Confession Time! ((ABSOLUTELY NO JUDGEMENT))
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Italian_Buju wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »
That's just terrible. Were you stuck there for a while?Italian_Buju wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »@riderfangal eee I know the feeling when the guy is nice enough but that spark just isn't there and he keeps trying to touch you haha I hate that! At least you made a new friend and now you don't have to think 'what if' if you hadn't gone!
Lol yep it was pretty awkward and I am actually glad I went! Thank you all for the positive thoughts this week
That is so awkward!
I once went on a date and the guy was really into me, and I just was not feeling it....so we had went out for dinner and then went to a club I frequented....I thought he might have clued in when I kept introducing him as my friend and not my date, but he didn't. Finally, he leans into me and tells me how much he likes me....and I decide to be honest, and tell him he is a great guy but I am just not feeling it, that I will dance with him and such the rest of the night but I did not see it going anywhere.....he seemed fine, bought us another round of drinks, and then went to the bathroom, and NEVER RETURNED. He drove, so I was stranded a city away, at a night club. I was not impressed.....
YES!!
To tell a little more of the story, one of my best friends was living with me at my mother's house at the time. She went out on a date with a different guy and took my mom's car. I told her I would make sure my date and I ended up at our usual club, and for her to come and check me when she was done, in case things were not going well for me.
I would say this guy left around 11-midnight. This club closed at 4am. I refused a few rides home from people I knew, figuring my friend would come for me sooner or later, and I was 30 minutes from home and didn't want to put anyone out of their way. So I just danced and had a few drinks etc. The club closed. I took a cab home, at like 5am, and got home like 5:30am. My mother was up at the kitchen table and I came in and asked if my friend was home yet, she was not. I told my mother what happened, and went up to my room, fuming. About half an hour later I heard my friend come in, and my mother told her to tread lightly cuz I was really mad.
Turns out her and her date decided to go to a club THREE HOURS AWAY, so she never came to check on me because she knew my club would have been well closed by the time they got back to the area. She said she figured I would be fine. I was mad about that for a long time.
@kelly_c_77
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Coastalpath wrote: »This is long so don't expect people to read it - just need to get it out!
Like a lot of other posters here I am going through lots of life stresses at the moment and the last few days have felt very sad, numb and unmotivated. I am ever so slightly eating my feelings 'grief bacon' but am logging it all so I can see it in black and white. My confession today is that I am fed up with never feeling as though I am allowed to be stressed or upset. Work, home, health are all suffering at the moment, but I am just expected to suck it up. If one more person says to me 'it could be worse' I might scream. I am silently screaming and unfortunately the pain is beginning to show on my face. I know things could be worse, just doesn't mean that because someone somewhere has it worse than me that I just have to 'be fine' all the time.
Dealing with mixed emotions is so hard - so happy for friends and loved ones who have fantastic things happening, mixed with my grief and sadness for what I am secretly going through. Not wanting to see friends because I don't want to make them miserable mixed with worrying I am not being a good friend by seeing them and sharing in their joys. Or, worse, that I am making them feel guilty for being happy.
Feels better to 'get it out' but I am so sad at the moment and I just wonder when bad things will stop happening!
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riderfangal wrote: »Confession: It was my sister's birthday this weekend, and we had ice cream cake for her yesterday. I just dug in with a fork once everyone else was done, and I regret nothing! I'd just finished a 6 hour round trip hike up a mountain with a 970m elevation gain in 31 degree Celsius weather and I was starving. I've been trying mindful eating for the past few days, with a fair bit of success, but that completely went out the window yesterday.
I would say after doing a mountain hike you certainly earned it!!
Thanks! It was our first hike of the summer season too, so the only thing that kept me from giving up was my boyfriend was already at the top, and I was carrying his food. I ran out of steam at the beginning of the scree slope, so it took me probably twice as long to do it as it normally would have. When I finally made it, I found out he'd had the exact same experience, so it wasn't just me. Too long of a hike on too hot of a day when we're just starting the season lol. Next week is going to be an easier mountain.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Well. Just got back from the doctors. Saw a different doctor this time. He said NO carbs. Not even yogurt, he said if I don't lose weight on this, we have a serious problem. I asked him if it could be anything else and he said "Well, we could faff around putting you on different diets, but it seems you have put a lot of time and effort into this already so I recommend you go straight to the jugular and cut carbs. It will work, it will always work. It's hard, and it will suck, it will really suck, but you will lose fat." So I went to the nearest bakery, bought myself an apple and raspberry danish (at 9 in the morning) and ate it while driving to work. If I can't have carbs for the next 2 months, I'm going to end it with something amazing. and it was.
Oh, that really stinks.
Hope it goes well for you! In his definition of NO carbs, I assume non-starchy veggies are still allowed? I really hope you lose a good amount of weight on this--you've been working SO HARD and not seeing results and I'm sure it's just horribly, awfully frustrating.
... I totally would have done that too. I LOVE danishes.
I don't think they are, he said no root vegetables and no squashes (butternut squash or pumpkin etc). The more I talk about it the harder it becomes. He said no tomato, which pretty much rules out everything. I keep thinking oh well I'll do this and substitute the carbs and then you realise it has a tomato based sauce. It's slowly looking more and more impossible.
Yikes. I couldn't possibly live without tomatoes! So what CAN you eat? 
I thought the same thing! Of course, being Italian, pretty much everything I eat is covered in tomatoes and cheese, lol.0 -
xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »Coastalpath wrote: »This is long so don't expect people to read it - just need to get it out!
Like a lot of other posters here I am going through lots of life stresses at the moment and the last few days have felt very sad, numb and unmotivated. I am ever so slightly eating my feelings 'grief bacon' but am logging it all so I can see it in black and white. My confession today is that I am fed up with never feeling as though I am allowed to be stressed or upset. Work, home, health are all suffering at the moment, but I am just expected to suck it up. If one more person says to me 'it could be worse' I might scream. I am silently screaming and unfortunately the pain is beginning to show on my face. I know things could be worse, just doesn't mean that because someone somewhere has it worse than me that I just have to 'be fine' all the time.
Dealing with mixed emotions is so hard - so happy for friends and loved ones who have fantastic things happening, mixed with my grief and sadness for what I am secretly going through. Not wanting to see friends because I don't want to make them miserable mixed with worrying I am not being a good friend by seeing them and sharing in their joys. Or, worse, that I am making them feel guilty for being happy.
Feels better to 'get it out' but I am so sad at the moment and I just wonder when bad things will stop happening!
Your feelings are valid. What you are going through is real and it is difficult for you. We understand and I am sure we have all been there at some point. You ARE allowed to feel this way and you ARE allowed to vent.
Yup. This! Hugs to you.
Coastal (responding to the first post since I never saw it) I feel the same. I pretty much feel like I'm drowning. I'm expected to be the rock for everyone, and most of the time I stoically am. But times like right now, I just want to scream and cry and throw a fit. I want someone to comfort ME and no one is. I'm supposed to hold it together and do 1,000 different things well every day, without fail or exception.
I joke with people a lot that it sucks to be me, because I don't get a "down day", but it's true. I'm expected to be on point 24/7 and I'm struggling. I get the "count your blessings" and "it could be worse" a LOT. Yes, it could be. In the scheme of things, what bothers me could be construed as petty. It doesn't mean it hurts less or I'm less upset. I am grateful for what I have, but aren't I also allowed to be upset too?!
Warning- the below will make me sound like an ungrateful brat. I know this, but they are MY feelings. I'm working on processing them, but it takes time.
I found out on Saturday that good friends of ours (who have 2 boys about the same age as us) are wanting a 3rd. They want to try for a girl. They previously said they were done but the DH changed his mind. I went upstairs and cried. I have wanted 3 kids since I was little. DH said no, 2 was all he could take. He got a vasectomy last Nov so there will only be 2. I agreed because I don't believe in forcing someone to have more kids if they don't want to. I'm not the only one involved in the decision. DH also swore we could look into adopting, which helped ease my feelings about the V.
I have regretted it EVERY DAY since. When I see parents out with 3 or more kids, I'm envious. If one or more is a girl, I am so jealous. I want a daughter. I always have. I love my boys so much, but there is a part of me that will always hurt because I wanted a girl. Both times, the u/s tech told me they were girls and I was blissful for a few weeks until told they were boys. They will never know. I will NEVER tell them they aren't "enough" for me, because they are. I am grateful they are both here and healthy and I would NOT trade them for anything, but I feel a twinge every time I look at a girl or girl baby. DH has also now decided he doesn't want to adopt, so I feel a bit of a pang of "bait and switch" sometimes when I think about it. Mostly I want 3 kids, but not gonna lie, a girl would be awesome.
I feel so alone, because DH is d-o-n-e. 2 is enough for him, he doesn't remotely want a 3rd. Talking to him about it doesn't help, because he has a hard time sympathizing with me. Ok, so he joked around and said I could get a dog to "mother". I agreed. Now last night he is reneging and saying "well, we can get a dog when we get x, y, and z done around the house". This will literally be YEARS. He knows this. Bait and switch #2.
He also said I could look into getting a new car within the month. So I've been plotting out savings, trade-in value, etc. This past weekend he decided nope, my Jeep runs fine for now and maybe we'll think about it in 6 months. Bait and switch #3.
I'm frustrated, I'm sad, I feel like everything I want always comes last after everyone else, and yes I know this is all first world problems, but right now it's rough. On top of it, I'm dieting strictly, so I think I'm just in a funk and crabby from that too. It's the one thing I feel like I'm succeeding at, though, so I don't want to give it up. I have 10.5 lb to go. I'm SO close. I just want to accomplish Something, ya know?
*ok, sorry for the pathetic vent. Carry on*
I understand not wanting to push him into a third kid, but if you want a dog that you are gonna take care of, get a dog.....he is one half of a couple, not the manager of the household.....both of you have a voice.....0 -
Italian_Buju wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »
That's just terrible. Were you stuck there for a while?Italian_Buju wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »@riderfangal eee I know the feeling when the guy is nice enough but that spark just isn't there and he keeps trying to touch you haha I hate that! At least you made a new friend and now you don't have to think 'what if' if you hadn't gone!
Lol yep it was pretty awkward and I am actually glad I went! Thank you all for the positive thoughts this week
That is so awkward!
I once went on a date and the guy was really into me, and I just was not feeling it....so we had went out for dinner and then went to a club I frequented....I thought he might have clued in when I kept introducing him as my friend and not my date, but he didn't. Finally, he leans into me and tells me how much he likes me....and I decide to be honest, and tell him he is a great guy but I am just not feeling it, that I will dance with him and such the rest of the night but I did not see it going anywhere.....he seemed fine, bought us another round of drinks, and then went to the bathroom, and NEVER RETURNED. He drove, so I was stranded a city away, at a night club. I was not impressed.....
YES!!
To tell a little more of the story, one of my best friends was living with me at my mother's house at the time. She went out on a date with a different guy and took my mom's car. I told her I would make sure my date and I ended up at our usual club, and for her to come and check me when she was done, in case things were not going well for me.
I would say this guy left around 11-midnight. This club closed at 4am. I refused a few rides home from people I knew, figuring my friend would come for me sooner or later, and I was 30 minutes from home and didn't want to put anyone out of their way. So I just danced and had a few drinks etc. The club closed. I took a cab home, at like 5am, and got home like 5:30am. My mother was up at the kitchen table and I came in and asked if my friend was home yet, she was not. I told my mother what happened, and went up to my room, fuming. About half an hour later I heard my friend come in, and my mother told her to tread lightly cuz I was really mad.
Turns out her and her date decided to go to a club THREE HOURS AWAY, so she never came to check on me because she knew my club would have been well closed by the time they got back to the area. She said she figured I would be fine. I was mad about that for a long time.
@kelly_c_77
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Went for my long run on Sunday (7 Miles), it went well until the last mile... I got a foot cramp from hell, well turns out it wasn't a cramp. I have plantar fasciitis, so I'm bike, weights and stretching bound for the rest of the week. I'm not amused.
This weekend was tons of fun, I gamed and cleaned a bit. It's a short week here, I can't even begin to explain how excited I am about it even if it is the Wednesday off lol0 -
CountessKitteh wrote: »riderfangal wrote: »CountessKitteh wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »Wow!! Thank you for all the birthday wishes!! I am really feeling the love!!!
You guys are the best (super great!)!! I'm so excited for dinner/dessert tonight. I've already eaten a red velvet whoopee pie (before lunch!)...so looks like my calorie count is up more than I planned...but guess what? I DON'T CARE TODAY!! 
@Susieq_1994, I am so sorry that you are having a tough day! I really have no words...but, hugs to you!
@CountessKitteh, that's really nice of you to make sure that your vegetarian MOH (and other guests) will have something good to eat!! You have to let me (us) know what you end up with for the veggie option!
@MoHousdon, sorry about the ongoing stepdaughter/cat drama!!! What a bummer...but set all of that aside because you are going to have the BEST vacation ever with your sweet, loving Mr. Mo! Have a blast...can't wait to hear all about it and see pictures when you're back! We'll miss you!
She happens to eat fish, so that gives me more options! I think we're going with a Chilean Sea Bass with a ginger scallion (I think - didn't care, it was amazing) sauce. Sides will probably be standard roasted veggies (for everyone - buffet!) because it'll be late fall in Pennsylvania.
However, I'm also having a FRENCH FRY BAR so who cares about dinner? Plus most of the things they'll be passing around during cocktail hour happen to be seafood or non-meat (figs with goat cheese and balsamic reduction what?!) because I think it's important to mix it up. I like food way too much to settle.
Nothing's finalized since I'm an insane person and still have 16 months until my wedding, but these are very important decisions so I've started working on them now.
My invitation must have gotten lost in the mail.
If I EVER have a wedding/vowel renewal, I'm 100% stealing this idea. French fries are seriously one of my favorite foods and a French fry bar would make me happier than I really care to admit. I may also have a DP fountain. You know, like a chocolate fountain, only with Dr. Pepper.
Dr Pepper fountain, that's funny stuff.
Come to think of it, I may steal the french fry bar idea too. We like to have game nights/parties at our house and I'm always trying to think of new food to serve.
ETA: I can't spell
Drooling over the idea of the French fry bar
For the curious!
French Fry Station
Crispy French Fries and Sweet Potato Fries Accompanied By Cheddar Cheese, Ketchup, Garlic Allmanaise, Jalapeno Ranch, Bacon Bits, Shakers of: Parmesan Cheese, Garlic Salt, Old Bay Seasoning
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Way behind again. Here are some things I wanted to comment on:annette_15 wrote: »I'm sorry guys, I have to skip the last 50 pages or so... I've had a very rough last couple of days. My husband had a seizure and ended up at the ER three days ago. It was a very traumatic experience for both of us. Long story short, hes okay now, but we're both shook up and scared. Hope everyone is doing alright
So scary! I hope he is okay.Still haven't tried the Talenti..I want to but just every time I get ice cream I get my half baked! Can never go wrong there
I finally tried some this weekend (the Southern Butter Pecan) because of all the recommendations in this thread. It was good. I ate the whole thing in one day though.flyingtanuki wrote: »
I have that one beat - I financed a NordicTrack back in the 80's. Still in pristine conditionatypicalsmith wrote: »I bought a $50.00 kettlebell and hardly ever use it.
Haha this sounds familiar. I got a treadmill from my family back in 2004. I used it for a few months and now it functions as extra closet space most the time due to space constraints.
Good job! I can’t wait until my knee is cleared of injury. I used to get over 10k a lot but I haven’t since my injury.Glinda1971 wrote: »12,047. I did it!!
@riderfangal is tonight your date night?Susieq_1994 wrote: »Alright everyone. I have gone through this entire thread for all the recipes that have been posted (that I could remember, anyway--I used the search function to find each one. I am not reading 1100 pages just to find recipes!) and posted each one as a separate post in the new recipe thread contained in our group.
I hope everyone enjoys them! Here's the link to it: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10197731/super-great-recipes
Wow, that is really nice of you!pofoster21 wrote: »Oh my Gosh! I totally didn't read that before I did my last post. That is scary.
This made me smile.Glinda1971 wrote: »How do you get so many steps? I spent a big chunk of my day on my feet and I'm going to hit 13,000 (new personal best).
I'm honestly really curious. Maybe I have a setting wrong or something.
My personal best was a little over 25,000 and it was during camping. I walked A LOT during the day. I’m not sure how I would ever get to 30K.
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Book a double appointmentItalian_Buju wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Well. Just got back from the doctors. Saw a different doctor this time. He said NO carbs. Not even yogurt, he said if I don't lose weight on this, we have a serious problem. I asked him if it could be anything else and he said "Well, we could faff around putting you on different diets, but it seems you have put a lot of time and effort into this already so I recommend you go straight to the jugular and cut carbs. It will work, it will always work. It's hard, and it will suck, it will really suck, but you will lose fat." So I went to the nearest bakery, bought myself an apple and raspberry danish (at 9 in the morning) and ate it while driving to work. If I can't have carbs for the next 2 months, I'm going to end it with something amazing. and it was.
Oh, that really stinks. Hope it goes well for you! In his definition of NO carbs, I assume non-starchy veggies are still allowed? I really hope you lose a good amount of weight on this--you've been working SO HARD and not seeing results and I'm sure it's just horribly, awfully frustrating.
... I totally would have done that too. I LOVE danishes.
I don't think they are, he said no root vegetables and no squashes (butternut squash or pumpkin etc). The more I talk about it the harder it becomes. He said no tomato, which pretty much rules out everything. I keep thinking oh well I'll do this and substitute the carbs and then you realise it has a tomato based sauce. It's slowly looking more and more impossible.
Yikes. I couldn't possibly live without tomatoes! So what CAN you eat?
Any meat, fish, salad, vegetables, fruit (but limited) I'm going to have to read up about it. The problem with England is when you go to the doctors, you only get a 10 minute consultation time. (If you're lucky, I know some which are just 5 minutes) so he only had time to explain why I should do it and the science behind it (most of which I can't remember) so when it came to what I can actually eat, I'm not sure. That and I have a stinking cold so I just want to go back to bed right now rather than tackling a whole new eating habit.
What if you have several things to discuss or more than one problem?
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Confession: I've really been struggling with my depression/anxiety issues lately, and today so far is topping as the worst yet. (Some of you may have seen my status about it.) It's taking all I've got not to tell hubby that he's on his own and going back to bed and secluding myself. Realistically I know I can't do that, because my uncle is bringing me my Mema's vanity this afternoon.
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »For any of those of you Tubbs was that you? excited about my Princess Bride dress I am starting to actually work on it right now. I have the muslin and the two patterns and I've cleared my kitchen table and have my special sewing only scissors.
Not entirely sure, but I think it was @FroggyBug who was really excited about it.
I think you are right (waving hello to @FroggyBug). I am horrible with names, even in person. Sorry in advance if I get someone's wrong.
Yep it was me. I'm still excited to see the progress.
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MissKalhan wrote: »Went for my long run on Sunday (7 Miles), it went well until the last mile... I got a foot cramp from hell, well turns out it wasn't a cramp. I have plantar fasciitis, so I'm bike, weights and stretching bound for the rest of the week. I'm not amused.
This weekend was tons of fun, I gamed and cleaned a bit. It's a short week here, I can't even begin to explain how excited I am about it even if it is the Wednesday off lol
That sucks! I had that for 6 months because I kept re-tearing the fibers each morning. There's a sock you can get that keeps your foot flat while you sleep. It's uncomfortable, but it works! I found mine at my local running specialty store, just an idea for helping heal.0 -
raelynnsmama52512 wrote: »Confession: I've really been struggling with my depression/anxiety issues lately, and today so far is topping as the worst yet. (Some of you may have seen my status about it.) It's taking all I've got not to tell hubby that he's on his own and going back to bed and secluding myself. Realistically I know I can't do that, because my uncle is bringing me my Mema's vanity this afternoon.
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There are some triumphs and happy moments and lots of sadness and I just don't have the time to respond as I would like to each of you. Where is @FroggyBug lately? Did I miss posts (not unlikely). I think of each post way more than I am able to respond! HUGS all around.
I had a very active weekend, running, weights, and I spent too much time in the 105+ degree heat doing very much needed heavy duty yardwork of moving brush piles and rocks. I read a book for a book club. It made me cry, good story. The Light Between Oceans. SusieQ it has 1 - 2 swear words in it -- depending on your definition. One was not one used in the USA as a swearword, but it is a common swear word in UK/Ireland that also can be used a common word describing what flows in the veins. The other started with an h and ended in double hockey sticks. I really think that was the extent of it but even though I don't really swear, when reading/hearing them it is so completely neutral to me I'm not sure I'd catch it even when looking for it, and I was looking for it to tell you what to expect in this book if you wanted to read it. Could Mr. SusieQ look over a book first?
I've got meetings today so will not be around much.
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quiksylver296 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »
I have the One and really like it. I think it's very accurate too, except when I go out when it's really windy - in which case it adds loads of stairs! Apparently it's to do with air pressure.Susieq_1994 wrote: »spacequiztime wrote: »
Is it the clip Fitbit? It's called the One and that's the one I have right now. I like it plenty though I do want to "upgrade" and get a ChargeHR to celebrate when I can run again.Susieq_1994 wrote: »kellyjellybellyjelly wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
Whoo! You can totally do that:D. We'll be your cheerleaders but everyone better watch out since I have no rhythm.
Do you have a Fitbit in mind if you win?
I have the Flex & love that it counts my steps & does motivate me if I find I haven't moved a lot during my workdays (on my days off I can be pretty lazy). I also love that you can set your goal & it shows how many calories my TDEE is for the day & it displays how many I could eat if I wanted to net my goal. I usually eat around 1700-1800 & then on my days off I plan on eating around 2100-2200.
Now if the Jawbone 3 is more accurate I might spring for that one once it hits the stores.
I do! I don't remember what name it has, but I know it costs one hundred U.S. dollars and counts your steps as well as altitude (as in, gives you more calories for climbing stairs!). It also gives your TDEE and such, according to the specs I read.
As an update to how I've done so far this week: Monday, Tuesday, and Wednesday were all at maintenance. I struggled, but I pushed really hard to stay at maintenance so I at least wouldn't gain more. As of Wednesday morning, I weighed 70.8 kg.
Thursday, Friday, and Saturday were all awesome (calorie-wise, that is) and I kept my deficit (400 calorie deficit) perfectly, and even had ice cream! (It's already Sunday here, almost 2 A.M.) When I weighed in this morning, I was 69.3.
Yes, I think it might be that one. I'll need to go and check, but I'm pretty sure that was it.
I have the One too. I started with the Flex but I developed a rash from it...in fact, a lot of people did. So many that Fitbit actually offered an exchange for a different model or a full refund to anyone who experienced a rash. I didn't want to abandon it altogether so I opted for the exchange for the One. No rash...I'm happy!
I also have the One. Love it.
Me, too. I clip it in my bra and no one ever sees it.
Ditto... the only time it shows on my bra is occasionally when I'm wearing a sports bra and a fitted workout top. But then who cares?!0 -
@orangesmartie sorry if you've already said, which mountain are you climbing? I love climbing!0
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I'm still about 15 pages behind but I'm working on it.
I have to say that I'm sad today. My birthday is Saturday and this past weekend I started feeling really bad physically and I'm not sure what it is but I think it is either an abscessed tooth or maybe strep. I'm planning on going to urgent care after work/physical therapy today. I really want to be well for my birthday. I currently don't have a doctor since I didn't like the last one I went to.
I had a toothache Thursday and then there was a bubble on the roof of my mouth that popped and then my lymph nodes swelled up and I had a low fever Saturday (I slept most of the day that day). The fever is gone now but my throat hurts and I'm just really tired. I just hope I'm not contagious either.
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MissKalhan wrote: »Went for my long run on Sunday (7 Miles), it went well until the last mile... I got a foot cramp from hell, well turns out it wasn't a cramp. I have plantar fasciitis, so I'm bike, weights and stretching bound for the rest of the week. I'm not amused.
This weekend was tons of fun, I gamed and cleaned a bit. It's a short week here, I can't even begin to explain how excited I am about it even if it is the Wednesday off lol
That sucks! I had that for 6 months because I kept re-tearing the fibers each morning. There's a sock you can get that keeps your foot flat while you sleep. It's uncomfortable, but it works! I found mine at my local running specialty store, just an idea for helping heal.
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+1There are some triumphs and happy moments and lots of sadness and I just don't have the time to respond as I would like to each of you. Where is @FroggyBug lately? Did I miss posts (not unlikely). I think of each post way more than I am able to respond! HUGS all around.
I did 2 long bike rides over the weekend totaling 56 miles. Way under calories both days. I plan to make up for that today! I baked cookies (white chocolate cranberry) and brownies yesterday for a bake sale. I only ate 1 small brownie yesterday, but I've already had 2 cookies today, and I'm not done yet! Going out with co-workers for dinner and drinks later, too.
I've been battling the blues lately, can't really pinpoint a specific issue, just feeling down in the dumps. I think I need a vacation.
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AngryViking1970 wrote: »pofoster21 wrote: »Italian_Buju wrote: »orangesmartie wrote: »Sitting on sofa shaking and feel sick
There was a massive spider on my living room floor. I have managed to despatch it, but I feel so ill now. Stupid phobia
You are braver than me, my friend.....if there is a spider in my living room, I just leave.....I don't need to use the living room that badly, I have a bedroom I can hang out in, lol.
I would have to kill it. If you left and came back, how would you know where it is? It could totally jump out at you. Better to get them when you can see them!
THIS! I have to know its gone forever!
I am the designated spider killer in the house. My husband would absolutely leave the room and tell me to go and get it. He's on dispatch duty for everything else (mosquitos, mice, snakes, etc.) but I am the spider person.
my ex was terrified of spiders.
mind you, i'm not a big fan or anything, but apparently his fear superseded my own.
one night he woke me up in the middle of the night "hon...*taptap*...hon...i know you're sleeping but i need you to kill this huge spider in the living room!" seriously?!
omg, then i get out there and it was tiny! ugh boys....0 -
kellienw335 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »Yeah, I'm just a leeetle bit older than you.
How are you managing with your Ramadan fasting?
Just an eeny bit, surely we can still be birthday almost-twins. So far so good! I've had my period for the last few days, so I haven't had to fast, but I'll start fasting again today since it finished off a few hours ago.
And to answer the question before it gets asked: In Islam, it's prescribed in the Quran and hadith that women who have their periods are excused from fasting, most likely due to weakness and blood loss (I also think it's so we can eat during the day, since we tend to crave like crazy and be super-hungry...); we're also excused from our five daily prayers during our periods. You aren't supposed to make up the prayers (most likely because you'd have like 35 prayers to pray if your period lasted five days!), but you do have to make up the fasts at another time, because it's obligatory to complete the full thirty days of fasting.
You know, I've learned more from you about Islam in the last few months than I have from anyone else anywhere for the last 45 years. LOL
And that makes me happy! The more people learn about what Islam is REALLY about, the less ignorance and hate there will be everywhere. An awesome example is the lady here (sorry, can't remember which one of you it was!) who used my explanations to tell her mother more about Islam--my dawah spreads!
Your dawah truly does spread! I was sharing all this information with my husband this weekend. He thought it was all very interesting.
ETA: I can't believe your husband is a lurker and you never mentioned it before!
Yay for spreading! As for my husband, he started lurking after I kept reading funny posts to him, and then it seems he enjoyed it so much that he kept coming back to check again. He doesn't bother to read everything though, he mostly just skims and misses huge chunks at a time, so it isn't much of a lurking! 0 -
confession: i'm attempting to "date" again...and it's seemingly terrible. i think staying home, getting drunk and dancing around my kitchen with the dogs might be a way better option.
went out with a dude on saturday evening. went to a local bar for beverages and chatting, and had a really fun time. i'd had a few dates previously that were kinda meh, so i thought ok cool, finally a fun time!
have some beverages, play a bunch of songs on the jukebox (are they still called that?), lots of fun convo and eventually the evening wears down and it's time to call it a night. and dude's like oh, i'm having such a good time with you, let's go back to your place to "snuggle" for a while. (and yes, he literally said snuggle).
ummm...no?
and he starts to get all huffy about it. and i'm like dude, i had a lot of fun on this FIRST date, but i think there should be a few more before i'm inviting you back to my place. and he starts freaking out, wanting to know how i couldn't trust him, he's such a good guy and just liked being with me so much he didn't see what the big deal was. he just wants to hold me and snuggle for awhile! so we argue back and forth about it for a few minutes and finally i say i'm done, have a good night and leave.
seriously? yeah because trying to guilt me into letting you come over to my place is an AWESOME first date.
then i get home and i have all these msg's from him saying he's leaving the dating website he found me on because he just can't handle how ppl are, and what was my problem that i couldn't trust him?!
well duh, we live in the same area, of course that makes him trustworthy!
sigh...
Errrm yeah. Psychopath in the making....0 -
AngryViking1970 wrote: »Holy smokes, you guys! I thought this thread slowed down on the weekends. LOL I have work to do!!! I also have an interview this afternoon for a promotion here, so if you could spare any extra mojo, I'd appreciate it!
*slinks off to catch up*
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quiksylver296 wrote: »xLoveLikeWinterx wrote: »kelly_c_77 wrote: »lilaclovebird wrote: »Coastalpath wrote: »This is long so don't expect people to read it - just need to get it out!
Like a lot of other posters here I am going through lots of life stresses at the moment and the last few days have felt very sad, numb and unmotivated. I am ever so slightly eating my feelings 'grief bacon' but am logging it all so I can see it in black and white. My confession today is that I am fed up with never feeling as though I am allowed to be stressed or upset. Work, home, health are all suffering at the moment, but I am just expected to suck it up. If one more person says to me 'it could be worse' I might scream. I am silently screaming and unfortunately the pain is beginning to show on my face. I know things could be worse, just doesn't mean that because someone somewhere has it worse than me that I just have to 'be fine' all the time.
Dealing with mixed emotions is so hard - so happy for friends and loved ones who have fantastic things happening, mixed with my grief and sadness for what I am secretly going through. Not wanting to see friends because I don't want to make them miserable mixed with worrying I am not being a good friend by seeing them and sharing in their joys. Or, worse, that I am making them feel guilty for being happy.
Feels better to 'get it out' but I am so sad at the moment and I just wonder when bad things will stop happening!
Your feelings are valid. What you are going through is real and it is difficult for you. We understand and I am sure we have all been there at some point. You ARE allowed to feel this way and you ARE allowed to vent.
Yup. This! Hugs to you.
Coastal (responding to the first post since I never saw it) I feel the same. I pretty much feel like I'm drowning. I'm expected to be the rock for everyone, and most of the time I stoically am. But times like right now, I just want to scream and cry and throw a fit. I want someone to comfort ME and no one is. I'm supposed to hold it together and do 1,000 different things well every day, without fail or exception.
I joke with people a lot that it sucks to be me, because I don't get a "down day", but it's true. I'm expected to be on point 24/7 and I'm struggling. I get the "count your blessings" and "it could be worse" a LOT. Yes, it could be. In the scheme of things, what bothers me could be construed as petty. It doesn't mean it hurts less or I'm less upset. I am grateful for what I have, but aren't I also allowed to be upset too?!
Warning- the below will make me sound like an ungrateful brat. I know this, but they are MY feelings. I'm working on processing them, but it takes time.
I found out on Saturday that good friends of ours (who have 2 boys about the same age as us) are wanting a 3rd. They want to try for a girl. They previously said they were done but the DH changed his mind. I went upstairs and cried. I have wanted 3 kids since I was little. DH said no, 2 was all he could take. He got a vasectomy last Nov so there will only be 2. I agreed because I don't believe in forcing someone to have more kids if they don't want to. I'm not the only one involved in the decision. DH also swore we could look into adopting, which helped ease my feelings about the V.
I have regretted it EVERY DAY since. When I see parents out with 3 or more kids, I'm envious. If one or more is a girl, I am so jealous. I want a daughter. I always have. I love my boys so much, but there is a part of me that will always hurt because I wanted a girl. Both times, the u/s tech told me they were girls and I was blissful for a few weeks until told they were boys. They will never know. I will NEVER tell them they aren't "enough" for me, because they are. I am grateful they are both here and healthy and I would NOT trade them for anything, but I feel a twinge every time I look at a girl or girl baby. DH has also now decided he doesn't want to adopt, so I feel a bit of a pang of "bait and switch" sometimes when I think about it. Mostly I want 3 kids, but not gonna lie, a girl would be awesome.
I feel so alone, because DH is d-o-n-e. 2 is enough for him, he doesn't remotely want a 3rd. Talking to him about it doesn't help, because he has a hard time sympathizing with me. Ok, so he joked around and said I could get a dog to "mother". I agreed. Now last night he is reneging and saying "well, we can get a dog when we get x, y, and z done around the house". This will literally be YEARS. He knows this. Bait and switch #2.
He also said I could look into getting a new car within the month. So I've been plotting out savings, trade-in value, etc. This past weekend he decided nope, my Jeep runs fine for now and maybe we'll think about it in 6 months. Bait and switch #3.
I'm frustrated, I'm sad, I feel like everything I want always comes last after everyone else, and yes I know this is all first world problems, but right now it's rough. On top of it, I'm dieting strictly, so I think I'm just in a funk and crabby from that too. It's the one thing I feel like I'm succeeding at, though, so I don't want to give it up. I have 10.5 lb to go. I'm SO close. I just want to accomplish Something, ya know?
*ok, sorry for the pathetic vent. Carry on*
This doesn't sound like a partnership to me, more like a dictatorship. This would not be OK with me. Hugs to you.
this, completely!
that is not even remotely fair to you.
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Yay, another one! Do we get to mark October as one humongous birthday party now?MissKalhan wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
I always knew we were kindred spirits @Susieq_1994 I'm an October baby as well lol
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »AngryViking1970 wrote: »Holy smokes, you guys! I thought this thread slowed down on the weekends. LOL I have work to do!!! I also have an interview this afternoon for a promotion here, so if you could spare any extra mojo, I'd appreciate it!
*slinks off to catch up*
All the best! Sending good vibes.
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My daughter has an October birthday (19th), and she's about the same age as some of you.0
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Susieq_1994 wrote: »
Yay, another one! Do we get to mark October as one humongous birthday party now?MissKalhan wrote: »Susieq_1994 wrote: »I've had an interesting challenge handed to me!
I've been pestering my husband and telling him that I want a Fitbit, because I think it'll motivate me to move around more so I can "win" steps and calories. He thinks it's an unnecessary fitness gadget, and that I should probably just move around more by myself.
So, to motivate me a little (since I've been struggling a lot lately, as you all know, and he's been trying to find ways to help me with it) he gave me a challenge: If I can get my weight down to 65 kg by my birthday, he'll buy me a Fitbit. I'm currently at 69.3, and my birthday is on the eighth of October, which means I have 3.5 months to lose 4.3 kilos--very doable.
So, by putting it out here, I'm hoping you guys will help me stay accountable so I can win myself a Fitbit for my birthday! (He'd probably buy it for me anyway, but I really want to win this challenge.)
I always knew we were kindred spirits @Susieq_1994 I'm an October baby as well lol
As long as we celebrate HALF birthdays! Haha My HALF birthday is October 6th 
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