Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • m4n1x
    m4n1x Posts: 65 Member
    lisaw19855 wrote: »
    I weigh myself daily but don't log it, I accept the fluctuations and usually know why (no poop, too much sodium) but I hate seeing in on my little graph thing.

    I do this too!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,406 Member
    For my weight lifting friends, check this out! strstd.com

    I got Intermediate on everything and ALMOST to Advanced on my squat! That gave me a serious mental boost!

    Ahhahahahaha. I'm untrained. :tired_face: Not even novice! I knew I was weak. lol
  • kelly_c_77
    kelly_c_77 Posts: 5,658 Member
    It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.

    Today she had a bad fall from the top to the very bottom of the stairs. She hit her head and has suffered bruising and bleeding to the brain and fractured her skull in two places along with breaking her elbow. The Doctors say there's nothing they can do but to wait it out and see if the bruising on her brain heals itself within the next 48-72 hours and her condition is going to get worse before/if it gets better. If it does heal itself they don't know what her level of function will be after.

    I'm sick with worry and there's nothing I can do. It was 12 hours in hospital before she got seen by a specialist after lying there drowsy with a confirmed bleed on the brain!

    I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.

    I'm so sorry! Please don't blame yourself. Sending hugs, comfort, and positive thoughts your way.
  • kelly_c_77
    kelly_c_77 Posts: 5,658 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    AlciaMode wrote: »

    I've always wanted to be like 5'10. I'm so jealous of tall women, so gaining even an inch has me thrilled lol

    Why? I am only 5'7" and it is insanely difficult finding a man of appropriate height (yes i am that shallow). Though I do not think I would want to be shorter... so never mind. Tallk people ftw

    I'm 5'9", and my husband is the first guy I dated that was taller than me. For whatever reason, the only men who were ever interested in me were always shorter than me. ESPECIALLY when I was out dancing!

    I'm 5'9" too, and my husband is 6'7". Many years ago I tried to date a guy who was shorter than me, but I just felt huge next to him and I couldn't imagine taking that feeling into the bedroom. Shut it down.

    5'9" here too! Yeah, I couldn't do the shorter guy thing either. The thought of bending over to kiss him freaks me out! And yes, I realize that's irrational!

    I never personally had a problem with it, I just always found the GUY had a problem with it (consciously or subconsciously). I was told numerous times by various guys that I wasn't "allowed" to wear heels. Uhhhhh excuse me?! I will wear heels if I choose to, mister!

    I think we've gone here before...but my husband is totally cool with me wearing heels. Since I'm already 2+ inches taller than him, I feel gigantic. But if he doesn't care and I don't care, whatever!

    That's fantastic! Only a jerk (like the guys I used to date) would care about it anyway :smiley:

    I managed to get involved with some real winners but they never cared that I was taller in my heels.

    The SO is a full 12" taller and LOVES me in heels, the higher the better as far as he's concerned. When we're out in public it doesn't make him look quite as tall if he's got a 6'2 woman beside him, and he doesn't have to bend over so far to kiss me.
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I've also learned the hard way that the horrible drink they give you for CT scans with contrasts can give you diarrhea for three days (really hoping it's only three days, this is getting old).

    I was on heavy antibiotics for a couple of weeks last summer and apparently digested nothing, judging by my output during that time. Lost 5 lbs. So there may be an upside, lol.

    That is *the* thing about antibiotics that I dread, if/when I ever need to take them...

    ...as for the upside -- eating spoiled food would result in the same outcome, so... for anyone thinking they might be 'missing out' -- worry not, for there is an alternative means via which you can 'participate' in 'the festivities'... lol ;)
    Quizno's broccoli cheese soup does it for me. I can time it. :#
    I always wonder if I should even bother to log it.

    Sure! -- And you can 'get creative' with naming it... something like... "broccoli cheese -flavored laxative'... ;)

    Omg, haha.
  • kelly_c_77
    kelly_c_77 Posts: 5,658 Member
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    @Glinda1971 I really think I may have nightmares tonight after googling "trypophobia" and hitting images oh my lord how disgusting. I do not think you're weird at all I think I have the same thing and never knew what it was!

    I'm so curious and want to google...but now I'm afraid to!!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,406 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/106593-confession-is-good-for-the-soul

    Ok, I made a group! It's open to all for now. Let's see how that goes.

    I've joined, but I'm not sure when to move over. lol I'm probably going to flick between the two for a while.
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,406 Member
    edited June 2015
    It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.

    Today she had a bad fall from the top to the very bottom of the stairs. She hit her head and has suffered bruising and bleeding to the brain and fractured her skull in two places along with breaking her elbow. The Doctors say there's nothing they can do but to wait it out and see if the bruising on her brain heals itself within the next 48-72 hours and her condition is going to get worse before/if it gets better. If it does heal itself they don't know what her level of function will be after.

    I'm sick with worry and there's nothing I can do. It was 12 hours in hospital before she got seen by a specialist after lying there drowsy with a confirmed bleed on the brain!

    I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.

    Oh, :cry: please don't blame yourself for this. You wasn't to know it would happen. Like you said, she has been steady on her feet this whole time. I hope she gets better soon, sending you hugs!
  • kelly_c_77
    kelly_c_77 Posts: 5,658 Member
    Dnarules wrote: »
    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.

    My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
    Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.
    My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example :| ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.

    My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it. :(

    confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.

    actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.

    so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.

    and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.

    I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!

    you are seriously awesome, thank you :)

    Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.

    My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.

    We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.

    i absolutely detest flowers.
    most ppl who know me, know this.
    of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
    I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.
    Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.

    I love flowers too. I'm so sorry your husband has hay fever and can't surprise you with them.

    Mine did tonight, although it is my birthday tomorrow.

    Wow, my birthday is tomorrow, too. Happy birthday.

    Happy Birthday to you both!!
  • spamarie
    spamarie Posts: 2,825 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    IamMicah wrote: »
    "Tubbs216 wrote: »
    ME TOO! I'm desperate for some. Also I want a beehive. The latter is allowed where we are, but we don't have a very big yard and I don't think our neighbours would like it much. I also want goats.

    We keep bees on our property and it's pretty awesome. We had a nice honey harvest last year with 4 hives, so we expanded to 8 this year. They're all pretty active; so far, so good!

    I would love to have goats! And chickens!
    I have 4 hives and a Nuc Split this year... My plan was to get a single hive. Now Im collecting swarms and doing a trapout on a friends home. Sadly Ive become more addicted to their incredible beehavior and fascinating daily activities.

    How could one not?! -- they're incredible! :)
    Indeed. Even my wasp-phobic daughter is learning to love bees.
    ETA: 'Git' is kind of English for 'jerk'.
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    The wasps around my area are a lot more chill than the carpenter bees to be honest.

    Plus, fig wasps are the only fig pollinators out there. That alone is enough to for wasps to be alright in my book. :wink:
    Twist of irony, hubby works in pest control, can handle just about every type of insect/spider and rodent. He's absolutely terrified of flying bugs (bees, flies, etc), and this is busy season for "bee jobs" and the like. It's absolutely hilarious to see this grown man running around and shrieking at a fly or bee. :laugh:
    To add, he finds it funny too, and laughs at it as well. Just so I'm not sounding like an *kitten* wife lol.
    Pfft. I'm pretty good at dealing with insects. It gets very annoying having someone scream at you to get rid of a tiny zebra spider before it eats them.

    I can't do spiders. Period. I took kiddo and nephew to the zoo last week and there was a tarantula on exhibit. Naturally, both kids wanted to see it, I had a panic attack! It can be embarrassing, but not as much as my catfish phobia (and I mean the actual fish) lol.

    Did you have a catfish incident or does the look of them just gross you out? Curious to know as I've never heard of anyone being phobic of a catfish. I am a spider liberator myself, since we don't have any that could actually hurt you in the UK. As a kid I used to go camping with the Girl Guides, and the camp loos were inevitably full of wildlife. Even the Guide Leader would have me go in there to liberate all the spiders first. There should have been a badge for that, it's a useful life skill!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,406 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    I may start a thread and call it "If you're starving just google image 'trypophobia' - appetite gone!"

    I know what I'll look at from now on if I get hungry! Phew that was nasty.
    I'm not going to. You can't make me.

    omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
    at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
    O M G
    yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
    i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...

    I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.

    The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.

    No it's organic things. Like lotus pods. Tiny bubbles all together. Stuff like that.

    Or if you've had a pilleated woodpecker have a go at a tree.
    Ok, I had to Google. I obviously don't have it - all I see is bad photoshop jobs.

    That is exactly what I thought!
  • Lois_1989
    Lois_1989 Posts: 6,406 Member
    Kalici wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    IamMicah wrote: »
    "Tubbs216 wrote: »
    ME TOO! I'm desperate for some. Also I want a beehive. The latter is allowed where we are, but we don't have a very big yard and I don't think our neighbours would like it much. I also want goats.

    We keep bees on our property and it's pretty awesome. We had a nice honey harvest last year with 4 hives, so we expanded to 8 this year. They're all pretty active; so far, so good!

    I would love to have goats! And chickens!
    I have 4 hives and a Nuc Split this year... My plan was to get a single hive. Now Im collecting swarms and doing a trapout on a friends home. Sadly Ive become more addicted to their incredible beehavior and fascinating daily activities.

    How could one not?! -- they're incredible! :)
    Indeed. Even my wasp-phobic daughter is learning to love bees.
    ETA: 'Git' is kind of English for 'jerk'.
    8czk3gsj0195.jpg
    The wasps around my area are a lot more chill than the carpenter bees to be honest.

    Plus, fig wasps are the only fig pollinators out there. That alone is enough to for wasps to be alright in my book. :wink:

    Twist of irony, hubby works in pest control, can handle just about every type of insect/spider and rodent. He's absolutely terrified of flying bugs (bees, flies, etc), and this is busy season for "bee jobs" and the like. It's absolutely hilarious to see this grown man running around and shrieking at a fly or bee. :laugh:
    To add, he finds it funny too, and laughs at it as well. Just so I'm not sounding like an *kitten* wife lol.

    my husband hates bees & wasps too. One time we were stopped in traffic in a construction zone and a wasp flew into the car. He screamed like a girl jumped out and ran around the car. Nothing is as funny as seeing a grown 7'2' dude run around a car in traffic because of a flying insect (I was mildly embarrassed because everyone was looking at us but it was still funny)
    Omg! Lol :laugh:
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    Look at this guy snuffling into a flower. One of the only bugs I will ever call ''cute.''

    That is cute! I don't mind bees so much, it's hubby that has the "beef" lol. On that note, my kid has begun to act like him. We have I'm guessing one of the last remaining McDonald's with a play place in it, and she insists we eat there. They leave the windows open, I mean it's SC it can get as hot as the devil's asscrack, so inevitably flies and other flying things wander in and out. Holy hell, the meltdowns! :unamused:
    ''Beef'' got me. :lol: I'm from SC, too! I think our parents greatly influence what we grow up to be scared of. My mom has a horrible spider phobia and all of us (except my sister, who thinks SPIDERS are cute.... WHAT?) inherited this, probably from watching her react to them. Then again, who isn't scared of spiders? :neutral:

    Me! I love spiders! They eat dirty, nasty flies that like to hang around in poop all day and then try to land on your face. Yay for spiders!

    Agreed!
  • unrelentingminx
    unrelentingminx Posts: 231 Member
    I have to do my weekly food shop today and although my other half is not a fan of cakes or biscuits, he is a total ice cream fiend so I pick him up some every week (he is not dieting with me). Every week I spend a good 5 minutes staring at the lollies and tubs I refuse to buy myself while feeling slightly envious of the way my OH can guilt-free devour his. Even more so since I spotted a new Daim bar chocolate tub.
  • spamarie
    spamarie Posts: 2,825 Member
    So I'm about to go on vacation, and I'm starting to get embarrassed about my very pale, pasty skin. My mom used to go tanning before vacations, but I'm certainly not going to do that (I know how bad it is for you). I bought some fake tanner on a whim and I'm a bit anxious about it. I have never used fake tanner before. I'm thinking that I'm worrying about my skin for nothing.

    As a side note, my sister has the whitest of white skin and always got hit on and complimented for it in the Bahamas.

    From your photo, I'd say you suit your pale skin very well. Think porcelain rather than pasty! If someone makes a negative comment about it to you, they're probably not worth talking to anyway.
  • ythannah
    ythannah Posts: 4,365 Member
    JPW1990 wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    @KylerJaye they're adorable... I have to ask... does Plankton ever look happy?

    lol awww! and no, he really doesn't!
    on the extremely (like seriously once a year) occasion that he's running around with his tongue out panting, we're like OMG! look! plankton's being a real dog!!

    he's my grumpy soul mate

    I thought maybe he just disliked being photographed and that was his camera face. Good thing I don't have a dog like that or I'd spend all my time shovelling treats and toys at him, thinking I needed to cheer him up. Smart tactic, Plankton!
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Glinda1971 wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    I may start a thread and call it "If you're starving just google image 'trypophobia' - appetite gone!"

    I know what I'll look at from now on if I get hungry! Phew that was nasty.
    I'm not going to. You can't make me.

    omg WTF?!?!! i google imaged that! WHY?! omg why?!?!!?
    at first when i read "things with tiny holes" i was like oh, how strange, thinking of like clothes with button holes and perforated paper.
    O M G
    yeah i'm TERRIFIED of that too! you're not weird at all! that is freakish!
    i had to close the tab, omg that was traumatizing....i need a beer...

    I almost want to look. But the reactions have been unanimous so I think I'll spare myself.

    The first thing I thought of with tiny holes was a colander. Specifically, The World's Most Useless Colander, which I happen to own and it's only good for draining something really fine because it has TINY HOLES. (My SO insists on using it to drain pasta, which is incredibly ineffective, and I hate watery pasta but I can't seem to steer him toward one of the other two perfectly normal colanders. Sigh.) Anyway, the colander is annoying but not exactly horrifying or freakish so I assume no one is googling pictures of my colander.

    No it's organic things. Like lotus pods. Tiny bubbles all together. Stuff like that.

    Or if you've had a pilleated woodpecker have a go at a tree.
    Ok, I had to Google. I obviously don't have it - all I see is bad photoshop jobs.

    Nice. So this is turning into one of those "do you see the old woman or the young woman?" "do you see a blue dress or a gold dress?" things. And it means I may end up looking just to see which camp I'm in.

    Except I don't sleep that great as it is and I don't want to risk a night of insomnia, just in case.

    @ythannah, look at this picture. It's a benign image, not a gory shock-value photoshopped image.

    If you truly have it, looking at that flower will make you feel uncomfortable. If you don't have it, it won't bother you. There's a thing where people photoshop that texture onto skin and make creepy horror pictures, and those get really disgusting, but being disgusted by them isn't a sign of trypophobia, that's just a sign of being disgusted by gross photoshopped picture.

    It's just an ugly flower with weird things in it that look, to me, like blueberry boobs.

    Relieved!
  • spamarie
    spamarie Posts: 2,825 Member
    It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.

    Today she had a bad fall from the top to the very bottom of the stairs. She hit her head and has suffered bruising and bleeding to the brain and fractured her skull in two places along with breaking her elbow. The Doctors say there's nothing they can do but to wait it out and see if the bruising on her brain heals itself within the next 48-72 hours and her condition is going to get worse before/if it gets better. If it does heal itself they don't know what her level of function will be after.

    I'm sick with worry and there's nothing I can do. It was 12 hours in hospital before she got seen by a specialist after lying there drowsy with a confirmed bleed on the brain!

    I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.

    That is awful news. Please don't blame yourself. It's not feasible to constantly be walking behind her the whole time. Falls are a common thing in old age but you can't know when the first major one is going to happen. Thinking of you and hoping your grandma pulls through. Can't really say anything to make it better, but could not let this one slip by!
  • spamarie
    spamarie Posts: 2,825 Member
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    ythannah wrote: »
    @KylerJaye they're adorable... I have to ask... does Plankton ever look happy?

    lol awww! and no, he really doesn't!
    on the extremely (like seriously once a year) occasion that he's running around with his tongue out panting, we're like OMG! look! plankton's being a real dog!!

    he's my grumpy soul mate

    I think I love your dog. He reminded me of my grumpy but adorable grandpa.
  • elyzabethgimarc
    elyzabethgimarc Posts: 23 Member
    Bread is my weakness!! I loooove bread, sometimes I have to put all of my willpower into not eating the whole loaf with a side of brie.
  • Oberon21
    Oberon21 Posts: 13,235 Member
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    Oh, it worked.....this is my little rodent boy, all snuggled into me while watching a movie a few weeks ago....

    Thank you all for the kind words, it has been a long hard day......

    He was beautiful. I am glad he had a wonderful life with you.
  • spamarie
    spamarie Posts: 2,825 Member
    I confess, I sometimes latch on to one particular aspect of a food to try to justify it to myself as somehow being hugely beneficial.

    For example, I'm keen to eat plenty of calcium at the moment, so found myself drinking about a pint of chocolate milk (and not the low fat kind either) because calcium. I could just drink standard milk and forgo all the extra sugar/calories, but that's boring!
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,372 Member
    Really, 200 posts overnight?
    It's been the most traumatic day. I've mentioned here before about being a full time carer for my Grandma who suffers with dementia.

    Today she had a bad fall from the top to the very bottom of the stairs. She hit her head and has suffered bruising and bleeding to the brain and fractured her skull in two places along with breaking her elbow. The Doctors say there's nothing they can do but to wait it out and see if the bruising on her brain heals itself within the next 48-72 hours and her condition is going to get worse before/if it gets better. If it does heal itself they don't know what her level of function will be after.

    I'm sick with worry and there's nothing I can do. It was 12 hours in hospital before she got seen by a specialist after lying there drowsy with a confirmed bleed on the brain!

    I can't help thinking somehow that this is my fault and I should have been watching her (I was in my bedroom getting dressed) even though she is always steady on her feet and hasn't had a problem with stairs at least recently anyway. If she doesn't recover from this I don't think I'll be able to forgive myself.

    It's not your fault. You can't chain her to the bed or the chair when you have to pee or change!
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    BZAH10 wrote: »
    KylerJaye wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.

    My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
    Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.
    My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example :| ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.

    My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it. :(

    confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.

    actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.

    so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.

    and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.

    I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!

    you are seriously awesome, thank you :)

    Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.

    My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.

    We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.

    13 years here, we stopped giving each other presents years ago... Sometimes if he needs something practical he'll get it but that's pretty much it, lol. He could get me stuff though, anything nerdy and I'd be happy, but he doesn't.

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    Today is my anniversary and I confess that I am sad that this means I won't be able to go on my weekly bike ride with my girls bike group.

    My husband is the best about anniversaries, birthdays, etc. Last year, he had the high school art teacher help him make me a soup bowl. It says "Soup for my Soulmate". I love it! I tell myself every year I'm going to start shopping early and find him the perfect gift. It never happens. I ended up buying him a ceramic statue at the garden center. He deserves so much better!
    Awwe, that's so sweet. Yours sounds like a great gift too.
    My husband has got better at gifts over the years, but I have had some real doozies (set of home phones for my 40th, for example :| ). I've got much better at saying "For my birthday, if you'd like to get me a present, I'd really love X". Or I tell my daughter. She's very good at relaying 'hints' and he's relieved because he can get something he knows I'll like.

    My husband is amazing at picking gifts for me. I, on the other hand, am the worst gift giver on the planet. Seriously. I always default to perfume because I just can't think of anything else... Even if I know the person really well! :-/ I'm just really, really bad at it. :(

    confession: i am awesome at gift giving. i'm the crazy type that remembers six months ago you said you really wanted something, but could never justify getting it for whatever reason. i'd bust my *kitten* to make sure the gift i gave, meant something to the person, fit who they are, or allowed them to indulge when they themselves never would/could. i rock the giving of gifts.

    actual confession: it took a really long time, and a lot of secret hidden internal disappointment, to realize no one ever puts in that type of effort for me. ever. (nobody cares, boo hoo, i know. yay personal pity party) but it actually really hurts, when you really dig deep and think about it.

    so i quit. i quit making little notes to remember things about people, i quit spending hours on the net to find the out of print japan only release of an album that someone just would "die" to have but could never find it. no more care packages to people far away. i stopped picking up things here and there all year round because i knew it was just PERFECT for someone. i just quit.

    and it's difficult sometimes. i'll see something and be like OH! PERFECT! but then i stop myself and just keep moving. and it's really lame that something like this is making me tear up while i'm at work, so i shall stop whining now before it really opens the floodgates.

    I'm sorry you've gone through all of that. Ever thought of putting those awesome skills to use, though? You could become a personal shopper or consultant. People can contact you about whom they are shopping for, what their tastes are, their collections, etc. I think you'd be great at it!

    you are seriously awesome, thank you :)

    Well, that truly is a talent! I mean, for some of us, here we are, married to someone for years, whom we spend oodles of time with and yet when it comes to gift giving my first thought is, "Ummm....". Blank. Over think it. Waste too much time. End up with something boring.

    My husband and I have pretty much stopped giving each other gifts. We have everything we need. Although this past Valentine's Day he surprised me with a Bose sound system for my iPhone. I got him a card. Ugh. Thankfully I saw it before he came home so I sprinted off to the liquor store to buy him a bottle of Patron. Not equal to a Bose, but it sufficed.

    We've been married 15yrs next week and I can. guarantee there will be no gifts exchanged. Christmas and such have devolved into making sure the kids pick gifts for the opposite partner, but other than that... eh. I'm not into jewelry, flowers, perfume or any stereotypical girly stuff. I literally wear only my engagement and wedding rings, which are very understated and "me". We're not even card people, heh.

    i absolutely detest flowers.
    most ppl who know me, know this.
    of course, last year for admin day my boss gave me a bouquet of flowers. in my head (which of course i couldn't say out loud) all i could think was, after five years, You Don't Know Me At All!!! lol
    I had a boss who gave all four of us underlings champagne for Christmas once. Three of us were pregnant. Yeah, he put a lot of thought into that.
    Why don't you like flowers? Is it just cut flowers? If so, I kind of agree, because it does seem wasteful, even though I love them. I never get given them because my husband has hay fever.

    is it my browser? why duplicate posts, why?

    I don't think so. It always takes me 30 seconds for the page to load when I reply to this thread, for some reason, and I even got a triple post once!


    Confession - my bowels have been extremely noisy (I still have diarrhea. So infuriating) but I'm still planning to go to the gym and I really hope it's not going to be embarrassing.

    Second confession - I made myself some 'cheesecake' in a bowl for breakfast (ricotta mixed with jello instant pudding mix with a graham cracker crust broken in pieces - it's actually not bad at all, filling, and with decent macros) hoping it will help me resist cheesecake at lunch. Still not making any promises.

    Third confession - I still don't see the big deal about this thread being 'stickied'. First, 99% of people won't read that stickied thread. Second, if they do, they will probably not be interested in reading a 700+ pages thread anyway. But I do agree that I don't really see the point of having it in there.

    And happy birthday to the birthday people!

    @Italian_Buju sorry for your loss.