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FluffySandwich wrote: »I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone
I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...
I could basically co-sign your whole post.0 -
Agree 100%. My grandmother was a good example of someone who shouldn't have had children. Instead she had 4 and told them pretty regularly that they ruined her life. My mum's screwed up in many ways by this, but she made a conscious decision to not be a mother like that and she's wonderful (if a little nuts).Italian_Buju wrote: »I have to add that I think it is NOT selfish at all to realize you do not want children. What is selfish is to have children you do not want, just because you are 'supposed' to, and then treat them as such.
The whole point of my last post was that I really wanted to be a mother, I do not think my life would be complete without it, but, it is not for everyone, and should not be taken lightly, nor should be taken on because of pressure.
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xMrBunglex wrote: »nicsflyingcircus wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »I have been reading this and i feel sad for you
People, i know what it is like to count calories and binge eat and how it feels later. But going on a low carb diet made it all go away. No more longing for "something good" and no more going to five different stores to find the right kind of ice cream. I just dont want these anymore and i am happy with eating low carb food. And my health has never been better 
I quite enjoyed this while eating my whole-wheat crust pizza and will read it again while eating my fat free Dreyers yogurt blend ice cream.
And post a loss at tomorrow's weigh in.
I ate a mess of bacon, eggs fried in butter, multiple coffees with HWC and beef brisket yesterday. I showed a 2lb loss this morning. Shocking!
Your post is every bit as passive-agressively douchey as the one you quoted
Yes, that was judgmental.
No hard feelings, just better not to feed the trolls. We all have our own ways (weighs, yes, bad pun) of achieving our goals. I try to ignore the zealots generally.
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lemurcat12 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...
I could basically co-sign your whole post.
I hate gum.0 -
Samesies. To both. Once I started eating a Chunky Kitkat the same way, kept nibbling and found it WAS CHOCOLATE ALL THE WAY THROUGH. My day was made.kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I'm going to fess up before catching up today.
Yesterday I ate everything. Reeses Pieces, Cadbury's Picnic bar, Jaffa Cakes, and a cookie. I also didn't go to the gym or go for a run after work. Then I thought it would be a great idea to weigh myself this morning and I'm back up to 214lbs. So I went for a swim this morning and finished 5 minutes early. I feel really tired, and I think my 'go to' is sugar. I feel like having a nap at my desk right now and its only 9.50am.
You can't go wrong with sweets:D. What does a Jaffa cake taste like?
Hopefully your work day will go flying by.
Ha ha Uh, I can't really describe it. I disassemble them anyway, chocolate edge first and then take the jelly off, eat the cakey bit and the orange jelly last. I don't play with my food normally but it seems to be a habit with Jaffa Cakes. Its a bit like eating the chocolate edge off a Kit-Kat first.
I absolutely hate that America hasn't discovered chunky kit kats...I will be bringing loads home after my visit to the UK woo hoo!
Seriously??? No Chunky KitKats in the US? We've had them in Canada for a while. And you guys have the white chocolate ones that we don't get.
Btw, Chunky Caramel KitKats are awesome.
The chunky ones are on Amazon. I had to look because I thought I'd seen them before. I think we just had something else with a similar label.0 -
lemurcat12 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...
I could basically co-sign your whole post.
Me too! You are NOT alone @FluffySandwich! I hate gum. Cannot be around gum chewers. This is the only time I want to be like Oprah: she detests gum as well and does not allow anyone around her to chew it. That's the one time I'd like to have enough money to wield that sort of power! Well, I can think of countless others, too, but this one was relevant to the thread.0 -
I may have to start logging food again just to account for the copious amounts of peanut butter I've been eating lately.0
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Italian_Buju wrote: »I am not sure if I ever said this on this thread before or not (I might have, it is so long and my memory is bad, so sorry if I am repeating the first part), but I had my son rather young, because of various health problems.
Basically when I turned 18 my diabetic specialist told me I should never have children and should consider getting 'fixed' so I would not have an accident. I had already been diabetic a number of years, had lost a kidney at two years old and was in hospital at least a couple times a year with infections in my lone kidney. He said a pregnancy would most certainly kill my kidney and might even cause death.
I decided I really wanted to be a mother, and decided I was gonna try and have a baby, and if it killed me, oh well, nobody was depending on me anyway yet.
It took me two years and several treatments to finally get pregnant. That whole time, I was always sad and depressed thinking it would never happen. Each month when my period came, I would feel like I was defeated.
When I finally got pregnant, I was so excited I cannot even describe it.
Then, when I was about half way through my pregnancy, I started to worry about what would happen if I did not bond with my baby. I was terrified. I think the messed up relationship between my mother and I was freaking me out making me think that maybe I would have a messed up relationship with my child too.
Luckily that never happened. But those really young years were rough at times. I was young (I would not have chosen to have my child so young if health was not a factor), and he was colicky and later on very hyper. But the times that were wonderful were SO wonderful that it made all the other stuff worth it. Now he is 17 and for the last handful of years have had no problems at all with him that lasted more than a few moments.
One of those most amazing things that happened is that since I have given birth, I have never, not even once, been in hospital due to my kidney. This really reinforced my faith in God.
There were times I struggled as a parent, like I said a few posts up, things I even still feel guilty about, but I cannot even imagine my life any other way. I figure as long as my kids have a happy, healthy, stable, supportive home, they are much better off than I ever was, and I must be doing okay.
As far as school breaks goes, I think the breaks are just the right amount of time. By the time summer break comes, I am SO happy to have a break from routine and be able to sleep in more often, make dinner later, etc. But by the time it is almost over, I am DYING for school to start to get back on routine, lol. It has been like that as long as I can remember.....
That is amazing! What a lovely post. And I 100% agree with your follow-up post as well. I've said those same exact words as well. Children are smart; they know when they aren't wanted. So sad.0 -
Big Sister is a great idea! All the fun stuff, none of the responsibilitiessmashley_mashley wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
Awe, I'm sorry you feel that way. That is quite the confession. *hugs*
I confess that I don't know if I want to be a mother. When I was younger, I always wanted a big family - 4 kids or so. Now that I am 29 and the more I get established in my career and see the fruits of my job (mostly putting money into savings) I don't know if I want the responsibility. There are parts of being a mom that I really want, such as doing crafts, going to kid movies, Halloween/Christmas/Easter - the fun stuff. But I don't know if I can handle all the other stuff, such as getting up in the middle of the night for feedings, changing diapers, dealing with sick/vomity kids, bratty meltdowns in stores, being annoyed when I just want me time.
I feel selfish because I just want the fun stuff but not the whole package.
Not selfish at all! Good for you for thinking about it ahead of time. Why not be a mentor? Be a "Big Sister". There are SO many children out there in need of just what you want to provide! That would be awesome of you. Do you have siblings? Fun aunts are always in high demand, they do lots of fun stuff for which the parents don't have the energy. Aunts and uncles, Big Sisters too, can be a great source of confidence and wisdom apart from the parents, someone the kids can turn too.
The gym is my break, 4 times a week for 45 minutes, I definitely feel those days when I can't go! I would nap every day if I could, I get a nap some Mondays when Mr 3 is at daycare,napping is the bestml.berlynnwall wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
I think more people than you realize feel this way at least sometimes, but it's so hard to find someone to talk to about it because people act like you are the devil incarnate if you even suggest that parenting isn't fun all day every day, let alone admit that you don't really like it.
What I want to say to you is this: If you have two (or more?) kids 3 and under, you are at one of the hardest parts and it is totally understandable to not enjoy every minute of it. It sounds like despite your feelings, you are doing your best and that is all you can do. Don't be afraid to reach out and get a bit of help with your depression, whether from a doctor or a therapist. It can make a world of difference. I don't know you, but I can almost guarentee that you are not messing up their whole lives. They will barely if at all remember this time period. Take care of yourself.
Thanks berlynnwall, you're very kind
Its all very intense and all consuming, Mr 10 months still nurses heaps overnight so I'm betting chronic sleep deprivation doesn't help
It is hard to be honest with people because yes, you are seen as the devil incarnate by some lol
It felt good to get that off my chest though! And now to snuggle in our family bed and appreciate how even though I get no personal space, they are nice and warm on this chilly night!
Sleep deprivation never helps. I know from experience that this time feels like it will never end, but it does. It so does. Is there any way you could get more breaks? I know your kids are little, but taking even a few hours to yourself once a week can really be a life saver, even if you just use them to take a nap.
Ooo an alone vacation! That sounds divine. I already have plans when my little one weans (probably in 3 years time, far out he loves the boob!) I'm going to a hotel for a night or two, spending the whole time in bed watching trashy TV while eating junk foodlilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
Same here. Sometimes I read how people feel about their kids but it seems I'm always so busy playing referral or cooking or packing lunches or doing laundry or cleaning their mess and trying not to go crazy that I don't really get to enjoy it. Or how new parents love their babies so much while I was just so exhausted from having 2 at once that I just wanted some time alone!
Oh and people who are so sad when Summer break is over. Are you kidding me? I want to celebrate. Tears of joy the first day of school. Seriously.
Then I see all those couples still so much in love after 10 years and it's definitely not me either so I'm thinking it's a problem with me. But to be fair, I don't like little kids. They're gross and messy and loud. LOL. When I envisioned being a parent, I was more looking forward to the teen/tween age, when we start to be able to enjoy more 'adult' things together - walks, hiking, day trips, sightseeing, more interesting movies etc (and I know that's going to bite me in the *** later because I know that that age is no walk in the park either). Doing crafts and kids games and family movies etc... really not my thing (ok, I like Disney... to an extent).
Ok Christmas and Easter are fun the first 30 minutes, then it's more mess, wrapping paper and packaging and toys everywhere.... lol. I mean, we do have some great days, but pretty much everything comes accompanied by 'I'm hungry', 'my feet hurt', 'I'm bored', 'I want to go home', 'waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa'. Facebook perfect family pictures? Hardly what it's really like. Although I guess that it depends on your kids. I have a happy one, and I have a whiner. Let's say that on the rare occasions that the whiner was busy at a party or something and we had the happy one, it was much more enjoyable.
I confess that sometimes I daydream about going away ALONE for a week.
Do you feel like an introvert? I think that's my issue, mama needs alone time to refresh! Teens does sound nice, little kids act like tiny irrational drunk dictators....
There are very few times when I realistically burst out laughing out loud while reading posts, but this one definitely did it! That is hilarious. And so true. I think I'll have a shirt made for my 2 yr. old granddaughter saying this. She refuses to take naps at our house because she's too busy playing. She gets so tired she stumbles around the house, bouncing off of walls and furniture and we jokingly call her our little drunk. Thanks for the laugh!0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »lemurcat12 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »I feel pretty weird, because I know gum is loved by mostly everyone I haven't chewed it in years, though I didn't have much of a problem with it when I was the one chewing it...
I could basically co-sign your whole post.
I hate gum.
We can no longer be friends @quiksylver296
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Samesies. To both. Once I started eating a Chunky Kitkat the same way, kept nibbling and found it WAS CHOCOLATE ALL THE WAY THROUGH. My day was made.kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I'm going to fess up before catching up today.
Yesterday I ate everything. Reeses Pieces, Cadbury's Picnic bar, Jaffa Cakes, and a cookie. I also didn't go to the gym or go for a run after work. Then I thought it would be a great idea to weigh myself this morning and I'm back up to 214lbs. So I went for a swim this morning and finished 5 minutes early. I feel really tired, and I think my 'go to' is sugar. I feel like having a nap at my desk right now and its only 9.50am.
You can't go wrong with sweets:D. What does a Jaffa cake taste like?
Hopefully your work day will go flying by.
Ha ha Uh, I can't really describe it. I disassemble them anyway, chocolate edge first and then take the jelly off, eat the cakey bit and the orange jelly last. I don't play with my food normally but it seems to be a habit with Jaffa Cakes. Its a bit like eating the chocolate edge off a Kit-Kat first.
I absolutely hate that America hasn't discovered chunky kit kats...I will be bringing loads home after my visit to the UK woo hoo!
Seriously??? No Chunky KitKats in the US? We've had them in Canada for a while. And you guys have the white chocolate ones that we don't get.
Btw, Chunky Caramel KitKats are awesome.
The chunky ones are on Amazon. I had to look because I thought I'd seen them before. I think we just had something else with a similar label.
Ooooo, Amazon has white Chunky.
Oddly enough, I see a lot of plain and peanut butter Chunky on there but not the caramel ones, which are actually the most common. (Maybe I should start selling them online? Lol)
And I seldom see them in regular grocery stores here, mostly in discount/bargain type shops.0 -
I think there's a proper way to eat gum and my husband does not own these said skills. He sounds like a cow when he chews gum that I ask him to not chew it around me. It goes with my disgust of when people chew with their mouths open. I cannot handle that sound at all.0
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quiksylver296 wrote: »Uh-oh! Totally hangry today. It's not yet lunch time and I've mowed through my breakfast, a Quest bar, almonds and an apple. There will be no calories left for dinner at this rate.
I have 3 calories left. It's 2.40pm. And I'm still hungry. Didn't even make such horrible choices today. Just hungry. About to say 'screw it' and have some ice cream.
Edit: scratch that. I had ice cream and 3 slices of cinnamon bread and I'm FINALLY full. And way over my goal. Gotta love those days.0 -
Agree 100%. My grandmother was a good example of someone who shouldn't have had children. Instead she had 4 and told them pretty regularly that they ruined her life. My mum's screwed up in many ways by this, but she made a conscious decision to not be a mother like that and she's wonderful (if a little nuts).Italian_Buju wrote: »I have to add that I think it is NOT selfish at all to realize you do not want children. What is selfish is to have children you do not want, just because you are 'supposed' to, and then treat them as such.
The whole point of my last post was that I really wanted to be a mother, I do not think my life would be complete without it, but, it is not for everyone, and should not be taken lightly, nor should be taken on because of pressure.
My grandmother had 5 kids, and clearly didn't want the last two (my mom is #4), but took to them in very different ways. She's always been really hard on my mom (who is a whole lot like my grandfather - and was totally his favorite), but my mom's younger sister is her favorite. Go figure.
She's also really judgemental, to the point of occasional cruelty, which she tries to justify with religion. I confess that I don't really like my grandmother as a person.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I personally use:
- 30 grams of "jumbo" chunky rolled oats (you can double it if you like more, it's more than enough for me)
- 330 mL of water (About one and a half cups? I like it to be a little soupy, the thickened liquid is SO good. Again, preference.)
- 5 grams of unsweetened cocoa powder
- 15-20 grams of peanut butter (My sister likes it with 30-40 grams of peanut butter, because she's a peanut butter freak, so it's also about preference here!)
- One sachet of Stevia sweetener or any preferred sweetener
- 1.5-2 grams of salt (I feel like the salt really helps bring out flavor. I've tried it without and it was just... No.)
Do you let it sit overnight and then heat it up in the morning? Or is it all the morning of? I'm always trying to find ways to make myself like cooked oatmeal...so far no go, but this sounds tasty!
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@peleroja - When is the wedding? I know it's close!0
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I personally use:
- 30 grams of "jumbo" chunky rolled oats (you can double it if you like more, it's more than enough for me)
- 330 mL of water (About one and a half cups? I like it to be a little soupy, the thickened liquid is SO good. Again, preference.)
- 5 grams of unsweetened cocoa powder
- 15-20 grams of peanut butter (My sister likes it with 30-40 grams of peanut butter, because she's a peanut butter freak, so it's also about preference here!)
- One sachet of Stevia sweetener or any preferred sweetener
- 1.5-2 grams of salt (I feel like the salt really helps bring out flavor. I've tried it without and it was just... No.)
Do you let it sit overnight and then heat it up in the morning? Or is it all the morning of? I'm always trying to find ways to make myself like cooked oatmeal...so far no go, but this sounds tasty!
I'll have to try it!
I love oatmeal with almond butter and jelly. Just don't like the high amount of calories for something that doesn't fill me up that much (typically 70 calories just in jelly to get the flavor right... bleh).0 -
nicsflyingcircus wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »nicsflyingcircus wrote: »xMrBunglex wrote: »I have been reading this and i feel sad for you People, i know what it is like to count calories and binge eat and how it feels later. But going on a low carb diet made it all go away. No more longing for "something good" and no more going to five different stores to find the right kind of ice cream. I just dont want these anymore and i am happy with eating low carb food. And my health has never been better
I quite enjoyed this while eating my whole-wheat crust pizza and will read it again while eating my fat free Dreyers yogurt blend ice cream.
And post a loss at tomorrow's weigh in.
I ate a mess of bacon, eggs fried in butter, multiple coffees with HWC and beef brisket yesterday. I showed a 2lb loss this morning. Shocking!
Your post is every bit as passive-agressively douchey as the one you quoted
Yes, that was judgmental. No hard feelings, just better not to feed the trolls. We all have our own ways (weighs, yes, bad pun) of achieving our goals. I try to ignore the zealots generally.
No worries - I just have a huge problem with lo-carb/Atkins, as I tried it once. Dropped about 30lbs, but it was completely unsustainable & I was even heavier when it was all said & done!
There's only one solution, CICO blah blah blah and so on and so forth0 -
Reminds me of something my boss said yesterday - "You can disagree with me, but then you would be wrong twice!" He was joking, of course but he comes up with some funny things to say all the time.0
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