Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))

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  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Kalici wrote: »
    I've never been a fan of pickles. I can't imagine them fried. :s

    Blasphemy! However, to be helpful I will have all your dill pickles. The sweet pickles can go die in a fire though.

    Amen to that! I hate when I grab a pickle, pop it in my mouth, and then find out it is a sweet pickle. Gag.

    All pickles are good, when eaten with the right thing!

    Dills are good for things like tuna sandwiches, burgers and chip dip. (Homemade dill pickle chip dip is amazing)

    Sweet pickles are good for snacking with cheese and crackers etc.

    And bread and butter pickles go on turkey sandwiches, real turkey, not cold cuts.

    Glad I could clear up that confusion for ya'll.
    I have since made a batch......
  • Italian_Buju
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    @Susieq_1994 I'm so sorry :( I hope the flare is a short one and you get to feeling better soon :(

    @orangesmartie That's such an awesome attitude! Today is a new day and it's going to be great! I am jealous- I want to go to Nashville! lol not sure about the running (I run like an arthritic tortoise) but the rest sounds awesome.

    AFM, it was a whirlwind weekend. I have Insulin Resistance and I'm hypoglycemic. If I eat like I'm supposed to (very strict, controlled diet) I can maintain my weight. Eat less, and I'll lose. Eat a bit of sugar, I get sick for half a day. I'm not kidding, either- an entire chocolate chip cookie is enough to have me on the couch for a few hours :( I eat ice cream or gelato by 1 tbsp and that's it and I'll still feel weird after unless I down water. Can't really eat fruit, unless it's a couple berries. I've learned to adjust and it's hard to own a home bakery when I want to taste everything but I've learned not to. I also scaled back my business.

    My mom was watching oldest DS for us on July 4th, so when we went to pick him up yesterday, we grilled chicken and vegs for her as a "thank you". She had made two desserts and basically guilt tripped me into eating a bite of each. A regular forkful sized bite of each. I still don't feel right. I'm so bloated my pants don't fit well, my stomach is heaving, and I have a pounding headache. I'm mad at myself for not sticking to my guns.

    But...in great news, we were approved to adopt the dog! She's coming up here on Saturday!! SO excited! We got some supplies and DH is actually getting excited, too. Her foster mom keeps sending me pics and it's making me so anxious to see her!

    Ugh, I hope you feel better! You would think your mom understands how bloated & sick you get from eating sugar.

    Happy to hear that you were approved to adopt the dog.

    What's funny is she's diabetic, so she should understand. Her dose of Metformin is too high though but she doesn't go get it changed, because it allows her to eat a LOT of fruits and sweets (to counteract the Metformin). I tell her she's the worst diabetic ever.

    This made me cringe a bit.....that is a dangerous cycle. My mother was the worse diabetic ever also, and she lost her leg, had bad cateracts and heart failure. I know another girl that has only been diabetic ten years, and she does not take care of herself properly, and has lost all the toes on one foot (it was a miracle they could save the foot!), and is now going blind. I know another girl that eats junk like nobody's business and takes her meds when she wants, she had a MAJOR heart attack in her late 20's. Those girls are both T2's. In all seriousness, if you have the ability, I would tell her DR about that, so he can cut it back.
    My dad is a pretty bad diabetic. He pretty much eats the same portions as he used to, coke, fried cheese tacos (he eats this at least a few times a week), pan dulce, and food from whatever restaurant they went to. He even makes himself sick enough to throw up.

    The family has tried to help him but he doesn't care.

    :'(

    There are times I eat a lot of grief bacon, when stressed....but I will test every two hours forever to make sure I stay at a good number throughout.....
  • Italian_Buju
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    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    Just_Ceci wrote: »
    Popping in to say- sweet pickles are disgusting! Why anyone would choose to desecrate tuna or anything else with sweet pickles or sweet pickle relish baffles me! :p

    Also, I have small feet, can't stand the way my toes look so rarely wear open toed shoes. I also have a dear husband who doesn't want to buy anything that is made in China, so shoe shopping is not one of my favorite things to do. :(

    I am so jealous of all the vacation talk. I haven't had a real vacation since I stopped teaching 4 years ago. I am in the process of buying a new car, which means I won't be taking any real vacations anytime soon either. (I am a contractor, so I don't get any paid time off.)

    Sending out virtual hugs to all who need them!

    ETA: @MoHousdon Beautiful ring and beautiful story, sounds like something my DH would do!

    Why?
    He doesn't like the way the average Chinese worker is treated.

    <3

    I love your husband now!
  • Italian_Buju
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    Does anyone here use Rotten Tomatoes for movie rating/tracking? I have been using flixster for years, but it just sucks now....
    Ohhh yes. Every time I want to watch a movie I check Rotten Tomatoes. I LOVE it! It tends to be extremely accurate, at least in my opinion. Critics make up the main score, while the audience still has a role in the score on the right hand side.

    Are you a member? If so, what other things can you do on there? Also, do you use it to rate movies after you watch them?
  • Italian_Buju
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    @Susieq_1994 I'm so sorry :( I hope the flare is a short one and you get to feeling better soon :(

    @orangesmartie That's such an awesome attitude! Today is a new day and it's going to be great! I am jealous- I want to go to Nashville! lol not sure about the running (I run like an arthritic tortoise) but the rest sounds awesome.

    AFM, it was a whirlwind weekend. I have Insulin Resistance and I'm hypoglycemic. If I eat like I'm supposed to (very strict, controlled diet) I can maintain my weight. Eat less, and I'll lose. Eat a bit of sugar, I get sick for half a day. I'm not kidding, either- an entire chocolate chip cookie is enough to have me on the couch for a few hours :( I eat ice cream or gelato by 1 tbsp and that's it and I'll still feel weird after unless I down water. Can't really eat fruit, unless it's a couple berries. I've learned to adjust and it's hard to own a home bakery when I want to taste everything but I've learned not to. I also scaled back my business.

    My mom was watching oldest DS for us on July 4th, so when we went to pick him up yesterday, we grilled chicken and vegs for her as a "thank you". She had made two desserts and basically guilt tripped me into eating a bite of each. A regular forkful sized bite of each. I still don't feel right. I'm so bloated my pants don't fit well, my stomach is heaving, and I have a pounding headache. I'm mad at myself for not sticking to my guns.

    But...in great news, we were approved to adopt the dog! She's coming up here on Saturday!! SO excited! We got some supplies and DH is actually getting excited, too. Her foster mom keeps sending me pics and it's making me so anxious to see her!

    Ugh, I hope you feel better! You would think your mom understands how bloated & sick you get from eating sugar.

    Happy to hear that you were approved to adopt the dog.

    What's funny is she's diabetic, so she should understand. Her dose of Metformin is too high though but she doesn't go get it changed, because it allows her to eat a LOT of fruits and sweets (to counteract the Metformin). I tell her she's the worst diabetic ever.


    This made me cringe a bit.....that is a dangerous cycle. My mother was the worse diabetic ever also, and she lost her leg, had bad cateracts and heart failure. I know another girl that has only been diabetic ten years, and she does not take care of herself properly, and has lost all the toes on one foot (it was a miracle they could save the foot!), and is now going blind. I know another girl that eats junk like nobody's business and takes her meds when she wants, she had a MAJOR heart attack in her late 20's. Those girls are both T2's. In all seriousness, if you have the ability, I would tell her DR about that, so he can cut it back.
    My dad is a pretty bad diabetic. He pretty much eats the same portions as he used to, coke, fried cheese tacos (he eats this at least a few times a week), pan dulce, and food from whatever restaurant they went to. He even makes himself sick enough to throw up.

    The family has tried to help him but he doesn't care.

    Confession: I am getting seriously frustrated with the number of diabetics who neglect to realize that it is a serious condition that requires you to take action to obtain/maintain your health.
    This REALLY angers me because I know that later, when they lose a foot or their eyesight, they will complain and claim that 'the world' did this to them. When really they have done it to themselves by not taking better care of their bodies and making better choices.

    I also feel badly about judging people like this but I just don't handle the whole 'woe is me' crap when it was within their power to change before things got really bad.

    It's taken MONTHS but I finally have my sister taking better care of herself and making better diet choices. I am ashamed that I had to resort to some scare tactics but I love her and her life is at stake!

    I am glad to hear that! Just for the record though, even with good control and steady blood sugars, such things as losing a foot, organ failure or going blind still can happen! You can keep it at bay for many many years, but sadly, the end result is usually the same.
  • Italian_Buju
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    FroggyBug wrote: »
    I'm almost done with Survivor 29 and I am really upset by the final three. One of them I like ok (and I think for sure is going to win), the other two I never really liked... and the person I wanted to win got voted out in fourth place. ARGH. Hate it when that happens.

    On another note, I keep hearing some weird sound coming from my kitchen and I'm not sure what it could be. I told my boyfriend our apartment must be haunted or something. It almost sounds like some water is splashing on the floor violently, but I can't find anything wrong. We recently had an ant infestation so maybe a big ant is making noise in our wall as revenge for our ant murder.

    Creepy. I hope you can figure out what it is. If you do, let us know.

    Back in about 2009 or 2010, we had a few months were my whole family was experiencing weird things (in different locations) that I've never been able to explain to this day. It was really weird... I felt like we were all haunted for a while too.
    I feel like I MIGHT be able to get some idea of an exact location if I always stand in the kitchen on the lookout, but sometimes these sounds are hours apart. Still going on today and they didn't happen before we went to Punta Cana. My boyfriend keeps saying that there might be a rat in the wall or something and I hope that's not the case.
    spamarie wrote: »
    Congrats @bkhamill !!!

    I confess that I am only 21 years old and don't think I'm ready to have a baby by any means, but sometimes I have dreams that I am very pregnant or have an infant and wake up feeling strangely empty, confused, and sad. Any one else do this? Or did this?

    I used to have those all the time in my early 20s. Now I actually am pregnant, my dreams have been completely devoid of anything baby-related. Funny how the brain works. I did dream my mattress was made of cheese the other night. I had to lie really still and evenly to avoid crumbling it!
    I heard that your dreams get extra crazy when you're pregnant. I love dreams and keep a dream diary on my computer. Last night I dreamed that I had something stuck in my teeth... and I finally managed to pull it out- a long string of spaghetti. Then more and more kept coming, so it turns out I had like 20 strings of spaghetti stuck in that spot between my teeth. It was kind of freaky for some reason.

    When I was pregnant with my son I had a reoccurring dream that lasted all throughout. As some of you might recall, my father died suddenly when I was 15. I had a dream that he came to my place, and I was confused and told him I thought he was dead.

    He would tell me that he did not die, that he just left because he did not think anyone wanted him here. I told him I did, and how desperately I missed him.

    The middle is just random stuff, but it was the same every time.

    Near the end of the dream we would go to a farmer's market and it would get really busy. I would start to lose track of him, and would find him and as I grabbed him all his teeth would fall out, and he would tell me that it was a mistake coming back, and then he would disappear into the crowd.

    I had this dream at least two dozen times during my pregnancy, and each time would become more and more aware of what was going to happen, not at the beginning of the dream but as it went on. The last half dozen times or so I had it, I would end up in full out panic as soon as we got to the market because I knew what was about to happen. But I could never stop it. After I gave birth, I never had that dream again, but I remember it vividly.

    Also, I was always as pregnant in the dream as I was in real life....that was odd, seeing as everything else was exactly the same each time.

    Wow that's strange & amazing that you had the same dream for at least two weeks! Do any of you ever get Deja Vu?

    I have never experienced Deja Vu.....and I had that dream all throughout my pregnancy, not just for two weeks!
  • Italian_Buju
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    So, since today is national ice cream day, how are we celebrating? ;)

    What? How did I miss that.....I had mine tonight to make up for it......
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    My one morning a week to lie on and here I am, bright eyed and bushy tailed at 6.30. I'm not happy!!

    I HATE when that happens!!

    Ok folks, I have made it to 1228 this morning....and now I must go be productive again....

    I have a friend bringing me two big boxes of peaches tonight for canning.....but I won't have time to can them until next Sunday....I am gonna store them in a fridge and hope for the best.....I told him I am gonna need twice the amount as last year, but not all at once, because canning peaches is a full day, two person job! Last year was my first year! And in the fall I did applesauce, which is a ton of work too, but one person can do it, and you get a long break in the middle while the sauce is cooking.....I am excited but a bit worried about them lastly that long in the fridge....wish me luck!

    I am gonna read a couple more dozen pages tonight once I am done everything....my 'goal' is to be caught up a week from now, as I know it moves a lot faster in the week, and I am really busy this week!
    When you can stuff, do you actually use it? I go through mad phases of making things and then find it never gets used. I just threw away a load of pear and ginger chutney I made last year and literally none of it had been used. :|

    I only do peaches and applesauce.....last year was my first year and we have been out of both for a while....this year I am going to do at least double the amount of each.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Anyone else love Orange is the New Black? My boyfriend and I are one episode away from finishing the third season. There's one character in particular that I hated in the first season (I think everyone did) and now I really like her and feel sorry for her. This show has great character development :lol:

    I love this show! We are about half way through the third season. It takes us a while to finish a season because my SO is only here on the weekends and we usually can only watch one or two if we are lucky as we are so busy during that time!

    I hate Pennsatucky, I think I talked about this earlier in the thread. I feel like all the characters have SOME redeeming qualities, except for her! I think she is just a total scumbag!

    I really like Red, she is my favorite. Poussey is another one I really like. I also like Alex.

    The scariest inmate is Lorna, by far.....she is on a totally other level of crazy than everyone else.....her backstory was insane!

    ETA: I see now who you hated......
    Pennsatucky has been fully redeemed in my eyes. Definitely one of my favorite characters! I like Lorna as well... even though she is CRAZY, she's just so adorable and fun to watch. I love her accent.
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Anyone else love Orange is the New Black? My boyfriend and I are one episode away from finishing the third season. There's one character in particular that I hated in the first season (I think everyone did) and now I really like her and feel sorry for her. This show has great character development :lol:

    LOOOOOOOOVE!! I hate Piper and I hate SoSo. I love Pennsatucky and Boo, they're two of my faves! I like Taystee too! I also like Red, Nicky, & Lorna! Love that show sooo much.

    Ugh Piper drives me nuts :( I actually stopped watching after season 2 because Piper drove me crazy and I was rolling my eyes so much.

    I kinda like Piper.....she is not my favorite, but I don't understand why everyone here seems to hate her....please enlighten me?
    I think she gets worse every season. I don't like the way she talks to people... her facial expressions annoy me and I feel like she can be really mean to people without realizing what it is she's implying. I also feel like she thinks herself better than anyone else in there.

    EDIT: I just looked up ''Why I hate Piper'' on Google and found a fan theory stating that the reason why a lot of people hate Piper is because we can relate all of our flaws to hers.

    I have three episodes left, and I just do not see how this is possible.....
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Home sweet home! I missed you all and hope you haven't forgotten me. It was just too busy too post although I did try and skim through a few pages every night before bed which incidentally was never before midnight.

    We had a ball. Tubing, swimming, quadding. A bonfire every night and too much junk food but I did manage to get lots of steps in. My 2 SILs and I walked about 4 miles each morning before anyone got out of bed.

    No one has seen me since Christmas and since then I have lost about 37 pounds so I got lots of compliments. One of my nephews didn't recognize me at first lol.

    Well I am off to unpack but wanted to check in. I have lots I want to respond too. Maybe I will get to it later. I did want to quickly say glad you are back @Italian_Buju

    Sounds like a great trip!
  • Italian_Buju
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    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    Am having friends over for dinner. I've just put a plum cake in the oven, and am about to start on an aloo gobi (cauliflower & potato curry). My husband is making his ferocious madras which is way too hot for me!

    Just took daughter for another blood test and will call dr for a follow-up appointment this week. She's still weepy and exhausted all the time - something has to be done, this is going on too long.

    Hope everyone's enjoying their weekends!

    Assuming by now you have updated us on said blood test and how she is?
    Nope. Couldn't get an appointment until first week of April. Fortunately she's a bit cheerier this week - she got a job she really wanted and that's given her a big boost. Still very, very tired, but not crying so much, so that's better at least.
    ETA: Oops, not April, August!

    I am glad it was a typo cuz I was gonna tell you to go elsewhere! Please keep us posted! She is in my thoughts!
  • Italian_Buju
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    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Eve53 wrote: »
    Ok, I'll try to keep up. I got another confession though... I use mens shampoo/body wash at the gym because I can't find an all in one that is made for women, and don't want to be bothered with more than one bottle.

    Also, I don't wear undies or a bra when I leave the gym because I don't want the trouble of trying to get them back on when I'm all spent from working out, lol.

    I confess that this morning I got up at around 5:30 AM to get a shower & after putting Herbal Essence 2 in 1 in my hair I almost put body wash in my hair.

    I also confess that some days I forget to wear deodorant to work.
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    @Tubbs216 don't worry about keeping up/responding just don't leave us!!!
    Aw, thank you. I'm not going anywhere - sometimes I get overwhelmed about trying to thoroughly read everything and respond to everyone.

    Just do what you can...only us OCD folks need to read everything!

    You know! Here I am, over on page 1244.....I have made a LOT of head way this weekend, but I am scared to go into the week behind!! I do have Tuesday night home alone though, I am gonna have to make sure I get all my steps in early so I can come home and hang out here for a few hours before bed, lol.

    I know how you feel. I have about 2 days I am still not caught up on that I MUST read. It was my plan for tonight but a colicky horse stopped that. I didn't get home til after 11 and I was too tired to even go get my McDonald's ice cream for national ice cream day. I am allowing myself a rain check.

    Like the horse cries out?
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    nonoelmo wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    ShibaEars wrote: »
    I dropped a big blog of peanut butter onto the crotch of my black pants. I tried to clean it off, but peanut butter isn't the most cooperative, so I will most likely have this awful stain on the crotch of my pants all day.

    I really don't like the word crotch.

    Tehe I've done this with avocado before :D

    I'm not a huge fan of the word crotch either but as much as I dislike it it makes me giggle!

    This reminds me.....I bought Wholly Guacamole today, single serve, spicy.....I have not tried it yet, but when I do, it is the first time ever.....I know to eat it with nacho chips, but do I also use salsa? Cheese dip? Anything else?? LOL

    I am not a fan of Wholly Guacamole. I will eat it as it is definitely not the worst out there, but it is not the best either (I usually make my own). So if you don't like it that does not rule out you liking a different guacamole in the future I hope. :wink: The spicy is ok, probably it will be spicy enough but you can have a bit with guac, the next with salsa, and so on. My daughter's first solid food was guacamole at an authentic restaurant. She still loves it.

    I tried it tonight....it was o-k....I did not finish the whole serving and I cut it with dill pickle dip, lol.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    pootle1972 wrote: »
    I totally wee in the shower.

    Um, didn't the same poster post this a few pages back :|

    I thought they had confessed that twice :D!

    I confess that I went on a walk this morning only so I could pass my sister on the leaderboard steps on Fitbit o:).

    I have done that with my sister also, lol.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    So, I only ended up 46 pages behind... Hmmm, to catch up or not to catch up, that is the question.
    You can do it! I was 100 pages behind, and now I am closing in with only ten to go!
  • Italian_Buju
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    KylerJaye wrote: »
    currently doing the 20 page catch up, in the meantime....

    post date update!

    ok, so i met the really nice dude for the first time on 7/9.
    since that thursday, i have literally spent some time of every day with him. ranging from two hours, to entire days.
    it's been absolutely amazing.

    there was a slight hiccup on friday, where apparently he had had a panic attack on wednesday and didn't tell me. and the reason he didn't tell me is because the panic attack was from him getting freaked out that what we've been doing must be too good to be true, the shoe was going to drop and he was going to be crushed. he thought he ruined the potential of us having a relationship by letting things go too far too fast and was just overwhelmed by the whole thing. (which i actually think is pretty darn precious, just wish the poor dude didn't have to have a panic attack over it). so on friday, he was trying to reel things back a bit and to me it was like, oh and he's the rejection i've been expecting!

    but then amazingly, on saturday, and then some more on sunday, we completely talked through everything. and he never got angry, or defensive, or stormed off (which was 97% of any discussion from my previous relationship). we came to a mutual conclusion on going forward and how we wanted to keep going forward. it was kinda awesome.

    like really awesome. super great even ;)

    and now he's determined to help me get my house done. my place has been in a constant state of "under construction" since i bought it. the ex wasn't exactly carpentry savvy, or motivated, so nothing was ever finished. lots and lots of starts, nothing finished. so yesterday we spent the whole day working on the dining room that still had naked walls and exposed insulation. one of the things he said while we were working that just totally made me melt was "just so you know, we're going to be eating dinner in here before the end of this week. this will be done" *sqee!*

    yeah i'm pretty sure i've decided to keep him :D

    So awesome! And you didn't even have to kiss THAT many frogs!
  • Italian_Buju
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    Tubbs216 wrote: »
    I drove 200 miles last night to end my relationships. I talked a lot. Couldn't bring myself to say the words. I didn't think it would be possible for my heart to be so broken again.

    I know I am late on this but still wamted to give you big hugs!
    Anyone heard from @orangesmartie recently? I hope she's doing ok.

    I have been thinking that as I have been reading along hoping I would see her post sooner or later before I completely caught up......
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Confession: I have a coworker who has FMLA for mystery circulatory system problem. I believe she is really sick, but am made crazy when her episodes conveniently happen to allow her to.take a Friday and Monday off when her work is far enough behind that the higher ups will have me do it for her while she is out. I decided to take last Friday off because they were emailing me about her stuff while she was here last week. I forwarded it all to her and replied to the bosses that it was her work. So she took FMLA for Friday and today and I had to.do.it anyway. GRRR....

    What is that?
  • Italian_Buju
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    MoHousdon wrote: »
    LBuehrle8 wrote: »
    Anyone else love Orange is the New Black? My boyfriend and I are one episode away from finishing the third season. There's one character in particular that I hated in the first season (I think everyone did) and now I really like her and feel sorry for her. This show has great character development :lol:

    LOOOOOOOOVE!! I hate Piper and I hate SoSo. I love Pennsatucky and Boo, they're two of my faves! I like Taystee too! I also like Red, Nicky, & Lorna! Love that show sooo much.

    Ugh Piper drives me nuts :( I actually stopped watching after season 2 because Piper drove me crazy and I was rolling my eyes so much.

    I kinda like Piper.....she is not my favorite, but I don't understand why everyone here seems to hate her....please enlighten me?

    Keep watching...

    I only have three episodes left? We are gonna have to re-discuss this when I am done.
  • barbecuesauce
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    clover157 wrote: »
    Dnarules wrote: »
    Francl27 wrote: »
    I'm not having a very good day. Total pity party and tears over my parenting failures. I guess it's a good thing that I decided to go for a walk instead of digging in the ice cream stash.

    Sorry to hear this. Parenting is such a tough job. I hope the walk helped.



    Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it. :smiley:

    And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?! :astonished:

    Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor. :wink:

    ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.

    Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
    I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
    Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
    But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives :(
    Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.

    I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
    To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
    Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.

    And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today :)

    Welcome to the thread!

    That's the problem with Facebook. People post all their best happy moments and achievements to make themselves look better or make them appear as they are having the time of their lives every single day. People want to show everyone that they are "awesome" at everything and make it appear that they are having the most fun and nothing is ever wrong. No one is going to post pictures of themselves when they are hurling over the toilet from illness (except when friends post photos of you being an idiot after a night a drinking), changing diapers, the fights you have with your spouse, etc.

    This is why I don't have facebook - I don't feel it is "real life" - it is more an edited version of "real life"

    I think I knew this on some level, but every time I log on to Facebook and see my friends - mostly people around my age - posting about all of their successes at work, how fabulous their homes are, how wonderful their kids/SOs are, how many goals they've achieved, it always depresses the hell out of me because I'm sooooo far behind in all of that. I'll spare you the details, but let's just say that I'm basically George Costanza only female and not bald.

    But the next time I see those posts and start to feel like crap about myself, I'm going to remember what you've written and remind myself that things are probably not as great as they seem.

    So thank you. This might sound strange, but I really, really appreciate your words. :)

    I love this. I feel like this too sometimes. I confess I have friends (mostly school acquaintances who still live in our home town) on FB who are in their 30s and still post relationship drama or can't stay out of jail or off drugs just to feel better about myself. The low point was probably having an absolutely terrible week and then coming online to find a girl I barely remember basically live-blogged trashing her ex's trailer. Why are we still friends? It's kinda gross seeing the reason typed out onscreen but whatever, not sorry.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    MoHousdon wrote: »
    This isn't a confession, just a sharing of sorts.

    I had the BEST weekend.

    We did in fact get the house clean Saturday (minus our bedroom and bathroom) and I feel so much less stressed now. The food was incredible and I even got to spend some much needed time with my best friend. I got to experience grilled pineapple for the first time and it is heavenly. I would highly recommend it if you haven't tried it. I would suggest coating it in cinnamon and brown sugar. Seriously...HEAVENLY.

    Yesterday, we overslept so didn't make it to church, but it was nice to sleep in. We lied in bed almost all day watching Netflix and cuddling. o:) Around 5 or so, we got up and got dressed and went to Mooyah's for dinner because I had some gift cards to use. It was incredibly yummy. Mr. Mo had the turkey burger (which I tried and it was delicious. I will be getting that next time) and I had the bacon cheeseburger. I look forward to going again.

    Afterwards, we went to the store to pick up a few things and then headed back home. I changed back into my jammies and Mr. Mo made a pound cake since we had strawberries and pineapple left over but only 1 piece of cake left from the night before. After the cake went into the over, he made us a bowl of strawberries, and pineapple pound cake with vanilla bean ice cream to share. I did not log it. Oops.

    We finished OITNB (Boo, Piper) and started watching Breaking Bad. We are on season 2 episode 3 already and just started watching yesterday afternoon. What an incredibly well done show!

    It was an incredible weekend that was not only fun, but very productive. I am looking forward to spending the week with my honey since Rachael is in Alabama with my mom and stepdad.

    Sorry so long, but I just had to share!

    What a nice day!!

    I loved Breaking Bad, I watched the whole thing in less than a month last year!! You will happy to know the ending did not suck, which I find happens a lot with good shows!
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    GUESS WHAT?!?! I just got promoted!!! I've only been at this job for 8 months!!! I don't know what my raise is yet, but since I was already doing the work, I'm basically going to get paid more for what I already do.

    ANDDDD....I only gained 0.4 on my vacation. I was truly expecting seven pounds or so, the way I ate.

    YIPPEE, Monday!

    Good Stuff!
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Thanks everyone. Its been probably 15 years since I weighed under 200. Feels pretty darn good!!!

    I must have missed the original post. Congrats!! Woohoo!

    Thanks!!!! :)

    That is great!
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    FroggyBug wrote: »
    @FroggyBug Maybe I missed it but the last post I saw you hadn't heard from your BF (not sure how you are referring to him sorry) since the 5th is that still the case?

    He actually called last week early in the morning (like Tuesday or something) so I was worried (because he sleeps in late). He found some kittens so he wanted to know what to do with them. He got them to a safe place and they are doing okay now. We both love animals so he wanted my help. The mother cat wasn't anywhere around. Poor kitties.

    Other than that he wasn't communicating with me. Finally this Saturday I texted him to let him know that I think we should be communicating more. (I MISS him...) He did say he got some time off next month specifically so I can schedule the counseling sessions so I will be doing that. I get five free sessions.

    I really hope it helps but I'm worried that it may be too late. I just get that feeling unfortunately. We will see. I'm scared, I don't know what to expect.

    :(
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    Man, I had a rough day today!

    First off I could not fall asleep last night to save my life, it was at least 3:30am when I finally slept.

    Then today, like less than half an hour after I get to work a lady a vaguely know (she lives down the hall, but have had limited contact), is in my store and as she gets up to me, she is shaking really badly. She is pregnant, I would say about six months along. I ask her if she is ok, and she says she is not feeling well, and thinks she just peed herself. Her pants were soaked, her water broke for sure. Right as this happens, she literally starts going down. I got her on the chair, and we called 911. She was freaking out, she kept saying "it's way too early".

    It felt like it took the paramedics forever to get there! They did not even have their lights on or anything! My boss said because she was not in pain, when we were talking about it after. Ok, fine, she was not in pain, but she was pregnant, about half way through, and her water broke, hurry up!

    That messed me up for hours, I was like spaced out or something. I feel terrible for her!

    Then my boss and I had a disagreement and while it was not a fight and is not a huge deal, it made for an uncomfortable afternoon.

    After that, the girl that is supposed to relieve me calls in sick....and she never calls in so I know she is sick, but my boss could not find anyone to cover. She was gonna call in one of my co-workers that works two jobs and NEVER gets a day off, was out for a walk earlier in the day and mentioned that she was off. So, for the second time this month, I offered to stay extra to avoid her having to come in. The first problem is that my feet and bladder were unprepared for that extra half shift, because I did not pace myself at the beginning of the shift.....my feet have their own heartbeat now and I almost didn't make it home in time to pee!

    Now, it is 10:30, the time I usually go to bed during the week, and here I am, eating dinner. That is the second problem.....ugh.

    I am feeling overwhelmed, and have a busy week ahead of me. I must pace myself. If I do not make it to the gym tomorrow, I am ok with that, as long as I get my steps in. I can't do much more there than walk on the treadmill and track anyway, as I do not have my appointment for a reboot on the weigh equipment until Thursday.

    I have to go for the first of two sets of tests on my legs tomorrow checking the blood flow. When I am mapping the day out in my head, I keep thinking of the wrong medical building......I am hoping I do not make that mistake tomorrow....

    That does sound terrible. Did you find out about your neighbor? Is she OK? Is the baby OK?

    I did not do anything about it tonight because I do not know her that well and I thought that would be weird, but if I do not see her, I am gonna check on her in a few days.
  • Italian_Buju
    Italian_Buju Posts: 8,030 Member
    Page 1306 is MINE!!

    I am all caught up!!

    Now, why does the batcave have a million new posts, when did that happen??

    Will save that for tomorrow.....it is 3:30am and I am gonna DIE tomorrow......My daughter came in from work and saw I was awake (which almost never happens), so that put me behind another hour while she talked my face off, lol.

    I am going to bed now, looking forward to time alone tomorrow night. I need to watch some TV, my DVR keeps deleting stuff, and I have lost many trivia crack games that timed out!

    I DID IT, ALL CAUGHT UP, now you will never get rid of me, Bahahahahahahaaha!!

    Thanks for all the welcome backs guys, ya'll give me the warm and fuzzies!
  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    @Susieq_1994 I'm so sorry :( I hope the flare is a short one and you get to feeling better soon :(

    @orangesmartie That's such an awesome attitude! Today is a new day and it's going to be great! I am jealous- I want to go to Nashville! lol not sure about the running (I run like an arthritic tortoise) but the rest sounds awesome.

    AFM, it was a whirlwind weekend. I have Insulin Resistance and I'm hypoglycemic. If I eat like I'm supposed to (very strict, controlled diet) I can maintain my weight. Eat less, and I'll lose. Eat a bit of sugar, I get sick for half a day. I'm not kidding, either- an entire chocolate chip cookie is enough to have me on the couch for a few hours :( I eat ice cream or gelato by 1 tbsp and that's it and I'll still feel weird after unless I down water. Can't really eat fruit, unless it's a couple berries. I've learned to adjust and it's hard to own a home bakery when I want to taste everything but I've learned not to. I also scaled back my business.

    My mom was watching oldest DS for us on July 4th, so when we went to pick him up yesterday, we grilled chicken and vegs for her as a "thank you". She had made two desserts and basically guilt tripped me into eating a bite of each. A regular forkful sized bite of each. I still don't feel right. I'm so bloated my pants don't fit well, my stomach is heaving, and I have a pounding headache. I'm mad at myself for not sticking to my guns.

    But...in great news, we were approved to adopt the dog! She's coming up here on Saturday!! SO excited! We got some supplies and DH is actually getting excited, too. Her foster mom keeps sending me pics and it's making me so anxious to see her!

    Ugh, I hope you feel better! You would think your mom understands how bloated & sick you get from eating sugar.

    Happy to hear that you were approved to adopt the dog.

    What's funny is she's diabetic, so she should understand. Her dose of Metformin is too high though but she doesn't go get it changed, because it allows her to eat a LOT of fruits and sweets (to counteract the Metformin). I tell her she's the worst diabetic ever.


    This made me cringe a bit.....that is a dangerous cycle. My mother was the worse diabetic ever also, and she lost her leg, had bad cateracts and heart failure. I know another girl that has only been diabetic ten years, and she does not take care of herself properly, and has lost all the toes on one foot (it was a miracle they could save the foot!), and is now going blind. I know another girl that eats junk like nobody's business and takes her meds when she wants, she had a MAJOR heart attack in her late 20's. Those girls are both T2's. In all seriousness, if you have the ability, I would tell her DR about that, so he can cut it back.
    My dad is a pretty bad diabetic. He pretty much eats the same portions as he used to, coke, fried cheese tacos (he eats this at least a few times a week), pan dulce, and food from whatever restaurant they went to. He even makes himself sick enough to throw up.

    The family has tried to help him but he doesn't care.

    Confession: I am getting seriously frustrated with the number of diabetics who neglect to realize that it is a serious condition that requires you to take action to obtain/maintain your health.
    This REALLY angers me because I know that later, when they lose a foot or their eyesight, they will complain and claim that 'the world' did this to them. When really they have done it to themselves by not taking better care of their bodies and making better choices.

    I also feel badly about judging people like this but I just don't handle the whole 'woe is me' crap when it was within their power to change before things got really bad.

    It's taken MONTHS but I finally have my sister taking better care of herself and making better diet choices. I am ashamed that I had to resort to some scare tactics but I love her and her life is at stake!

    I am glad to hear that! Just for the record though, even with good control and steady blood sugars, such things as losing a foot, organ failure or going blind still can happen! You can keep it at bay for many many years, but sadly, the end result is usually the same.

    This is all I am hoping for because she is my YOUNGER sister and the only sibling I actually like. It sounds sad and selfish but it is what it is.
  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    Confession: I have a coworker who has FMLA for mystery circulatory system problem. I believe she is really sick, but am made crazy when her episodes conveniently happen to allow her to.take a Friday and Monday off when her work is far enough behind that the higher ups will have me do it for her while she is out. I decided to take last Friday off because they were emailing me about her stuff while she was here last week. I forwarded it all to her and replied to the bosses that it was her work. So she took FMLA for Friday and today and I had to.do.it anyway. GRRR....

    What is that?

    FMLA is the Family and Medical Leave Act. The FMLA entitles eligible employees of covered employers to take unpaid, job-protected leave for specified family and medical reasons with continuation of group health insurance coverage under the same terms and conditions as if the employee had not taken leave.

    Basically, you get to call in sick more because you have a serious chronic illness and you can't get fired for it.
  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    pofoster21 wrote: »
    OK! I think @Italian_Buju and @lilaclovebird and I are competing for binge posting tonight. But I am caught up or close enough. Its 2 am and I accomplished all my goals in the motivation thread. Good night folks!!!!!!!!!!!

    ETA I actually forgot I didn't make the appointments I planned to make so change this to I accomplished MOST of my goals.

    I'm not actually huge on the binge posting, usually.
    I confess: I love reading the binge postings of others because I can just smile and nod in agreement with most everything. :smiley:

    It's not 'lazy', it is 'energy conservative.'
  • BodyByBex
    BodyByBex Posts: 3,685 Member
    Confession: When I get on the scale and see 184 pounds, I don't believe it. Even though my size 12 jeans and dress slacks fit COMFORTABLY, I don't believe it.
    I haven't been at this weight in almost 8 years and I just can't believe it. I have only 30 pounds until goal and I just don't believe any of it.