Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Anyone see this one when it was up: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10166374/advice-truly-needed/p1
It's a doozy. Seriously, what is WRONG with people?0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »All this talk about kids, and now I would like to bop my 19 year old daughter in the head......boys are SO much easier.....
That is true in my experience as well. What did she do?
She has been home for school from a month, and I am already having to harp her to get her crap done, and then she gets all bitchy like I am somehow annoying her, when I am the one that is really annoyed.....the first month went well, now I am going to be counting down for the next three months til she leaves......0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »All this talk about kids, and now I would like to bop my 19 year old daughter in the head......boys are SO much easier.....
That is true in my experience as well. What did she do?
She has been home for school from a month, and I am already having to harp her to get her crap done, and then she gets all bitchy like I am somehow annoying her, when I am the one that is really annoyed.....the first month went well, now I am going to be counting down for the next three months til she leaves......
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My only confession on here is that I have strictly went by the book! I have had a few drinks, but it was in my caloric intake, so it was ok. My only problem is that I am NOT eating back my burned calories for exercise! I know, that could be a bad thing! But with what I am eating during the day, I am not hungry for anything else! I am only 5 ft tall, and have a small bone structure. I have lost approx 30 lbs and need to lose 80 more. I am still new at this and need to know if I need to change anything in my profile! I am eating 1000 calories a day, MFP goal was 1000-1200. Since I had so much to lose, I have been hitting the 1000 mark. I have also upped my exercise to 2 hours a day doing continual dancing. No breaks! This is not my first time on the roller coaster weight loss thing! I have lost 100 lb at least 2 almost 3 times. I want this to be my last and make this my life change since I am 45. The smallest I have been was 118 lb. I wore a size 2 or 5 at the time. Sorry this "confession" turned into my life story! Any advice would be helpful0
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Confession - when I go over like this I make sure to lift weights for 20 minutes so I can pretend I'm 'bulking'.
That's what I was pretending for my entire three-day junk/fast/too much food vacation fest.FluffySandwich wrote: »Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.
My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.
Mine too. If I attempt a side part, it wanders over by itself over the course of the day, creating a bizarre hump effect. I always say that I don't have a hair "do", I have a hair "don't".
A middle part is the least flattering for my face, of course, as it just draws attention to my nose -- not my best feature.
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kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I'm going to fess up before catching up today.
Yesterday I ate everything. Reeses Pieces, Cadbury's Picnic bar, Jaffa Cakes, and a cookie. I also didn't go to the gym or go for a run after work. Then I thought it would be a great idea to weigh myself this morning and I'm back up to 214lbs. So I went for a swim this morning and finished 5 minutes early. I feel really tired, and I think my 'go to' is sugar. I feel like having a nap at my desk right now and its only 9.50am.
You can't go wrong with sweets:D. What does a Jaffa cake taste like?
Hopefully your work day will go flying by.
Ha ha Uh, I can't really describe it. I disassemble them anyway, chocolate edge first and then take the jelly off, eat the cakey bit and the orange jelly last. I don't play with my food normally but it seems to be a habit with Jaffa Cakes. Its a bit like eating the chocolate edge off a Kit-Kat first.
I absolutely hate that America hasn't discovered chunky kit kats...I will be bringing loads home after my visit to the UK woo hoo!
Seriously??? No Chunky KitKats in the US? We've had them in Canada for a while. And you guys have the white chocolate ones that we don't get.
Btw, Chunky Caramel KitKats are awesome.
Oh all that is holy that sounds amazing!!0 -
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quiksylver296 wrote: »asflatasapancake wrote: »Jesus H., the confessions keep coming. Ok, I confess that I ate a Hershey bar for lunch and it was delicious. That's all I got today.
That was really sad. I think you should try harder. Give it up!
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Something's been missing from this conversation:
Although now that I'm allegedly a grown up I prefer cininamon.
Confession: I still have 1500 calories to get in today, but I overslept, and have no motivation to do so. At all. I'll probably force down some eggs later just to cover the protein for working out, but that may be it today. For those who say they don't like/don't believe/envy the people who are never hungry and have to fight to get 1000 in a day, believe me, it's not all sunshine and roses.
I know this feeling all too well. I have days I eat really healthy, lots of veggies and have 900 calories left before dinner. And usually dinner on those nights is chicken and other low cal stuff. I'm trying to change that and plan my work food better on light dinner days.
Or I struggle at hitting the 1200. Last week, I knew I'd be having extra on Friday so I prelogged 200 calories on Thursday just so I wouldn't get the under eating warning.0 -
xMrBunglex wrote: »ChipChocolatePancake wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »I don't mind the scars on my ankle and shoulder at all. Actually, I'm kinda bummed at how much the shoulder scar has faded.
Scars ARE kind of badass!
Scars are tattoos with better stories. We saw that tshirt a couple of weeks ago.
I have said this for years as well!
I confess that I like what Ron White says about tattoos:
"Tattoos are permanent stupidity bruises."
Oh dear god I agree! I was a corrections officer for three years and I saw all kinds of hideous, horrible tattoos! I've thought about it but they're just not my thing I think after a year or so I'd get bored with whatever it was and want it off of me! This is not to say that I dislike them I think some people have really neat and amazing tattoos!
Ps I was watching Tattoo Nightmares at the gym today! Love that show!
I have a very small and tasteful tattoo of my daughter's name in a really pretty script on the inside of my right wrist. I LOVE it! It hurt like hell, but I'd do it again. I want more, but I'm terrified of needles, so I don't know if it will happen or not.
That sounds really pretty!
If I could figure out how to take a picture of it and get it on here, I would. My daughter loves it.
I'm not sure how well this will work.
YAY! It worked!
Aw yay it is a really great tattoo!!0 -
quiksylver296 wrote: »AmandaPE1021 wrote: »Friday me and my boyfriend went to the cheesecake factory. I brought home an entire box of leftovers. I decided not to log the food for that day due to the fact that I would be grossed out by myself. So when I got home in order to avoid having to have an extra cheat day just for the leftovers I ate them in my room. Cold. Cold cheesecake factory leftovers.
The only thing I would eat at The Cheesecake Factory is the cheesecake. I think their food is horribly overpriced and not that good. The cheesecake on the other hand - lemon raspberry with lady fingers crust.... I need a drooling emoji again, Ceci.
That's the only reason I go! Mmm cheesecake0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.
My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.
Your hair looks great from what I can see! I'm 29 and I've never dyed my hair! My roommates in college were always begging me to let them color it but I refuse until I actually have to! My hair is actually one thing I really like about myself0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.
And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today
There are so many references from people about others people's lives on Facebook..FAAAAAAKE!! People post only what they want you to see. I stay away from social media and I'm so much happier because of it. No matter how hard you try it's extremely difficult not to compare yourself to others from Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter but what you HAVE to remember is people only put out there what they want everyone else to see! Just keep that in mind everyone0 -
kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »I'm going to fess up before catching up today.
Yesterday I ate everything. Reeses Pieces, Cadbury's Picnic bar, Jaffa Cakes, and a cookie. I also didn't go to the gym or go for a run after work. Then I thought it would be a great idea to weigh myself this morning and I'm back up to 214lbs. So I went for a swim this morning and finished 5 minutes early. I feel really tired, and I think my 'go to' is sugar. I feel like having a nap at my desk right now and its only 9.50am.
You can't go wrong with sweets:D. What does a Jaffa cake taste like?
Hopefully your work day will go flying by.
Ha ha Uh, I can't really describe it. I disassemble them anyway, chocolate edge first and then take the jelly off, eat the cakey bit and the orange jelly last. I don't play with my food normally but it seems to be a habit with Jaffa Cakes. Its a bit like eating the chocolate edge off a Kit-Kat first.
I absolutely hate that America hasn't discovered chunky kit kats...I will be bringing loads home after my visit to the UK woo hoo!
Had to google those. Oh gosh. I want one now.
Confession - it's definitely one of those days. Ended up having lunch at 11am. 340 calories left for the day. Fail.
Aren't the kit kat chunky the same exact thing as the big kats?
I've seen Extra Crispy Kit Kats at Wal-Mart.
While still quite good the crispy kit kat doesn't compare to the chunky kit kat0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.
My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.
Your hair looks great from what I can see! I'm 29 and I've never dyed my hair! My roommates in college were always begging me to let them color it but I refuse until I actually have to! My hair is actually one thing I really like about myself
@Tubbs216 , your son has some gorgeous curls going on. My hair gets curly if I go to bed while it's still wet, but it's always misshapen
Also, going back to my gum confession... I just worked out at the gym for an hour. I don't keep water with me like I probably should, so by the end of said hour I was PARCHED. Went to go get some water from the water fountain... and someone had spit their gum into it. WHY?! Why would you do that? Is it so difficult for you to go find a trashcan (they're everywhere in the locker rooms) to spit it into??? Why must you ruin this for me! I was so disgusted I couldn't drink the water and had to wait until I got home 40 minutes later. Ugh.
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smashley_mashley wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.
And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today
Welcome to the thread!
That's the problem with Facebook. People post all their best happy moments and achievements to make themselves look better or make them appear as they are having the time of their lives every single day. People want to show everyone that they are "awesome" at everything and make it appear that they are having the most fun and nothing is ever wrong. No one is going to post pictures of themselves when they are hurling over the toilet from illness (except when friends post photos of you being an idiot after a night a drinking), changing diapers, the fights you have with your spouse, etc.
This is why I don't have facebook - I don't feel it is "real life" - it is more an edited version of "real life"
I think I knew this on some level, but every time I log on to Facebook and see my friends - mostly people around my age - posting about all of their successes at work, how fabulous their homes are, how wonderful their kids/SOs are, how many goals they've achieved, it always depresses the hell out of me because I'm sooooo far behind in all of that. I'll spare you the details, but let's just say that I'm basically George Costanza only female and not bald.
But the next time I see those posts and start to feel like crap about myself, I'm going to remember what you've written and remind myself that things are probably not as great as they seem.
So thank you. This might sound strange, but I really, really appreciate your words.0 -
All this talk about Kit Kats is making me want some. I was never a fan of them... don't really like wafer candy. However, these chunky Kit Kats sound really good. Massive fan of peanut butter and chocolate!0
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overlook237 wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.
And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today
Welcome to the thread!
That's the problem with Facebook. People post all their best happy moments and achievements to make themselves look better or make them appear as they are having the time of their lives every single day. People want to show everyone that they are "awesome" at everything and make it appear that they are having the most fun and nothing is ever wrong. No one is going to post pictures of themselves when they are hurling over the toilet from illness (except when friends post photos of you being an idiot after a night a drinking), changing diapers, the fights you have with your spouse, etc.
This is why I don't have facebook - I don't feel it is "real life" - it is more an edited version of "real life"
I think I knew this on some level, but every time I log on to Facebook and see my friends - mostly people around my age - posting about all of their successes at work, how fabulous their homes are, how wonderful their kids/SOs are, how many goals they've achieved, it always depresses the hell out of me because I'm sooooo far behind in all of that. I'll spare you the details, but let's just say that I'm basically George Costanza only female and not bald.
But the next time I see those posts and start to feel like crap about myself, I'm going to remember what you've written and remind myself that things are probably not as great as they seem.
So thank you. This might sound strange, but I really, really appreciate your words.
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FluffySandwich wrote: »@Tubbs216 , your son has some gorgeous curls going on. My hair gets curly if I go to bed while it's still wet, but it's always misshapen
Also, going back to my gum confession... I just worked out at the gym for an hour. I don't keep water with me like I probably should, so by the end of said hour I was PARCHED. Went to go get some water from the water fountain... and someone had spit their gum into it. WHY?! Why would you do that? Is it so difficult for you to go find a trashcan (they're everywhere in the locker rooms) to spit it into??? Why must you ruin this for me! I was so disgusted I couldn't drink the water and had to wait until I got home 40 minutes later. Ugh.
That is disgusting about the gum in the water fountain. People are animals. Well, some are. Actually, even my dog would have the good manners to swallow gum rather than leave it in a water fountain.
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FluffySandwich wrote: »All this talk about Kit Kats is making me want some. I was never a fan of them... don't really like wafer candy. However, these chunky Kit Kats sound really good. Massive fan of peanut butter and chocolate!
All the chunky kit kat is just making me want a Chunky - not even sure they still make them?0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
*drool* I once had the idea to bake brownies by doing the following:
A. Spread half the brownie batter in the pan
B. Cover the batter with a single layer of these beauties
C. Spread the other half of the batter on top
D. Layer them across the top
Sadly, when I went to put my idea into action, I couldn't find them at ANY of the supermarkets. Ugh.
OH MY GOD! You had me, I really want to know what happens. You must do it! I think they are mostly around at Christmas time.
......
I'm doing it. I'm going to hunt them down now and I'm going to do it...
Do it, do it! I NEED to know how this turns out. I should hunt for them too....
http://lilluna.com/eggless-cookie-dough/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed:+lilluna/isXQ+(Lil'+Luna+-+All+Things+Good)
I made this recipe tonight & had 10 grams of it since that's all I could fit in my diary for today haha. Very sweet, but so much better than the mock chickpea dough even though that was still pretty decent.0 -
Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
I do not mind mint chocolate (although I have to be in the mood for it), but I LOVE peanut butter and chocolate, in all forms! Kit Kat Chunky peanut butter is amazing! My biggest weakness is Haagan Dazs Chocolate Peanut Butter Ice Cream.....I can NEVER eat that in proper portions lol. I have also been known to bake chocolate brownies with cut up pieces of snickers peanut butter in them.....
I do too! Chocolate peanut butter anything is magical. I'm one of those people that puts peanut butter on a spoon and then dips it in a bag of chocolate chips.... Or I make a peanut butter sandwich and sprinkle chocolate chips on top and then microwave it. Magically delicious!
Also, chocolate peanut butter oatmeal is my favorite breakfast ever. I have it EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. It somehow keeps me magically on track because I feel like I've had dessert for breakfast...
How do you make it? I tried once and it was a bit disappointing. I don't think I get the measurements right or something... although I do have that Reese's chocolate peanut butter spread.
I found it really disappointing when I tried making it with milk, which is the traditional way to make oatmeal. It just drowned out the peanut butter flavor and tasted totally meh to me.
I personally use:
- 30 grams of "jumbo" chunky rolled oats (you can double it if you like more, it's more than enough for me)
- 330 mL of water (About one and a half cups? I like it to be a little soupy, the thickened liquid is SO good. Again, preference. )
- 5 grams of unsweetened cocoa powder
- 15-20 grams of peanut butter (My sister likes it with 30-40 grams of peanut butter, because she's a peanut butter freak, so it's also about preference here!)
- One sachet of Stevia sweetener or any preferred sweetener
- 1.5-2 grams of salt (I feel like the salt really helps bring out flavor. I've tried it without and it was just... No.)
I kind of made up the recipe myself and kept tweaking the amounts until I found what I personally liked best, so it's good to play around until you find the sweet spot where it's perfect. If I'm using Quaker rolled oats, I have to use less water or it'll be too soupy. Heartlands (UK brand) is much more hearty and thick, and they can take in more water without getting watery. My current favorite is a local brand (Al Hanaa) that rolls out these ENORMOUS jumbo oats that aren't too thick like Heartlands or too thin like Quaker... So a heartier oat flake is important.
The worst oatmeal I made was this Brownie Batter Overnight Oatmeal from Dashing Dish. It literally had no flavor even with adding some sweetener before it sat overnight.
Now that I think about it I think I tried a few variations of the overnight oatmeal & it was just plain awful. Maybe it didn't taste right since I used quick oats instead of steel cut?0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »@Tubbs216 , your son has some gorgeous curls going on. My hair gets curly if I go to bed while it's still wet, but it's always misshapen
Also, going back to my gum confession... I just worked out at the gym for an hour. I don't keep water with me like I probably should, so by the end of said hour I was PARCHED. Went to go get some water from the water fountain... and someone had spit their gum into it. WHY?! Why would you do that? Is it so difficult for you to go find a trashcan (they're everywhere in the locker rooms) to spit it into??? Why must you ruin this for me! I was so disgusted I couldn't drink the water and had to wait until I got home 40 minutes later. Ugh.
That is disgusting about the gum in the water fountain. People are animals. Well, some are. Actually, even my dog would have the good manners to swallow gum rather than leave it in a water fountain.
I used to see gum in the water fountains all over high school, as well. I have no idea why that's a thing. I guess people just spit it wherever they want with no consideration towards others. At least I don't see it on the ground indoors!FluffySandwich wrote: »All this talk about Kit Kats is making me want some. I was never a fan of them... don't really like wafer candy. However, these chunky Kit Kats sound really good. Massive fan of peanut butter and chocolate!
All the chunky kit kat is just making me want a Chunky - not even sure they still make them?
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I can say "it's a marathon, not a sprint" -- that I'm short and close to my goal weight, and trying to build strength at the same time, so even when I'm keeping to my diet and training perfectly it should take me a month+ to see non-trivial losses in scale weight (especially given that I have one of those crappy dial scales.) Even then, every time I step on the scale/look in the mirror/put on pants, I get scared that I'm not "really" losing fat because I'm mismeasuring my intake or metabolism somehow and that any results I notice are wishful thinking or daily fluctuations.
Do other people have this problem, or am I just neurotic?0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »
Parenting is so hard, I am taking every effort to never have to do it.
And think about it, parenting with TWO parents is hard... and single parents...woah. AND if everyone is working?!
Everyone else can go ahead and make successful and wonderful humans. I do not feel strong enough to partake in that endeavor.
ETA: I am serious about everything in this post. I see parenting as very difficult. It takes skills and abilities that I am pretty sure I do not possess.
Here's something I've never confessed IRL before...
I don't enjoy parenting. I don't think I was meant to be a mum.
Don't get me wrong, I love my boys with all my heart. I give all of myself to them to ensure they feel loved, are happy and healthy.
But I just don't think I was cut out for it. I've had pretty severe postnatal depression since my first was born 3 years ago and I'm sure that contributes, but I do wonder if its just my personality. Also, I carry a lot of guilt over my depression, its so unfair to them and I worry I'm messing up their whole lives
Aaaaaaaand now I want to cover my feelings in food.
I could've pretty much wrote this post, word for word. I have a 3.5 yr old and an 8 month old (both boys). Everyone tells me I'm an awesome mom, but I feel like I'm failing at it constantly. It's not effortless for me like everyone else I see on Facebook. I have to WORK at my patience.
To be fair, I'm pretty sure I have PPD and my 3.5 yr old is a DRAMA QUEEN and can be difficult, but still. I give everything I have in me to them, literally, and I still feel like I'm doing it wrong.
Part of my inability to keep the weight off is I eat my feelings at night alone when they're in bed, because I sit and relive my parenting failures for the day in my head, over and over.
And hi, I've lurked but decided to post in the thread today
As for Facebook, its everyone's highlight reel. I try and keep it real. Plus people can be a lot more harsh sitting behind a computer.2kidsandatrip wrote: »Noodles are my guilty pleasure, I will weigh my portion out and then take another whole handful and not count it. UGH.
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I'm having a day where I feel pathetic, and I just compounded the issue by stuffing a heap of Maccas down my throat.
I need to lose weight. I WANT to lose weight. I don't want to go back to my high school weight - I was flat as a board then and skinny as a beanpole - but I could eat whatever I wanted at that time and not gain. But I want to get back down to the weight I was halfway through university. As ridiculous as this sounds - I GAINED forty kilograms after STARTING a vigorous sport!
And then I feel ridiculous and stupid because people have actual real problems and I'm just sitting here moping because I clearly do not use my willpower enough, so why am I whining?
tl;dr I suck today.0 -
My confession is that I love gum and chew it way too much. I know it's a pretty gross habit, so I gave it up for Lent. (It was really hard!) When Lent was over it took awhile to ramp back up, but now I'm back to needing that "busy" feeling all the time. I think after these packs I'm going to try to give it up again. I don't like using it as a crutch to distract myself from food.
And @jgriffit91, I'm terrified every time I get on the scale. Particularly now that I'm mostly in maintenance because it's such a tight rope for me to walk.0 -
MaggieLoo79 wrote: »I wear spanx all the time. I never leave the house without something to keep my tummy held in.
That is a great idea. I saw my stomach in the mirror and almost cried. Wow.0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »All this talk about Kit Kats is making me want some. I was never a fan of them... don't really like wafer candy. However, these chunky Kit Kats sound really good. Massive fan of peanut butter and chocolate!
All the chunky kit kat is just making me want a Chunky - not even sure they still make them?
They do still make them! I know at least a local restaurant chain, La Rosa's, usually has them in their restaurants.kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »krissyreminisce wrote: »Confession: I wish I lived with somesomeone who could help me plan meals better. My meals for the week don't even total 1100 calories.
I always think it looks like a lot of food, until I see the numbers and they're really low.
Your diary seems good to me? Looks like you get a lot of vegetables. On the days you do a lot of running you could make a smoothie & put some higher calorie stuff in like peanut butter, banana, or w/e strikes your fancy.
And thanks. I think my diary would look better if I were trying to lose weight, but I'm actually five pounds below my goal weight and underweight according to my BMI. I need to gain weight or at least maintain, but the thought of gaining weight freaks me out.quiksylver296 wrote: »krissyreminisce wrote: »Confession: I wish I lived with somesomeone who could help me plan meals better. My meals for the week don't even total 1100 calories.
I always think it looks like a lot of food, until I see the numbers and they're really low.
Total? Or each? I'm confused. If it is total, please buy a food scale and start weighing your food. In fact, even if it is each meal, please buy a food scale and measure your food. Not judging - concerned.
It's just around 1100 each day for the week before exercise (I eat the same thing all week since I make my meals on Sunday). This weekend I didn't have time to get too involved with the cooking as I was in Cleveland, OH (three hours away) for a 5k and a half marathon, and by the time I got home on Sunday, I just went with what would be easy.
And I do weigh my food. My food scale is like my right arm in the kitchen. And thanks for your concern!0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »I have to add that I think it is NOT selfish at all to realize you do not want children. What is selfish is to have children you do not want, just because you are 'supposed' to, and then treat them as such.
The whole point of my last post was that I really wanted to be a mother, I do not think my life would be complete without it, but, it is not for everyone, and should not be taken lightly, nor should be taken on because of pressure.
This made me feel awesome. I don't want kids. I just don't. I donate to children's charities occassionally and I would risk my own life to protect someone else's kid without a second thought*. But having my own is just not something I want.
*I actually have a problem with going to the grocery store and if a parent walks away from the cart, I will stand next to it until they come back. I know it creeps some people out, but it only takes a SECOND for a kidnapping to happen and I worry about that stuff.0
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