Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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AngryViking1970 wrote: »Sounds like you're a naturally strong person, so you probably don't need it. I do. I'm quite the weakling. Well, physically anyway. Mentally, no. Mentally I'm known as the Boot Camp Drill Sargent in my family. Physically, well??? Let's just say that sometimes going in and out of the grocery store I step onto the automatic door thingy and the door doesn't open. Thankfully, I learned from "Toy Story" to jump up and down once or twice and the door opens. My son finds this highly amusing and will lag behind me just to watch it happen.
See and I can picture that and it's awesome. haha
Awesomely embarrassing, yes!
I don't jump up and down, but sometimes I have to cha cha back and forth to catch the sensor. We'd be a blast trying to get into the store together.
I can join your little group. I was following someone into a store one day and the door almost closed on me. Scared the crap outta me and I probably looked funny jumping out of the way. Maybe all three of us could get it to work lol.
Apparently I walk too fast....or lack a soul, I have walked into those darn doors more than once. Maybe I'll try disco dancing up to them to give the doors a chance.
LOL, that's what I've said about myself when they won't work
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berlynnwall wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »
When I saw Frozen in the theater with my kids, I was having some serious issues with my sister (still am if I'm being honest, very similar to orangesmartie's family situation) and during the song "do you want to build a snowman" I started crying! I am not normally a crier, and I was mortified, but it felt like it took me so long to get it under control, only to start back up again during Let it Go. I felt like such a sap. (no offense to people who do cry easily - I don't think you're saps. It was just so foreign to me to lose control for a ridic reason).
Don't feel bad. But then I am a sap. I cry watching movies, tv shows, and yes, even in commercials. My husband thinks it is so funny as I bawl during a Coke commercial.
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AngryViking1970 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »Sounds like you're a naturally strong person, so you probably don't need it. I do. I'm quite the weakling. Well, physically anyway. Mentally, no. Mentally I'm known as the Boot Camp Drill Sargent in my family. Physically, well??? Let's just say that sometimes going in and out of the grocery store I step onto the automatic door thingy and the door doesn't open. Thankfully, I learned from "Toy Story" to jump up and down once or twice and the door opens. My son finds this highly amusing and will lag behind me just to watch it happen.
See and I can picture that and it's awesome. haha
Awesomely embarrassing, yes!
I don't jump up and down, but sometimes I have to cha cha back and forth to catch the sensor. We'd be a blast trying to get into the store together.
I just wave at it... When I was a kid and I was too young (read: short) for the sensor (it's at the top of the door around here...) to see me, a male employee came over and just waved at it and it opened. I've been doing that ever since, and it works every time. I probably still look like a moron, waving at the door... "Hey there, door!"
I talk to the self check out machines too... but usually it's to curse at them LOL.
Like this?
LMAO. Burst laughing. Yes. THIS.raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »
Well, this is what I got.
I'm sorrysmashley_mashley wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »
Tangled > Frozen. There. I said it.
I love kid movies, too, and I'm 45. I'm pretty sure I can quote The Lego Movie from memory as my son has been playing it on a loop for like a month. Who's going to see Inside Out? That looks super funny!
I want to see that one. I started "Home". Didn't like it all and turned it off within 20 minutes
Eta: I still sing "Everything is Awesome!"
I read the reviews of Home and passed. Definitely want to see Inside Out though...
My first whine of the day (or probably not) - I never check the pockets of the stuff my kids and husband put in the wash. Hello crayons and PENCILS. My husband's ruined some of my new clothes last year that way. I wasn't impressed to say the least. I found some legos last week...
Second whine - second day sticking to my goal and I've been hungry all day. Still hungry, but having some tea to fill me up. I really hate that I have to be hungry to lose weight. I haven't even had chocolate or cookies or ice cream... I know, I should just maintain, and I have been, but with my vacation coming up I'd rather lose 1 or 2 pounds before than being all depressed to be back up too much when I come back. And I really want to see 130 on the scale, but apparently my body doesn't.
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smashley_mashley wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »
When I saw Frozen in the theater with my kids, I was having some serious issues with my sister (still am if I'm being honest, very similar to orangesmartie's family situation) and during the song "do you want to build a snowman" I started crying! I am not normally a crier, and I was mortified, but it felt like it took me so long to get it under control, only to start back up again during Let it Go. I felt like such a sap. (no offense to people who do cry easily - I don't think you're saps. It was just so foreign to me to lose control for a ridic reason).
Don't feel bad. But then I am a sap. I cry watching movies, tv shows, and yes, even in commercials. My husband thinks it is so funny as I bawl during a Coke commercial.
Didn't double post but wanted to comment on this.
You're not alone, lol. I guess it depends on the time of the month too but I've bawled in front of movies, TV shows, heck listening to some songs...0 -
AngryViking1970 wrote: »Sounds like you're a naturally strong person, so you probably don't need it. I do. I'm quite the weakling. Well, physically anyway. Mentally, no. Mentally I'm known as the Boot Camp Drill Sargent in my family. Physically, well??? Let's just say that sometimes going in and out of the grocery store I step onto the automatic door thingy and the door doesn't open. Thankfully, I learned from "Toy Story" to jump up and down once or twice and the door opens. My son finds this highly amusing and will lag behind me just to watch it happen.
See and I can picture that and it's awesome. haha
Awesomely embarrassing, yes!
I don't jump up and down, but sometimes I have to cha cha back and forth to catch the sensor. We'd be a blast trying to get into the store together.
I can join your little group. I was following someone into a store one day and the door almost closed on me. Scared the crap outta me and I probably looked funny jumping out of the way. Maybe all three of us could get it to work lol.
Apparently I walk too fast....or lack a soul, I have walked into those darn doors more than once. Maybe I'll try disco dancing up to them to give the doors a chance.
LOL, that's what I've said about myself when they won't work
I am currently drinking a protein shake. Why, oh why can they not make a protein powder that tastes good?!
Two words: Dyna Whey. Available at Superstore (and Costco, if you have one).0 -
YSusieq_1994 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Last time I stayed at a hotel, I took some of the little cups of peanut butter from the continental breakfast. I'm eating one now, with a spoon, as a snack.
Thief! Just kidding. That is a fabulous idea! I buy the little pre portioned cups of hummus so I don't have to weigh it out. It's WAY more expensive, but my time is precious and I don't want to spend it weighing out a really sad amount of hummus.
No judgement, but store-bought hummus is sad no matter what size or form it comes in! You can never beat homemade hummus. In fact, I just had some that I made a couple of days ago for dinner with Iranian-style kabab kubbideh! Yum.
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52cardpickup wrote: »
I would hire someone to do my laundry. I hate doing laundry. I FULLY REALIZE it just involves sticking a bunch of clothes into a stupid machine, and then sticking them into another stupid machine. Doesn't matter. Still hate doing laundry.
I don't like laundry either. Throwing it in the washer is no problem, but most of my clothes are hung to dry which is a pain.
Laundry I don't mind doing, but I bring it to work with me to do. Side benefit of working in athletics at a university is using the washer/dryer here I can do the equivalent of 6 loads washed/dried in 1 hour.
Those giant machines are even better because nothing gets creased.
That wasn't the sell, I'd been working 3rd shift for 5 years and wanted a normal sleep schedule. Without medication I was only sleeping about 4 hours a day.
Downside is I have to do ALL the laundry there as in all 14 sports teams worth and a couple club sports this includes both practice and game gear, when the seasons overlap it's not uncommon for me to run 20 loads a day.0 -
franksl87e wrote: »I keep changing my weekly goals (first week!) from 2lb to 1.5lb depending on what I know I still want to eat that day!!
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AngryViking1970 wrote: »Sounds like you're a naturally strong person, so you probably don't need it. I do. I'm quite the weakling. Well, physically anyway. Mentally, no. Mentally I'm known as the Boot Camp Drill Sargent in my family. Physically, well??? Let's just say that sometimes going in and out of the grocery store I step onto the automatic door thingy and the door doesn't open. Thankfully, I learned from "Toy Story" to jump up and down once or twice and the door opens. My son finds this highly amusing and will lag behind me just to watch it happen.
See and I can picture that and it's awesome. haha
Awesomely embarrassing, yes!
I don't jump up and down, but sometimes I have to cha cha back and forth to catch the sensor. We'd be a blast trying to get into the store together.
I can join your little group. I was following someone into a store one day and the door almost closed on me. Scared the crap outta me and I probably looked funny jumping out of the way. Maybe all three of us could get it to work lol.
Apparently I walk too fast....or lack a soul, I have walked into those darn doors more than once. Maybe I'll try disco dancing up to them to give the doors a chance.
HA! Yes! It can be me, you, Shiba, Suzieq and BZAH10. We'll be like a really small, yet rhythmic gang.0 -
52cardpickup wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »Confession: I don’t know what my goal weight should be. I’m 5’9 and currently weigh 221. (That’s a big step since I’ve never admitted that to anyone!) I had the goal set at 200, but didn’t feel like that was low enough. It’s now set at 190, but now I don’t feel like that is low enough either. I weighed 180 the year before my son was born and felt awesome. I weighed 160 when I graduated from high school (and thought I was fat). I know I’ll probably find a weight where I feel comfortable and don’t have to kill myself in the gym every day. I understand all the numbers. Just not sure if I can get back to the 160s mainly because I don’t know if I have the dedication. Looking for some advice from some of you. That seems like a lot of numbers and rambling.
I'm 5'9" and currently 134. I was originally looking to get down to 135, but I'm now looking to pack on some weight again in the form of muscle. Not sure if I want to do that in the form of a bulk or a recomp. I'd be happy to send you some progress photos, if that would help you.
My biggest regret is not weight training more consistently in my weight loss, if I'm being honest.
Eventually, once goals are close to being met or have already passed, this is what it will come down to. If you want to be skinny as a rail, fine. Diet and cardio all day, every day. But unless you are naturally blessed, if you want a fitness magazine cover body, you HAVE to do some strength training.
I agree with all of this. I feel like there's a lot of pressure from a lot of people to jump on the weight lifting bandwagon for aesthetic reasons, and a lot of people throw out "LIFT HEAVY" as the be all and end all of exercise without considering other people's interest/disinterest/goals/physical limitations/aspirations/time/what have you.
This morning there was a thread started by a person who was depressed because they weighed in at 501 pounds, and one of the first suggestions was that they start squatting and deadlifting. Seriously? SMDH. I get the feeling that people don't read the original post, they just respond with an automatic blurb.
On the other hand, weight lifting (OR resistance training, and THAT IS THE KEY!) is great for reasons aside from aesthetics... it strengthens bones and bone density, aids in living independently into old age, etc. It doesn't mean that you have to squat 300 lbs and bench press 1000, or look like Arnold, or stand in front of the mirror kissing your muscles and taking selfies. I just believe that an exercise routine should be balanced like an "eating routine" (don'twanttosaydiet) should be balanced.
sorry if this came across as judge-y *hangs head in shame and slinks off*
I bolded both because I agree with both. I think there is a lot of emphasis on heavy lifting and I have browsed the 5x5 ( looks kind of scary). My goal isn't to be magazine cover fit, I am fine with being "average" with some squish as long as I can fit into regular sized clothes.
But I am also in @52cardpickup's camp because since I have been doing strength training, I love being able to help carry appliances in the house or lift the couch whereas before I struggled.
I lift weights to feel strong too, I'd love to have a good looking body but strength is my main goal now.
I love that I can scoff in the grocery store employee's faces when they ask "Do you need a hand out with that?". I love that I can lift my own boxes at work rather than waiting for a man to come do it (My feminist streak rages when I hear someone say this).
My SO actually lets me carry the dog food now.
He was being all chivalrous and trying to take it away from me. I said, "Look, I deadlift waaaaaay more than this. Multiple times. Every second day. For fun." He just laughed and gave in.
I do allow him to carry the heavy groceries, however.
I tip my hat to you. I'm to the point now where my husband gives me a look whenever I try to get him to lift or carry something that's "too heavy" for me. He calls me out for just being lazy.
I get away with the grocery thing only because we always use a basket, not a cart, and I had rotator cuff issues last winter so carrying a heavy basket was agony. It just became a habit for him to carry it.
The flipside is that I now get asked to lift, or help lift, large automotive stuff like the transfer case and transmission for my truck, and the truck box. Requests always prefaced by, "Okay Miss Muscles..." And I'll happily do it because he's got a bad back and shouldn't be lifting heavy stuff.0 -
YSusieq_1994 wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »Last time I stayed at a hotel, I took some of the little cups of peanut butter from the continental breakfast. I'm eating one now, with a spoon, as a snack.
Thief! Just kidding. That is a fabulous idea! I buy the little pre portioned cups of hummus so I don't have to weigh it out. It's WAY more expensive, but my time is precious and I don't want to spend it weighing out a really sad amount of hummus.
No judgement, but store-bought hummus is sad no matter what size or form it comes in! You can never beat homemade hummus. In fact, I just had some that I made a couple of days ago for dinner with Iranian-style kabab kubbideh! Yum.
You're making me miss the food!
You're welcome to come back for the food... I'm in Saudi now and *I* miss the food in Oman!!0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »berlynnwall wrote: »quiksylver296 wrote: »rungirl1973 wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »
I would hire someone to do my laundry. I hate doing laundry. I FULLY REALIZE it just involves sticking a bunch of clothes into a stupid machine, and then sticking them into another stupid machine. Doesn't matter. Still hate doing laundry.
People think I am weird but I love doing laundry . Pulling it out of the dryer when it smells good. Folding it into neat little piles then hanging it all up in the closet . Just makes me happy..
I'm also a laundry lover. I get irritated if anybody else uses MY laundry machines. Just leave them alone and let me have this one thing.
I don't mind laundry. But I HATE folding socks. They will sit in a laundry basket for YEARS and everyone will have to hunt through for a matching pair.
I don't fold socks at all. I will give everyone their own socks in their laundry pile, but if they want to match them, that is on them. I also don't care if they just throw them all in a drawer and dig through in the morning. I have a relaxed attitude about this lol.
ETA: My men always seem to turn their socks inside out when removing them. For many years I'd turn them right way out. No longer. Ditto my daughter's skinny jeans & leggings. They know they get a pretty good deal in that I'm prepared to do their laundry, so they don't get to complain!
When I'm getting ready to donate clothes that are too small, I choose a day right after I've done laundry and go through the kid's socks. Whatever doesn't match gets thrown out. I did use one sock as a handwriting helper for my kindergartner though, and we still have it. You cut a hole for the thumb and a hole for the two or three fingers to hold the pencil, and then the rest of their fingers are in the sock. Helps them get the grasp right.
Awesome! I'm totally going to use that idea! Thanks!!
Yay
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kelly_c_77 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
I didn't like Grease much but I love Dirty Dancing!
Footloose!
One of my favorites, ever! The original one with Kevin Bacon, of course!
The remake was terrible Kevin Bacon all the way!
Omg, so terrible! And I just love Kevin Bacon...speaking of..anyone watch The Following and as sad as I am that it's cancelled?
*Raises hand*
Such a shame..everything I see about it being cancelled is just a lot of people upset about it. It really was a great show!
Btw- can I just say that every time I see the picture of your little rodent boy, I smile. He really had the sweetest little face! I hope you're doing well.
Thanks
That made me smile.....he was really sweet....he would love to have me rub him down when he sat on my arm...he would chirp and even throw up his little arms so I could get under them, lol.....I am doing alright....I still miss him, of course, but I gave him a pretty good life, and I did the right thing, so I take comfort in that.....thanks again!
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Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
I didn't like Grease much but I love Dirty Dancing!
Footloose!
One of my favorites, ever! The original one with Kevin Bacon, of course!
The remake was terrible Kevin Bacon all the way!
Omg, so terrible! And I just love Kevin Bacon...speaking of..anyone watch The Following and as sad as I am that it's cancelled?
*Raises hand*
Such a shame..everything I see about it being cancelled is just a lot of people upset about it. It really was a great show!
Btw- can I just say that every time I see the picture of your little rodent boy, I smile. He really had the sweetest little face! I hope you're doing well.
Thanks
That made me smile.....he was really sweet....he would love to have me rub him down when he sat on my arm...he would chirp and even throw up his little arms so I could get under them, lol.....I am doing alright....I still miss him, of course, but I gave him a pretty good life, and I did the right thing, so I take comfort in that.....thanks again!
Every day when I get home, there is 20 pages of thread to read, lol
It must've been in the pages I missed, I'm assuming your little guy passed over to the rainbow bridge? So sorry for your loss @Italian_Buju0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
I didn't like Grease much but I love Dirty Dancing!
Footloose!
One of my favorites, ever! The original one with Kevin Bacon, of course!
The remake was terrible Kevin Bacon all the way!
Omg, so terrible! And I just love Kevin Bacon...speaking of..anyone watch The Following and as sad as I am that it's cancelled?
Yes! I am! I was so mad I wasted so much time getting into it! This is why I don't watch most series unless they're already over so I know there's some sort of conclusion/resolution!
Me too...so frustrating! My husband barely watches any tv at all...but he actually watched that show with me. The only other show we watch together is The Walking Dead...but man, we were both so bummed to hear that The Following won't be back.
I do watch TWD but I don't keep up with it- just wait until it comes out on Netlfix! Currently I'm fan girling all over myself waiting fot this Friday so I can binge watch Orange is The New Black!
I started rewatching the first two seasons of OITNB this past weekend waiting for the new one, SO EXCITED!!
I love OITNB but every night after I watch it I have nightmares about being in prison and I have the worst night sleep! But still worth it!
Really? That is interesting!!
My boss really wants to go see Jurassic World.....dinos overwhelm me, literally take my breath away sometimes....I already had a nightmare last night and we have not even seen it yet!!!0 -
AngryViking1970 wrote: »Sounds like you're a naturally strong person, so you probably don't need it. I do. I'm quite the weakling. Well, physically anyway. Mentally, no. Mentally I'm known as the Boot Camp Drill Sargent in my family. Physically, well??? Let's just say that sometimes going in and out of the grocery store I step onto the automatic door thingy and the door doesn't open. Thankfully, I learned from "Toy Story" to jump up and down once or twice and the door opens. My son finds this highly amusing and will lag behind me just to watch it happen.
See and I can picture that and it's awesome. haha
Awesomely embarrassing, yes!
I don't jump up and down, but sometimes I have to cha cha back and forth to catch the sensor. We'd be a blast trying to get into the store together.
I can join your little group. I was following someone into a store one day and the door almost closed on me. Scared the crap outta me and I probably looked funny jumping out of the way. Maybe all three of us could get it to work lol.
Apparently I walk too fast....or lack a soul, I have walked into those darn doors more than once. Maybe I'll try disco dancing up to them to give the doors a chance.
LOL, that's what I've said about myself when they won't work
I am currently drinking a protein shake. Why, oh why can they not make a protein powder that tastes good?!
Two words: Dyna Whey. Available at Superstore (and Costco, if you have one).
I think I've seen it. I'm always so hesitant about buying protein because so many are gross and that s**t ain't cheap!0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »Does anyone remember (long, long ago in this thread) the mom that confessed to flipping her young daughter off behind her back when she's being a brat? Haha, it still makes me laugh. I can't remember the poster's name and wondered if it's someone that still posts..or just someone who stopped by to confess and then left.
ETA: I do not remember who the poster was though!0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
I didn't like Grease much but I love Dirty Dancing!
Footloose!
One of my favorites, ever! The original one with Kevin Bacon, of course!
The remake was terrible Kevin Bacon all the way!
Omg, so terrible! And I just love Kevin Bacon...speaking of..anyone watch The Following and as sad as I am that it's cancelled?
Yes! I am! I was so mad I wasted so much time getting into it! This is why I don't watch most series unless they're already over so I know there's some sort of conclusion/resolution!
Me too...so frustrating! My husband barely watches any tv at all...but he actually watched that show with me. The only other show we watch together is The Walking Dead...but man, we were both so bummed to hear that The Following won't be back.
I do watch TWD but I don't keep up with it- just wait until it comes out on Netlfix! Currently I'm fan girling all over myself waiting fot this Friday so I can binge watch Orange is The New Black!
I started rewatching the first two seasons of OITNB this past weekend waiting for the new one, SO EXCITED!!
I love OITNB but every night after I watch it I have nightmares about being in prison and I have the worst night sleep! But still worth it!
Really? That is interesting!!
My boss really wants to go see Jurassic World.....dinos overwhelm me, literally take my breath away sometimes....I already had a nightmare last night and we have not even seen it yet!!!
I'm going on Friday at 10am while the kids are in school!
Confession - I've watched OITNB and I like it but it really disturbs me at the same time.0 -
pofoster21 wrote: »Whew 3 hours later I am all caught up. Now I'll just get behind again. It's a vicious cycle.
I feel ya! This is exactly what happens to me too!! At least it gives us something to read....I read a bit through out the night....a bit now, a bit after dinner, until I get caught up! The only thing is I look like a crazy binge poster of quotes!0 -
My husband (who is on a bulk) bought two tubs of salted caramel and cookies & cream ice cream a couple of days ago. After dinner last night while he was away on his firefighter's training course, I ate said ice creams(s) from the tub(s). Had tea spoon and maybe ate 5 spoons from each tub and DIDN'T TRACK THEM CALORIES!
I felt pretty guilty after that given that he's gone to be healthy and fit (at the training) and he needs the calories more than me. I did confess to him after and he laughed and asked me to give him 10 burpees.
Yeah no dice bud. WHY DID HE HAVE TO BUY BOTH OF MY FAVE FLAVOURS?0 -
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Italian_Buju wrote: »
Computer. Firefox. The page loads and loads after I click on 'post reply', and I guess it tries to post multiple times while it loads or something. I don't have the problem on any other thread.0 -
52cardpickup wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »I made my co-workers go with me to the Whole Foods down the street from my work on our lunch break to look for a specific kind of ice cream (Halo Top), which they didn't have, even though other Whole Foods' carry it. My co-workers were trying to be helpful in suggesting other kinds of ice cream, but totally missed the point of this specific ice cream in the first place, which made me unreasonably internally pouty and now I feel bad. (The ice cream I was looking for has 70 calories per serving, 7 grams of protein, 4 grams of carbs, and 3 grams of fat. Ben and Jerry's isn't going to cut it, no matter how delicious it is )
Also, they kind of think I'm a nut, now, for caring that much about a brand of ice cream.
I can completely relate to that, apart from the fact that I would have to be very comfortable with someone to drag them to a store for a specific treat, lol.
How is that ice cream, though? It kinda sounds too good to be true.
Everyone and their mother in another group I belong to (/r/xxfitness and the associated Facebook group) RAVES about it (specifically the Lemon Cake kind), so I thought it would be worthwhile to at least TRY it. I thought I'd buy it at work, because there are a bunch of fitness-minded people here who would help me devour it if I didn't like it. Alas, the store nearest me did not have it. I don't like artificially sweetened things, but when they're sweetened with sugar alcohols as opposed to aspartame I don't mind them as much, and if it's frozen it's even harder to taste the "fakeness" of it, so I thought I'd give it a go.
I'm going to see where else I can get it, and report back.
I am now on a quest...
Save yourself some time and potential embarrassment in front of co-workers! http://www.halotop.com/where-to-buy/ (I did not know this existed prior to my lunch time adventure... )
Kroger and WF, guessing Kroger is probably cheaper, but both about a half hour away. Now I have to figure out where the insulated shopping bag went. Probably in a closet full of hotwheels.
If you can't find the insulated shopping bag, you have the perfect excuse to eat it in the car on the way home.0 -
berlynnwall wrote: »The stepdaughter did come by last night. She emptied the litter box and I assume fed/watered her cat. She was in the living room (with a friend she brought over without telling us) my husband and daughter. They were all chatting when I walked in. I said zero words to her, put away the groceries, and went to take a shower since I had just worked out.
Apparently, she told my husband and daughter that she was going to drop off her friend and come back. I don't feel I need to tell you this didn't happen.
My husband finally broke down last night and said "I don't know why she doesn't want to live with us." It was heartbreaking and I want to spank her for being such a little jerk to her dad.
Thank you for allowing me to vent incessantly about this on here. I really appreciate it.
How awful. That is really hurtful. Will he ask her why she is being this way, or is he more the type to just keep his feelings to himself? I feel like sometimes young adults and older teens don't realize how selfish they are being and a wake up call can help. I'm not sure if it would help in this situation though, but your husband may feel better if he at least tries to talk to her about what she is doing. That sucks.
He told me last night he was going to talk to her about how he feels. I really hope he does. I asked him why he's not upset that she's disrespecting him, and he said he is sad that she doesn't want to spend time with us. I think he's too sad to feel angry. He also told me that he's just happy he has any type of relationship with her even if it's not much of one.
The one thing that really set me off last night was he told me that she told them she's been sleeping on her mom's couch without cushions for the past 2+ weeks. This pissed me to the nth degree because she has her own bedroom with a queen size pillow top mattress at our house, yet she'd rather sleep on a cushionless couch.
Holy bed batman! I'd be there in a heartbeat, I didn't get my first "big girl bed" (aka anything besides a twin bed) until I was 24!! Totes jealous! Yes I said totes
I slept on the bottom bunk of a bunk bed until I was 20 when I got married and moved out. Then, I slept on a God awful futon for several months until I finally had enough and bought the queen. She's damn lucky and she just doesn't even appreciate it.
Ask her, point blank, why she's at your house. Make her put it into words, and if her answer doesn't match her actions, point that out to her and ask her why. If you or your husband just do the talking, it'll go in one ear and out the other. Require her to be active in the conversation.
I like that idea. Make her responsible and conscious of her behavior.
Brainstorming:
(1) She does not feel comfortable emotionally to be at your house - maybe she feels she does not deserve a safe, calm place and does not know how to act. Maybe it is more "comfortable" for her to sleep on that cushion-less sofa than to face a new/unknown place.
(2) Do you or your husband really know what stepdaughter has been told about her father, about you? It could be pretty skewed and even if she now knows it that past "information" could be coloring her judgement.
(3) Didn't she just lose a pregnancy? and a boyfriend ? She might be absolutely devastated deep inside and have no way to process and work through it if she has not be taught any healthy coping mechanisms.
I think you and your husband choose a course. Husband would be the best to say something along these lines. (Or a variation that works for both of you.)
I love you. I want you to be part of my life. I welcome you to live in our house. However there are boundaries and responsibility in this house. If you live here you must check in, daily, and preferably come home daily, so we don't worry about you. You must care for your cat. You must treat all members of this household with respect as you will also be treated with respect. I love you and want you here. We want to spend time with you. You have to decide what you want. You have 24 hours to decide to live here or not. In the meantime, until you make your decision you need to give me your key. Living here does come with a few basic rules (or whatever word you chose). We hope you join us.
@nonoelmo Can I hug you?!
The first bolded part was a point my husband brought up last night. She's not all that familiar with us, and more than likely doesn't feel super comfortable with "living" in our home. I 100% understand that, but her saying so, would have saved a lot of hurt and heartache and pissedoff-ness by me.
The second bolded part is something we've discussed. Basically, she was told nothing about her dad. She didn't even know his last name. So there is really zero history or past perceptions about him or I.
I think all three of us need to sit down and basically hash everything out hopefully like adults.
I may copy and paste word for word more or less, what you said in the third bolded part.
I'm a hugger so yes to hugs anytime. (ok, unless they are creepy hugs then no way! )
I did volunteer work with inner city Los Angeles kids for awhile. I saw some kids that had been through so much just really not know how to accept help. (A boy kicked out at age 13 because the mom's new boyfriend didn't like him for example. At age 15 after two years on the streets he was wary when we found a home. Also there were girls very much abused.) They were so hurt and put up so many layers of protection that it was hard to get through to them.
I saw a little later after your post that someone (sorry name blank) mentioned it may be too much too soon, and maybe it is but if she is going to live in your house there must be some VERY basic agreement. It can be spelled out. We want you here and I know this will be awkward and take getting used to but we do want you here. I know your husband is not the type to go to counseling but it sounds as if it would be helpful here. Whatever she does don't take it personally, it truly have nothing to do with you and all to do with how messed up she is.
Please vent here all you want and ((HUGS)) good luck!
edited for clarity
Yay for hugs! I'm a hugger too.
Everyone's suggestions and points of view have really opened my eyes and heart. I need to try to see things from her perspective and not be so harsh. I hope I can talk with my husband tonight and come up with a course of action going forward.
I REALLY appreciate everyone's help and I apologize for harping on the subject.
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I'm pretty sure my frustration recently at trying to keep up with this thread is whenever I click on this thread it takes me to the last post instead of where I left off. Then I have to page back. Then I miss posts. Then I'm behind anyway.
In light of that, I'm probably the only person that is actually happy when @Francl27 double (or triple) posts because that's one less post I have to catch up on!
Seconded. Also, sorry @Francl27 I think it's funny and I love your various reactions when it happens.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
I didn't like Grease much but I love Dirty Dancing!
Footloose!
One of my favorites, ever! The original one with Kevin Bacon, of course!
The remake was terrible Kevin Bacon all the way!
Omg, so terrible! And I just love Kevin Bacon...speaking of..anyone watch The Following and as sad as I am that it's cancelled?
Yes! I am! I was so mad I wasted so much time getting into it! This is why I don't watch most series unless they're already over so I know there's some sort of conclusion/resolution!
Me too...so frustrating! My husband barely watches any tv at all...but he actually watched that show with me. The only other show we watch together is The Walking Dead...but man, we were both so bummed to hear that The Following won't be back.
I do watch TWD but I don't keep up with it- just wait until it comes out on Netlfix! Currently I'm fan girling all over myself waiting fot this Friday so I can binge watch Orange is The New Black!
I started rewatching the first two seasons of OITNB this past weekend waiting for the new one, SO EXCITED!!
I love OITNB but every night after I watch it I have nightmares about being in prison and I have the worst night sleep! But still worth it!
Really? That is interesting!!
My boss really wants to go see Jurassic World.....dinos overwhelm me, literally take my breath away sometimes....I already had a nightmare last night and we have not even seen it yet!!!
I'm going on Friday at 10am while the kids are in school!
Confession - I've watched OITNB and I like it but it really disturbs me at the same time.
Yep. It's a good show though.
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raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »I've currently got my dryer running yet again because I didn't get the clothes out the first time. Whoops. That's what happens when you get distracted easily. On that note, I just faxed in the paperwork to update my info at the doctors office I want to go to. I need medication, there's no getting around it. Hubby did say once my ADD issues get figured out, we will start looking at trying for baby #2! That is, if Aunt Flo will stop trolling me. I've gotta get that checked out too, day 7 of nothing.
I'm thinking about it. It's highly unlikely since we use condoms and I don't remember any breaking recently. I may have hubby run to the dollar store soon.
I realize that may have been a little too much shared lol.
Ok then, I'll share too. I got pregnant with #2 when we were 'being careful' and it was the wrong time of the month.
I guess I might as well jump in here, too. I got pregnant with #3 when #2 was 3 months old and still breastfeeding and I hadn't had a period since giving birth. They say breastfeeding is a natural birth control. Don't believe them!!
Then, I got pregnant with #4 after we'd used a condom but were worried that it may have leaked. I got the morning after pill (sorry to any out there who don't believe in that) and stayed up until 3 AM so I could take the second pill exactly 12 hours after the first, per the directions. Still got pregnant.
Not that I would give up any of them, of course. It was just the timing that we weren't too happy about.0 -
52cardpickup wrote: »52cardpickup wrote: »I made my co-workers go with me to the Whole Foods down the street from my work on our lunch break to look for a specific kind of ice cream (Halo Top), which they didn't have, even though other Whole Foods' carry it. My co-workers were trying to be helpful in suggesting other kinds of ice cream, but totally missed the point of this specific ice cream in the first place, which made me unreasonably internally pouty and now I feel bad. (The ice cream I was looking for has 70 calories per serving, 7 grams of protein, 4 grams of carbs, and 3 grams of fat. Ben and Jerry's isn't going to cut it, no matter how delicious it is )
Also, they kind of think I'm a nut, now, for caring that much about a brand of ice cream.
I can completely relate to that, apart from the fact that I would have to be very comfortable with someone to drag them to a store for a specific treat, lol.
How is that ice cream, though? It kinda sounds too good to be true.
Everyone and their mother in another group I belong to (/r/xxfitness and the associated Facebook group) RAVES about it (specifically the Lemon Cake kind), so I thought it would be worthwhile to at least TRY it. I thought I'd buy it at work, because there are a bunch of fitness-minded people here who would help me devour it if I didn't like it. Alas, the store nearest me did not have it. I don't like artificially sweetened things, but when they're sweetened with sugar alcohols as opposed to aspartame I don't mind them as much, and if it's frozen it's even harder to taste the "fakeness" of it, so I thought I'd give it a go.
I'm going to see where else I can get it, and report back.
Now I will DEFINITELY have to find it. I LOVE lemon cake. I wonder if it's like sorbet more than ice cream? I'm a little worried about the sugar alcohols though. The last time I ate something with sugar alcohols, I had to change my address to the third stall in office bathroom.
Do you remember which kind you had before? I do ok with erythritol, some of the others, I'm a sugar free gummy bear story in real time.0 -
AngryViking1970 wrote: »Sounds like you're a naturally strong person, so you probably don't need it. I do. I'm quite the weakling. Well, physically anyway. Mentally, no. Mentally I'm known as the Boot Camp Drill Sargent in my family. Physically, well??? Let's just say that sometimes going in and out of the grocery store I step onto the automatic door thingy and the door doesn't open. Thankfully, I learned from "Toy Story" to jump up and down once or twice and the door opens. My son finds this highly amusing and will lag behind me just to watch it happen.
See and I can picture that and it's awesome. haha
Awesomely embarrassing, yes!
I don't jump up and down, but sometimes I have to cha cha back and forth to catch the sensor. We'd be a blast trying to get into the store together.
I can join your little group. I was following someone into a store one day and the door almost closed on me. Scared the crap outta me and I probably looked funny jumping out of the way. Maybe all three of us could get it to work lol.
Apparently I walk too fast....or lack a soul, I have walked into those darn doors more than once. Maybe I'll try disco dancing up to them to give the doors a chance.
LOL, that's what I've said about myself when they won't work
I am currently drinking a protein shake. Why, oh why can they not make a protein powder that tastes good?!
Two words: Dyna Whey. Available at Superstore (and Costco, if you have one).
I think I've seen it. I'm always so hesitant about buying protein because so many are gross and that s**t ain't cheap!
I wish they had samples. I think I could benefit from it but I don't want to spend over $30 on something gross.0
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