Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

pofoster21 wrote: »

The problem with going to bed at 10 pm is I am wide awake at 2 am! Good morning Susie and my British MFPers...

wmcmurray61 wrote: »

Here is my confession: I haven't logged a bit of food for 4 months. I have gained almost 10 lbs in that time. I did keep up the exercise but my eating was super out of control. Several times I ate entire bags of candy on my own. Burgers, fries, pizza, all the stuff I know I should have only rarely, I have been pigging out on all of it. So I am starting over today. 159 and looking for 140. I sure hope I actually find it. Thanks for listening.

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kelly_c_77 wrote: »

BZAH10 wrote: »

I see Wonder Woman, also, @quiksylver296. Also, I'm a bit dyslexic (which another reason I have a hard time remembering full screen names) and I always call you "Quickysilver" in my head. That "y" seems to trip me up every time!

Confession: I have to go buy my husband a Father's Day card and gift after work and we're not even on speaking terms right now. This should be fun.

I always see Quickysilver too!
Sorry about the non-speaking moment. Maybe get a jokey type card? Then laugh about it and make up..?

Thank you! Went with a " you're a great dad and grandpa " card with a bottle of tequila 1800. See how it goes tomorrow.

orangesmartie wrote: »

trvlpk wrote: »

I don't know how to eat "healthy" and do not know what good nutrition means. Also, I am a compulsive overeater/food addict that is finding it very hard to find recovery.

I missed this post first time around. Thanks to mrbungle for quoting.

You are not alone. Many people here are battling the same as you. I have a medical diagnosis of binge eating and compulsive eating and have had counselling and all sorts. Some days the binge monster wins, some days I win.

Set yourself smaller goals, and focus on the positive. Perhaps every meal, where you keep to your portion, pat yourself on the back and say well done. Say nice things to yourself. Tell yourself how well you did.

If the binge monster gets you, when you're finished say, ok you won the battle but I'm winning the war, we're done for now. Then, if you're able, go do something nice for yourself, like a short walk, or a nice bath.

Don't focus on the food, focus on being nice to yourself, even when you've slipped, practice thinking good things about yourself, even if its just to say, that was a binge, but I'm finished now,I don't need more, well done for recognising the end. The start is to take away the guilt/shamre/self loathing. Sounds easy right? Its not, it takes a lot of work.

If you're able, put nice messages on your cupboard/fridge doors, like I have beautiful eyes, I am a great person, my dimples are cute, do that so you can remind yourself every time you open the door that you are more than a bingre eater.

Once you get in the habit of being nice to yourself, you (we, because all of us here will support you) can help you tackle the food side. The key is taking very small baby steps. Maybe an hour, or meal at a time. Don't think of the big picture, just focus on your feet*

* I'm climbing a mountain in 2 weeks. All through our training we have said, never look at the summit, or you'll get disheartened on how far there is to go. Instead, look at your feet and where you're going to place them next. Celebrate each step you take, because it moves you forward.

A book I find useful is 'brain over binge' by Kathryn Hansen. Not the same circumstances, but talks about binging as a monster, and a 2 year old child and once you engage with it, start negotiating, you've lost. (I hope I'm allowed to recommend a book without getting a warning).

Use this thread. If you are feeling bingey, come and post here. We're all over the world, so there's usually someone awake. And feel free to message me if you want to talk

You're not on your own

wmcmurray61 wrote: »

Here is my confession: I haven't logged a bit of food for 4 months. I have gained almost 10 lbs in that time. I did keep up the exercise but my eating was super out of control. Several times I ate entire bags of candy on my own. Burgers, fries, pizza, all the stuff I know I should have only rarely, I have been pigging out on all of it. So I am starting over today. 159 and looking for 140. I sure hope I actually find it. Thanks for listening.

pearso21123 wrote: »

I confess that I bought PB2 with chocolate, thanks to posts from 100's of pages ago, and I didn't like it. It has a waxy aftertaste. Maybe I should have bought the plain? Now it's going to sit in my cupboard until it's so old I can finally throw it out without feeling guilty.

Tubbs216 wrote: »

I also caved to peer pressure and bought a couple of Quest bars. I just had the Raspberry White Chocolate one for dessert - it was ok but I wouldn't buy that one again. Expensive and not really worth it, IMO. I also bought the Chocolate Brownie one, so I'll see if I like that one more.

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misskarne wrote: »

I know you hate people apologising for asking you questions, @Susieq_1994, but I only do because I feel like that stereotypical ignorant privileged white girl, and I don't want to offend.

So...there is that - robe, I'm sorry, I don't know the word for it - the long black one with the head and face covering. But it gets to 60C in Oman, right? So, um...how do the women not die of heatstroke?

That's alright, it doesn't offend me!

It's called an abaya, and most of them don't cover the head or face--They're basically just black dresses. I wear one myself. The headscarf and niqab (face covering) are all separate pieces. There is one that has a head covering attached as well, but these are mostly worn by older ladies, as it's just an older style.

That said, I wear the abaya and headscarf. I don't find it hot, personally--I actually find it cooler than when I wear "regular" clothing like skirts and blouses because the abaya tends to be very lightweight. It's also because I've been covering for a very long time--If I didn't cover, I'd probably feel hotter due to the sun burning my skin!

My sister wears a niqab, and according to her, it did feel very hot in the first week, but she says it doesn't feel like that anymore now that she's used to it.

Just an add-on: The abaya isn't a must, Islamically. Women are encouraged not to wear very bright colors for the purpose of attracting men (yes, men have a rule that involves not attracting women--it isn't a sexist rule), but you're allowed to wear whatever color you like, as long as you're covered properly.

I prefer the abaya in Saudi Arabia because everyone wears it (I've seen like... two people so far that didn't... Even the non-Muslims wear it!) and I just don't want to stand out. In Oman, I often wear regular colored dresses, skirts, blouses, etc. Unless I'm lazy. Because the abaya is really easy to just throw on and be done.

Can I ask some follow ups? You say your sister wears a niqab; was that something she decided to do as an adult? And how did she come to that decision? And are you wearing your regular clothes under the abaya? Or is it like a "dress".

Thanks for educating me!

Yes, she decided to start wearing it two years ago. Nobody else in our family wears it and she's unmarried, so nobody influenced her in that decision--in Islam there are some scholars (I refuse to count the Sheikh Google people...) who believe the niqab is obligatory, and others who believe it is simply recommended based on evidence from the Qur'an and hadith. After doing some studying, my sister chose to go with the scholars who believe it's obligatory, and began covering her face from then on.

You do have to wear clothing under an abaya--it's basically a cover, but the material is too thin to wear with nothing but underwear underneath, for example. I usually wear jeans and a tank top underneath it--since we have to remain covered, it's best to have your legs covered in case the wind blows it up, for example. But I would wear the same under a dress, actually, although I would probably wear cotton pants underneath in that case.

Oh, can I ask if you have one of these? I've always wondered if it was hard to swim in the modest suits, because of the extra fabric:

Nope, I don't own one--those suits actually don't meet the fardh (obligatory) requirements for modest clothing for women, especially because they cling when they're wet, and the shape of the body is revealed, which is the major requirement of covering.

If I'm going to swim, I swim in an all-women's facility with a modest swimsuit (even women aren't supposed to reveal nakedness to other women) or just jump into the ocean fully clothed because that's fun. ;)

I'm not even totally caught up, but I am SO GLAD you opened up to us here @Susieq_1994 and are giving us all this info, both about your culture and your own personal self. I just gotta let it out: This girl *kitten* rocks!

Same goes for a lot of our regulars: @MoHousdon @Italian_Buju (BTW we are testing some AWESOME stuff here at my facility regarding diabetes, might be while before human clinical trials though.) @BZAH10 @pofoster21 @quiksylver296 @FrancI27 (I hope that's the right one) Sorry if I forgot some peeps! I love this thread so much. I think I love this thread more than I love guacamole.... and that's REALLY saying something.

How is your co-worker doing with their diabetes & trying to control it?

He is quitting. His last day will be July 3rd. He said he didn't like the idea of what we were doing and he wants to spend more time doing what HE wants to do. So he's quitting.