Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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smashley_mashley wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »
I looked up diffusers- they go on the end of blowdryers? I always let my hair dry naturally, and never use gel eitherkellienw335 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.
My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.
Have you ever tried a diffuser on your hair and do you use gel?
No gel, hairspray, or anything... though I probably should get something to protect my hair from the heat when I straighten it.
There are times I like my hair, like when I wake up and think I have ok looking waves for once. The bad thing is I can't brush my hair lest it turn into a frizzy mess. Someone on Facebook actually shared an image that shows what it's like for me. Before brushing and after brushing:
Before I started straightening my hair, I had a friend who would always ask me why I never brushed my hair. I WAS brushing my hair, but it was coming out looking like the picture on the right!!! (but worse)
Ugh. My hair is EXACTLY the same. Isn't it annoying?! I just don't brush it... Then if I do, I immediately braid it down my back. End of drama.
agreed - don't brush it. I am a fan of the Marc Anthony Stricly Curls products. I use hair cream and the spray on towel dried hair. If it is nice and warm out I will just let it air dry even w/o combing it from the shower. If it is yucky and cold out (i.e. winter), I will use the diffuser. I just don't have the time anymore to flat iron it everyday.
the only time I will brush it is right before bed and then it turns into a bit of an afro.
But don't you get tangled? My hair gets horribly tangled all over if I don't brush it...
Confession - I HATE the Facebook MFP page. Always posting recipes that are 'only 200 calories' with ridiculous serving sizes (like half a sandwich). Pisses me off! Seriously who eats half a sandwich???
i keep my hair really short and any knots can be combed out with a pick and then the brush. I used to have long hair but my hair is so thick and heavy that it ended up in ponytail 99% of the time by 7:30 a.m. I also miss being near water. Whenever we vacation to somewhere such as San Fran, Seattle, or Chicago, the humidity just makes it so curly that it looks so much better (nevermind making my skin feel amazing!). Stupid dry climate.
I loved being in Seattle a couple summers ago. My hair curled so nicely, and I didn't have to use hand lotion once all week. Much better than the dry, cracked skin I get here!
hence my addiction to the Costco sized bottles of Aveeno - year round.
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I need to say something that will lighten the heavy feeling I have today. The weather is NOT helping either.
In just over 6 weeks, my husband and I will be jetting down to Florida for a VERY belated honeymoon. I could NOT be more excited if I tried. I am also extremely nervous and anxious about the whole thing. I really don't know what to expect and that's very thrilling and nerve wracking at the same time. I'm excited to wear my new swimsuit and sun hat I just bought this weekend. It's very chic. I just need to get some cute maxi dresses and a cute swimsuit cover up to wear on the beach. I could also use some helpful tips about traveling by plane.
Thanks!
Make sure you follow the airlines rules about what you can/can't take in your carry-on (and check to make sure your bag is an acceptable size). It'll suck if you have to throw out something when you're going through security! Be aware that belt buckles and sometimes underwire in bras can set off the metal detectors, so just something to think about while getting dressed that day
I prefer to sleep on planes, so one of those wrap around neck pillows is a must for me, but I know some people can't sleep so you might not need one. Give yourself lots of time to get to the airport and through security. Check BEFORE you leave home if your flight is delayed/cancelled for some reason.
If you've never flown before and aren't sure how your stomach will handle it, pack some ginger pills or Gravol just in case.
ETA: Also, pack gum or chewy candy, something to chew while taking off & landing (for your ears). I actually wear ear plugs when I fly. They might not work for everyone, and it does say to take them out once you're at altitude, but I just wear them the whole time. It's a little annoying if you have to talk to someone since you can't tell how loud you're talking, but with them in my ears don't pop at all and it is wonderful.0 -
FluffySandwich wrote: »Mmmmm.... cookie dough. I made sour cream cookies not long ago and the raw dough was so much better than the baked cookies. I do love cookies though, especially soft and slightly gooey ones. Harder ones... not so much... but I'LL STILL EAT THEM!
It's amazing how many people can totally screw up a simple batch of cookies by over-baking them. Umm hello... If they are hard before you even pull them from the oven, do you think they are gonna soften afterwards?!?! Uugh I hate a hard 'fresh baked' cookie. lol0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »One of my best friends is an only child and she turned out terrific. Very, very intelligent, witty, and mature. I don't think being an only child makes you damaged at all. I do love my siblings, though... even if sometimes I compare myself to my sister and feel inadequate
(she's beautiful and has the most gorgeous singing voice).
I feel you there- by the way I'm the brunette in my picture- the blonde is my sister. She is GORGEOUS it's not even funny. Love her to death but sometimes get so jealous of her haha. I know what you mean though!
I don't think it's damaging to only have one kid but I'm one of five and I can't imagine not having tons of siblings they're my best friends
You are gorgeous too!
Wish I was closer with my siblings. I have two younger brothers. One is in the Army, stationed in Germany, and is married with kids so I don't talk to him very often. The other is a mess and the only time he calls is to ask for money, which I stopped giving to him over ten years ago.
I have 2 younger brothers, neither one of which I am close with, all because of the huge age gap. There's 8.5 and 7.5 yrs between us and I was basically a 2nd mom, which I resented. I remember how much I hated being an only child until they came, and then I got stuck taking care of them a lot.
My family is like that- brother is 30, I'm 29, sister is 23, brother is 20 and other brother is 17 so the last two are quite far in age from my brother and I. But now that we're all older and the two brothers will be 21 and 18 this year we've all become very close!
My confession is I love my boyfriend and we're talking about me moving to the UK next year but I'm super nervous to be that far from my family and it's just a HUGE committment and so different and scary!
I lived in the UK for a year for college (Norfolk, England) and loved it. I wish I could move back there- husband is ok with it, but no opportunities have come up to do it. I'm an Anglophile now lol0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »It is taking everything in me to hold myself together.. Next Friday will be the one year anniversary of my Mom's death. Somehow it still hasn't hit me as being real...like, I know she's gone, but something in me just will not accept it. I don't know how to move on. It doesn't help that 15 days after losing her, my 15 year old dog(my first "child") died. The past year has just been a giant roller coaster. I have never been an angry person and have never turned to food for comfort until all of this. I have thought so many times about going to speak to someone...but I just can't bring myself to do it.
I have been lurking this thread from day one..keeping up every day... and I am overwhelmed by all the support you show each other and the friendships that have formed. I feel like I've gotten to know you all through all of your confessions/comments/advice/jokes...and I can relate to so many of you. I guess I felt I could let it all out here.
Sigh...
Go speak to someone. I had the opposite experience, I pretty much stopped eating while my mother was dying and after her passing. When I realized I hadn't eaten for 48 hours, I knew I needed help. I ended up being assigned a nun as a grief counsellor (I'm an atheist) and it was the best thing I could have done for myself. She was a wonderful therapist.
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rungirl1973 wrote: »And THIS is why my husband was in the boat he was in when I met him, with kids that didn't respect him. Until I came along and told him it's unacceptable for his kids to disrespect him in my home. So, he had to learn to stop letting his kids and finally his ex walk all over him. No time like the present to put a stop to it! You deserve better.
I'll give it my best shot, and thank you.Yes, to the bold. Yes, it is and that is a HUGE victory! Feeling your feelings is the only way to deal with and resolve them. Numbing them makes them never go away.
My suggestion to the anger you noted above: compartmentalize it. You know it's there, you found the source, you even know your resolution (when the time arises). Put it away in a "file" in your brain and access it when you need it. No need to carry it around with you actively.
Thank you. I felt better after posting and will definitely tuck that realization away for the future so I can (hopefully) avoid feeling like this again.smashley_mashley wrote: »you sound like my twin, though I am a bit younger. When it comes to my work life and life with my husband, I am strong and so confident. When it comes to all my other family, I feel like a complete doormat because I am a people pleaser and am still struggling with how to handle it. First step was getting rid of FB which I've previously posted about but I still struggle with the in person/face to face stuff. I'd love to say, "screw you all" but it isn't that easy (b/c I would feel so guilty). *sigh*
Yes to all of this. I can stand up for myself and completely be myself - without worrying about pleasing anyone - with certain people in my life, but with the rest, I struggle. And the funny thing is, I don't even like most of those people and I ask myself why the hell I'm knocking myself out to make them happy! I think the reason I didn't get a job I interviewed for recently was that I came across as totally fake during the interview - which I absolutely was because I was trying so desperately to make the interviewer like me/give me the job.
I guess aside from learning to just say no to the people who try to take advantage of me (and not worrying if they get upset or not), I also need to work on learning how to just be authentic and say "screw it" if someone can't deal with it. Of course, it's sooo easy to say this but putting it into practice will be a challenge.0 -
I need to say something that will lighten the heavy feeling I have today. The weather is NOT helping either.
In just over 6 weeks, my husband and I will be jetting down to Florida for a VERY belated honeymoon. I could NOT be more excited if I tried. I am also extremely nervous and anxious about the whole thing. I really don't know what to expect and that's very thrilling and nerve wracking at the same time. I'm excited to wear my new swimsuit and sun hat I just bought this weekend. It's very chic. I just need to get some cute maxi dresses and a cute swimsuit cover up to wear on the beach. I could also use some helpful tips about traveling by plane.
Thanks!
Make sure you follow the airlines rules about what you can/can't take in your carry-on (and check to make sure your bag is an acceptable size). It'll suck if you have to throw out something when you're going through security! Be aware that belt buckles and sometimes underwire in bras can set off the metal detectors, so just something to think about while getting dressed that day I prefer to sleep on planes, so one of those wrap around neck pillows is a must for me, but I know some people can't sleep so you might not need one. Give yourself lots of time to get to the airport and through security. Check BEFORE you leave home if your flight is delayed/cancelled for some reason.
If you've never flown before and aren't sure how your stomach will handle it, pack some ginger pills or Gravol just in case.
Congratulations on your belated honeymoon! I'm sure you'll have an excellent time. My biggest flying tip is to drink plenty of water - I always get soooo dehydrated. And make sure you have a sweater or little travel blanket, planes are usually cold (at least for me, I'm always cold though)!0 -
Yes, when I go back to drizzly England to visit, my hair and skin are like sponges and everything plumps up nicely. That's until I get back to Alberta and dry up like a neglected houseplant.smashley_mashley wrote: »smashley_mashley wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »
I looked up diffusers- they go on the end of blowdryers? I always let my hair dry naturally, and never use gel eitherkellienw335 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »Another rather lame confession: I haven't the slightest idea what to do with my hair. I haven't had short hair since I was a baby just starting to grow it. I wish I had the courage to chop it up or do something with it, but I'm just scared of making it look worse. It's extremely wavy (and in my opinion, not the good kind of wavy!!!) and hard to manage, so I just straighten it all the time to make it easier for me to deal with, at least. It also wants to always be parted in the middle. I went to see a hair stylist last year and she told me that my hair was "refusing to be parted down the side." Dumb hair.
My sister has experimented with all kinds of cuts and colors (well, all shades of red), and I wish I could be more like her. For some reason I'm just too scared.
Have you ever tried a diffuser on your hair and do you use gel? No gel, hairspray, or anything... though I probably should get something to protect my hair from the heat when I straighten it.
There are times I like my hair, like when I wake up and think I have ok looking waves for once. The bad thing is I can't brush my hair lest it turn into a frizzy mess. Someone on Facebook actually shared an image that shows what it's like for me. Before brushing and after brushing:
Before I started straightening my hair, I had a friend who would always ask me why I never brushed my hair. I WAS brushing my hair, but it was coming out looking like the picture on the right!!! (but worse)
Ugh. My hair is EXACTLY the same. Isn't it annoying?! I just don't brush it... Then if I do, I immediately braid it down my back. End of drama.
agreed - don't brush it. I am a fan of the Marc Anthony Stricly Curls products. I use hair cream and the spray on towel dried hair. If it is nice and warm out I will just let it air dry even w/o combing it from the shower. If it is yucky and cold out (i.e. winter), I will use the diffuser. I just don't have the time anymore to flat iron it everyday.
the only time I will brush it is right before bed and then it turns into a bit of an afro.
But don't you get tangled? My hair gets horribly tangled all over if I don't brush it...
Confession - I HATE the Facebook MFP page. Always posting recipes that are 'only 200 calories' with ridiculous serving sizes (like half a sandwich). Pisses me off! Seriously who eats half a sandwich???
i keep my hair really short and any knots can be combed out with a pick and then the brush. I used to have long hair but my hair is so thick and heavy that it ended up in ponytail 99% of the time by 7:30 a.m. I also miss being near water. Whenever we vacation to somewhere such as San Fran, Seattle, or Chicago, the humidity just makes it so curly that it looks so much better (nevermind making my skin feel amazing!). Stupid dry climate.
I loved being in Seattle a couple summers ago. My hair curled so nicely, and I didn't have to use hand lotion once all week. Much better than the dry, cracked skin I get here!
My hand eczema was terrible when I was travelling between England and VA. At home I'd get the horrible, itchy blisters, then back there they'd eventually heal, but then they'd dry up so much they'd crack and bleed. Don't think flying back and forth every month helped either. Don't know where my hair was better, mine is also curly, and has gone more that way as an adult. I also find it's curlier long, which is apparently not how it's meant to work.0 -
Also, regarding the choice of ads on MFP, it's still directly related to YOUR browsing/search history because just a few minutes ago I saw an ad by Amazon for cycling gloves, which I just happened to search for, on Amazon, just yesterday. 0
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berlynnwall wrote: »Something's been missing from this conversation:
Although now that I'm allegedly a grown up I prefer cininamon.
Confession: I still have 1500 calories to get in today, but I overslept, and have no motivation to do so. At all. I'll probably force down some eggs later just to cover the protein for working out, but that may be it today. For those who say they don't like/don't believe/envy the people who are never hungry and have to fight to get 1000 in a day, believe me, it's not all sunshine and roses.
Also, add me to the list wondering if @AgentOrangeJuice's boss went rogue today.
Great guys, now I have that song stuck in my head.
There's a cure for that...
http://unhearit.com/
OMG. I just listened to a Cyndi Lauper/ Fergie mash up. Thanks a lot
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I wouldn't mind one, but I think I'd end up like this:xMrBunglex wrote: »
Agreed - scars are cool and interesting. I have to restrain myself from asking people about their scars because I know it's rude.ChipChocolatePancake wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »I don't mind the scars on my ankle and shoulder at all. Actually, I'm kinda bummed at how much the shoulder scar has faded.
Scars ARE kind of badass!
Scars are tattoos with better stories. We saw that tshirt a couple of weeks ago.
I have said this for years as well!
I confess that I like what Ron White says about tattoos:
"Tattoos are permanent stupidity bruises."
Oh dear god I agree! I was a corrections officer for three years and I saw all kinds of hideous, horrible tattoos! I've thought about it but they're just not my thing I think after a year or so I'd get bored with whatever it was and want it off of me! This is not to say that I dislike them I think some people have really neat and amazing tattoos!
Ps I was watching Tattoo Nightmares at the gym today! Love that show!
I have a very small and tasteful tattoo of my daughter's name in a really pretty script on the inside of my right wrist. I LOVE it! It hurt like hell, but I'd do it again. I want more, but I'm terrified of needles, so I don't know if it will happen or not.
I have an orange ribbon with my daughter's name in it on my ankle. It was in honor of her fight with ALL (leukemia). She is now a survivor and we are celebrating that.0 -
berlynnwall wrote: »Caught up!
I'm not too worried about this parenting thing. I'm worried about the nitty, grittiness of sleep deprivation and exhaustion that comes with the early days, but beyond ensuring the kid's physical well-being, I feel like the actual 'parenting' part will be okay. I'm a decent person. My husband is a decent person. My parents were decent people and my siblings and I turned out fine. Not a lot of drama, not a lot of scares and we all put up with one another to varying degrees. Sure I expect there will be arguments and frustrations and bumps in the road, but I'm not aiming for perfection as I think that probably doesn't exist.
Am I being too blasé about the whole thing?!
Nah. I will say though that based on nothing but my time on pregnancy message boards (tip: do not go to a pregnancy message board, the craziest people spend all day there) most first babies seem to be easy. That's how they trick you into having another one. My oldest was the easiest baby in the world. I found myself thinking "why do people complain about this?". Five years later when I had my daughter, I found out how bad it could be. My daughter has also taught me to be a lot less judgmental about parenting styles. I parented her in the same general way as my son, and she is 400% more willful, stubborn, possessed by demons... I feel like I shouldn't have to say this - but I love her so much and she is also amazingly creative and funny in addition to possibly being the devil.
This made me laugh out loud. I feel the same way about my daughter at times.
LOL. Truth. My boys aren't angels, but there is no doubt that she is the hardest one. I am terrified of her as a teenager. She is only 6.
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xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kellienw335 wrote: »FluffySandwich wrote: »One of my best friends is an only child and she turned out terrific. Very, very intelligent, witty, and mature. I don't think being an only child makes you damaged at all. I do love my siblings, though... even if sometimes I compare myself to my sister and feel inadequate (she's beautiful and has the most gorgeous singing voice).
I feel you there- by the way I'm the brunette in my picture- the blonde is my sister. She is GORGEOUS it's not even funny. Love her to death but sometimes get so jealous of her haha. I know what you mean though!
I don't think it's damaging to only have one kid but I'm one of five and I can't imagine not having tons of siblings they're my best friends
You are gorgeous too!
Wish I was closer with my siblings. I have two younger brothers. One is in the Army, stationed in Germany, and is married with kids so I don't talk to him very often. The other is a mess and the only time he calls is to ask for money, which I stopped giving to him over ten years ago.
I have 2 younger brothers, neither one of which I am close with, all because of the huge age gap. There's 8.5 and 7.5 yrs between us and I was basically a 2nd mom, which I resented. I remember how much I hated being an only child until they came, and then I got stuck taking care of them a lot.
Preach. I'm 11 years older than my brother and I watched him so much that people in the small town my mom lived in thought he was my son. When they lived there, he was 3, I was 14 - and although I do question the mental math of those people because I def did not look older than I was, I resented the heck out of my mom for not hiring a real sitter.0 -
Also, regarding the choice of ads on MFP, it's still directly related to YOUR browsing/search history because just a few minutes ago I saw an ad by Amazon for cycling gloves, which I just happened to search for, on Amazon, just yesterday.
Generally, that is true. However, I use a "private" browsing window via Firefox so the ads for me are just random, but sometimes they are for crazy things or super ugly shoes I would never wear so I get offended and feel like it is trying to tempt me to do searches on it so that it will remember them!0 -
I wouldn't mind one, but I think I'd end up like this:xMrBunglex wrote: »
Agreed - scars are cool and interesting. I have to restrain myself from asking people about their scars because I know it's rude.ChipChocolatePancake wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »I don't mind the scars on my ankle and shoulder at all. Actually, I'm kinda bummed at how much the shoulder scar has faded.
Scars ARE kind of badass!
Scars are tattoos with better stories. We saw that tshirt a couple of weeks ago.
I have said this for years as well!
I confess that I like what Ron White says about tattoos:
"Tattoos are permanent stupidity bruises."
Oh dear god I agree! I was a corrections officer for three years and I saw all kinds of hideous, horrible tattoos! I've thought about it but they're just not my thing I think after a year or so I'd get bored with whatever it was and want it off of me! This is not to say that I dislike them I think some people have really neat and amazing tattoos!
Ps I was watching Tattoo Nightmares at the gym today! Love that show!
I have a very small and tasteful tattoo of my daughter's name in a really pretty script on the inside of my right wrist. I LOVE it! It hurt like hell, but I'd do it again. I want more, but I'm terrified of needles, so I don't know if it will happen or not.
I have an orange ribbon with my daughter's name in it on my ankle. It was in honor of her fight with ALL (leukemia). She is now a survivor and we are celebrating that.
Congratulations! Definitely something worth celebrating!0 -
Agreed - right now I have golf, Advil and sleep clinic ads - none of which I've searched for, so I assume it's just random ads.Also, regarding the choice of ads on MFP, it's still directly related to YOUR browsing/search history because just a few minutes ago I saw an ad by Amazon for cycling gloves, which I just happened to search for, on Amazon, just yesterday.
Generally, that is true. However, I use a "private" browsing window via Firefox so the ads for me are just random, but sometimes they are for crazy things or super ugly shoes I would never wear so I get offended and feel like it is trying to tempt me to do searches on it so that it will remember them!
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I missed that one - Wonderful reason to get that tattoo! Wishing her continued good health.
I wouldn't mind one, but I think I'd end up like this:xMrBunglex wrote: »
Agreed - scars are cool and interesting. I have to restrain myself from asking people about their scars because I know it's rude.ChipChocolatePancake wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »I don't mind the scars on my ankle and shoulder at all. Actually, I'm kinda bummed at how much the shoulder scar has faded.
Scars ARE kind of badass!
Scars are tattoos with better stories. We saw that tshirt a couple of weeks ago.
I have said this for years as well!
I confess that I like what Ron White says about tattoos:
"Tattoos are permanent stupidity bruises."
Oh dear god I agree! I was a corrections officer for three years and I saw all kinds of hideous, horrible tattoos! I've thought about it but they're just not my thing I think after a year or so I'd get bored with whatever it was and want it off of me! This is not to say that I dislike them I think some people have really neat and amazing tattoos!
Ps I was watching Tattoo Nightmares at the gym today! Love that show!
I have a very small and tasteful tattoo of my daughter's name in a really pretty script on the inside of my right wrist. I LOVE it! It hurt like hell, but I'd do it again. I want more, but I'm terrified of needles, so I don't know if it will happen or not.
I have an orange ribbon with my daughter's name in it on my ankle. It was in honor of her fight with ALL (leukemia). She is now a survivor and we are celebrating that.
Congratulations! Definitely something worth celebrating!
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My hair is straight without the slightest wave to it but my baby has super curly hair and I have no idea how to deal with it. It's not getting longer it's just getting biger
Curly hair takes time and practice to learn to work with. Do you have a salon you go to? Or a cosmetology school nearby? I'm sure someone would be more than happy to work with you! Probably someone like myself who had/has curly hair and a mother who did nothing with it when I was younger (NOT saying that is you) and would be glad to help someone else so that they don't go through a childhood with bad hair.
Also, the color of your hair is gorgeous! Love it!
*NODS* My mom had no idea what to do with my hair, and the internet didn't exist yet so there were many, many mornings I would be in a rage because my hair was being uncooperative, so into a ponytail it went.
Lucky you! My mom's solution was to keep it as short as possible. I was mistaken for a boy countless times. She refused to let it grow long because SHE didn't want to deal with it.
Awww. I see this a lot with some young girls. I would hate mistaking one of these girls (esp. with an ambiguous name for a boy).0 -
karintalley wrote: »Don't knowkarintalley wrote: »I LOVE STALE CHEETOS...
Noooooo. WHY?
Don't know. I buy a bag and leave it open for 2 days. That way they get extra stale and yummy!
You would be so welcome at my house!0 -
Ok...my confession.....I've drank maple syrup right from the bottle. It seems a shame to water it down with pancakes.0
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Agreed - right now I have golf, Advil and sleep clinic ads - none of which I've searched for, so I assume it's just random ads.Also, regarding the choice of ads on MFP, it's still directly related to YOUR browsing/search history because just a few minutes ago I saw an ad by Amazon for cycling gloves, which I just happened to search for, on Amazon, just yesterday.
Generally, that is true. However, I use a "private" browsing window via Firefox so the ads for me are just random, but sometimes they are for crazy things or super ugly shoes I would never wear so I get offended and feel like it is trying to tempt me to do searches on it so that it will remember them!
I only see ads on mobile, and the one I get most often is Ibotta...which is not compatible with my phone.0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »I am really upset this morning because my degu is dying, I am sure of it now.....he has almost completely stopped eating and now his fur is falling out.....I was up at 4am hand feeding him corn flakes but have to leave for work now and am terrified he is going to die by himself in his cage while I am not home....I can't stop crying......its gonna be a long day, or few days, every time I have to leave the house.....
That's just heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. Losing a pet, no matter how or when, is always so hard.
I have an indoor/outdoor (mostly outdoor) cat that I haven't seen in almost 2 weeks. We live in kind of a wooded area so I think an animal got him. I was thinking something happened last week when I didn't see him, but now that almost a whole week has passed and I still haven't seen him, I'm pretty sure he's gone for good. He was my boy and I'm sad I'll probably never get to hold him again.
So far my little guy is hanging on, but still not really eating anything but hand fed corn flakes.....
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IAmTheGlue wrote: »Caught up!
I'm not too worried about this parenting thing. I'm worried about the nitty, grittiness of sleep deprivation and exhaustion that comes with the early days, but beyond ensuring the kid's physical well-being, I feel like the actual 'parenting' part will be okay. I'm a decent person. My husband is a decent person. My parents were decent people and my siblings and I turned out fine. Not a lot of drama, not a lot of scares and we all put up with one another to varying degrees. Sure I expect there will be arguments and frustrations and bumps in the road, but I'm not aiming for perfection as I think that probably doesn't exist.
Am I being too blasé about the whole thing?!
I'm not caught up yet but I think you are perfectly sane with your idea of parenting. The parenting part is easy. The exhaustion is the hard part in those early days but you'll do fabulous!
I have 4 wonderful children and I think that having kids is awesome. ...minus the sleep deprivation. My 3 older children are from my first marriage and my youngest son is from my current husband.
I have very simple rules. You can be whoever you are. Absolute unconditional love for that... I always tell my kids to just be whoever you are. I already got to make my choices. This life is theirs and the only person they have to make happy is themselves. To me it's super important that they are confident in my undying love and support for them as I have a 13 year old daughter who's struggling to come out.... and her actual father is a homophobe who helicopter parents. I have custody but he's always blowing up my phone about everything. Ugh.
Anyway, my only real rule is that my house must be a sanctuary for everyone. No violence. That means no brothers smacking each other, pushing, whatever. ..no violence. I have a really strong belief that your home must be safe.
I'm struggling to go to college (at 38) and my parenting confession is: I wish I waited to have kids and went up school first. Maybe not really but it is sooooo hard to go to school when you're the glue. Literally, I feel like the glue that's holding everything together.
I love my family but I should have went to college after high school. It would have been so much easier. I'm super tired all the time.
It is HARD. I cried and asked myself what I was doing many time but please keep on it. You'll get there!
Good for you on supporting your kids too. I agree. My mom is still disappointed in me because I'm not a mini-her.I Encourage my kids to find their own path, find their own way. I hope your daughter feels confidence from your support.
Thank you for saying all of that. I just keep pushing forward and one day I will make it. It's taking forever though.
That's why I encourage my kids to do their own thing, too! Good for you, too! Nothing like being a huge disappointment for not being exactly like your parents.
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Italian_Buju wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »All this talk about kids, and now I would like to bop my 19 year old daughter in the head......boys are SO much easier.....
That is true in my experience as well. What did she do?
She has been home for school from a month, and I am already having to harp her to get her crap done, and then she gets all bitchy like I am somehow annoying her, when I am the one that is really annoyed.....the first month went well, now I am going to be counting down for the next three months til she leaves......
Do you mean stuff around the house? Or do you mean she's a procrastinator at everything? Even at 19 it's hard to get kids to care about the condition of the house. My step-daughter was a horrendous slob. Now she has her own house and even with 2 babies she keeps it as clean and uncluttered as possible.
If she's a procrastinator at everything, then I sympathize. My youngest son is this way to an extreme. Waits until the very last minute to wash his uniforms for work, doesn't buy groceries until he is completely out, doesn't pay bills on time unless I or his girlfriend do it for him. Sigh. He's a really great person and I'm very proud of him, but he has yet to catch on that if he'd just do what he is supposed to do before it's too late he could save himself a lot of stress. In his defense he never puts off buying dog food for his doggies. They are always well supplied.
Oh, it is at everything....for example....she got hired at a job for the summer and had TWO WEEKS before the start date to get the paperwork in. At like midnight, the night before she started, she realized she had to go to the bank for her pay deposit slip. Not only did she leave it so late she could do nothing about it, but when she was gone, I saw the folder she was keeping everything in, and she literally did not fill out a single letter in the entire booklet of paperwork.
I have had to let her be on that stuff, and let it be her problem. However, my kids know when they live at home they have chores, I do not care what age, I am not a maid. So, I hate having to harp her that it is her turn to wash the towels, or to get some dishes done on her turn before midnight etc. Then she acts like I am annoying her because I get mad that something is not done a full day after it should have been done.....like seriously??0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »I am really upset this morning because my degu is dying, I am sure of it now.....he has almost completely stopped eating and now his fur is falling out.....I was up at 4am hand feeding him corn flakes but have to leave for work now and am terrified he is going to die by himself in his cage while I am not home....I can't stop crying......its gonna be a long day, or few days, every time I have to leave the house.....
so sorry to read this
it must be hard for you. Hugs!
I really had no idea how difficult it is to deal with a loss of your pet until today - previously we had a dog when I was a teenager and it was put to sleep when I was already moved out of the family home and at uni so it did not get to me as much as it could. This morning I have taken our rabbit pet to be euthanised as Blackie broke his leg over the weekend; they suggested amputation last night during the consultation, but with his age and some other health issues we decided it would be kinder to put him to sleep. I was an emotional mess when I arrived at the clinic and had to kick myself hard afterwards to be able to drive back home. I couldn't face going to work today and spent the day at home finding distractions so I don't have to think about it.
I am so sorry for your loss......0 -
kelly_c_77 wrote: »It is taking everything in me to hold myself together.. Next Friday will be the one year anniversary of my Mom's death. Somehow it still hasn't hit me as being real...like, I know she's gone, but something in me just will not accept it. I don't know how to move on. It doesn't help that 15 days after losing her, my 15 year old dog(my first "child") died. The past year has just been a giant roller coaster. I have never been an angry person and have never turned to food for comfort until all of this. I have thought so many times about going to speak to someone...but I just can't bring myself to do it.
I have been lurking this thread from day one..keeping up every day... and I am overwhelmed by all the support you show each other and the friendships that have formed. I feel like I've gotten to know you all through all of your confessions/comments/advice/jokes...and I can relate to so many of you. I guess I felt I could let it all out here.
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FluffySandwich wrote: »Mmmmm.... cookie dough. I made sour cream cookies not long ago and the raw dough was so much better than the baked cookies. I do love cookies though, especially soft and slightly gooey ones. Harder ones... not so much... but I'LL STILL EAT THEM!
I have never understood the concept of putting sour cream in sweets.....it is unnatural and upsetting lol0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »
Endorsed.Susieq_1994 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »
*drool* I once had the idea to bake brownies by doing the following:
A. Spread half the brownie batter in the pan
B. Cover the batter with a single layer of these beauties
C. Spread the other half of the batter on top
D. Layer them across the top
Sadly, when I went to put my idea into action, I couldn't find them at ANY of the supermarkets. Ugh.
OH MY GOD! You had me, I really want to know what happens. You must do it! I think they are mostly around at Christmas time.
......
I'm doing it. I'm going to hunt them down now and I'm going to do it...
Do it, do it! I NEED to know how this turns out. I should hunt for them too....
http://lilluna.com/eggless-cookie-dough/?utm_source=feedburner&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=Feed:+lilluna/isXQ+(Lil'+Luna+-+All+Things+Good)
I made this recipe tonight & had 10 grams of it since that's all I could fit in my diary for today haha. Very sweet, but so much better than the mock chickpea dough even though that was still pretty decent.
When I REALLY want cookie dough, I make the real thing, raw eggs and all. I tried out the mock one when I came across it because I was hoping it would be a lower calorie alternative--It wasn't, though! I could have had 3.5 cookies' worth of real dough for the same amount of calories, and the amount wasn't much more than that would be. And it tasted nothing like cookie dough *sobsob*
That's some SERIOUSLY amazing willpower. I could never stick to ten grams of cookie dough, whether it fit in my diary or not! I'd probably eat half the dough...
This may get me judged... I have never understood the fascination with cookie dough! I gotta have my cookies baked - I like them still soft, but need them cooked.
Not a fan of cookie dough here either. I want it baked- I gag at the thought of the raw egg.
Same, but my husband loves it.0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »Confession: I am going to go home now and snuggle the crap out of my cat (even though she HATES it) after all this pet heartbreak.
Jealous! give your kitty an extra squeeze for me.
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[quseeote="jgriffit91;32570376"]I can say "it's a marathon, not a sprint" -- that I'm short and close to my goal weight, and trying to build strength at the same time, so even when I'm keeping to my diet and training perfectly it should take me a month+ to see non-trivial losses in scale weight (especially given that I have one of those crappy dial scales.) Even then, every time I step on the scale/look in the mirror/put on pants, I get scared that I'm not "really" losing fat because I'm mismeasuring my intake or metabolism somehow and that any results I notice are wishful thinking or daily fluctuations.
Do other people have this problem, or am I just neurotic?
It's not just you. I'm 5'2" and only have about 10 lbs to lose, and since I'm not perfect with my food every day it takes FOREVER to see any results. It is frustrating, but thankfully I like working out so I just keep going. Plus I tell myself that even if I can't see any changes, I know I'm healthier insideI was just saying that to my mum the other day! She asked if I have lost any weight and I was like "meh, I've lost 4lbs since January" and she was shocked how slow I'm losing considering all the hard work I'm putting in, but I said this time last year I smoked 10 a day - I've quit for 3 months, couldn't run for 30 seconds - now I'm on week 5 of couch to 5k, I could only do 1 length of front crawl, now I can do it for 90mins and swim 1,650m (50 lengths) in 45 mins, and I just feel a lot healthier! Obviously quitting smoking is a MAJOR factor in this, but I do feel a lot more able to do stuff and move in general.
yay! It's good to notice the non scale related victories.0
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