »I'll never understand people who say that they are not hungry for dessert.
@Francl27 You and my daughter would get along famously! She ALWAYS and I do mean ALWAYS has room for dessert. Especially is ice cream is involved.
I've eaten dessert knowing without a doubt that I will end up regretting it physically. The most recent case was Applebee's with the Apple ChimicheesecaKEOHGODGETINMYMOUTH...sorry... I knew when I ordered it that I had already overeaten on dinner and anything more was going to make me feel bloated, but damn if I didn't near lick the plate. Couldn't move from the recliner when I got home. It was awful...awfully tasty!
I did that when we went to a local Easten European restaurant months back... I was actually too full for dessert but I refused to leave without trying some... I seriously thought I was going to throw up, and the whole meal wasn't even that good. I'm never going to that place again!
I actually never get dessert at Applebee's because the calories are too high to make it worth it for me. I only get dessert at local restaurants that don't have calories anywhere... that way I can lie to myself that it's only 500-600 calories and not 1000+.
I used to work at Applebee's and those chimi cheesecakes and blondies were probably the only things I would eat. so full of NOM. It was awesome when somebody sent back a dessert cause we'd ALL devour it in the back.
I was so mad when they discontinued the Sizzlin' Apple Pie that I stopped eating there for 2 years.
ETA: Who the *kitten* sends back a dessert? I don't even understand that concept!
I have had to send back desserts when they smother the effing plate in chocolate sauce when it does not say it ANYWHERE on the menu. 0 -
tincanonastring wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
It does, but I do feel kind of bad for the OP (21 yr. old male; first post) if that information is accurate. I'm wondering what he's thinking right now? Awesome responses by others so far, though.
I'm not sure I've ever been in a thread where I didn't feel at least a little bad for the OP.
OP, have you been washing your threads in windex, because I'm starting to see myself in them.0 -
AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
It does, but I do feel kind of bad for the OP (21 yr. old male; first post) if that information is accurate. I'm wondering what he's thinking right now? Awesome responses by others so far, though.
I'm not sure I've ever been in a thread where I didn't feel at least a little bad for the OP.
OP, have you been washing your threads in windex, because I'm starting to see myself in them.
I feel like I am way more excited about your 666th post than I have any right to be.0 -
Three! Three more posts! Ah ha ha ha!
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AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
It does, but I do feel kind of bad for the OP (21 yr. old male; first post) if that information is accurate. I'm wondering what he's thinking right now? Awesome responses by others so far, though.
I'm not sure I've ever been in a thread where I didn't feel at least a little bad for the OP.
OP, have you been washing your threads in windex, because I'm starting to see myself in them.
I feel like I am way more excited about your 666th post than I have any right to be.
You're coming up on your 777, you could tell us about a time you got "lucky"
or you can just PM it to me lol 0 -
AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »AgentOrangeJuice wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »tincanonastring wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »♫♪And we're going off the rails like a crazy train♫♪
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10120776/kale-monstrous-gainz#latest
This thread has great promise.
It does, but I do feel kind of bad for the OP (21 yr. old male; first post) if that information is accurate. I'm wondering what he's thinking right now? Awesome responses by others so far, though.
I'm not sure I've ever been in a thread where I didn't feel at least a little bad for the OP.
OP, have you been washing your threads in windex, because I'm starting to see myself in them.
I feel like I am way more excited about your 666th post than I have any right to be.
You're coming up on your 777, you could tell us about a time you got "lucky" or you can just PM it to me lol
*Starts pulling up repressed memories to see if there's anything good*0 -
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Why do people schedule so many meetings at work? Don't they know I have to have time to catch up on this thread? So inconsiderate!0
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