Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

overlook237 wrote: »

rungirl1973 wrote: »

I confess that I changed my calorie goal a couple of days ago from losing 2lbs per week to losing 1lb per week and I feel so much better! Those extra like 400 calories to play around with make me feel full and I'm less likely to go over my goal. Plus most days I stay within my 2lb goal anyways, but now I never see red and that feels awesome.

I'm still at a goal of "lose 2 pounds" but I never ate back any of my exercise calories. So when my calorie level got down to 1200, I started getting really hungry and cranky all the time (what did I expect - my net cals were crazy low). This past week, I've started eating back around 50% of my exercise calories (about 300 or so more), and I feel so much better, too!

mziegler01 wrote: »

I hate the red numbers. I have my calorie goal set to "maintain". I figure if I'm under that every day, I'll lose. Maybe it won't be as fast, but I won't get frustrated as easily sigh those red numbers.

I really like this idea

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

overlook237 wrote: »

MoHousdon wrote: »

I'm a 35 year old woman, and I LOVE The Vampire Diaries. There. I said it.

I'm a 35 year old woman, and I love "Pretty Little Liars", so no judgment here

Me too, except that I am older!

Actually, I kind of gave up on it around the time they revealed who A was...and then it just got silly.

And they just keep revealing who "A" is... By my count, I think they're up to 3 or 4. Yeah, it's totally ridiculous. And yet I keep watching

Too bad they didn't keep Ezra as A since it would make his character not only relevant but more interesting.

smashley_mashley wrote: »

kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »

AngInCanada wrote: »

I've finished reading this entire post and wondering which confession I should start with

Ever since I was 10 or 11 I've been a binge eater. I remember babysitting and being in heaven because of the food the people kept for their kids. I would eat an entire package of dunkaroos, a box of pudding cups, a box of fruit snacks. I'd bury the evidence in the garbage can. Sometimes, even now, when I've overate, I find myself burying things in the garbage can due to shame and embarrassment.

I still hold a lot of anger towards a local personal trainer who wouldn't listen to me during my very first training session. She kept yelling at me to go faster and go harder even though I was a bit dizzy and out of breath. She just kept saying i was fine. Five minutes later I blacked out and ended up on the gym floor. She blamed it on my nutrition and nothing to do with her training. I haven't been able to step foot in the gym (only one in town)since even though I bought a 10 punch pass. Just the thought of going makes me anxious.

Man I wish stores still sold Dunkaroos.

I sometimes also hide the packages of food I have overate out of guilt.

done this too... tends to be those orange chocolate Aero balls and Peanut M&Ms. the wrappers get hidden in the bottom of my bathroom trash can.

Mine recently have been Talenti pints & Russell Stover Easter Egg wrappers.

pofoster21 wrote: »

Ok so I went to the sugar thread after getting caught up on this. Sooo not judging but... Does anyone notice that it's like the same 3 or 4 people who blow up these threads? And get all nasty and judgmental? They seem to follow each other around.

I hope they never find their way to this thread.

I didn't read that thread, but I often see a group going thread to thread with their snarky 'expert' replies. There is one dude who is a total tool.

I am actually kind of excited to start a bit of exercise since throwing out my back on 4/8. It's starting to feel normal again. Gonna start doing some walking tomorrow and incorporate some back strengthening exercises once I feel confident that my back will hold up. This is the second time I've thrown out my back. Last Thursday was excruciating. I am going to try my hardest to prevent this.

Re the sugar thread: sugar might not be inherently bad for you, but it gives me horrible breakouts. I have been over indulging for the past month and everyday there is another bump or two.

I stay right out of the sugar threads, I just don't get them.

I have not packed my lunch at all this week leading to bad food choices...

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

Italian_Buju wrote: »

It is actually quite amazing how close we are to such things. My daughter actually just read a report at school about how the average person will have casual contact with six serial killers over their lifetime. SIX!

Edited to add that there are usually around 50 serial killers active in the States at any given time, and close to that same number in Canada....most people think of them as rare, but that is because we only hear about 1% of them......

That's an average of one per state...so it doesn't seem likely that most people would come into contact with a serial killer at all. I guess if you include connections that we have to victims, survivors,, family members of killers, etc. there are many more links.

I would find that number more plausible if the definition were extended to other kinds of mass/multiple murderers. I have casual connections to three--two family killers (one male, one female) and one person who killed his parents (the father was my colleague) and then committed a school shooting. Actually, if you count political killings as a form mass murder, I have a fourth connection.

If you take into account the average life span of a person vs how many killers die/go to prison etc I thought the number is plusable

Also, this report has to have a study of some sort behind it, right? I don't think universities are in the business of teaching their students crap

sherbear702 wrote: »

Sometimes I really want to talk $h!t about my co-workers on here, but I'm afraid that by some weird coincidence they'll get on here and read what I've said about them and know how I really feel. I put on a nice face at work in an effort to maintain a good working relationship with everyone in my office

I have a similar fear about people I would like to post about lol

berlynnwall wrote: »

Here is something funny - My daughter came to tattle on her brother earlier, she says "Mom, he is reading your diary!" I don't have a diary. It turned out he was reading an old Cathy comic book. Thanks kids.

I love this lol

girldownsouth wrote: »

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

Italian_Buju wrote: »

It is actually quite amazing how close we are to such things. My daughter actually just read a report at school about how the average person will have casual contact with six serial killers over their lifetime. SIX!

Edited to add that there are usually around 50 serial killers active in the States at any given time, and close to that same number in Canada....most people think of them as rare, but that is because we only hear about 1% of them......

That's an average of one per state...so it doesn't seem likely that most people would come into contact with a serial killer at all. I guess if you include connections that we have to victims, survivors, family members of killers, etc. there are many more links.

I would find that number more plausible if the definition were extended to other kinds of mass/multiple murderers. I have casual connections to three--two family killers (one male, one female) and one person who killed his parents (the father was my colleague) and then committed a school shooting. Actually, if you count political killings as a form mass murder, I have a fourth connection.

I think you've somewhat undone your own initial argument there, as casual connections is a lot more than just contact. I think the initial point was 6 in a lifetime, I'm not sure if that's a US average, but if there's 50 active at one time, across a lifetime of maybe 75 years, that increases the odds straight away. And then, if by contact it is as I understood it you might serve them in a shop, stand behind them in a bus queue, give directions etc then think how many times that happens with different people to an average person each day. You wouldn't even know you'd come into contact with them. So on your basis, with your 4 casual connections, I would say that if you know there are actual connections, and there are currently 4, then if you extended the definition it'd far exceed 6 over your lifetime.

I simply couldn't resist saying... that if anyone had happened to inform me that there was a 'pocket' of the MFP realm in which the statistical probability of "casual connection" -based, paths-even-'unbeknownst-edly'-crossing, 'contact' with a serial killer -- let alone, the lifetime 'exposure' rate thereof -- was being actively discussed/deliberated/dissected and debated (let alone, had been brought up at all, as a topic of discussion!)... and was found in a thread whose subject title included the words "confession time"...(!) (!!)

...then my initial thoughts would have been something along the lines of, "what?... wait -- why?... where? ... so, who...? ...but, how...? and if...? would that mean...? ...well, point the way!... wait-- ! -- !! -- am I about to read a "confession" that I'll immediately wish I could 'unknow' (?!) -- is someone going to 'confess' to...(?!) -- HOLD ON!"


...and I cannot help pondering the silly 'what if' of the MFP site having some sort of dashboard-like, 'silent radio' ticker -y, 'this just in...' form of scrolling update, conveying an almost 'sports score' -like, ever-'unfurling' stream of 'succinct-ified' sound bites ... and functioning as a form of 'folks, these are the latest topics-within-a-topic that y'all are bandying about at this very moment'... and akin to pedestrians tilting their heads and gawking at 'the' electronic billboard in Times Square, in mouth-gaped wonder, as they react to a surprisingly attention-getting 'bit of news' from 'across the land'... MFPers would find themselves suddenly at a standstill (or 'sitstill', as it were ), with fingers 'parked' or otherwise 'idling' atop whatever keyboard or mobile device they happen to be visiting MFP via... after reading the words..."Confession Time - serial killer"...and not knowing whether to click on the relevant link, call the police, or immediately rethink how well they know their Friends (and wondering how many might be harboring such a 'confession')...(?!!!)

Italian_Buju wrote: »

girldownsouth wrote: »

azulvioleta6 wrote: »

Italian_Buju wrote: »

It is actually quite amazing how close we are to such things. My daughter actually just read a report at school about how the average person will have casual contact with six serial killers over their lifetime. SIX!

Edited to add that there are usually around 50 serial killers active in the States at any given time, and close to that same number in Canada....most people think of them as rare, but that is because we only hear about 1% of them......

That's an average of one per state...so it doesn't seem likely that most people would come into contact with a serial killer at all. I guess if you include connections that we have to victims, survivors, family members of killers, etc. there are many more links.

I would find that number more plausible if the definition were extended to other kinds of mass/multiple murderers. I have casual connections to three--two family killers (one male, one female) and one person who killed his parents (the father was my colleague) and then committed a school shooting. Actually, if you count political killings as a form mass murder, I have a fourth connection.

I think you've somewhat undone your own initial argument there, as casual connections is a lot more than just contact. I think the initial point was 6 in a lifetime, I'm not sure if that's a US average, but if there's 50 active at one time, across a lifetime of maybe 75 years, that increases the odds straight away. And then, if by contact it is as I understood it you might serve them in a shop, stand behind them in a bus queue, give directions etc then think how many times that happens with different people to an average person each day. You wouldn't even know you'd come into contact with them. So on your basis, with your 4 casual connections, I would say that if you know there are actual connections, and there are currently 4, then if you extended the definition it'd far exceed 6 over your lifetime.

Exactly!! That was more how I understood it.

There are so many variables! If there are 50 at any one moment, there will certainly be more than 50 in the country over the course of an average lifetime...but that depends on how many years the average serial killer is active, how many are actually identified, etc. The total US population is currently more than 320 million. 50 vs. 320,000,000 seems like fairly long odds, even for the most casual contact.

All of the examples that I have from my own life are mass murders or multiple murders, not serial murders. My guess is that the first is more common than the second.

We would need to see how the terms are defined by the study (who counts as a serial killer? are mass murders of other stripes included? what do we mean by active? how is a connection or contact counted) in order to even begin to discuss the issue.

This is something that I don't know much about, but I would be really interested to read the study that was mentioned.

Talkradio wrote: »

About once a week, I make myself a big pile of nachos that put me over my calories. I don't measure anything and just guess at the amounts afterwards. I do it because a) I need the freedom of preparing food without weighing and b) I freaking love nachos.

I love them too! But I haven't eaten nachos in years.

tiona83 wrote: »

Pipara wrote: »

I have completely irrational anxiety about talking on the phone to anyone but my immediate family. As a result I don't answer the phone when I don't recognise the number, most of the time I don't answer it even when I do. I absolutely hate having to call to make appointments (doctors, hair etc). Even my manager at work has taken the hint and now texts/emails me instead to ask if I can cover for someone.
I can't remember if it's always been like this, but it is soo annoying sometimes!

I thought I was the only one like this.

So did I! Until reading all of these replies. Now I feel less weird. I this thread.

Susieq_1994 wrote: »

Talkradio wrote: »

About once a week, I make myself a big pile of nachos that put me over my calories. I don't measure anything and just guess at the amounts afterwards. I do it because a) I need the freedom of preparing food without weighing and b) I freaking love nachos.

I love them too! But I haven't eaten nachos in years.

Susieq_1994, on the upside, there'd be a 'fun' method via which you could utilize a tiny spoon -- one could crush the nachos into 'crumbs', and use the fingernail-sized spoon of recent 'fame' to 'scoop' tiny portions from the bottom-of-the-bag -like nacho 'flecks' that populate whatever preferred servingware (a thimble, perhaps? ) were chosen for the this'll-take-forever-to-consume escapade...

...and could be considered 'research', as it turns out, for yet another Chapter in the "Tiny Spoon Chronicles" 'book' that I'll be editing (you and manukahoneybadger are among the consultants needed for the project, and whose expertise will be crucial to the book's success (oh, and to confirm, manukahoneybadger's input will be key to the Chapter on "Creative Chopstick and Fork Adventures" (and especially the "Miniscule Per-Pick-Up, Make-It-Last-Past-Midnight, Entree and Dessert Interminable Acquisition Exercises" section (and for which she's currently creating teaching materials, for the purpose of certification credentials being made available for the upcoming inaugural 'teacher training' sessions (oh, and on a related note, classes for our "Strategies in Making Gelato and Ice Cream Consumption Last An Eternity" are filling up fast (much faster than our tiny spoons fill with said heavenly frozen confections, to be sure! ;P ), and thus we'll need to get our Skype-based lecture and syllabus 'squared away' (I've even been approached for our giving a TED talk (if you can believe it! (don't! ;P ), but when I mentioned our compadre's use of a fork for soup, and the fact that toothpicks are fast-becoming the 'new' fork, they decided to 'hold off', until our pending 'research' into use of toothpicks for soup could be completed (which makes sense, of course, given the reality that when our talk gets posted, it will undoubtedly go viral, and it'd be best for us to 'have our ducks in a row')))))...